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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?

Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?

It's a given that it's safe sex.

Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?

What's decent for you?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If someone had sex without a condom I would expect them to shower before meeting someone else.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

It would be the length of time it takes to shower, change and get ready.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm guessing texting your next meet while being fucked by your current meet isn't a decent amount of time

Both knew....it was hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm guessing texting your next meet while being fucked by your current meet isn't a decent amount of time

Both knew....it was hot "

Disgraceful - good work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what u want and who your meeting id meet daily were it possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh"

I think they have the right to know, just as you have the right to not tell them. If neither like it, don't meet.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I don't think there is a definition of the right amount of time between meet other than the one you decide for yourself and with the person you meet if you're talking meets with the same person.

Between two different people, again it's down to the individuals concerned I guess, I personally couldn't have two different meets in the same day for example and would feel personally awkward having one one day and another the next, but it may depend on circumstances and how well I knew the people concerned.

I certainly wouldn't expect anyone to tell me when they last had sex, or I to tell them, but by the time I get round to meeting I usually have a fair idea of how seriously and responsibly they take their sexual health if that is the angle you're coming from.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh

I think they have the right to know, just as you have the right to not tell them. If neither like it, don't meet."

No strings means no strings. I don't get to ask you and you don't get to ask me. I don't see why it matters or how it affects the time you have together. I don't play with anyone unless I'm freshly bathed. That's all you need to know, you've got the right to me being clean but beyond that... No strings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh"

This ^^^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safe sex taken as read of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want to meet someone who had sex the same day. 3 days gap at least. Preferably more.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh

I think they have the right to know, just as you have the right to not tell them. If neither like it, don't meet.

No strings means no strings. I don't get to ask you and you don't get to ask me. I don't see why it matters or how it affects the time you have together. I don't play with anyone unless I'm freshly bathed. That's all you need to know, you've got the right to me being clean but beyond that... No strings. "

Exactly this ... why would anyone have a right to know?

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

Surely just a change of clothes after a shower and a splash of the smellies

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"I wouldn't want to meet someone who had sex the same day. 3 days gap at least. Preferably more."

How would you know if they were telling you the truth about when they last had sex ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I told someone when I last had sex they wouldn’t believe me anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't want to meet someone who had sex the same day. 3 days gap at least. Preferably more.

How would you know if they were telling you the truth about when they last had sex ?"

I wouldn't. Everyone lies.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"If I told someone when I last had sex they wouldn’t believe me anyway "

Was it 4 seconds ago? You saucy minx!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is anyone else singing "I Just Had Sex" by Akon and Lonely Island? Just me then....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I told someone when I last had sex they wouldn’t believe me anyway "

Same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own, we all have different options on that one.

Personally for me, I wouldn’t meet them for about a year

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Is anyone else singing "I Just Had Sex" by Akon and Lonely Island? Just me then.... "

I was singing The Hills by The Weeknd "I just fucked two bitches before I saw you, so you're gonna have to do it at my tempo"

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We don't think there is a right or wrong amount if time.

As long as you are fresh and clean for each meet, who cares about time.

Life is short, live it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is anyone else singing "I Just Had Sex" by Akon and Lonely Island? Just me then....

I was singing The Hills by The Weeknd "I just fucked two bitches before I saw you, so you're gonna have to do it at my tempo" "

Crying laughing... Fucking brilliant

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Is anyone else singing "I Just Had Sex" by Akon and Lonely Island? Just me then....

I was singing The Hills by The Weeknd "I just fucked two bitches before I saw you, so you're gonna have to do it at my tempo" "

Class!

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Is anyone else singing "I Just Had Sex" by Akon and Lonely Island? Just me then....

I was singing The Hills by The Weeknd "I just fucked two bitches before I saw you, so you're gonna have to do it at my tempo" "
That's a tune

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By *handraWoman
over a year ago

Hastings

Anytime between shags, long as you've had a shower. If the shag's are close together (same day or within 2 days) I would let them know so as to have no upset if publishing veris.

If any wouldn't leave a veri, no need to say anything.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38

Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

It's never likely to happen to me to be honest. Given the choice, I wouldn't meet someone on the same day as another meet

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?"

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender"

Oh and P.S. to that having realised where the question was coming from - if they're clean and/or the other person is aware of the possible consequences again the answer would be no.

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender"

Yes sexual health is everything

I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.

I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.

I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.

They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.

Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender

Yes sexual health is everything

I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.

I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.

I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.

They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.

Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.

"

Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.

As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?

Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?

It's a given that it's safe sex.

Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?

What's decent for you?"
for me I'd rather not know so keep it to yourself then if your need is 5 minutes then it doesn't matter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anytime that suits.....it’s your life do what you please

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?"

Not at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s really only your business, when you are meeting people form fab, they know the process and should be fine with it. Whatever time you need to prepare for the next meet is fine from my point of view

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over a year ago

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender

Yes sexual health is everything

I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.

I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.

I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.

They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.

Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.

Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.

As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess."

I was just getting to know them. It was early fab days when I thought a social was just that

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender

Yes sexual health is everything

I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.

I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.

I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.

They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.

Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.

Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.

As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess.

I was just getting to know them. It was early fab days when I thought a social was just that "

Totally understandable - would you approach the situation any differently now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Safe sex taken as read of course. "
so on top of the wardrobe is out?

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Safe sex taken as read of course. so on top of the wardrobe is out? "

nah can always tie a safety rope..oh wait that's a waste of good rope

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender

Yes sexual health is everything

I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.

I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.

I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.

They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.

Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.

Yeah I realised where you were coming from after my initial response - hence my P.S.

