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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nobody is going to read this anyway, its like one of those women's profiles that last twenty pages and you just look at the tits and either message or go to the next.  Anyway,  after typing out all the shit below I thought I should just come back to the start and say that I hope this thread will be taken in the positive, curious, playful, open minded,  thought provoking, "ask my fab friends to help explain some of the meaning and mystery of life on fab to me" way in which it was intended....

So,  I've had a really busy weekend and an even busier week because I've been away with work and exhibiting.  As a consequence I haven't been keeping an eye on the forum at all....

......I've just come back for a quick look on the forum and noticed that there seems to be an abundance of threads talking about other "negative" threads and telling ppl to be this, be that, say this say that, join my gang/club, fit in, say something nice about the person below, or to the left, or diagonally across and along, or round the corner etc because it's international daily be nice day for 365 days pa.....   .....Now I'm not having a go at these threads (much) or their authors,  I can see they are mostly written with good intentions.  And maybe the forum has always been this way and it's just  that I've had moment of rare clarity after a few days away.   However, this got me thinking (and usually it's the thinking that leads me into trouble, so apologies in advance).  So, I was thinking.....    .... Does just saying "something nice" actually make it true?  Does it make things better?  Is it real?  Most importantly does it change your soul from negative to positive,  does it REALLY....????  Or are you still the same soul feeling a little better about yourself until the next time the horrors of the real world frighten you.....?

Doesn't writing a post to say other ppl are shit because they've said something shit on another forum post just extend the cycle of shittiness and lower yourself into that shit?  In the same way that telling someone they're brilliant when they haven't recently done anything brilliant will dilute the effect of telling them they're great when they actually have been great in the future and genuinely deserve praise.....?  Does that make sense....? 

I adore ppl, each and every one, put on the earth for a purpose,  including all you forumites,  even if it might not appear that way from some of the shite I write on here at times when I'm in a mood.  I love ppl's minds, their individuality, their power of creativity,  how they think  differently or the same, how complex and subtle they can be - basically ppl are my number one hobby!

(Ppl wonder why I abbreviated ppl all the time, its because you're my favourite fucking word and I use it a lot, obv.....!)

So, I see lots of cyclical behaviour on the fab forums, sometimes it's fun, other times it can be difficult viewing and a little disturbing and dog whistlish (yes that's a word I just made up, dog whistle-ish).  

Anyway, why should we feel the need to control the mood of the forum in either direction?  Isn't a little flexibility and exposure both ways great for development and resiliency?  What's so big and scary about the ppl we disagree with?  What's so scary about watching someone insult another person within the fab rules when it's clear for everyone watching to see that they are only making a tit out of themself in the process?  Why tell them how to behave.  Why not allow ppl to be themselves and be honest about it?  Does fake praise actually make you feel better for a while?  I dont get it personally....

I think conflicts of opinion or differences expressed respectfully are often an opportuny to learn something, to grow yourself and to build bridges and networks.  Makes no sense to me why they should be feared or brushed under the carpet with hug your fave forumite threads......

Why can't we be more acceping of different views, ideas, attitudes, moods (even negative ones) and learn from them?  After all, its real life isn't it. Why not adjust your own thoughts and internal mechanisms (the really hard part imho) and learn to tolerate?

So anyway, I can appreciate that this post is more than a little confusing, erratic and long winded, but I guess it is summed up in the title, wouldn't you agree, or not.....

I'm a twatty contradiction  as ever, even within this thread, but I just wondered if I could ask you to think a little deeper and to help me to do so too.   Please try to learn something from any replies to this thread, if indeed there are any (I doubt ppl will have the patience for it tbh),  even if it's that you were right to start with but at least you'll have investigated why and in the process become a better, more open, human in doing so.  Or maybe you already did that on my last thread, in which case please just ignore this one and have a great day

Be yourselves and try to be nice if that's in your nature, if not then be judged either way, maybe, or maybe not......

Much love to you all (genuinely)

Nip x

(and no, I'm sober and mentally sound, I swear,  just feeling playful today)

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this. "

Good man

Dont you have a little FOMO....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this. "

Quite right. Best thing to do. There weren't even any tits to look at

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this.

Quite right. Best thing to do. There weren't even any tits to look at "

I have lovely nipples, check my pp....

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

U OK hun?

More seriously, I view the number of "send a pic / compliment / friend request to the person above" threads a little bewildering. If only because I join and get nothing out of them

Beyond that, I've kind of forgotten where I was going with this when I started.

But I love people, too, in all their weird craziness. And that's from soneone who knows that he's often slightly out of kilter with the rear of the forumites. Hence why I've not made any friends off here....

But more power to your elbow, OP, and at least you hit a reply

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"U OK hun?

More seriously, I view the number of "send a pic / compliment / friend request to the person above" threads a little bewildering. If only because I join and get nothing out of them

Beyond that, I've kind of forgotten where I was going with this when I started.

But I love people, too, in all their weird craziness. And that's from soneone who knows that he's often slightly out of kilter with the rear of the forumites. Hence why I've not made any friends off here....

But more power to your elbow, OP, and at least you hit a reply "

*got a reply*

Bloody phone....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"U OK hun?

More seriously, I view the number of "send a pic / compliment / friend request to the person above" threads a little bewildering. If only because I join and get nothing out of them

Beyond that, I've kind of forgotten where I was going with this when I started.

But I love people, too, in all their weird craziness. And that's from soneone who knows that he's often slightly out of kilter with the rear of the forumites. Hence why I've not made any friends off here....

But more power to your elbow, OP, and at least you hit a reply "

You just made a friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this.

Quite right. Best thing to do. There weren't even any tits to look at

I have lovely nipples, check my pp.... "

Eeek - I'll take your word on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope ive read it OP and I think I get what your saying and for the record your right. .. I think

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I read it all good sir

I agree; Maris Pipers are my personal favourite potato also

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

That’s the wordiest op I’ve ever read on here!

Fab seems to be having an up and downer at the moment but it’ll pass. It always does.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"U OK hun?

More seriously, I view the number of "send a pic / compliment / friend request to the person above" threads a little bewildering. If only because I join and get nothing out of them

Beyond that, I've kind of forgotten where I was going with this when I started.

But I love people, too, in all their weird craziness. And that's from soneone who knows that he's often slightly out of kilter with the rear of the forumites. Hence why I've not made any friends off here....

But more power to your elbow, OP, and at least you hit a reply

*got a reply*

Bloody phone.... "

I was curious as to how it would work, becsuse threads only generally get attention when they're in the top few, but it would take ten minutes to read this, so I guessed it might drop off the bottom even if ppl could be arsed with it.....

I like experiments and challenge

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this.

Quite right. Best thing to do. There weren't even any tits to look at

I have lovely nipples, check my pp....

Eeek - I'll take your word on that "

Ask around xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nope ive read it OP and I think I get what your saying and for the record your right. .. I think"

Of course I'm fucking right!

(thanks though pal )

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read it all good sir

I agree; Maris Pipers are my personal favourite potato also "

I love parsnips myself, they're like long potatoes or white carrots.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That’s the wordiest op I’ve ever read on here!

Fab seems to be having an up and downer at the moment but it’ll pass. It always does.

"

Odd that you should reply.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right I won't read it but good effort sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have neither the time nor the patience right now to try and understand your question. But I’ve missed you around here and I’m pleased you’re back

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You're right I won't read it but good effort sir"

I fabbed your pic and everything too.....

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

I had one but the wheel fell off

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Think I get what you are getting at ish. Debate and differences of opinion are what makes us all human. I personally love a good debate which engages my brain, even if I completely disagree with the other person. As long as the debate is respectful and everyone is able to voice their opinion than I'm all for it.

