FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking

By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

I’m wondering how many males out there suffer blocking on a regular basis? I think personally this feature should be removed - unless admin can see a reason for doing so on an individual case? I am never disrespectful- but just try and get a conversation going, but so many power crazed women on here just love that feature to be able to block, it gives them

Power they would never have in a normal conversation? I laugh now when it happens - I’m not offended at all, but just wonder why they feel the need to send me a bitchy reply and block me, when I’m simply being chatty and don’t conform to their exact criteria ( whatever that is?). Wd all pay money to be on here after all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women(myself included) block dudes so they never contact us again due to having specific requirements, it's nothing personal we just might not want to talk to men. However, if they send bitchy replies then that's their fault. Alot of people on here don't want to chat they just want to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok I’m tired but

1. We don’t all pay money to be here

2. People have every right to block, for whatever reason

3. If they sent something ‘bitchy’ report them

4. Power they don’t have in real life? Fuck I wish we could block people in real life. Would stop the harassment when turning someone down.

5. Do you really want admin to make it so people can’t block without a good reason? What’s a good reason? Will I need to receive abuse before I can block someone?

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Ok repliers - have you been blocked - ever? I doubt it ever happens to women? Maybe I’m strange I don’t want to fuck anyone I can’t actually talk to!,

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Ok repliers - have you been blocked - ever? I doubt it ever happens to women? Maybe I’m strange I don’t want to fuck anyone I can’t actually talk to!,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok repliers - have you been blocked - ever? I doubt it ever happens to women? Maybe I’m strange I don’t want to fuck anyone I can’t actually talk to!,"

I’ve been blocked plenty of times, of course it happens to women

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

In other words, you think women shouldn't be able to stop you talking to them if you want to.

Erm, yeah, that doesn't sound at all creepy ...

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Oh good I’m glad it’s not something that just happens to guys! This is a weird place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In other words, you think women shouldn't be able to stop you talking to them if you want to.

Erm, yeah, that doesn't sound at all creepy ..."

Pretty much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh good I’m glad it’s not something that just happens to guys! This is a weird place."

How is it weird?!

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

Seriously some of the messages I get I'm grateful for the block function. For women it must be a billion times worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is a positive. Being blocked lets you know where you stand and that's always a good thing. Our block list is huge and that's fine. As for single guys we block messages from them most of the time and wish we could do a gender specific block.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

More creepy is the fact I’ve been messaged - I reply nicely, then get blocked WTF? And what’s wrong with just saying what you actually want - and a nice reply saying no thanks if that’s not your thing?

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

I think it gives some people power they wouldn’t other wise experience- and they get off on it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seriously some of the messages I get I'm grateful for the block function. For women it must be a billion times worse "

Yeah this. Sadly. The power comment is a bit off mate, but other than that don't take being blocked as a personal slight. Be nice, keep exploring, takes a while but it pans out alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"More creepy is the fact I’ve been messaged - I reply nicely, then get blocked WTF? And what’s wrong with just saying what you actually want - and a nice reply saying no thanks if that’s not your thing?"

The trap you are falling into is that this place isn't always as honest and open as you might think or want. You have no idea who you have been talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who would admin all the blocking? What would be a good case for blocking?

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

I’m sure you would be fine with it, but a polite “no thanks” can lead to a million questions as to why, arm twisting, begging, name calling and abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are many reasons to block. The problem comes when it's taken personally.

Imagine you walk into a bar and as you do you look around at everyone. Nearly everyone in the bar will ignore you. Blocking is exactly the same.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

I get why you would do that! It’s not what I’m talking about.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

"I think it gives some people power they wouldn’t other wise experience- and they get off on it!"

Yep, it's definitely outrageous that they have the power to just stop you talking to them. Outrageous. Should be banned.Etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get why you would do that! It’s not what I’m talking about. "

It appears you find being blocked somewhat upsetting.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Ok Freya - I totally get why you would block those examples? Especially if they are harassing you - I’m not one of those idiots!

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

The trap you are falling into is that this place isn't always as honest and open as you might think or want. You have no idea who you have been talking to."

