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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I have a look at the profile, and if i'm not interested I just leave the message unread until it eventually gets auto deleted.

If I like the look of their profile I'll then read the message and see if I want to reply or not (generally not as it's normally a 'how are you?' or FAF, in which case it gets marked unread and left)

I haven't got the time or the inclination to send replies to all the messages I receive

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How long does auto delete take?

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

What are these message things that you speak of?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse....

if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield "

Block every time. It's not rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all first messages. If it's a 'no', I usually don't reply again.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I spend literally minutes every week managing my messages. It’s a bloody nightmare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends really but if not interested from the start it’s a no but thank you anyway and chatting and exchange face pics and the attraction isn’t there it’s a sorry again. Very rarely just delete but sometimes being nice saying no people take offence somehow to not our type sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them to fuck off that's what I do with my imaginery mails

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse....

if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite "

I tried that, and got a.... well I'll keep trying as that moment might change

Can't win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes we just have to understand.. some people are Dicks!!! You replied if they message a 2nd time then Block.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I read the message. Perve the profile and reply. Either a “thanks but too far” or a message building on meeting, maybe. Then i delete all once read.

I have filters up. I don’t get shitty messages (for some reason) and if they are declined they say thanks for replying and go.

Sometimes they message back a funny (ha ha) reply and we will chat some more.

I tend to have lovely messages to be honest. Not arse kissing ones, just always polite, or funny. I’m very lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i struggle to be honest... i get up to 6 a year

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Don’t get any so it’s easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse....

if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite

I tried that, and got a.... well I'll keep trying as that moment might change

Can't win "

That’s where I block and delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield "
just block if you are definitely not interested and dont think twice about it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I generally read the message, and the profile and verifications. Then just don't reply if I'm not interested.

Most don't say a thing if I delete at that point.

Leaving the message unread means I could miss a message accidentally

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Fab FAQ suggests that if you do not get a reply then to assume that the person is not interested.

I read the profile and if I like what i see I will read the message, if not I delete unread.

Any abuse is instant block.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Filters are your friend Op. I dont get any of the above problems

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Its rare if anybody does message me so I tend to chat with them until one of us gets bored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Filters are your friend Op. I dont get any of the above problems "
The block button is a blessing The filters are a good way of controlling unwanted messages.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Fab FAQ suggests that if you do not get a reply then to assume that the person is not interested.

I read the profile and if I like what i see I will read the message, if not I delete unread.

Any abuse is instant block. "

This

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

It's a game of roulette on here when it comes to messages both sending and receiving

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Filters are your friend Op. I dont get any of the above problems "

Think maybe I'm missing something on the filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence."

Can I borrow him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

Can I borrow him? "

He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I generally don't reply to mail from people I don't know or haven't at least interacted with on the forums... Cold mailers.

I also find it's rarely necessary to open these messages to read them. The full 'hi sexy how u?' is visible in your mailbox. These I just delete without opening and usually that's the end of it... Like you, I tend to find that it's actually the people you do bother to write a 'thanks but no thanks' message to that will take umbrage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

Can I borrow him?

He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later."

He may not be used to the increase in volume!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield "

Does it really matter what they think if you are saying no, you have politely said no thank you if they persist then either ignore or block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

Can I borrow him?

He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.

He may not be used to the increase in volume!"

Well whatever keeps him from fraternising with the rest of the staff will be of benefit. Some of them think this is a holiday camp.

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By *hil39Man
over a year ago

Dagenham

When I send a message to someone new it doesn't always mean that I want to meet, sometimes I may just be making a joke about a status or something, or most likley it is because I like a particular picture. I often don't get a reply so that is how I leave it, I have had some replay and say not interested and have never been or would be rude or offensive. It is nice just to get a response though if I have made a compliment or something .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

Can I borrow him?

He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.

He may not be used to the increase in volume!

Well whatever keeps him from fraternising with the rest of the staff will be of benefit. Some of them think this is a holiday camp."

Well if he doesn't do his job I'm sure I can whip him back into line!

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

for me most of the people i message are people I have met in the club scene

This means I have met them in person, chatted, maybe played maybe just flirted

I would say nearly all the people in mailbox are like this.

My hotlist is different, they are the ones that I am perving or I am following to see if I would like to mail them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Set them an impossible challenge and send them on a quest....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

Can I borrow him?

He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.

He may not be used to the increase in volume!

Well whatever keeps him from fraternising with the rest of the staff will be of benefit. Some of them think this is a holiday camp.

