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Attraction ? Yay or Nay ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OMG. There HAS to be attraction!

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

There has to be attraction for it to be enjoyable, I feel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100% attraction!!!!

Physical first then person.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

What would be the point of having sex with someone you’re not attracted to? May as well have a wank.

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By *manaWoman
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Has to be attraction xx

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton


"OMG. There HAS to be attraction! "

This, especially the use of

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Bloody hell.. has to be serious spark or nothings happening at all!!

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Attraction for me, have to be able to look at the person and see the connection x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

There has to be an attraction of some sort, but it's not always physical (at first).

There are people (too many) who will have sex with people they don't like but that is about power or loathing, or both, and not attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would anyone have sex with someone they aren’t attracted to. Makes no sense to me...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would be the point of having sex with someone you’re not attracted to? May as well have a wank. "

This

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Nah....a pulse will more than suffice

But seriously, attraction is intrinsic for me

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

I couldn't do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be attraction for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U cannot have my penis

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"There has to be an attraction of some sort, but it's not always physical (at first).

There are people (too many) who will have sex with people they don't like but that is about power or loathing, or both, and not attraction.

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This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd have said no, but I guess it's possible just not very emotionally healthy....

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

when i did gangbangs and group sex i didnt need to be attracted to them as long as they where clean and respectful. It was all about the sex. Thats all changed now though.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I'd have said no, but I guess it's possible just not very emotionally healthy...."

I can't remember the name of the Rabbi that I am paraphrasing but... isn't that just friction?

Quite a lot of the interactions here are not very emotionally healthy.

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

There has to be an attraction for me. Both mental and physical.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm pretty sure I'm just winging it atm.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"when i did gangbangs and group sex i didnt need to be attracted to them as long as they where clean and respectful. It was all about the sex. Thats all changed now though. "

I get that.

When I went to clubs I would sometimes give the power to my partner to choose. There was still attraction involved in the sex, of a sort, but it was for my partner and the gift I was giving him.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I have to like the person and find them attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd have said no, but I guess it's possible just not very emotionally healthy....

I can't remember the name of the Rabbi that I am paraphrasing but... isn't that just friction?

Quite a lot of the interactions here are not very emotionally healthy."

Indeed, that's why I said my view had changed. A year or two ago I'd have been far more moralistic and probably said some shit about how would a man even get an erection to do it. I've shagged ppl I'm not proud of though, so I cant very well preach about the impossibility of sex without attraction....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be attraction first physical and then intellectually need both xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I'd have said no, but I guess it's possible just not very emotionally healthy....

I can't remember the name of the Rabbi that I am paraphrasing but... isn't that just friction?

Quite a lot of the interactions here are not very emotionally healthy.

Indeed, that's why I said my view had changed. A year or two ago I'd have been far more moralistic and probably said some shit about how would a man even get an erection to do it. I've shagged ppl I'm not proud of though, so I cant very well preach about the impossibility of sex without attraction...."

Sometimes it's a mutual right time, right place and nothing more. I think that was a fair amount of the sex I had in my early 20s. The men were pretty enough in the moment.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "
it that situation the little head takes over, and if the big head ain't attracted the little head don't play, so nope ,

Gotta be an attraction

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

It has to be attraction. And being able to hold a decent conversation with a great connection. A huge turn on. You can’t beat it

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

It’s never just sex, for me or Ailsa. We have to feel attracted, and attraction for us both is more complex than just physical attributes. We always struggle to understand how someone can say they are looking for a big cock or big boobs or flat tummy... all of these things have a real person attached. It’s the person, as a complete whole, who we need to be attracted to, otherwise it won’t happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant judge a book by its cover, but you won't read that book if you think its ugly.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I consider myself as average so if they like me then my personality will keep their attention.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "

Yeah i could totally go for someone who i didn't fancy, repulses me even. Debasing myself with someone who made me feel absolutely filthy and worthless is quite a turn on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What would be the point of having sex with someone you’re not attracted to? May as well have a wank. "

what he said

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters


"It’s never just sex, for me or Ailsa. We have to feel attracted, and attraction for us both is more complex than just physical attributes. We always struggle to understand how someone can say they are looking for a big cock or big boobs or flat tummy... all of these things have a real person attached. It’s the person, as a complete whole, who we need to be attracted to, otherwise it won’t happen. "

Well done!!! it’s like taking the words out of my mouth

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Some people use sex as a coping mechanism (addicts), they'd sometimes be desperate enough to have sex with anyone i reckon.

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By *juk72Man
over a year ago

Reading

Has to be an attraction, but can be attracted to different things about different people

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ?

Yeah i could totally go for someone who i didn't fancy, repulses me even. Debasing myself with someone who made me feel absolutely filthy and worthless is quite a turn on. "

Then there is an attraction - it's to the situation.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) have done in the past. I did it for the sake of it. The opportunity was there for the taking on one occasion and it seemed better than not doing it. I don't regret it but I didn't really benefit.