This is very true. If it's someone sending you the first message, then blocking your reply, it's a man messing with you.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

I send out loads of messages, rarely to the same person twice but also rarely get a response and I can say I've been blocked no more than 3 or 4 times.

I suspect OP is a little more persistent than he makes out plus you say you're respectful yet admit to messaging when the lady has precluded you with her criteria-not all that respectful to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trap you are falling into is that this place isn't always as honest and open as you might think or want. You have no idea who you have been talking to.

This is very true. If it's someone sending you the first message, then blocking your reply, it's a man messing with you. "

This is highly possible. Or it could be the lady has messaged you and her partner has blocked you. Or she has just changed her mind. Or she was d*unk when she thought she liked you. Or she thought she was messaging someone else.. get the idea?

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

I always read criteria - if its there. I have criteria too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always read criteria - if its there. I have criteria too! "

Is breathing one of them lol

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By *oughtyboiiMan
over a year ago

Wexford Town.

I was blocked from saying hello lol

fuck em

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

"Ok Freya - I totally get why you would block those examples? Especially if they are harassing you - I’m not one of those idiots! "

I'm sure you're not. I just felt to defend the block option! Its there to protect. And thats more important than unexplained blocking. I get that its frustrating esp if your being respectful and canny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just blocked the OP. Reason being I could.

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

The trap you are falling into is that this place isn't always as honest and open as you might think or want. You have no idea who you have been talking to.

This is very true. If it's someone sending you the first message, then blocking your reply, it's a man messing with you.

All also highly possible. Good point!

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

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"I always read criteria - if its there. I have criteria too!

Is breathing one of them lol"

Erm a lot more than breathing, believe me, you are stereotyping me as a desperado which I’m not. Far from it!

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"I just blocked the OP. Reason being I could."

Woopy do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always read criteria - if its there. I have criteria too!

Is breathing one of them lol

Erm a lot more than breathing, believe me, you are stereotyping me as a desperado which I’m not. Far from it! "

I'm not stereotyping anyone. It is you that's taking issue with the fact that some people don't want to talk to you and they exercise there right not to.

This place can be great fun but it can also be very hard and rather cold and when you are a single guy swimming in a sea of single guys then it can get far worst very quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I send a message and it gets deleted without a reply, it is very clear to me that they have no interest in me and so I will usually block them to prevent ME from bothering them again.

There are many reasons why the block function is useful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a message and it gets deleted without a reply, it is very clear to me that they have no interest in me and so I will usually block them to prevent ME from bothering them again.

There are many reasons why the block function is useful"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I send a message and it gets deleted without a reply, it is very clear to me that they have no interest in me and so I will usually block them to prevent ME from bothering them again.

There are many reasons why the block function is useful"

I wish more people would do this. My wife has a single profile on here and it's relentlessly spammed by people who send email after email up to ten times without ever seeming to get the message that deleted unread means no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see blocking as being rude. It's more a handy time saver. It stops you wasting your time messaging a person who doesn't want to talk to you and it stops them wasting time reading emails they don't want.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"I don't see blocking as being rude. It's more a handy time saver. It stops you wasting your time messaging a person who doesn't want to talk to you and it stops them wasting time reading emails they don't want. "

It is when you have been chatting away nicely , or take the time to send a photo!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is when you have been chatting away nicely , or take the time to send a photo!!"

Yeah well I can see why you might say that, but there's always two sides to a story.

My wife started the day talking nicely to someone and ended up blocking them. Why? Because she found decided she didn't like their moral values and didn't want to talk to them anymore.

It is what it is. It's only a website and is it really worth being upset about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is when you have been chatting away nicely , or take the time to send a photo!!"

If you view being blocked as rude then quite honestly you might want to consider if this place is suited to you because being blocked is par for the course and it happens to all of us.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

No one owes you anything! If a female blocks you after your " respectful msg" then thats her choice! So admin should make the choice if a block is needed etc! Are you honestly for real, as i said NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"No one owes you anything! If a female blocks you after your " respectful msg" then thats her choice! So admin should make the choice if a block is needed etc! Are you honestly for real, as i said NO ONE OWES YOU ANYTHING."

No they don’t -and I expect nothing from anyone in this crazy ducked up world. But kindness and decency goes a long way . Rudeness is just that.