I do agree with you on the sweeping under the carpet who is your favourite person etc. It's avoiding the issue and this excludes those who aren't regular forum posters who may have voiced an opinions if it was something they cared about.

We all should try to nicer human beings to each other and learn something from each others experiences. That's kind of why we are on the forum isn't it? Cause we can't often talk openly in out real lives

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have neither the time nor the patience right now to try and understand your question. But I’ve missed you around here and I’m pleased you’re back "

I'm pleased you're pleasured

(if your best mates cba, theres no hope left on fab really I guess.....)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had one but the wheel fell off "

What was the question?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I had one but the wheel fell off

What was the question? "

Something about unicycles or penny farthings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have neither the time nor the patience right now to try and understand your question. But I’ve missed you around here and I’m pleased you’re back

I'm pleased you're pleasured

(if your best mates cba, theres no hope left on fab really I guess.....)"

I will read and try and understand later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read it all good sir

I agree; Maris Pipers are my personal favourite potato also

I love parsnips myself, they're like long potatoes or white carrots....."

But do you like them roasted or boiled?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think I get what you are getting at ish. Debate and differences of opinion are what makes us all human. I personally love a good debate which engages my brain, even if I completely disagree with the other person. As long as the debate is respectful and everyone is able to voice their opinion than I'm all for it.

I do agree with you on the sweeping under the carpet who is your favourite person etc. It's avoiding the issue and this excludes those who aren't regular forum posters who may have voiced an opinions if it was something they cared about.

We all should try to nicer human beings to each other and learn something from each others experiences. That's kind of why we are on the forum isn't it? Cause we can't often talk openly in out real lives"

I love you, you're my new favourite forumite

(Esp now Lucie cba reading me )

I actually do find myself agreeing with you lots tbf, youre actively inclusive and you have so much patience for ppl unless they're taking the piss, it's a beautiful quality

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had one but the wheel fell off

What was the question?

Something about unicycles or penny farthings "

One is the other with stabilisers......

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"Think I get what you are getting at ish. Debate and differences of opinion are what makes us all human. I personally love a good debate which engages my brain, even if I completely disagree with the other person. As long as the debate is respectful and everyone is able to voice their opinion than I'm all for it.

I do agree with you on the sweeping under the carpet who is your favourite person etc. It's avoiding the issue and this excludes those who aren't regular forum posters who may have voiced an opinions if it was something they cared about.

We all should try to nicer human beings to each other and learn something from each others experiences. That's kind of why we are on the forum isn't it? Cause we can't often talk openly in out real lives

I love you, you're my new favourite forumite

(Esp now Lucie cba reading me )

I actually do find myself agreeing with you lots tbf, youre actively inclusive and you have so much patience for ppl unless they're taking the piss, it's a beautiful quality "

You missed FAF off the end there OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have neither the time nor the patience right now to try and understand your question. But I’ve missed you around here and I’m pleased you’re back

I'm pleased you're pleasured

(if your best mates cba, theres no hope left on fab really I guess.....)

I will read and try and understand later "

Yeah, whatevs.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I read it all good sir

I agree; Maris Pipers are my personal favourite potato also

I love parsnips myself, they're like long potatoes or white carrots.....

But do you like them roasted or boiled? "

There is only one way!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think I get what you are getting at ish. Debate and differences of opinion are what makes us all human. I personally love a good debate which engages my brain, even if I completely disagree with the other person. As long as the debate is respectful and everyone is able to voice their opinion than I'm all for it.

I do agree with you on the sweeping under the carpet who is your favourite person etc. It's avoiding the issue and this excludes those who aren't regular forum posters who may have voiced an opinions if it was something they cared about.

We all should try to nicer human beings to each other and learn something from each others experiences. That's kind of why we are on the forum isn't it? Cause we can't often talk openly in out real lives

I love you, you're my new favourite forumite

(Esp now Lucie cba reading me )

I actually do find myself agreeing with you lots tbf, youre actively inclusive and you have so much patience for ppl unless they're taking the piss, it's a beautiful quality

You missed FAF off the end there OP "

We already negotiated that weeks ago......

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope ive read it OP and I think I get what your saying and for the record your right. .. I think

Of course I'm fucking right!

(thanks though pal )"

anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You're right I won't read it but good effort sir

I fabbed your pic and everything too..... "

Unconfirmed but nice try

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency ! "

No, it was what I said......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The power of online anonymity perhaps? Also, can you refer to us as peeps not ppl

I generally prefer intellectual banter or good debate, but sometimes join in the more fun threads... However there are a lot of mindless threads poping up

Am mostly here to open my mind and learn from other people and their experiences which sometimes leads to me thinking oh, i might like that now I understand what it is

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency !

No, it was what I said......"

I know just abbreviated it

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Yes. No. Maybe.

I get where you're coming from Nip (I think), and my answer could be as long and as convoluted as your OP... But for those who don't want to read any further, I'll be kind to your eyes (There are tits on my profile!).

From a personal viewpoint... A little flattery or praise from someone I know and respect on here can really mean a lot on a crappy day, but likewise a superficial compliment from randomer can seem obsequious and a bit cringey. On the far end of the spectrum, I also enjoy healthy debate with lively people and will engage in discourse and argue my position when I'm in the mood and have the time to give to a topic... But then you also have people who take debate personally and can't separate someone not agreeing with them on a topic, from someone simply finding them disagreeable, and they then end up following you from thread to thread making snippy remarks because they resent you for this perceived slight.

I used to use the Lounge Forum quite regularly, but am an infrequent visitor now because of that kind of begrudgery. There are other forums to use

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By *naquest321Man
over a year ago

Carlisle


"I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this. "

Me too, then I’d thought I’d go and look at a pair of tits.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I should just confirm that Lucie is awesome and I do love her loads.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The power of online anonymity perhaps? Also, can you refer to us as peeps not ppl

I generally prefer intellectual banter or good debate, but sometimes join in the more fun threads... However there are a lot of mindless threads poping up

Am mostly here to open my mind and learn from other people and their experiences which sometimes leads to me thinking oh, i might like that now I understand what it is "

Wanna be in my gang?

I actually admire that attitude tbf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you've been away OP?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"you've been away OP? "

*cough* basement

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency !

No, it was what I said......

I know just abbreviated it "

I know you know, but you can't summarise all that thought in a few lines

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I should just confirm that Lucie is awesome and I do love her loads....."

Would never have guessed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I should just confirm that Lucie is awesome and I do love her loads....."

Please don’t set me off crying again

Back at ya xx

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"you've been away OP?

*cough* basement "

Proper made me chuckle that did

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. No. Maybe.

I get where you're coming from Nip (I think), and my answer could be as long and as convoluted as your OP... But for those who don't want to read any further, I'll be kind to your eyes (There are tits on my profile!).

From a personal viewpoint... A little flattery or praise from someone I know and respect on here can really mean a lot on a crappy day, but likewise a superficial compliment from randomer can seem obsequious and a bit cringey. On the far end of the spectrum, I also enjoy healthy debate with lively people and will engage in discourse and argue my position when I'm in the mood and have the time to give to a topic... But then you also have people who take debate personally and can't separate someone not agreeing with them on a topic, from someone simply finding them disagreeable, and they then end up following you from thread to thread making snippy remarks because they resent you for this perceived slight.

I used to use the Lounge Forum quite regularly, but am an infrequent visitor now because of that kind of begrudgery. There are other forums to use "

Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency !

No, it was what I said......

I know just abbreviated it

I know you know, but you can't summarise all that thought in a few lines "

You could. You could have asked whether the praise and niceties on threads in here are a way of people avoiding unpleasant threads, and whether anyone actually genuinely feels better when someone on here compliments them because ultimately it’s a bit superficial..... am I just about capturing the gist of your lengthy thread in 6 lines?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was going to read it, then saw how long it went on for. So I gave up and just posted this.