Now I'm with Hannah, there is no loss to me missing out on sex with somebody I'm not attracted to because I have ready access to great sex with somebody I am very attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've always said that ever since I was a young guy you've got to have sex with someone that you are attracted to 2 there is no way on earth I could put my my didgeridoo into someone that I didn't physically like... unfortunately for me doesn't look like I will find anyone on here that wants to see my didgeridoo lol

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

As to be attraction for me to

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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago

Oo err Devon

There definitely has to be some attraction for me! I don't think I would always be looking for the sort of attraction I would look for in a long term relationship... But there would need to be some connection.. as much as I'm into swinging for sex... I also enjoy the... Lust part and that's just not going to happen without attraction...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be somewhat of an attraction

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

There has to be a mutual attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not "

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to "
omg woman close your eyes

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to omg woman close your eyes "

Noooooo I like to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to omg woman close your eyes

Noooooo I like to see "
in the dark cmon you love carrots dont you?

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to omg woman close your eyes

Noooooo I like to see in the dark cmon you love carrots dont you? "

Haha dont everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to omg woman close your eyes

Noooooo I like to see in the dark cmon you love carrots dont you?

Haha dont everyone "
they have to be perfectly cooked for me

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to omg woman close your eyes

Noooooo I like to see in the dark cmon you love carrots dont you?

Haha dont everyone they have to be perfectly cooked for me "

Jeez your so fussy!!!

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool

There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"nsa equals not seen at all, whats wrong with you people do you want orgasms or not

Haha I sooner have orgasms by myself than with someone I'm not attracted to omg woman close your eyes

Noooooo I like to see in the dark cmon you love carrots dont you?

Haha dont everyone they have to be perfectly cooked for me

Jeez your so fussy!!! "
ooooooo i know but fussiness is next to godliness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with it"
are you atomic blondie? love that film

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with itare you atomic blondie? love that film "
never seen it, so I would have to take your word for it

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire


"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "

Could you imagine if every woman said yes to every guy who asked for her on fab?? No you need your filters and find someone you're compactible, comfortable and really attracted to. Sex is pretty meaningless if it's just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ?

Could you imagine if every woman said yes to every guy who asked for her on fab?? No you need your filters and find someone you're compactible, comfortable and really attracted to. Sex is pretty meaningless if it's just sex."
I'm very compact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with itare you atomic blondie? love that film never seen it, so I would have to take your word for it"
guessing youre the guy and if you are its a great watch charlize theron omg gorgeous or what

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By *attoodchapMan
over a year ago

Swansea

Definitely have to be attracted to someone! Don't even think I could force myself for much more than a kiss if I wasn't feeling it so to speak!

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By *londie8399Couple
over a year ago

blackpool


"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with itare you atomic blondie? love that film never seen it, so I would have to take your word for itguessing youre the guy and if you are its a great watch charlize theron omg gorgeous or what "
actually it's the Mrs lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There has to be an attraction otherwise, we couldn't go through with itare you atomic blondie? love that film never seen it, so I would have to take your word for itguessing youre the guy and if you are its a great watch charlize theron omg gorgeous or what actually it's the Mrs lol"
really well it says youre bisexual so she may appeal she has a bi sex scene in the film and she has several iced baths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely has to be some form of attraction. I find many things attractive, be it personality, a nice face, a body that I want to put my hands on, great boobs etc I'm attracted to differnt things about different people. If theres no sexual chemistry then there cant be a meet.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ?

Yeah i could totally go for someone who i didn't fancy, repulses me even. Debasing myself with someone who made me feel absolutely filthy and worthless is quite a turn on.

Then there is an attraction - it's to the situation.

"

Yes, just not the individual.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Attraction for me is a fickle thing. It changes depending on the situation. Physical attraction was key for my relationship but not as much when I play. The heat of the moment takes over then and I find different things and people attractive at that time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Attraction for me is a fickle thing. It changes depending on the situation. Physical attraction was key for my relationship but not as much when I play. The heat of the moment takes over then and I find different things and people attractive at that time. "
yay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes there has to be attraction from both sides, its probably why I always struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has to be all sorts happening for me or it just isn’t going to happen

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

Attraction isn't always physical. I've met up with someone before I chatted to online (not this site though) and instant reaction was that I didn't fancy her physically. We sat and chatted and drank (coffee - don't blame the alcohol.... ) and the more we chatted the more she appealed to me and the more I started to fancy her.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"OMG. There HAS to be attraction! "

There definately has!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Got into a conversation today and got asked could I have sex with someone I wasn’t attracted to ? For me there’s got to be some sort of attraction and struggle to do anything with anyone that I wasn’t attracted to ....

What’s everyone else’s view ? Is it just sex or does there have to be an attraction ?? ? "

Has to be attraction...animal attraction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the little fella doesnt want to play if not physically attracted AND mentally stimulated.

you dont need to be able to quote quantum theorum but be able to spell your name properly is the bare minimum.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"Attraction isn't always physical. I've met up with someone before I chatted to online (not this site though) and instant reaction was that I didn't fancy her physically. We sat and chatted and drank (coffee - don't blame the alcohol.... ) and the more we chatted the more she appealed to me and the more I started to fancy her. "

Id suck your dick

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Yes there's got to be something. I don't think anyone really has sex owith people they're not attracted to in some way, it's just that some people can find attraction in willingness and the appropriate body parts.

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere


"Attraction isn't always physical. I've met up with someone before I chatted to online (not this site though) and instant reaction was that I didn't fancy her physically. We sat and chatted and drank (coffee - don't blame the alcohol.... ) and the more we chatted the more she appealed to me and the more I started to fancy her.

Id suck your dick "

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