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By *olymalelincsMan
over a year ago

southend

Yes I have been blocked many times, it's just an easy way to reduce the number of profiles you see in your searches that you know don't match your own requirements, I dont take it personally as it isn't a personal attack on you it just makes things easier. Also I have seen so.e of the shitty messages that my other half has been sent by guys that think they are gods gift to women and get butt hurt when someone turns them down so no it isn't something I think should be removed, would you as Facebook to remove the block option?

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"Yes I have been blocked many times, it's just an easy way to reduce the number of profiles you see in your searches that you know don't match your own requirements, I dont take it personally as it isn't a personal attack on you it just makes things easier. Also I have seen so.e of the shitty messages that my other half has been sent by guys that think they are gods gift to women and get butt hurt when someone turns them down so no it isn't something I think should be removed, would you as Facebook to

remove the block option?"

I’ve never blocked anyone on FB - I’ve never felt the need to? If someone pisses me off I just ignore it or think of a witty reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

remove the block option?

I’ve never blocked anyone on FB - I’ve never felt the need to? If someone pisses me off I just ignore it or think of a witty reply? "

If that works for you then that's great but this place certainly isn't Facebook, far from it. You will continue get blocked so you best just get used to it.

Fyi, women rule this site 99% of the time. They hold most of the cards and most of the keys it's just the way it is...

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By *ean1892Man
over a year ago

sheffield

I’m from age when you had to ask a girl out and take the knock back face to face which obviously dents the confidence someone saying a definite no by text is nothing !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we block who we want when we want for what ever reason we want .... nuff said

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Don't take the site too seriously and don't take blocking as a personal affront.

When you get hundreds of messages a week it can be easier (and less time consuming) to block than reply "no thanks" and then get the "why?" messages (or worse , as some have already mentioned)

If someone isn't interested in you then put it behind you and move on.

No biggie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK I have to say that your suggestion is ridiculous.

So it comes across as entiled and why would it bother you if someone blocks you.

Every single site that has profiles and messaging options has a block or mute button.

As for you saying it gives women power that statement in itself says a lot.

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By *rungeguyMan
over a year ago

leeds

You women should just enjoy the attention lol. I get nuttin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll be ignored by people in real life who simply aren’t interested and blocking is the online version. Move on and accept that you’re simply not that person’s type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You women should just enjoy the attention lol. I get nuttin "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m wondering how many males out there suffer blocking on a regular basis? I think personally this feature should be removed - unless admin can see a reason for doing so on an individual case? I am never disrespectful- but just try and get a conversation going, but so many power crazed women on here just love that feature to be able to block, it gives them

I have been here over a month and never been blocked. If you have a conversation with someone and they do not reciprocate, then it does mean they are not interested. It is like consent. No means no! They are not intrested. Move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a power trip its a way to stay safe for many.

If a woman never wants to ever meet you, she is never going to speak to you, so what does it matter if you cant see her profile anymore.

My profile clearly states my nonos and also says if i dont reply its a polite no thanks. Anyone who ignores that i block as im not here to be perved over by everyone, i have my own reasons for being here and i have the right to stick to them

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I suggest you learn to take it as the equivalent of walking away (or "no thank you and I won't change my mind").

There are so, so many reasons to block. If you saw some of the messages I got you'd realise why I block so quickly.

Yes, I get blocked. Such is life.

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By *entleman55Man
over a year ago

S’th West Mc/r

"I suggest you learn to take it as the equivalent of walking away (or "no thank you and I won't change my mind").

There are so, so many reasons to block. If you saw some of the messages I got you'd realise why I block so quickly.

Yes, I get blocked. Such is life. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suggest you learn to take it as the equivalent of walking away (or "no thank you and I won't change my mind").

There are so, so many reasons to block. If you saw some of the messages I got you'd realise why I block so quickly.