Me too, then I’d thought I’d go and look at a pair of tits. "

Which pair? LBC is one of my current faves

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you've been away OP? "

Wasn't it peaceful?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you've been away OP?

*cough* basement "

Nooooo, for a change not lololol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you've been away OP?

*cough* basement

Proper made me chuckle that did "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The power of online anonymity perhaps? Also, can you refer to us as peeps not ppl

I generally prefer intellectual banter or good debate, but sometimes join in the more fun threads... However there are a lot of mindless threads poping up

Am mostly here to open my mind and learn from other people and their experiences which sometimes leads to me thinking oh, i might like that now I understand what it is

Wanna be in my gang?

I actually admire that attitude tbf "

Well i like being spanked

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency !

No, it was what I said......

I know just abbreviated it

I know you know, but you can't summarise all that thought in a few lines

You could. You could have asked whether the praise and niceties on threads in here are a way of people avoiding unpleasant threads, and whether anyone actually genuinely feels better when someone on here compliments them because ultimately it’s a bit superficial..... am I just about capturing the gist of your lengthy thread in 6 lines? "

Did you just call me lengthy...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The power of online anonymity perhaps? Also, can you refer to us as peeps not ppl

I generally prefer intellectual banter or good debate, but sometimes join in the more fun threads... However there are a lot of mindless threads poping up

Am mostly here to open my mind and learn from other people and their experiences which sometimes leads to me thinking oh, i might like that now I understand what it is

Wanna be in my gang?

I actually admire that attitude tbf

Well i like being spanked "

Sold!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency !

No, it was what I said......

I know just abbreviated it

I know you know, but you can't summarise all that thought in a few lines

You could. You could have asked whether the praise and niceties on threads in here are a way of people avoiding unpleasant threads, and whether anyone actually genuinely feels better when someone on here compliments them because ultimately it’s a bit superficial..... am I just about capturing the gist of your lengthy thread in 6 lines?

Did you just call me lengthy...? "

Yes I did.

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over a year ago


"Rambling... but the short of it just be respectful to others and what they choose to. No need for anyone to take it personal or be disrespectful just because some likes something different than you

Rem_mber your basic human manners and decency !

No, it was what I said......

I know just abbreviated it

I know you know, but you can't summarise all that thought in a few lines

You could. You could have asked whether the praise and niceties on threads in here are a way of people avoiding unpleasant threads, and whether anyone actually genuinely feels better when someone on here compliments them because ultimately it’s a bit superficial..... am I just about capturing the gist of your lengthy thread in 6 lines?

Did you just call me lengthy...?

Yes I did. "

I LOVE YOU LJ

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Yes. No. Maybe.

I get where you're coming from Nip (I think), and my answer could be as long and as convoluted as your OP... But for those who don't want to read any further, I'll be kind to your eyes (There are tits on my profile!).

From a personal viewpoint... A little flattery or praise from someone I know and respect on here can really mean a lot on a crappy day, but likewise a superficial compliment from randomer can seem obsequious and a bit cringey. On the far end of the spectrum, I also enjoy healthy debate with lively people and will engage in discourse and argue my position when I'm in the mood and have the time to give to a topic... But then you also have people who take debate personally and can't separate someone not agreeing with them on a topic, from someone simply finding them disagreeable, and they then end up following you from thread to thread making snippy remarks because they resent you for this perceived slight.

I used to use the Lounge Forum quite regularly, but am an infrequent visitor now because of that kind of begrudgery. There are other forums to use

Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here "

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over a year ago


"Yes. No. Maybe.

I get where you're coming from Nip (I think), and my answer could be as long and as convoluted as your OP... But for those who don't want to read any further, I'll be kind to your eyes (There are tits on my profile!).

From a personal viewpoint... A little flattery or praise from someone I know and respect on here can really mean a lot on a crappy day, but likewise a superficial compliment from randomer can seem obsequious and a bit cringey. On the far end of the spectrum, I also enjoy healthy debate with lively people and will engage in discourse and argue my position when I'm in the mood and have the time to give to a topic... But then you also have people who take debate personally and can't separate someone not agreeing with them on a topic, from someone simply finding them disagreeable, and they then end up following you from thread to thread making snippy remarks because they resent you for this perceived slight.

I used to use the Lounge Forum quite regularly, but am an infrequent visitor now because of that kind of begrudgery. There are other forums to use

Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you "

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Yes. No. Maybe.

I get where you're coming from Nip (I think), and my answer could be as long and as convoluted as your OP... But for those who don't want to read any further, I'll be kind to your eyes (There are tits on my profile!).

From a personal viewpoint... A little flattery or praise from someone I know and respect on here can really mean a lot on a crappy day, but likewise a superficial compliment from randomer can seem obsequious and a bit cringey. On the far end of the spectrum, I also enjoy healthy debate with lively people and will engage in discourse and argue my position when I'm in the mood and have the time to give to a topic... But then you also have people who take debate personally and can't separate someone not agreeing with them on a topic, from someone simply finding them disagreeable, and they then end up following you from thread to thread making snippy remarks because they resent you for this perceived slight.

I used to use the Lounge Forum quite regularly, but am an infrequent visitor now because of that kind of begrudgery. There are other forums to use

Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb..... "

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

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Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly) "

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

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over a year ago


"Yes. No. Maybe.

I get where you're coming from Nip (I think), and my answer could be as long and as convoluted as your OP... But for those who don't want to read any further, I'll be kind to your eyes (There are tits on my profile!).

From a personal viewpoint... A little flattery or praise from someone I know and respect on here can really mean a lot on a crappy day, but likewise a superficial compliment from randomer can seem obsequious and a bit cringey. On the far end of the spectrum, I also enjoy healthy debate with lively people and will engage in discourse and argue my position when I'm in the mood and have the time to give to a topic... But then you also have people who take debate personally and can't separate someone not agreeing with them on a topic, from someone simply finding them disagreeable, and they then end up following you from thread to thread making snippy remarks because they resent you for this perceived slight.

I used to use the Lounge Forum quite regularly, but am an infrequent visitor now because of that kind of begrudgery. There are other forums to use

Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though "

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this. "

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

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over a year ago

*say something nice, even

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly) "

She said you smelt nice because you smelt nice though, well I'm hoping....? If you smelt of BO and shit and and she'd just had an argument with her husband next to you, it'd be a bit different, no?

That wasn't really my point though......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this. "

Stop kissing arse......

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

Stop kissing arse...... "

Oh do you wish it was yours

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

She said you smelt nice because you smelt nice though, well I'm hoping....? If you smelt of BO and shit and and she'd just had an argument with her husband next to you, it'd be a bit different, no?

That wasn't really my point though...... "

Are you saying I’ve misunderstood your point? If so can you please summarise it in about 5 or so lines?

And yes, I smelt nice, she was complimenting my perfume. I don’t understand the relevance of whether she was arguing with her husband. I’d have just felt a bit awkward and possibly mildly amused (if the argument was something trivial like which baked beans to buy) and then carried on with my shopping......

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads "

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

She said you smelt nice because you smelt nice though, well I'm hoping....? If you smelt of BO and shit and and she'd just had an argument with her husband next to you, it'd be a bit different, no?

That wasn't really my point though......

Are you saying I’ve misunderstood your point? If so can you please summarise it in about 5 or so lines?

And yes, I smelt nice, she was complimenting my perfume. I don’t understand the relevance of whether she was arguing with her husband. I’d have just felt a bit awkward and possibly mildly amused (if the argument was something trivial like which baked beans to buy) and then carried on with my shopping...... "

My post was that wordy because it was...