Well if he doesn't do his job I'm sure I can whip him back into line! "

Marvellous he’ll be with you shortly and please do chastise him for any grammatical errors also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy when you rarely get one.

Anything comprehensible I reply to and try and engage.

Anything to the contrary I just delete. Stuff like "face pic" from a complete stranger. WTF?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Set them an impossible challenge and send them on a quest.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similarly it's not too difficult to deal with messages when they are mostly "fancy getting sucked off now" directed towards the wrong audience.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages.

For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone.

Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many.

The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away.

Don't they realise I have a life!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages.

For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone.

Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many.

The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away.

Don't they realise I have a life!? "

I would've thought you'd be getting a pretty unmanageable level of messages !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Similarly it's not too difficult to deal with messages when they are mostly "fancy getting sucked off now" directed towards the wrong audience. "

The message I get the most,despite STRAIGHT being in capital letters and a paragraph on not at all being curious and for gay/bi/tv & ts guys to message someone else to save their own time...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not really an issue at the moment. My Fab has gone quiet, must have upset some people, oh well, sure I'll live

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By *verage JosephMan
over a year ago

Grays & London

Role reversal needed I think!

I wouldn’t have a clue what it’s like to get 100’s of messages that your not interested in.

Like I assume you don’t know what it is like to send loads of messages but forever have a empty inbox.

I don’t get why people keep chasing for a reply, if I’m not what your looking for then that’s fine, just tell me & I’ll go away. (I’m not everybody’s cuppa just like they ain’t mine)

But for me, if you don’t open it & reply with a ‘thanks but no thanks’ message then as far as these men are aware you’ve received so many messages that you’ve not had a chance to read their one, so they keep on.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's literally just about distance, nothing else as I have no public photos unless my description is doing it for them. That's a real compulsion to have cock in your mouth


"Similarly it's not too difficult to deal with messages when they are mostly "fancy getting sucked off now" directed towards the wrong audience.

The message I get the most,despite STRAIGHT being in capital letters and a paragraph on not at all being curious and for gay/bi/tv & ts guys to message someone else to save their own time... "

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By *verage JosephMan
over a year ago

Grays & London


"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages.

For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone.

Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many.

The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away.

Don't they realise I have a life!? "

Your inbox will go crazy now!! Ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages.

For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone.

Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many.

The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away.

Don't they realise I have a life!? "

I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Set them an impossible challenge and send them on a quest....

"

Seriously though, I find the more sarcastic and rude I am, the more the lady messaging seems to take it as a come on.... ....I think maybe you're all just used to desperation....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are these message things that you speak of?! "

I think these ladies are on another site, people on fab don’t message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What numbers are we talking to respond to though?


"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages.

For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone.

Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many.

The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away.

Don't they realise I have a life!?

I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone "

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

When I can be bothered to clear it out I delete the ones I'm not interested in. If they message again to whinge or I get multiple uninteresting messages from someone then I block. I don't block straight away as I believe in second chances .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm under the assumption that the women posting here are getting 50-60 messages a day, is that right?

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By *orkshirefucktruck2Couple
over a year ago

barnsley

As a cple the block gets used a lot on single men sadly,not all but a fair few disrespect either one of us or both thinking their cock pic is a instant yes or the opening line of I want to fill her cunt ect,then u kindly turn unsuitable men down only for them to forget and try again,we also get I've seen or met ur girl in a club and think that's a instant pass lol.we carefully check profiles seeing who and what type of meets they have had,also a lot can be gained from how much time u think its took em to fill their profile out as some expect u to meet a faceless profile or message,we feel forced to block single males but haven't as yet as we would say only 3 out of every 10 are worthy,that's not us been picky or having high standards,its the way some don't grasp how swinging works ie thinking its a dating site or trying to pass the fem their number or Kik,we get men asking to meet them on their terms,times,even asking tobe picked up,all equal block list,we do however have a lot of good men friends who don't appear to come across as desperate and guess what,filled in profiles,face pics and plenty up to date veris

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By *eddyBearBazMan
over a year ago

St Helens


"I have a look at the profile, and if i'm not interested I just leave the message unread until it eventually gets auto deleted.

If I like the look of their profile I'll then read the message and see if I want to reply or not (generally not as it's normally a 'how are you?' or FAF, in which case it gets marked unread and left)

I haven't got the time or the inclination to send replies to all the messages I receive "

I must have done something right then lily xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only reply to messages I receive on Tuesdays between 11am and 3pm. All the rest is ignored. It’s a form of random selection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield "

I used to delete and block if I wasn’t interested or if it was obvious they hadn’t read my profile. Never had any abuse. So much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete if your not interested if they message again obvs a nob so block easy

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

I tend to reply to all messages if I can x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I have trouble keeping up with them all.