Yes, I get blocked. Such is life. "

I would be devastated if I get blocked by you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see a problem with the BLOCKING feature, it prevents me from re-messaging a women whose not interested, I simply message someone else not a problem, and it helps stop those who can't accept a woman's right to say no, from being a pest or abusive.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Tbh I think that people who send horrific messages are on a power trip, too. Stuff that'd have somewhere between a drink thrown at you and a visit from the police in real life. They send this vile horrific crap to turn themselves on or upset me or both. Is it a power trip to stop unwanted communication, including that? I don't think so, no.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

OP everyone has different styles of approach. You may feel yours was simply saying what you want and she may feel it was a crude message. Just saying. I don’t know how you said it.

There’s no need for rudeness by anyone but the block feature isn’t rude. It serves a purpose and is clearly needed. What isn’t needed is nastiness and cowardly messages before blocking and it’s not just females that are capable of doing that.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

" when I’m simply being chatty and don’t conform to their exact criteria ( whatever that is?)"

Why are you messaging people when you know you don't conform to their criteria?

This is one reason Id block, someone (however nice, respectful, genuine they claim to be) ignoring my stated preferences wouldn't be the kind of attentive lover I'm looking for.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It's all about mindset. Take a block as a 'thanks, but no thanks'. People are entitled to block who they want to. These people that you are chatting to are strangers, why let something a stranger does bother you, surely life is too short for that.

If you take things to heart on here then it will grind you down. This place is meant to be fun!

PS....we have blocked all single males as they aren't what we are looking for.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

" when I’m simply being chatty and don’t conform to their exact criteria ( whatever that is?)

Why are you messaging people when you know you don't conform to their criteria?

This is one reason Id block, someone (however nice, respectful, genuine they claim to be) ignoring my stated preferences wouldn't be the kind of attentive lover I'm looking for."

This. "I know I'm not what you're looking for, but..." Don't send that message. Just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha, the block! It's a tool and it IS needed if someone is harassing you, but its also open to abuse by ppl trying to exclude others or ostracize ppl just because they associate with someone they dont approve of (on the forum etc). It IS a necessity though to ensure ppls saftety and wellbeing, so just ignore dem unexplained blocks and focus on ppl who actually want to interact with you, innit..... ....stay positive buddy and enjoy the fab.....

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

The blocking feature is a good way to filter out people who your not interested in and vice versa.

Nothing should be taken personal on here.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

The block button is there to be used and yes I use it, for those that send vile messages or won’t take no for answer

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Awwww diddums.....have the mean ladies been using their own minds to decide who they want to communicate with? Has it hurt your previous feelings?

Get over yourself.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Awwww diddums.....have the mean ladies been using their own minds to decide who they want to communicate with? Has it hurt your previous feelings?

Get over yourself. "
Best answer....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Awwww diddums.....have the mean ladies been using their own minds to decide who they want to communicate with? Has it hurt your previous feelings?

Get over yourself. Best answer....x"

The best boobies I have seen on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it to filter out people I don’t want to meet,or don’t want to meet me.

I then don’t come across their profile again,and vice versa.

There can be many reasons for being blocked,don’t take it personally op.

Use it to your advantage like I,and many others do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it gives some people power they wouldn’t other wise experience- and they get off on it!"

I dont know why you have this impression people would be forced to entertain you in real life .... people have the power to ignore you there too ... personally lf you were not getting the message would just walk away ... blocking online is the equivalent ... although you are starting to come across as the type that would need a restraining order

And and women do get blocked ... yeaterday i got random cheeky message off a stranger who had blocked as soon as he sent it just because he didnt like my status about preffering not to receive dick pics

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By *piphoneMan
over a year ago

across the universe

I think its very childish. Especially when you are messageing in the right manner and the same goes for deleting.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Awwww diddums.....have the mean ladies been using their own minds to decide who they want to communicate with? Has it hurt your previous feelings?

Get over yourself. Best answer....x"

Apart from the typo

Precious not previous

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Awwww diddums.....have the mean ladies been using their own minds to decide who they want to communicate with? Has it hurt your previous feelings?

Get over yourself. Best answer....x

The best boobies I have seen on here!

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Absolutly! Lol x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I think its very childish. Especially when you are messageing in the right manner and the same goes for deleting. "

How else are we supposed to manage the volume of messages?

I suggest you need to take it less personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its very childish. Especially when you are messageing in the right manner and the same goes for deleting. "

Don’t take it to heart.

Remember some women and couples receive tens to hundreds of messages a day.

