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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should give them a chance I missed out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get you with the blocking situation. Looks on the other hand I disagree with completely - its more to do with confidence, intellgence, effort, presentation, investment, laughs, wisdom and positivity from what I can see....

Good luck with this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never gone for looks personally so disagree brace yourself though OP this could be a rocky ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "

Looks aren't the be all and end all? A lot of men on here don't bother reading profile's before messaging?

For instance I'm looking for straight men but get umpteen messages from bisexual men so it's sometimes just easier to block them so they don't message again and waste their time and mine

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By *nceinawhileCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

Actually personally is quite important as I find I can be attracted to a person's personally even if I'm not physically attracted to them and it can make things just as much fun

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "
some block because of distance, some because of look, some because of profile and some because of comments here how can you miss what you can't achieve, its their loss just concentrate on those you can contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really bored of these posts now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really bored of these posts now "
i never get bored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really bored of these posts now i never get bored "

Oh you will when you've been here longer

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

The thing is OP, you're saying you only get what you don't want, that's why people block you, you're not what they want, why should they have to have anything to do with you?

I love the 'it must be everyone else's fault' attitude from some people on here, the common denominator in the situation is you, OP. Think about that.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "

Also, I wonder how your verifications would feel if they read that last comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Really bored of these posts now "

I have to agree.

I just don't get why people are bothered by it, if someone has blocked you it means they don't want to interact with you. So I would see it as time saving exercise as they would probably never meet you even if you could message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would I go for personality? That’s not gonna get me wet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The funny thing is before I even wrote this status down I knew that I was going to get slaughtered for it anyways I'm not God's gift in any way shape or form what I was trying to get out is your chatting to them, then next minute you are getting blocked, over the amount of years but I have been on here I've enjoyed plenty of socials plenty of meeting different kind of people but now it has come to a point where if you're not good looking and I mean really good looking it's like you don't stand a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would I go for personality? That’s not gonna get me wet. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The funny thing is before I even wrote this status down I knew that I was going to get slaughtered for it anyways I'm not God's gift in any way shape or form what I was trying to get out is your chatting to them, then next minute you are getting blocked, over the amount of years but I have been on here I've enjoyed plenty of socials plenty of meeting different kind of people but now it has come to a point where if you're not good looking and I mean really good looking it's like you don't stand a chance "

No one has said anything bad. Maybe you should stop with the pity me because that's how's its coming across. I suggest you look through fab and the profiles of the guys doing well and you will see it's far more about attitude than looks.

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By *ants cockWoman
over a year ago

lincoln


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "

It’s nothing to do with looks looks. It’s about distance. It’s about many things. Like keeping my inbox down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The funny thing is before I even wrote this status down I knew that I was going to get slaughtered for it anyways I'm not God's gift in any way shape or form what I was trying to get out is your chatting to them, then next minute you are getting blocked, over the amount of years but I have been on here I've enjoyed plenty of socials plenty of meeting different kind of people but now it has come to a point where if you're not good looking and I mean really good looking it's like you don't stand a chance "

Oh come on you must know that isn’t true? There are plenty of people on fab who aren’t ‘really good looking’ and are extremely successful.

And people have every right to block you. Currently, I block anyone who messages me without reading my profile. Why? Because I can. I’ve blocked for a lot more. I’ve blocked for a lot less.

I wouldn’t waste time chatting to a man who wasn’t my type. I wouldn’t chat on the off chance I like their personality and wouldn’t mind a social with them. That’s not why I’m here (or was).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't need to look for self pity on here I'm sure there Are Worse people than me and life if that feel insecure about their life and about where they're going I just needed to put my point across it wasn't anything malicious or or look at me you feel sorry for me me just wanted to see what everyone else thought about it..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't need to look for self pity on here I'm sure there Are Worse people than me and life if that feel insecure about their life and about where they're going I just needed to put my point across it wasn't anything malicious or or look at me you feel sorry for me me just wanted to see what everyone else thought about it.."