Some are so demanding.

But being the gentleman that I am, replying to my fan club is a must.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I can be bothered to clear it out I delete the ones I'm not interested in. If they message again to whinge or I get multiple uninteresting messages from someone then I block. I don't block straight away as I believe in second chances ."

I block if they message again after I've deleted too. Or if they are asking why I'm not replying or what's wrong with them.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Block block and more blocks

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders


"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse....

if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite "

This for me as well. They'll only get a reply if they've gone beyond the one liner, or even one word messages though. Least I can do. And if it's a polite "sorry, you're not what I'm looking for" they're usually ok with it. If not, block button's your best friend x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I set my age settings slim like currently 36-38yr males atm and rotate them round as I fancy to minimise messages.

I then have a cut n paste rejection message for those that include a picture as requested, but I'm not interested in. If theres no picture/cock picture and a basic hello msg I just delete. Interactive amusing messages will usually get a response.

The "but why not Me?" Messages may get a blumt yet helpful response if I'm in the mood to help.

Persistent get blocked. I've blocked more than I thought I'd have to actually!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If there's a lack of pics and short profile I automatically delete. Especially if there is no face pic attached or on the profile.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"What numbers are we talking to respond to though?

I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages.

For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone.

Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many.

The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away.

Don't they realise I have a life!?

I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone "

I get on average 5-10 messages a day. It may sound a lot to someone who doesn't get any.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I must admit to being a bit of a soft touch when it comes to messages.

For some reason, I like to try to reply to everyone.

Thankfully these days I don't seem to get that many.

The messages that get me are the ones that say "have I said something wring?" Or "have I said something to upset you?" Just because I haven't replied straight away.

Don't they realise I have a life!?

I thought I was the only soft arse on here who tried to be nice and reply to people. This makes me feel less alone "

It's good to know I'm not alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If there's a lack of pics and short profile I automatically delete. Especially if there is no face pic attached or on the profile. "
you are an especially sexy looking woman mind so i imagine you do get many messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to reply to almost all, but like OP, got a barrage of questions and sometimes abuse.

My new method is 1)ninja perve the profile of sender 2) leave unread the non-starters 3)answer the possibles.

It's working better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't call the person I'll message a hoe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So far I’ve replied with “you’re not what I’m looking for at the moment, but thank you”. That generally works, so far no abuse....

if they persist I block and delete. I am at least being polite "

I usually say the same thing without the "at the moment" bit. Or if they message me saying how much they liked my profile and it's a guy I just send them to read my profile again

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I used to reply to almost all, but like OP, got a barrage of questions and sometimes abuse.

My new method is 1)ninja perve the profile of sender 2) leave unread the non-starters 3)answer the possibles.

It's working better. "

I like this! I was being polite but having a rethink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also don't call me a hoe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If there's a lack of pics and short profile I automatically delete. Especially if there is no face pic attached or on the profile. you are an especially sexy looking woman mind so i imagine you do get many messages "

Awww thanks. But I have nothing to compare it to so don't know if I get lots or the norm really.

Its definitely a lot less than when I first joined.

Newbies clearly get pounced on.

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes


"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield "

You're right it is. And I now stop going on PM game because I am constantly pestered by one person... (I know that's the point of the game) but when my first message comes through from him now ... I put 'I'm out' on the thread... because he is relentless; and cant take a polite 'go ask someone else now'. Theres no fun in the game anymore. I look at the game thread and there is just a stream of my messages in blue! Ok.. moan over.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Crikey. I don't think I'll ever message anybody again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crikey. I don't think I'll ever message anybody again. "

We can message each other if you like?

I am not that complicated x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's literally just about distance, nothing else as I have no public photos unless my description is doing it for them. That's a real compulsion to have cock in your mouth

Similarly it's not too difficult to deal with messages when they are mostly "fancy getting sucked off now" directed towards the wrong audience.

The message I get the most,despite STRAIGHT being in capital letters and a paragraph on not at all being curious and for gay/bi/tv & ts guys to message someone else to save their own time... "

Yea you could be right-almost like the offer of a blowjob from a guy cos you’re within 5 miles is enough to forget that you’re straight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I, like you can never keep on top so when I get to a nice round figure say 150 unread and loads more not responded to I just delete everything. You can with one click, it's very liberating!