....if you'd smelt like a tramp and she was trying to make you feel better as a distraction from reality =/= not genuine or mentally healthy.....

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

Stop kissing arse......

Oh do you wish it was yours"

I a word, YES

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over a year ago


"Nobody is going to read this anyway..."

Read it god I need a beer now or several

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"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

She said you smelt nice because you smelt nice though, well I'm hoping....? If you smelt of BO and shit and and she'd just had an argument with her husband next to you, it'd be a bit different, no?

That wasn't really my point though......

Are you saying I’ve misunderstood your point? If so can you please summarise it in about 5 or so lines?

And yes, I smelt nice, she was complimenting my perfume. I don’t understand the relevance of whether she was arguing with her husband. I’d have just felt a bit awkward and possibly mildly amused (if the argument was something trivial like which baked beans to buy) and then carried on with my shopping......

My post was that wordy because it was...

....if you'd smelt like a tramp and she was trying to make you feel better as a distraction from reality =/= not genuine or mentally healthy..... "

Distraction is not always mentally unhealthy.

I’m on here at this very moment as a distraction from a family situation I’m dealing with which has been causing me significant stress. I’ve dealt with as much of it as I possibly can, and now I’m distracting my exhausted mind. As long as avoidance and distraction are not a person’s only methods of coping with life’s shit, it’s all good.

Disclaimer - I have *never* smelt like a tramp.

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over a year ago


"Nobody is going to read this anyway...

Read it god I need a beer now or several "

Is that like a sneaky way of asking me out.....?

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Blimey like War and Peace.

Understand where your coming from didn’t we all join here for some fun x

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over a year ago

Hey Nippy, I agree with you and that doesn’t happen very often.

Words are words, often said in haste and given even less thought when written online.

However.... sometimes when we’re in a really bad place, and we all get to visit that darkness at some point, we search for kindness and if we receive negativity instead, it can tip us over the edge.

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin

And today's reading is,

A letter from St. Paul to the Corinthians,,

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty.... "

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

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over a year ago


"Hey Nippy, I agree with you and that doesn’t happen very often.

Words are words, often said in haste and given even less thought when written online.

However.... sometimes when we’re in a really bad place, and we all get to visit that darkness at some point, we search for kindness and if we receive negativity instead, it can tip us over the edge. "

Agreed. Never underestimate the power of words - spoke or written. They can definitely have a huge impact. It’s why I preach about respect and how things are phrased on here. It gets me nowhere but I continue to try. I suppose working in mental health you see the consequences of life’s trauma, which can include unkind words. It’s not a pretty picture.

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over a year ago

*spoken, even!

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"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

She said you smelt nice because you smelt nice though, well I'm hoping....? If you smelt of BO and shit and and she'd just had an argument with her husband next to you, it'd be a bit different, no?

That wasn't really my point though......

Are you saying I’ve misunderstood your point? If so can you please summarise it in about 5 or so lines?

And yes, I smelt nice, she was complimenting my perfume. I don’t understand the relevance of whether she was arguing with her husband. I’d have just felt a bit awkward and possibly mildly amused (if the argument was something trivial like which baked beans to buy) and then carried on with my shopping......

My post was that wordy because it was...

....if you'd smelt like a tramp and she was trying to make you feel better as a distraction from reality =/= not genuine or mentally healthy.....

Distraction is not always mentally unhealthy.

I’m on here at this very moment as a distraction from a family situation I’m dealing with which has been causing me significant stress. I’ve dealt with as much of it as I possibly can, and now I’m distracting my exhausted mind. As long as avoidance and distraction are not a person’s only methods of coping with life’s shit, it’s all good.

Disclaimer - I have *never* smelt like a tramp. "

So you've sniffed tramps? that's a bit specialised even for me my darling....

Part of my point was that real life is REAL life, its long winded and complicated and contradictory and really hard, both good and bad are equally beautiful and valuable because if you don't have one you can't understand the other fully. Debate is more valuable to me than some creep telling me the want to suck my nipples or that I'm funny or smart (I know this already, even the nipples). Real life needs all those words I wrote plus millions more to explain itself and you can't wash it away by telling a stranger you've never even spoken to that they're pretty.....

Other points included thinking a bit deeper and helping me out on that to understand a bit more about the world and learning more than who is "friends" with who or who says who is pretty or who says who can or cant say this that or the other....

Fuck, don't get me started again.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Blimey like War and Peace.

Understand where your coming from didn’t we all join here for some fun x"

All is the word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noooooo - everyone should only post and join in the cliquey threads where people write lists of who they want to fuck

Who cares about the ones that don't get mentioned and are usually ignored

- they're just soooooo negative

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap.... "

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad."

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks.

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over a year ago


"Hey Nippy, I agree with you and that doesn’t happen very often.

Words are words, often said in haste and given even less thought when written online.

However.... sometimes when we’re in a really bad place, and we all get to visit that darkness at some point, we search for kindness and if we receive negativity instead, it can tip us over the edge. "

I agree with you wholeheartedly on that too my lovely (don't tell the community)

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

She said you smelt nice because you smelt nice though, well I'm hoping....? If you smelt of BO and shit and and she'd just had an argument with her husband next to you, it'd be a bit different, no?

That wasn't really my point though......

Are you saying I’ve misunderstood your point? If so can you please summarise it in about 5 or so lines?

And yes, I smelt nice, she was complimenting my perfume. I don’t understand the relevance of whether she was arguing with her husband. I’d have just felt a bit awkward and possibly mildly amused (if the argument was something trivial like which baked beans to buy) and then carried on with my shopping......

My post was that wordy because it was...

....if you'd smelt like a tramp and she was trying to make you feel better as a distraction from reality =/= not genuine or mentally healthy.....

Distraction is not always mentally unhealthy.

I’m on here at this very moment as a distraction from a family situation I’m dealing with which has been causing me significant stress. I’ve dealt with as much of it as I possibly can, and now I’m distracting my exhausted mind. As long as avoidance and distraction are not a person’s only methods of coping with life’s shit, it’s all good.

Disclaimer - I have *never* smelt like a tramp.

So you've sniffed tramps? that's a bit specialised even for me my darling....

Part of my point was that real life is REAL life, its long winded and complicated and contradictory and really hard, both good and bad are equally beautiful and valuable because if you don't have one you can't understand the other fully. Debate is more valuable to me than some creep telling me the want to suck my nipples or that I'm funny or smart (I know this already, even the nipples). Real life needs all those words I wrote plus millions more to explain itself and you can't wash it away by telling a stranger you've never even spoken to that they're pretty.....

Other points included thinking a bit deeper and helping me out on that to understand a bit more about the world and learning more than who is "friends" with who or who says who is pretty or who says who can or cant say this that or the other....

Fuck, don't get me started again..... "

Ok... so you’re saying you’d like to see deeper more meaningful philosophical “what is the meaning of life” type threads on here? Rather than let’s all say what we like about each other?

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over a year ago


"And today's reading is,

A letter from St. Paul to the Corinthians,,

"

I will make you read this by the end of today.....

(Why do you think I posted?)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why so many big words let's say it as it is we all live abit of attention that's why I constantly go looking for compliments on forums it isn't that complex

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad."

YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY STUNNING!!!

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By *inotGringoMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

Nothing gets somebody to read something more than someone saying ‘Nobody is going to read this anyway’.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

Yes. You do have nice nipples x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Noooooo - everyone should only post and join in the cliquey threads where people write lists of who they want to fuck

Who cares about the ones that don't get mentioned and are usually ignored

- they're just soooooo negative

"

Alright miss-fucking-popular...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap "

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit"

Agreed just be happy and bring negative insulting people doesn't even cross your mind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks. "

Fake personality comments are no different to saying you've got great tits. Do these ppl know you?

