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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Comparisons. We all compare ourselves to others.

Sometimes through envy, sometimes through pity and I think it can be counter productive.

But what's the one thing you often find yourself comparing to others? Wealth, looks, happiness? Etc etc

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Genuinely don't really do this.

I sometimes compare to my former self rather than others.

By former self i simply mean I'll look at older pics of myself compared to more recent ones.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ability to talk about myself with out feeling like I'm bothering people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pointless comparing yourself to anyone else... No one else has walked a mile in your shoes or had your experiences... What i do do however is look at the qualities i admire in other people and work on improving those in myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say I don’t compare myself to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Height. I'm 6ft exactly barefooted, and upto 6ft 2in depending what footwear I'm wearing. But there's always some bastard in the pub who makes me feel like a midget lol. I wish I had an extra 2 inches so I AM the tallest in the pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Height. I'm 6ft exactly barefooted, and upto 6ft 2in depending what footwear I'm wearing. But there's always some bastard in the pub who makes me feel like a midget lol. I wish I had an extra 2 inches so I AM the tallest in the pub. "

Dahrlink that is what platforms + heels are for.. That little boost that we all need from time to time

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By *indy louTV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Nothing compares to you ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t compare. Waste of energy.

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By *indy louTV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"Nothing compares to you "
still play that lovely song ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always compare who's better looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Height. I'm 6ft exactly barefooted, and upto 6ft 2in depending what footwear I'm wearing. But there's always some bastard in the pub who makes me feel like a midget lol. I wish I had an extra 2 inches so I AM the tallest in the pub. "

Lol 6ft to me seems perfect but then again I’m short lol

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm a god. Lol

What should I compare myself to?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I compare myself with people who seem to have their life sorted and in order.

I thought I'd have it all boxed off by now

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

It's natural to compare in my opinion. It can be a positive thing if someone is doing something better than you, they may be able to help you. For example my mate is amazing at doing make I recognized this and she's now taught me how to improve my technique

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I do it all the time. It can be for the most mundane things as well.

Smacks of insecurity I suppose but I make up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Comparisons. We all compare ourselves to others.

Sometimes through envy, sometimes through pity and I think it can be counter productive.

But what's the one thing you often find yourself comparing to others? Wealth, looks, happiness? Etc etc "

Don't really but if I did i, would compare myself to how I was when I was married to who I am now, I like me now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don’t compare. Waste of energy."
never looked at someone worse off and thought I should be grateful that's not me?

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"I compare myself with people who seem to have their life sorted and in order.

I thought I'd have it all boxed off by now "

This

The one area I compare myself to others is in personal relationships. I'd like one to last.

It's getting more difficult as I get older to be on my own, as I only have one real life friend who's not partnered up.

However, after some self analysis, I am also coming to the conclusion that I have convinced myself, at some deep, fundamental level, that I am unlovable. So when I medtvsineonecand it might develop into sobe thing, I act like a dick and push them away so that when they leave I can think to myself, I knew I was unlovable.

I think I'm pretty screwed up....

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I'm always comparing myself to others.I know it's not a good thing but sometimes I look at someone and think "wow, I wish I had their confidence" or "I wish I had a figure like her". Just one of those things

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Wealth, looks, happiness, There's a lot people worse off then me in the 3 examples given, I'm generally happy as I am, Although a few more inches in height and maybe a little stockier all round

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's natural to compare in my opinion. It can be a positive thing if someone is doing something better than you, they may be able to help you. For example my mate is amazing at doing make I recognized this and she's now taught me how to improve my technique"

I agree that some level of comparison with others (albeit not always consciously) is part of human nature. I quite often wish I had more confidence with certain things (mostly work related), when I see my colleagues dealing with issues with what seems to be more self assurance than I do. That’s my main point of comparison with others I think. I work in daily though. And as you’ve said, I’m inspired by others to work on it and I learn from others how to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*work on it daily. Typos galore today!!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"It's natural to compare in my opinion. It can be a positive thing if someone is doing something better than you, they may be able to help you. For example my mate is amazing at doing make I recognized this and she's now taught me how to improve my technique

I agree that some level of comparison with others (albeit not always consciously) is part of human nature. I quite often wish I had more confidence with certain things (mostly work related), when I see my colleagues dealing with issues with what seems to be more self assurance than I do. That’s my main point of comparison with others I think. I work in daily though. And as you’ve said, I’m inspired by others to work on it and I learn from others how to. "

Think we're all human and that none of us are perfect. And even those who seem to have it all, rarely do from what I've seen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think we all do, I know I’m guilty of it. But I know that my life’s not as bad as some people’s so I have a lot to be grateful for. I also compare myself to the old me a few years ago and that’s a positive comparison x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I think we all do, I know I’m guilty of it. But I know that my life’s not as bad as some people’s so I have a lot to be grateful for. I also compare myself to the old me a few years ago and that’s a positive comparison x "

Yes I do this too. I always feel really proud when I deal with something in a way I couldn’t have done years ago, when I look back and think, the old me would have sat down and cried - the new me is kicking arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sometimes I think we all do, I know I’m guilty of it. But I know that my life’s not as bad as some people’s so I have a lot to be grateful for. I also compare myself to the old me a few years ago and that’s a positive comparison x

Yes I do this too. I always feel really proud when I deal with something in a way I couldn’t have done years ago, when I look back and think, the old me would have sat down and cried - the new me is kicking arse! "

That’s great, yes I get the same it’s a bloody good feeling x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My confidence I always compare my lack of confidence

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Cock size. There probably are other things I compare but I can't think of them.

Btw I always come out second best but I can't do anything about it so any negativity is gone after 5 seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never compare myself to anybody on any level, what other people are, what they do or what they offer, its not relevant to me.

so I wouldn't say its something we all do.

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I compare myself to no-one.

Whether anyone compares themselves to me, I care not. It's none of my business.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I sometimes compare my hair.

I can't help it, years of wanting european hair and being told that was desirable has sort of left its mark. So yes. Sometimes I look at a woman with thick, straight hair and get envious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luck vs effort and planning always fascinated me.... ....I'm happy as I am with my lot, but some things are beyond human control so I do wonder about fate and luck a lot, especially this time of year.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I compare my boobs to other womens. I had breast cancer so my left boob is an imposter!

Its hard not to compare to a perfect set of boobs.

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By *0NyorksMan
over a year ago

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I naturally compare myself to others. I'm a little self conscious but not so it effects me negatively. I'm happy enough with how my body is aging and changing as time goes by. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I try not to I often compare myself to others...especially on here! I find its happened a few times during this crazy Fab journey, but then I have a good strong word with myself and remind myself that no one else is me and comparing myself to anyone is just a waste of energy!! I may not be perfect but actually I do ok and if anyone doesn't like it.....well bye bye!!

PT x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Self confidence "

I know this far too well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't co.pare myself to anyone, if I don't like something about me I strive to make me better but only in my own eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Comparisons. We all compare ourselves to others.

Sometimes through envy, sometimes through pity and I think it can be counter productive.

But what's the one thing you often find yourself comparing to others? Wealth, looks, happiness? Etc etc "
i dont compare myself to others I'm unique

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I try not to compare myself/my life to others because that way is usually the path to sadness.

My life is very hectic, and i do wish it was a bit less so sometimes. But it is what it is.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Self confidence

I know this far too well "

Loads of people you think are confident actually aren't.

They just fake it well

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