Also as you can't see beyond two pages they get lost anyway.

If people want you they will message again!

Ps before you think I am hard hearted I announce I am going to do it so people don't think I am dissing them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only normally read forum related ones or messages from friends unless B tells me theees something in our box I might find interesting

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By *histlerMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I usually reply with... oh no wait, I need to receive a message to reply to one.

But I don’t get the whole getting angry if someone says no thanks or doesn’t reply. As a man I’ve had that since I was 16!!

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"Just tell them to fuck off that's what I do with my imaginery mails "

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Crikey. I don't think I'll ever message anybody again.

We can message each other if you like?

I am not that complicated x"

What does 'complicated' mean? Lol

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

Block is the best thing to do. Don't message them again. No time wasted in them replying. It works best. I prefer a block than a no reply or no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't get a reply or its ignored I just block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crikey. I don't think I'll ever message anybody again.

We can message each other if you like?

I am not that complicated x

What does 'complicated' mean? Lol"

I don't even know myself but at least I don't fart silently and say 'it wasn't mec I own it like a real and accuse someone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're damned if you do and damned if you dont...

I get exactly what youre saying.. I was too polite and always replied and they would think I was interested, so I try not to do that so much now..

I mostly just delete and if they message again.. block

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By *rimtonMan
over a year ago

Bromley

I got mine framed.

It was from admin, but they all count right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got mine framed.

It was from admin, but they all count right!"
excellent!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all part of the fun of fabbing. If wverything worked perfectly and wveryone was well behaved, gosh it would be so boring.

When you can block with a click, what is there to worry. Dont let the drip drip of messages wear you down. Have your plan and execute it every time. Dispassionately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A polite “I’m a 7, you’re a 5.” is normally sufficient.

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By *ong_John2333Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's nice to get a reply, even if it is a no, but I get that there are just too many for some to reply to all of them. If a message is deleted the signal should be pretty clear I guess.

I think it's the spiders on the cobwebs that scare women away from my inbox...that must be it haha

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

Don't worry what people think.

I realised afters few days on here i would need to hire a PA to be able to deal with every message.

Trust the universe, the right ones will get through one way or another.

If you've said 'thanks but no thanks' and they persist .. block, it's really fine.

I've been blocked twice.. no idea why. Whatevs, I can't know, can't control it so.... I Don't take it personally. I might feel differently after I felt a connection, but you owe nothing and are not responsible for others feelings.

Have a little blockathon .. go on! With the ones that clearly haven't read your profile. Ready, aim, fire, block! And breathe x

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

Can I borrow him?

He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later."

I fear that Cuthbert may have been at the cooking sherry again if he's preparing supper at 3pm!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My butler Cuthbert handles my inbound and outbound correspondence.

Can I borrow him?

He’s preparing supper at present but I’ll request he assist you later.

I fear that Cuthbert may have been at the cooking sherry again if he's preparing supper at 3pm! "

It’s not the cooking sherry but Sherry the maid I fear he is constantly at.

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

Generally Mr is my first filter

Any messages that are just "hi" or just aimed towards one of us (these are normally males asking I meet alone) are really just a block straight away.

If we get a reply to our message where we have said no thank you, we delete reply, if they still persist then we then block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete them or say u cannot have my penis unless i already know them or its a certain girl

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By *osmicplusMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Massive minefield....just adopt the mantra "Don't give a fuck.... people need to manage their expectations"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield "

I’m sure i’m Like most guys in that I send a fair few messages. I always check to see if they’ve opened. If the message hasn’t been opened after like 24hrs then I may resend it because yesterday’s message is prob way off the screen.

If she has opened the message and i’ve Not had a reply then I leave it at that and move on, it’s obvious she had read it and I don’t want to be strung along if she isn’t interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you reply politely with a no thank you they still message, or get rude and aggressive.

If you delete the message they message asking what's wrong with them.

If you don't read the message they just continue to message

If I am polite and chat they automatically think I'm interested.

Do I really need to block everytime???

Which people then say is massively rude.

What a minefield

You're right it is. And I now stop going on PM game because I am constantly pestered by one person... (I know that's the point of the game) but when my first message comes through from him now ... I put 'I'm out' on the thread... because he is relentless; and cant take a polite 'go ask someone else now'. Theres no fun in the game anymore. I look at the game thread and there is just a stream of my messages in blue! Ok.. moan over. "

Why don't you block him? Or just ignore his messages and play with everyone else?

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