Anyway, this thread is digressing too far on one aspect now.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

She said you smelt nice because you smelt nice though, well I'm hoping....? If you smelt of BO and shit and and she'd just had an argument with her husband next to you, it'd be a bit different, no?

That wasn't really my point though......

Are you saying I’ve misunderstood your point? If so can you please summarise it in about 5 or so lines?

And yes, I smelt nice, she was complimenting my perfume. I don’t understand the relevance of whether she was arguing with her husband. I’d have just felt a bit awkward and possibly mildly amused (if the argument was something trivial like which baked beans to buy) and then carried on with my shopping......

My post was that wordy because it was...

....if you'd smelt like a tramp and she was trying to make you feel better as a distraction from reality =/= not genuine or mentally healthy.....

Distraction is not always mentally unhealthy.

I’m on here at this very moment as a distraction from a family situation I’m dealing with which has been causing me significant stress. I’ve dealt with as much of it as I possibly can, and now I’m distracting my exhausted mind. As long as avoidance and distraction are not a person’s only methods of coping with life’s shit, it’s all good.

Disclaimer - I have *never* smelt like a tramp.

So you've sniffed tramps? that's a bit specialised even for me my darling....

Part of my point was that real life is REAL life, its long winded and complicated and contradictory and really hard, both good and bad are equally beautiful and valuable because if you don't have one you can't understand the other fully. Debate is more valuable to me than some creep telling me the want to suck my nipples or that I'm funny or smart (I know this already, even the nipples). Real life needs all those words I wrote plus millions more to explain itself and you can't wash it away by telling a stranger you've never even spoken to that they're pretty.....

Other points included thinking a bit deeper and helping me out on that to understand a bit more about the world and learning more than who is "friends" with who or who says who is pretty or who says who can or cant say this that or the other....

Fuck, don't get me started again.....

Ok... so you’re saying you’d like to see deeper more meaningful philosophical “what is the meaning of life” type threads on here? Rather than let’s all say what we like about each other? "

Just something a little more stimulating, doesn't have to be astrophysics, could just be something playful.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why so many big words let's say it as it is we all live abit of attention that's why I constantly go looking for compliments on forums it isn't that complex"

Please don't attempt to summarise me so basically when you haven't tried to understand me.....

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks.

Fake personality comments are no different to saying you've got great tits. Do these ppl know you?

Anyway, this thread is digressing too far on one aspect now.....

"

Well it’s digressing because you included so many aspects to it, hence opening up potential for a diverse discussion

Ok so I ask you this. How do you *know* for sure the compliments are not genuine? You have just complimented another user above and told her she is absolutely stunning. (Disclaimer - I agree and I adore her). However my point is- how does she (or anyone for that matter) determine the genuineness or otherwise of that comment?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing gets somebody to read something more than someone saying ‘Nobody is going to read this anyway’."

I'm not as stupid as I look.....

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By *ay123mailMan
over a year ago

Seaham

Since i have always struggled to read properly, i think this is the most ive read since little red riding hood when i was 5ish. I had to re-read each paragraph 3-4times to know what was going on but i finished eventually. Since starting to write this ive lost track of what you wrote but whatever it was made me happy(pat on the back kinda moment) that i read it all.

Anyway question ... if your shirt is under your pants it means your shirt is tucked into your pants so, if you have your shirt over your pants does this mean your pants are tucked into your shirt ?

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over a year ago

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over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit"

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why so many big words let's say it as it is we all live abit of attention that's why I constantly go looking for compliments on forums it isn't that complex

Please don't attempt to summarise me so basically when you haven't tried to understand me..... "

I ain't summarising you friend I'm summarising the post of the 3 comments I've read

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes. You do have nice nipples x "

Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Ok... so you’re saying you’d like to see deeper more meaningful philosophical “what is the meaning of life” type threads on here? Rather than let’s all say what we like about each other? "

Oooooooo sounds good, its not doing my waistline any good sitting eating all this popcorn while in the forums

Soz do like to try and be helpful, but usually backfires but some do need a good kick up the arse here sometimes.

Worst is when they post get a number of replies and advice, ignore it and then start up another thread saying/asking the same thing lol

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap.... "

You had me at bubble wrap

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)"

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks.

Fake personality comments are no different to saying you've got great tits. Do these ppl know you?

Anyway, this thread is digressing too far on one aspect now.....

Well it’s digressing because you included so many aspects to it, hence opening up potential for a diverse discussion

Ok so I ask you this. How do you *know* for sure the compliments are not genuine? You have just complimented another user above and told her she is absolutely stunning. (Disclaimer - I agree and I adore her). However my point is- how does she (or anyone for that matter) determine the genuineness or otherwise of that comment? "

If someone said comment on the user above and in any way you choose, then a compliment would be genuine. Also, what about the ppl who wont post on those threads because of the gigantic motherfucking pause that occurs when they do, huh....?

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over a year ago


"Since i have always struggled to read properly, i think this is the most ive read since little red riding hood when i was 5ish. I had to re-read each paragraph 3-4times to know what was going on but i finished eventually. Since starting to write this ive lost track of what you wrote but whatever it was made me happy(pat on the back kinda moment) that i read it all.

Anyway question ... if your shirt is under your pants it means your shirt is tucked into your pants so, if you have your shirt over your pants does this mean your pants are tucked into your shirt ? "

Yes, and thank you, you made me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Ok... so you’re saying you’d like to see deeper more meaningful philosophical “what is the meaning of life” type threads on here? Rather than let’s all say what we like about each other?

Oooooooo sounds good, its not doing my waistline any good sitting eating all this popcorn while in the forums

Soz do like to try and be helpful, but usually backfires but some do need a good kick up the arse here sometimes.

Worst is when they post get a number of replies and advice, ignore it and then start up another thread saying/asking the same thing lol "

I'm so doing part two of this one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap "

Date, place and time plz

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will. "

I agree with that reply

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By *ay123mailMan
over a year ago

Seaham


"Since i have always struggled to read properly, i think this is the most ive read since little red riding hood when i was 5ish. I had to re-read each paragraph 3-4times to know what was going on but i finished eventually. Since starting to write this ive lost track of what you wrote but whatever it was made me happy(pat on the back kinda moment) that i read it all.

Anyway question ... if your shirt is under your pants it means your shirt is tucked into your pants so, if you have your shirt over your pants does this mean your pants are tucked into your shirt ?

Yes, and thank you, you made me "

Like wise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Ok... so you’re saying you’d like to see deeper more meaningful philosophical “what is the meaning of life” type threads on here? Rather than let’s all say what we like about each other?

Oooooooo sounds good, its not doing my waistline any good sitting eating all this popcorn while in the forums

Soz do like to try and be helpful, but usually backfires but some do need a good kick up the arse here sometimes.

Worst is when they post get a number of replies and advice, ignore it and then start up another thread saying/asking the same thing lol

I'm so doing part two of this one! "

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply "

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz "

Is your passport up to date?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Since i have always struggled to read properly, i think this is the most ive read since little red riding hood when i was 5ish. I had to re-read each paragraph 3-4times to know what was going on but i finished eventually. Since starting to write this ive lost track of what you wrote but whatever it was made me happy(pat on the back kinda moment) that i read it all.

Anyway question ... if your shirt is under your pants it means your shirt is tucked into your pants so, if you have your shirt over your pants does this mean your pants are tucked into your shirt ?

Yes, and thank you, you made me

Like wise "

Way too much seriousness and offence taking here. Ppl take offence to what they perceive inaccurately as me taking offence (wait, have I just taken offence to them doing that now or doesn't it matter because there was no initial offence? ).