And most people have told you that looks are not always the most important thing. People block for all kinds of reasons. I don't understand why you think you are simply being blocked because of your looks. It could be that you are messaging people who feel you are not what they are looking for, or your first message isn't great, you live to far away ect...

The fact you are focusing on looks does come across as "look at me".

Maybe if you're approach isn't working try something new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't need to look for self pity on here I'm sure there Are Worse people than me and life if that feel insecure about their life and about where they're going I just needed to put my point across it wasn't anything malicious or or look at me you feel sorry for me me just wanted to see what everyone else thought about it.."
hey when you post a comment like this youre likely to get a negative comment or comments the blocking thing is life here you can't alter it and frustrating as it is you have to live with it, their will be plenty who do want to chat to you and meet you concentrate on them

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By *tsonlysexCouple
over a year ago

bedford


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want

Looks aren't the be all and end all? A lot of men on here don't bother reading profile's before messaging?

For instance I'm looking for straight men but get umpteen messages from bisexual men so it's sometimes just easier to block them so they don't message again and waste their time and mine"

I don’t really get you blocking bi guys

If I was to meet you it does not mean I have to suck cock in front of you. I am bi but can keep these things separate. I like women but also oral bi. But I don’t have to do every time I have sex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't need to look for self pity on here I'm sure there Are Worse people than me and life if that feel insecure about their life and about where they're going I just needed to put my point across it wasn't anything malicious or or look at me you feel sorry for me me just wanted to see what everyone else thought about it..

And most people have told you that looks are not always the most important thing. People block for all kinds of reasons. I don't understand why you think you are simply being blocked because of your looks. It could be that you are messaging people who feel you are not what they are looking for, or your first message isn't great, you live to far away ect...

The fact you are focusing on looks does come across as "look at me".

Maybe if you're approach isn't working try something new. "
as I keep going on about it it's not about looks if you read my second message on what I put on here you can speak to someone for days and days and days and then suddenly you get blocked it's like what the hell

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I don't need to look for self pity on here I'm sure there Are Worse people than me and life if that feel insecure about their life and about where they're going I just needed to put my point across it wasn't anything malicious or or look at me you feel sorry for me me just wanted to see what everyone else thought about it..

And most people have told you that looks are not always the most important thing. People block for all kinds of reasons. I don't understand why you think you are simply being blocked because of your looks. It could be that you are messaging people who feel you are not what they are looking for, or your first message isn't great, you live to far away ect...

The fact you are focusing on looks does come across as "look at me".

Maybe if you're approach isn't working try something new. "

Wise words.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

So you get blocked! Maybe its 50% personalty and 50% looks obv we dont know how you talk, females may need to block as ur about as exciting as laying in the cold wet patch! But we dont know....its fab its not ur whole life surely....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't need to look for self pity on here I'm sure there Are Worse people than me and life if that feel insecure about their life and about where they're going I just needed to put my point across it wasn't anything malicious or or look at me you feel sorry for me me just wanted to see what everyone else thought about it..

And most people have told you that looks are not always the most important thing. People block for all kinds of reasons. I don't understand why you think you are simply being blocked because of your looks. It could be that you are messaging people who feel you are not what they are looking for, or your first message isn't great, you live to far away ect...

The fact you are focusing on looks does come across as "look at me".

Maybe if you're approach isn't working try something new. as I keep going on about it it's not about looks if you read my second message on what I put on here you can speak to someone for days and days and days and then suddenly you get blocked it's like what the hell"

You have mentioned looks in your OP and in at least one of your other posts, that's why I brought it up as that's how it comes across.

Again it's impossible to say why as there could be many reasons. So my point is you can do your own head in thinking why or just accept that whilst it's annoying it's just part of being on this site sometimes.

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

I block all the time sometimes there are reasons for it other times its cause I can,

I really honestly don't give a rats ass if it bothers them,

I get blocked all the time and I'm over it right away

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands


"I don't need to look for self pity on here I'm sure there Are Worse people than me and life if that feel insecure about their life and about where they're going I just needed to put my point across it wasn't anything malicious or or look at me you feel sorry for me me just wanted to see what everyone else thought about it..