Some often mass delete as it gets too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its very childish. Especially when you are messageing in the right manner and the same goes for deleting. "

My wife deletes unread and blocks anyone with a dick as a profile picture... Like yourself.

We feel it says something about the person....

It's not childish. We just don't want to see it. Its like looking the other way.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

I had a cock pic as the only pic on my profile for a short time last week and noticed my messages got read and deleted instantly, was quite funny to watch

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I think its very childish. Especially when you are messageing in the right manner and the same goes for deleting. "

Obviously it wasn't the right manner in their eyes. It isn't childish at all

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

Oh my god -so many assumptions about me and my personality, and assumptions that I send vile messages- or I would be that pestering guy you would try to ignore at a bar in real life- just because I dare to challenge the blocking thing? What a cynical lot you are. I can see the odd supportive message - thank you guys, you have more empathy than most!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Oh my god -so many assumptions about me and my personality, and assumptions that I send vile messages- or I would be that pestering guy you would try to ignore at a bar in real life- just because I dare to challenge the blocking thing? What a cynical lot you are. I can see the odd supportive message - thank you guys, you have more empathy than most!"

Why are you challenging 'the blocking thing'?

Several posters have offered perfectly valid reasons why it's used (not just for blocking offensive people) and frankly how it's used by individual members shouldn't be of concern to admin (as you suggested) or you for that matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only assumption here is yours,in that just because you send a lovely message and nice pics,you think it entitles you to a reply!

Honestly,just move on from it.

I hear you on this,and in the near 10yrs I’ve been on and off this site it has always been a huge bone of contention for single males.

It won’t change though,so keep sending good messages and pics and you’ll possibly get where you’d like to be.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

So because you don't think you send messages that warrant blocking, people shouldn't be allowed to block?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

It doesn't need challenging, you need to accept that it's there, that some people aren't interested in you, pull up your big boy pants and get the fuck over it.

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By *rittaMan
over a year ago

Watford

No keep the block button I don't go for the "right to harass people" thing it would just create admin too much work banning people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the block button all the time. If I get abuse, if I recognise someone from real life (hasn't happened YET), if I have no interested in contacting that person, if we HAVE been in contact and weren't attracted to stop any confusion later.

It's a really useful function OP, try it sometime

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab. "

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably. "

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental."

I'm not being judgemental. He's prioritising his hurt feelings over our ability to stop people messaging horrific things, and thinks his need overrides ours. If he'd said "oh, I see your point, it doesn't apply to me, and it stings when people block for seemingly no reason" or similar, I'd have been more sympathetic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

If we consider fab to be a pub. Would it be acceptable to continue to try and talk to someone that had indicated either implicitly or explicitly that they did not want to talk to us? The answer is no, that would be harassment. This is "policed" by social norms, bouncers or other staff in the pub.

In fabworld. Your bouncer is the block button.

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By *isaAndNicoleTransTV/TS
over a year ago

Southport / Ellesmere Port

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab. "

Well you've definitely taken a bit of a battering on here. But re-read your original post. The suggestion that women are "power crazed" and get off on it is highly disrespectful.

You've created a debate, that's great, but even after seeing all of the reasons given you still come across as petulant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

We all have our perceptions. He has his and you have yours. It is okay to debate it, but it is not okay when it becomes kinda personal. One would think that some of us may have given him more stick than what he deserves.

That is my 2 cents. Or should I say pennies to you English folks out here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab. "

I think op that you need to remember that many women get hundreds of really really insulting emails every day and blocking is an essential tool.

If you sometimes get blocked and you meant well, don't take it personally. Also, I think a lot of replies on here show frustration at the situation and the frustration isn't necessarily personally directed at you.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

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"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental."

Thanks. One thing I’ve learned about all forms of social media is just that- people are very judgemental and they detest being challenged? I know the blocking feature won’t be removed, I just think it should be applied only when necessary. There are plenty of filter options.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Female half of the couple here and the one who blocks with power crazed regularity.

Reasons I block

I have said no thank you and they still think we can and want to chat

They want to send lewd messages that I don’t want

They want me to see their prized penis repeatedly

they are pushy and disrespectful

It is easier to block when most don’t accept no thank you with finality.