I think humour and debate are brilliant and sexy af, and it keeps you sharp....

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over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks.

Fake personality comments are no different to saying you've got great tits. Do these ppl know you?

Anyway, this thread is digressing too far on one aspect now.....

Well it’s digressing because you included so many aspects to it, hence opening up potential for a diverse discussion

Ok so I ask you this. How do you *know* for sure the compliments are not genuine? You have just complimented another user above and told her she is absolutely stunning. (Disclaimer - I agree and I adore her). However my point is- how does she (or anyone for that matter) determine the genuineness or otherwise of that comment?

If someone said comment on the user above and in any way you choose, then a compliment would be genuine. Also, what about the ppl who wont post on those threads because of the gigantic motherfucking pause that occurs when they do, huh....?"

I disagree. If a post said comment on the above person in any way you choose, fake or forced niceness to avoid hurting feelings would still occur. Not always, granted. But if it was left open, some people would still find something more on the positive side to say, because some people work in that way.

I’m not sure what your point is about people who won’t post because of the pause that occurs when they do. There’s many posts I won’t usually post on because I don’t feel I understand it enough or it feels non inclusive or ‘cliquey’, such as the name your favourite or who’s on your hotlist type stuff. Not feeling able to involve yourself in certain types of discussion will happen on here for a multitude of reasons and for a variety of people - it’s not just the “say something nice about” threads that fall into this category.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Ok... so you’re saying you’d like to see deeper more meaningful philosophical “what is the meaning of life” type threads on here? Rather than let’s all say what we like about each other?

Oooooooo sounds good, its not doing my waistline any good sitting eating all this popcorn while in the forums

Soz do like to try and be helpful, but usually backfires but some do need a good kick up the arse here sometimes.

Worst is when they post get a number of replies and advice, ignore it and then start up another thread saying/asking the same thing lol

I'm so doing part two of this one!

"

You know it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha "

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date? "

Yeah

* so excited now *

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )"

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks.

Fake personality comments are no different to saying you've got great tits. Do these ppl know you?

Anyway, this thread is digressing too far on one aspect now.....

Well it’s digressing because you included so many aspects to it, hence opening up potential for a diverse discussion

Ok so I ask you this. How do you *know* for sure the compliments are not genuine? You have just complimented another user above and told her she is absolutely stunning. (Disclaimer - I agree and I adore her). However my point is- how does she (or anyone for that matter) determine the genuineness or otherwise of that comment?

If someone said comment on the user above and in any way you choose, then a compliment would be genuine. Also, what about the ppl who wont post on those threads because of the gigantic motherfucking pause that occurs when they do, huh....?

I disagree. If a post said comment on the above person in any way you choose, fake or forced niceness to avoid hurting feelings would still occur. Not always, granted. But if it was left open, some people would still find something more on the positive side to say, because some people work in that way.

I’m not sure what your point is about people who won’t post because of the pause that occurs when they do. There’s many posts I won’t usually post on because I don’t feel I understand it enough or it feels non inclusive or ‘cliquey’, such as the name your favourite or who’s on your hotlist type stuff. Not feeling able to involve yourself in certain types of discussion will happen on here for a multitude of reasons and for a variety of people - it’s not just the “say something nice about” threads that fall into this category.

"

I'm not gonna argue with you beyond a certain level since I love you. But I'm allowed to have my say on my own thread my lovely

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try"

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now * "

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks.

Fake personality comments are no different to saying you've got great tits. Do these ppl know you?

Anyway, this thread is digressing too far on one aspect now.....

Well it’s digressing because you included so many aspects to it, hence opening up potential for a diverse discussion

Ok so I ask you this. How do you *know* for sure the compliments are not genuine? You have just complimented another user above and told her she is absolutely stunning. (Disclaimer - I agree and I adore her). However my point is- how does she (or anyone for that matter) determine the genuineness or otherwise of that comment?

If someone said comment on the user above and in any way you choose, then a compliment would be genuine. Also, what about the ppl who wont post on those threads because of the gigantic motherfucking pause that occurs when they do, huh....?

I disagree. If a post said comment on the above person in any way you choose, fake or forced niceness to avoid hurting feelings would still occur. Not always, granted. But if it was left open, some people would still find something more on the positive side to say, because some people work in that way.

I’m not sure what your point is about people who won’t post because of the pause that occurs when they do. There’s many posts I won’t usually post on because I don’t feel I understand it enough or it feels non inclusive or ‘cliquey’, such as the name your favourite or who’s on your hotlist type stuff. Not feeling able to involve yourself in certain types of discussion will happen on here for a multitude of reasons and for a variety of people - it’s not just the “say something nice about” threads that fall into this category.

I'm not gonna argue with you beyond a certain level since I love you. But I'm allowed to have my say on my own thread my lovely "

You say argue, I say healthy debate (which your post invited).

Loves ya too

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over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in "

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok I’ve thought about it and...

no, I don’t think the more positive threads are always about avoidance of unpleasantness. Balancing out the “vibe” of the forum, maybe. But avoidance is an entirely different concept and I can only speak for myself when I say this isn’t my aim when I join in on those type of threads. I’m not one to avoid unpleasantness - my career means that’s virtually impossible and it’s basically the exact opposite of what I do day in and day out. So niceness for me just provides a nice balance. And I don’t think it always matters if it’s compliments from strangers or people you know - a woman in a supermarket the other day said to me “oh wow you smell lovely” as she was standing near me. I smiled and felt good about myself for the next half an hour or so. I didn’t know her, but it still made me feel nice and it wasn’t a superficial feeling.

So to summarise - no, being nice is not always avoidance of shittiness - some people can deal with both and just like a balance. And yes, often nice comments on here make me feel genuinely better (albeit if only briefly)

Good point and you're completely right, my thinking was when its name your favourite forumite this isn't as inclusive. But then the say something nice about that poster above gets round this.

I really dislike the naming people threads. You’re right, in some ways it promotes exclusion and makes it harder for the less established m_mbers to join in. I was referring more to the day something nice about or send a nice message to etc type threads

I'd LOVE to see a say something interesting thread next time we want to reset the balance..... ....not just lovies telling each other they're pretty....

We're all guilty of wanting to be told we're pretty. And I guess I still feel excluded from those kind of posts, as I am socially awkward as fuck. I'm not conventionally pretty or fit and definitely not as flirty as some. And I'm guessing I'm not the only one who uses the forums or lurks reading them. So I do really believe in the forum being a free and open place for all. Using it should be a positive experience for users not somewhere to make others feel bad.

The say something nice / send a nice messages threads don’t always focus just on physical appearance. I’ve had messages to my inbox from people complimenting my personal qualities that they have inferred from my posts, such as my good nature and level headedness, for example. Those comments always mean so much more to me and give me a bigger boost than the ones based on looks.

Fake personality comments are no different to saying you've got great tits. Do these ppl know you?

Anyway, this thread is digressing too far on one aspect now.....

Well it’s digressing because you included so many aspects to it, hence opening up potential for a diverse discussion

Ok so I ask you this. How do you *know* for sure the compliments are not genuine? You have just complimented another user above and told her she is absolutely stunning. (Disclaimer - I agree and I adore her). However my point is- how does she (or anyone for that matter) determine the genuineness or otherwise of that comment?

If someone said comment on the user above and in any way you choose, then a compliment would be genuine. Also, what about the ppl who wont post on those threads because of the gigantic motherfucking pause that occurs when they do, huh....?

I disagree. If a post said comment on the above person in any way you choose, fake or forced niceness to avoid hurting feelings would still occur. Not always, granted. But if it was left open, some people would still find something more on the positive side to say, because some people work in that way.