As with anything it comes down to open and honest communication and how much you personally want to reveal to others. If someone said to me they'd had unprotected sex the day before with a partner then it wouldn't bother me if I'd been told about it prior - but can understand why some wouldn't want to, and also why you may have felt reluctant to say anything - which comes down to how well you know a potential meet I guess.

I was just getting to know them. It was early fab days when I thought a social was just that

Totally understandable - would you approach the situation any differently now?"

Probably not..though never say never.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?

Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?

It's a given that it's safe sex.

Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?

What's decent for you?"

It depends on the situation. In a club you may quiet literally go from one partner straight to another in the same room.

When meeting away from a club, as long as there's enough time between meets to freshen up and change, that's sufficient.

Anyone who is concerned about when you last had sex, probably shouldn't be on Fab. Swinging is generally about having NSA sex with people for fun.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?

Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?

It's a given that it's safe sex.

Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?

What's decent for you?

It depends on the situation. In a club you may quiet literally go from one partner straight to another in the same room.

When meeting away from a club, as long as there's enough time between meets to freshen up and change, that's sufficient.

Anyone who is concerned about when you last had sex, probably shouldn't be on Fab. Swinging is generally about having NSA sex with people for fun."

In addition, I would expect that most committed have sex without condoms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh"

This entirely. Whatever you decide is a decent amount of time is the right time for you.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

A quick rub round with the flannel and I'm good to go

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"A quick rub round with the flannel and I'm good to go "

A flannel is posh.

I just spit on some loo roll.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"A quick rub round with the flannel and I'm good to go "

Us birds of a feather should flock together (I would use wet-wipes but the "snowflakes" say I am messing up their environment.... sheesh!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?

Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?

It's a given that it's safe sex.

Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?

What's decent for you?"

I think it should proportional of arouseness, multiply by hornyness and divided by CS

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

I think it should proportional of arouseness, multiply by hornyness and divided by CS "

Is CS cum squirts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I think it should proportional of arouseness, multiply by hornyness and divided by CS

Is CS cum squirts ?"

Common sense

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender

Yes sexual health is everything

I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.

I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.

I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.

They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.

Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.

"

To put it the other way around, if you meet a couple do you expect them to abstain for a given period prior to that meet? As the male half, when we’ve met other couples and I’ve given oral sex it has never crossed my mind to question what percentage of what I’m tasting is her and what is him.

Really quite sweet though that it bothers you

P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see this one dividing opinion, but it's a pretty grey area. I don't really care tbh as long as I feel special at the time and I know what I'm letting myself in for

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"A quick rub round with the flannel and I'm good to go

A flannel is posh.

I just spit on some loo roll. "

Maybe a squirt of Cilit Bang for special occasions

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"

Maybe a squirt of Cilit Bang for special occasions "

Do you squirt during a clit bang ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How long is a 'decent' amount of time to leave inbetween different meets?

Do meets have the right to know when you last had sex?

It's a given that it's safe sex.

Or maybe you're meeting a couple who had sex prior to your meet without a condom?

What's decent for you?

It depends on the situation. In a club you may quiet literally go from one partner straight to another in the same room.

When meeting away from a club, as long as there's enough time between meets to freshen up and change, that's sufficient.

Anyone who is concerned about when you last had sex, probably shouldn't be on Fab. Swinging is generally about having NSA sex with people for fun."

Why shouldn't they be on Fab? What rules must we follow?

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"A quick rub round with the flannel and I'm good to go

A flannel is posh.

I just spit on some loo roll. "

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"Do you think women should wait longer than men if they've had unprotected sex with their partner?

No, why should they any more so than a man who's had unprotected sex with his partner?

The key is how seriously anybody takes their sexual health and is aware of the risks and the precautions needed to be taken to minimise those risks - beyond that it is down to the individuals concerned as to regularity of when they have sex, regardless of their gender

Yes sexual health is everything

I'm thinking more about what may be residually left behind and oral sex might happen.

I had been seeing a guy for a long time...a long standing fb. We were close and had unprotected sex and he came inside me.

I had a social the next day with a great couple. I never thought it would be more than a social on that day.

They invited me back and I'd love to have gone but didn't because of the sex the day before.

Later after explaining my reasoning they said they wouldn't have minded.

To put it the other way around, if you meet a couple do you expect them to abstain for a given period prior to that meet? As the male half, when we’ve met other couples and I’ve given oral sex it has never crossed my mind to question what percentage of what I’m tasting is her and what is him.

Really quite sweet though that it bothers you

P"

Not that sweet really but thanks..I want to be able to grab him by the ears and know that when his face is covered that's its all me

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By *nabelle21 OP   Woman
over a year ago

B38


"

Maybe a squirt of Cilit Bang for special occasions

Do you squirt during a clit bang ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It would be the length of time it takes to shower, change and get ready.

"

This, sometimes life is busy and you have to squeeze a lot in

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London


"It would be the length of time it takes to shower, change and get ready.

"
what about just in the shower ???

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

I’m just shocked people are meeting and having sex to be honest

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I have a wipe clean box

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's no one else's business but your own tbh"

I agree with this. I don't think people have a right to know all the details, especially when it's just nsa sex. I think as long as you're not putting someone else's health at risk and you clean up after meeting and then moving onto your next meet then it's fine.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I'm OK... I only ever meet virgins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 hours! Time for the tide to reverse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Up to each I individual I’d say. There’s no right or wrong. It wouldn’t happen to me anyway but if I was meeting lots of people I wouldn’t like it if they’d met someone else the same day no. Neither would I meet different people in the same day. Does it matter as long as you’re both on the same page.

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