And most people have told you that looks are not always the most important thing. People block for all kinds of reasons. I don't understand why you think you are simply being blocked because of your looks. It could be that you are messaging people who feel you are not what they are looking for, or your first message isn't great, you live to far away ect...

The fact you are focusing on looks does come across as "look at me".

Maybe if you're approach isn't working try something new. as I keep going on about it it's not about looks if you read my second message on what I put on here you can speak to someone for days and days and days and then suddenly you get blocked it's like what the hell"

It's Fab mate. People have their reasons. Probably best to concentrate your time on those who have not blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So you get blocked! Maybe its 50% personalty and 50% looks obv we dont know how you talk, females may need to block as ur about as exciting as laying in the cold wet patch! But we dont know....its fab its not ur whole life surely...."
1 I do like to live in a wet patch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found peoples comments on the forums and their attitude the main reason to block them - nothing to do with looks.

If someone has blocked me based solely on my looks then they are not the sort of person that I want to get intimate with.

If someone blocks you, that is there choice and that is it - there is no point letting it effect you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting how someone who doesn't think they're good looking likes to take selfies a lot..

If user's face pictures are in their public gallery and someone blocks them after been chatting for a while - then it's not because of looks, trust me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you get blocked! Maybe its 50% personalty and 50% looks obv we dont know how you talk, females may need to block as ur about as exciting as laying in the cold wet patch! But we dont know....its fab its not ur whole life surely...."
how is personality involved you cant gauge personality from one or two text messages?

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "

Off course it is all about looks. We have to start somewhere, we only have people profiles to go on so are going to make our initial decision based on the photos and profile write up, so many people seem to forget this.

Also if we are not attracted to somebody based on looks we are not going to meet them it really is that simple.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Good luck getting a personality across on a website.

We have many on our block list.

If they look and never speak, have no profile or pics, overstep the mark, have nothing but cock pics..........the list goes on.

It’s all down to personal choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "

How do you know they blocked because of looks? They could have blocked for many reasons. Age height location relations workmates.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why would I go for personality? That’s not gonna get me wet. "
hahaha!

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

I dont block on looks.

First message counts massively.. but if it's a shadow, no info on profile, bb pics, I do.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

At least a dozen silhouettes added today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not really good looking.. but I do ok.

Threads like these can give you an inclination or indication of why you may be blocked, or ammunition for someone else to do it.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I'm not really good looking.. but I do ok.

Threads like these can give you an inclination or indication of why you may be blocked, or ammunition for someone else to do it.

"

Oh GK... yes.... yes you are

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

I don’t know. Just arranged a meet with a guy Cos his message made me LOL.

Another chap has just mailed (and then blocked me) Cos I called him a troll for asking a series of shitty questions about my appearance.

I can’t even imagine been so rude to someone. If you don’t fancy someone. Don’t message. Simple as that

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I block who I want.

I do not need to justify myself to them, or anyone else.

Too many people feel entitled and outraged, but I'm fine with that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I block who I want.

I do not need to justify myself to them, or anyone else.

Too many people feel entitled and outraged, but I'm fine with that."

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "

...

Let me guess? Only with people too "average" for you?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I've noticed over the past few weeks so many people block one another when they don't even give that person a chance I have noticed now it's all about looks on this website nobody goes for personality it's like they want a rough and a Tumble with the hottest so the average looking guys don't get anywhere well we do do but not with what we want "

The people you've met must feel so special

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

I don't really understand why people get annoyed with this. (unless you've been chatting and it's unexpected, that's different)

If someone isn't attracted to me and they block me. Then that's fine, they're not clogging up my lists, nor I the theirs.

I don't even know how you know that someone has blocked you. I would never know because I wouldn't go looking. What's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not really good looking.. but I do ok.

Threads like these can give you an inclination or indication of why you may be blocked, or ammunition for someone else to do it.

Oh GK... yes.... yes you are "

Awwww.. I dunno what to say x Thankyou x I don't really see it myself, maybe I'm one of those seemingly unapproachable folk, give off a resting bastard face perhaps? You're rather sexy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is refreshing to block

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