I’m not sure what your point is about people who won’t post because of the pause that occurs when they do. There’s many posts I won’t usually post on because I don’t feel I understand it enough or it feels non inclusive or ‘cliquey’, such as the name your favourite or who’s on your hotlist type stuff. Not feeling able to involve yourself in certain types of discussion will happen on here for a multitude of reasons and for a variety of people - it’s not just the “say something nice about” threads that fall into this category.

I'm not gonna argue with you beyond a certain level since I love you. But I'm allowed to have my say on my own thread my lovely

You say argue, I say healthy debate (which your post invited).

Loves ya too "

No

No

No

All my posts are just for ppl to say nice things and tell me I'm pretty. Didn't you get the memo....!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been on here (CAM) looking like crap, feeling like crap and totally unsexy, being told gorgeous and sexy.

Should have said "you look like shite, but a bag on your head and I'll fuck you anyways" At least that would have been honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was looking for the terms & conditions but didn’t see them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Been on here (CAM) looking like crap, feeling like crap and totally unsexy, being told gorgeous and sexy.

Should have said "you look like shite, but a bag on your head and I'll fuck you anyways" At least that would have been honest "

Faf...?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was looking for the terms & conditions but didn’t see them "

Only thing you've signed up to by replying is that you must say "hi Nippy I love you" (no buts) at the beginning of every message, other than that it's a free house...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......"

You mean you're trying to wiggle out of waddling through arrivals sounding like a bowl of freshly milked rice krispies! I know your sort....

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)"

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Gordon Bennett!

I read your post OP but not all the replies.

I think you're right. If people are always nice to us then we become conditioned to believe that everyone will always be nice. I watched a fascinating TED talk on rejection. The speaker couldn't handle rejection so put himself in positions to be rejected every day for 6 months (I think) and said he felt more able to handle the emotions that came with it afterwards.

I like compliments but only if they're genuine. It's a bit like telling a child at school to apologise to a classmate you get "sooooooorrrrrrryyyyyy" and you know fine well they don't mean it.

I do think that thinking positive things about yourself and saying positive things about yourself and others makes you happier and therefore more attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How the hell is this meaningless ill thought out half assed thread getting more attention than my "pick 3 things from the McDonald's menu" thread ? People need to get priorities straight

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......

You mean you're trying to wiggle out of waddling through arrivals sounding like a bowl of freshly milked rice krispies! I know your sort.... "

You know when you think you've been really cool by saying something like I'll wrap my cock in bubble wrap to fit the gap between your titties..... ....AND THEN YOU REALISE YOUVE JUST RAN INTO A PROPER BUBBLE FETISH FREAK.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How the hell is this meaningless ill thought out half assed thread getting more attention than my "pick 3 things from the McDonald's menu" thread ? People need to get priorities straight"

FFS Post fight, more popcorn

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused "

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Gordon Bennett!

I read your post OP but not all the replies.

I think you're right. If people are always nice to us then we become conditioned to believe that everyone will always be nice. I watched a fascinating TED talk on rejection. The speaker couldn't handle rejection so put himself in positions to be rejected every day for 6 months (I think) and said he felt more able to handle the emotions that came with it afterwards.

I like compliments but only if they're genuine. It's a bit like telling a child at school to apologise to a classmate you get "sooooooorrrrrrryyyyyy" and you know fine well they don't mean it.

I do think that thinking positive things about yourself and saying positive things about yourself and others makes you happier and therefore more attractive.

"

Do you say sorry to ppl when they run into your shins with their trolley in Tesco's? Humans are odd creatures, yet amazing.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How the hell is this meaningless ill thought out half assed thread getting more attention than my "pick 3 things from the McDonald's menu" thread ? People need to get priorities straight"

(Theres one....)

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely... "

I'm supposed to say whatever comes to my mind surely? Else I'd be fake would I not? You are being really grr today you are

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......

You mean you're trying to wiggle out of waddling through arrivals sounding like a bowl of freshly milked rice krispies! I know your sort....

You know when you think you've been really cool by saying something like I'll wrap my cock in bubble wrap to fit the gap between your titties..... ....AND THEN YOU REALISE YOUVE JUST RAN INTO A PROPER BUBBLE FETISH FREAK..... "

Don't knock bubble wrap sex... Or cling film sex for that matter... And rem_mber you're only crazy if you use the tinfoil to make a hat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How the hell is this meaningless ill thought out half assed thread getting more attention than my "pick 3 things from the McDonald's menu" thread ? People need to get priorities straight"

Don’t get me started on McDonalds.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How the hell is this meaningless ill thought out half assed thread getting more attention than my "pick 3 things from the McDonald's menu" thread ? People need to get priorities straight

Don’t get me started on McDonalds..... "

Too late thread is posted mush

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I was struck by the first seven words and didn't go any further.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely...

I'm supposed to say whatever comes to my mind surely? Else I'd be fake would I not? You are being really grr today you are "

Tell me I'm pretty and I'll be nice

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

People should be given the space to express how they are feeling be it negatively, positively or they don't give a shit.

But the nice threads well I like em and if people come together just for 5 mins to show compassion, empathy and all that shiz more power to em.

And a good bit of flirting is good for the soul.

Forgot where I'm going with this!

Oh yes on here we can only take people for what they say and until proved differently it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......

You mean you're trying to wiggle out of waddling through arrivals sounding like a bowl of freshly milked rice krispies! I know your sort....

You know when you think you've been really cool by saying something like I'll wrap my cock in bubble wrap to fit the gap between your titties..... ....AND THEN YOU REALISE YOUVE JUST RAN INTO A PROPER BUBBLE FETISH FREAK.....

Don't knock bubble wrap sex... Or cling film sex for that matter... And rem_mber you're only crazy if you use the tinfoil to make a hat "

I'm not wrapping my cock in tin foil, that sounds way to pinchy.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was struck by the first seven words and didn't go any further. "

You missed a treat....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People should be given the space to express how they are feeling be it negatively, positively or they don't give a shit.

But the nice threads well I like em and if people come together just for 5 mins to show compassion, empathy and all that shiz more power to em.

And a good bit of flirting is good for the soul.

Forgot where I'm going with this!

Oh yes on here we can only take people for what they say and until proved differently it works for me.

"

Agreed, on all counts

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely...

I'm supposed to say whatever comes to my mind surely? Else I'd be fake would I not? You are being really grr today you are

Tell me I'm pretty and I'll be nice "

No chance now buster, you should be nice to me without conditions attached (I'm sticking my tounge out at you now)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"People should be given the space to express how they are feeling be it negatively, positively or they don't give a shit.

But the nice threads well I like em and if people come together just for 5 mins to show compassion, empathy and all that shiz more power to em.

And a good bit of flirting is good for the soul.

Forgot where I'm going with this!

Oh yes on here we can only take people for what they say and until proved differently it works for me.

"

Agreed

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......

You mean you're trying to wiggle out of waddling through arrivals sounding like a bowl of freshly milked rice krispies! I know your sort....

You know when you think you've been really cool by saying something like I'll wrap my cock in bubble wrap to fit the gap between your titties..... ....AND THEN YOU REALISE YOUVE JUST RAN INTO A PROPER BUBBLE FETISH FREAK.....

Don't knock bubble wrap sex... Or cling film sex for that matter... And rem_mber you're only crazy if you use the tinfoil to make a hat

I'm not wrapping my cock in tin foil, that sounds way to pinchy..... "

It would set off the metal detector at security anyway... We'll stick to bubble wrap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely...

I'm supposed to say whatever comes to my mind surely? Else I'd be fake would I not? You are being really grr today you are

Tell me I'm pretty and I'll be nice

No chance now buster, you should be nice to me without conditions attached (I'm sticking my tounge out at you now) "

GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRR, THATS MY POINT....

