FabSwingers.com forum: Is it eagerness or pushiness?

By *nceinawhile OP Couple
over a year ago

Ipswich

It's occurred to me after some messages, which I would class as borderline, that what some would see as eager some may see as pushy where do you draw the line? what defines it for you?

To put this into context a little I've been getting messages about meeting tonight I've already said no as I'm home alone with offspring, hubby is away and I unfortunately don't feel well, only a cold nothing major, but it's getting more and more pushy been getting more message while writing this post!

Mrs

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Everyone’s patience level is different but once you feel uncomfortable then decline and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you just block. Or stop responding

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Once you've said it's not convenient or you don't want to meet and someone keeps asking... That's pushy.

This isn't Mrs Doyle saying 'ah go on' until you accept a cup of tea.. This is someone verbally forcing themself on you sexually. No means no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't reply! The more you respond the more opportunity that person thinks they have to change your mind. I don't like pushiness or a disrespect of boundaries. You’ve been polite and explained if they cant respect that then ignore them.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Block.

Banter is banter until someone feels uncomfortable. If you've said no.. and they persist. Block time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I begin to feel uncomfortable.

If I feel pressure I'll mention I'm feeling that way then I'll kaibosh the lot if they continue as it changes how I feel about that person and my view of them, ESPECIALLY if I've given them a very valid reason.... even more so if it involves my son. Fucking couldn't stand it if I'd told someone I was with my child and they pushed..... "slow down matey, only thing being pushed here will be you off a cliff"

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

We’ve had people asking if we were home right now. Usually we simply ignore such messages. Everyone’s threshold is different. If you find the behaviour uncomfortable, just be honest about how you feel. If it continues then it’s pushy and disrespectful, if they back off then they were just eager. But either way, communicating how you feel is a good thing.

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By *nceinawhile OP Couple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Thanks everyone I wasn't sure if I was maybe being too sensitive to it with feeling under the weather but with what's been said I don't think I have been as some have confirmed what I was thinking

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"If I begin to feel uncomfortable.

Yup this... especially if I'm with my kids. Fek off x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once you've said it's not convenient or you don't want to meet and someone keeps asking... That's pushy.

This isn't Mrs Doyle saying 'ah go on' until you accept a cup of tea.. This is someone verbally forcing themself on you sexually. No means no. "

I also tell them that I would never meet anyone who can't take no for an answer.

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