FabSwingers.com forum: Is it nicer to delete, block or say not for us

By *tsonlysex OP Couple
over a year ago

bedford

Maria does not want to hurt people’s feelings

We fairly clear on profile what we are after

And I basically show her a picture and if she does not find the person slightly attractive it’s a no

But I feel bad saying not our type etc

But is that best or just ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You cant please everyone. A polite not our type prevents people reading into things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she doesn't want to hurt my feelings she can let me fuck her ass while I sing Celine Dion in her right ear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would take any of those as a no thanks. Some may be a bit sulky though I guess.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Everyone does it definitely, your choice

For me it depends on the message whether I say sorry not for me or just delete.

Block is for those that are just vile in their message or won’t take no as an answer

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Maria does not want to hurt people’s feelings

We fairly clear on profile what we are after

And I basically show her a picture and if she does not find the person slightly attractive it’s a no

But I feel bad saying not our type etc

But is that best or just ignore"

It depends.

If its someone completely out of the blue and they don't match your preferences, then i would say block.

If you have asked for a picture and they have sent that and it's not your cup of tea, I would say. "Thanks for the pic, you are not for us, happy swinging"

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By *tsonlysex OP Couple
over a year ago

bedford

Someone with huge facial hair sent pic. It really not her thing but I did politely say not for us but thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone with huge facial hair sent pic. It really not her thing but I did politely say not for us but thank you"

I swear guys it wasn't me

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By *tsonlysex OP Couple
over a year ago

bedford

Could have been

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Well I've always been of the school we're all grown ups so a simple honest and straight to the point no thanks is the way forward. Saves complications and confusions. However judging from some of posts on the forums about abuse in response maybe some of us aren't well adjusted adults. So maybe a simple delete sends the message too (and block if you want nothing further to do with them).

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By *tsonlysex OP Couple
over a year ago

bedford

We did have serious abuse from one guy

I can handle but upset maria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thanks - not for us is nicer but invites more questions and potential abuse so I can see why some just delete and/or block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have just deleted the message before if they are not for us. But then get a message an abusive message back.

We have also sent a message back saying not for us sorry to get another abusive message back.

Also sending a message back opens it up for them to just keep messaging you when you've told them there not for us.

So really what is the best way to deal with people who are not for you, We are finding just block and delete now.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Just block Maria straight off the bat its the best way in your case

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
over a year ago

manchester

Great post and topic. Learning how to handle this situation is hard. We have had same dilemma twice. Fist time we both messaged by couple exchanged pic an got a not for us message. Excepted and moved on

Second time we exchanged messages with another couple they sent photo and we said not for us.

We have not yet met anyone from this site. Cammy has decided that for now she doesn’t want to stop looking but at the moment is not ready to meet.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Maria does not want to hurt people’s feelings

We fairly clear on profile what we are after

And I basically show her a picture and if she does not find the person slightly attractive it’s a no

But I feel bad saying not our type etc

But is that best or just ignore"

Just block. Easier.quicker. men just got to accept it just means no and nothing personal. I had men unmatched me on dating sites, same difference

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"We did have serious abuse from one guy

I can handle but upset maria"

Block option is your friend. Just block

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