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston


"

Do you say sorry to ppl when they run into your shins with their trolley in Tesco's? Humans are odd creatures, yet amazing....."

Well....I've been working on only saying sorry when I mean it.

I would say sorry to someone if I bashed them but I no longer say sorry to people who bash me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U know nuthin jon snow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was struck by the first seven words and didn't go any further. "

I was exhausted by the last 7 words and had to sit down on have a beer

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......

You mean you're trying to wiggle out of waddling through arrivals sounding like a bowl of freshly milked rice krispies! I know your sort....

You know when you think you've been really cool by saying something like I'll wrap my cock in bubble wrap to fit the gap between your titties..... ....AND THEN YOU REALISE YOUVE JUST RAN INTO A PROPER BUBBLE FETISH FREAK.....

Don't knock bubble wrap sex... Or cling film sex for that matter... And rem_mber you're only crazy if you use the tinfoil to make a hat

I'm not wrapping my cock in tin foil, that sounds way to pinchy.....

It would set off the metal detector at security anyway... We'll stick to bubble wrap "

You sound like you've been caught before.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Do you say sorry to ppl when they run into your shins with their trolley in Tesco's? Humans are odd creatures, yet amazing.....

Well....I've been working on only saying sorry when I mean it.

I would say sorry to someone if I bashed them but I no longer say sorry to people who bash me!"

I wish I could do that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"U know nuthin jon snow"

What's the simple dude called, Hodor? Thats me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Do you say sorry to ppl when they run into your shins with their trolley in Tesco's? Humans are odd creatures, yet amazing.....

Well....I've been working on only saying sorry when I mean it.

I would say sorry to someone if I bashed them but I no longer say sorry to people who bash me!"

Omg this is one of gripes. When I instinctively apologise to someone for them walking into me ... I have no idea why I do it; the words are out before I can think....I always annoy myself when I do that

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely...

I'm supposed to say whatever comes to my mind surely? Else I'd be fake would I not? You are being really grr today you are

Tell me I'm pretty and I'll be nice

No chance now buster, you should be nice to me without conditions attached (I'm sticking my tounge out at you now)

GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRR, THATS MY POINT.... "

FFS you are frustrating as fuck seriously!!!!

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over a year ago


"I was struck by the first seven words and didn't go any further.

I was exhausted by the last 7 words and had to sit down on have a beer "

I'm glad to me of service to the drinks industry......

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over a year ago


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely...

I'm supposed to say whatever comes to my mind surely? Else I'd be fake would I not? You are being really grr today you are

Tell me I'm pretty and I'll be nice

No chance now buster, you should be nice to me without conditions attached (I'm sticking my tounge out at you now)

GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRR, THATS MY POINT....

FFS you are frustrating as fuck seriously!!!!"

Aka I'm pretty and you love me....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christ that was long reading. Had to refocus a couple of times there

Hopefully ppl take out of the forum what they need and put in what they can. Like any society there are a mixture of opinions and mind sets. Some want to cause tension, controversy. Some just don't think about how their comments will be percieved, some don't care. Some want to show love, caring and shore up others. Each to their own, but yes the defence of others is needed sometimes.

In my own case its been very samey for the last week for me so I've barely stopped in.

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over a year ago


"Christ that was long reading. Had to refocus a couple of times there

Hopefully ppl take out of the forum what they need and put in what they can. Like any society there are a mixture of opinions and mind sets. Some want to cause tension, controversy. Some just don't think about how their comments will be percieved, some don't care. Some want to show love, caring and shore up others. Each to their own, but yes the defence of others is needed sometimes.

In my own case its been very samey for the last week for me so I've barely stopped in. "

Do

You

Love

Me?

Postcode is not yours...

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over a year ago

That was a powerful and well thought out thread Nip. You make a lot of sense and I hope all who read it takes something away from it

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Think the point is Nippy is just be the best possible version of you. Some people will get you and others won't. On a thread the other day me and Lucie spoke about surrounding ourselves with cheerleaders not people who bring you down. If we as people only concentrated on being the best we can, the world would be a happier place. Spread a bit of happiness if you can you never know where it will end up. That's all I know is that negativity breads negativity and life is too short for that kind of shit

Nope, I like to understand the negatives too, if you don't know it then you wont have the tools to be able fight it, as proved by the say something nice threads innit

(Ping pong bat to a sword fight...)

You wanted a fight you've got it!

There's a difference between discussing something you don't agree with or understand without being negative about it in my opinion. There's plenty in this world I don't understand, I hopefully will remain positive in my willingness to learn and understand others points of view. I'm human and I haven't got all the answers and I never will.

I agree with that reply

Therefore I win the sword fight haha

With your second reply we agree, yes, I wouldn't fight you, you're a mate

(Plus I wouldn't want to show you up )

We cannot be mates unless we have proper fights whilst debating, know I can come across as a snowflake on here, but love a good debate. And I'd like to see you try

Have you not noticed that I have an immediate answer for everything my love...?

(Would you like me to pm you the best answer to this statement? I'm setting you up to slay me here, ok....)

Yes I've noticed cause we're having a debate lol. And now you are taking in riddles and I'm confused

You're supposed to say something about my immediate answers not always being the right ones my lovely...

I'm supposed to say whatever comes to my mind surely? Else I'd be fake would I not? You are being really grr today you are

Tell me I'm pretty and I'll be nice

No chance now buster, you should be nice to me without conditions attached (I'm sticking my tounge out at you now)

GGGGRRRRRRRRRRRR, THATS MY POINT....

FFS you are frustrating as fuck seriously!!!!

Aka I'm pretty and you love me....? "

Doesn't matter what I think, do you think you're pretty ?

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over a year ago


"I was struck by the first seven words and didn't go any further.

I was exhausted by the last 7 words and had to sit down on have a beer

I'm glad to me of service to the drinks industry......"

The beer theme comes up quite a lot in my threads and profile, chat . May have a problem --- reaching for another beer ....nah

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination


"Thanks for the reply, I like you, and your tits. We should talk more

Haha, thread followers , I can think if a few, I'll them when they get here

My tits say thank you

Talking titties are the absolute bomb.....

Mine have a slight lisp... It's because of the gap between them. I'm told it's adorable though

I feel like you're guiding me in so to speak, into saying something about filling the gap....

Your tumescent thoughts were actually a little misguided in this instance, but now I'm intrigued as to how you actually proposed to fill that (not inconsiderable) girthy gap

My cock wrapped in bubble wrap....

You had me at bubble wrap

Date, place and time plz

Is your passport up to date?

Yeah

* so excited now *

Dublin Airport on Saturday... Let me know what time your flight gets in, I'll be waiting in arrivals listening intently for the popping noise as you walk in

Is this a serious offer or are you just building me up just to burst my bubble......

I'll get my coat......

You mean you're trying to wiggle out of waddling through arrivals sounding like a bowl of freshly milked rice krispies! I know your sort....

You know when you think you've been really cool by saying something like I'll wrap my cock in bubble wrap to fit the gap between your titties..... ....AND THEN YOU REALISE YOUVE JUST RAN INTO A PROPER BUBBLE FETISH FREAK.....

Don't knock bubble wrap sex... Or cling film sex for that matter... And rem_mber you're only crazy if you use the tinfoil to make a hat

I'm not wrapping my cock in tin foil, that sounds way to pinchy.....

It would set off the metal detector at security anyway... We'll stick to bubble wrap

You sound like you've been caught before..... "

There are stories told around airport security... Stories witnesses re-tell with that bewildered facial expression that hovers somewhere between 'I can't quite believe that just happened' and 'wait until you hear this one!!!'... Stories that involve errant sex toys... Stories I shall whisper to you... I think these stories need a bubble wrap chapter

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