In real life if I said “no thank you” and someone kept talking to me I would be furious. I do have the power of a block in life - walking away, where here they can keep sending dick pics and saying what they’d do . In person, that would get them kicked or arrested but here they have the power to be horrible. In person they don’t often name call or talk about smashing your back doors in, here they have the power of anonymity to act like absolute lecherous assholes. They have that power so women have the power to block.

Why do you want to fuck people who don’t want to talk to you? If they know they’re not interested and they block it protects them from further conversation, you perving their pics and having to say no again. The women can’t be friends or friendly with the hundreds and hundreds who fall into their inbox even the nice ones. Stop being silly. - Mrs

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

That is my 2 cents. Or should I say pennies to you English folks out here.

Agree it should be a discussion, but unfortunately these things seem to turn personal all to often lately

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over a year ago

"Female half of the couple here and the one who blocks with power crazed regularity.

Reasons I block

I have said no thank you and they still think we can and want to chat

They want to send lewd messages that I don’t want

They want me to see their prized penis repeatedly

they are pushy and disrespectful

It is easier to block when most don’t accept no thank you with finality.

@ OP. Do you do any of this?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can't see where I'm being even remotely personal.

It does get my goat that people think that their right not to have their feelings hurt trumps my right to prevent further messages from pests, abusive people, those sending illegal things, or those simply sending scenarios so beyond the pale that they literally make me heave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most wont assume you personally are that sort of horrible creep. Unfortunately we need the power because there are a lot of horrible creeps. Keep being nice and it will eventually work. As a couple we have been blocked many times and just assume it’s to keep track of who people don’t want to have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see where I'm being even remotely personal.

No one said you were. The message was intended to those of were crossing the line in my opinion. I didnt mention any names. Or did I?

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

I totally sympathise with those being harassed - it’s not acceptable and the abuser/ harassers profiles should be reported for abuse. What infuriates me is when a conversation is going along nicely - then comes the block. No apparent reason. Yes that pisses me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can't see where I'm being even remotely personal.

No one said you were. The message was intended to those of were crossing the line in my opinion. I didnt mention any names. Or did I?

Who*

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

Sure. That's annoying.

Unfortunately such is life online.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

That is my 2 cents. Or should I say pennies to you English folks out here.

Agree it should be a discussion, but unfortunately these things seem to turn personal all to often lately"

People love getting personal and offensive. I just wish there was more love in this world and it would be a better place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

That is my 2 cents. Or should I say pennies to you English folks out here.

Agree it should be a discussion, but unfortunately these things seem to turn personal all to often lately

People love getting personal and offensive. I just wish there was more love in this world and it would be a better place."

the only person getting personal is you, people are giving general examples as to why they block and you are taking them to heart. i wonder why ?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Wd all pay money to be on here after all?"

That doesn't mean it is compulsory to speak to someone

The tools of the site are there for members to use how they wish, if that means blocking people that they don't want to converse with then so be it

If you accept not everyone will be for you , you will probably enjoy the site better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

Unfortunately there are some who doesn't have the guts to be honest with you. Imagine how they are in real life! So it is easier to block you and ignore you, than taking the time to be honest with you to say that, they don't feel the connection with you.

I would say water off the ducks back, and move on.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I have blocked 100s of people, the majority of which I've never had any contact with on here.

People who live local, I've recognised them and have absolutely no desire to interact with them.

Former pupils, friends of my Eldest son, parents of my kids friends.

People who I know, and also know they're the sort that would blab to others, spread gossip.

Why shouldn't I have the ability to block these people to preserve some privacy?

Then there's the ones that message me, obviously haven't read my profile, meet my preferences.

But they don't care about that, or me.

Should I allow them to carry on messaging me, wasting both our times, causing angst when I polity decline?

If the block option was removed from Fabs, then I'd be off.

I predict many others would too.

Fabs is a bit of fun.

If I had to spend all day dealing with people I'd rather not, then that certainly would take the fun out of it for me.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

No apparent reason to you, but the person doing the blocking has a reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve put blocks on some beautiful women but it’s mainly down to me not being what they’re looking for and me trying to put a barrier between d*unk me and them before I make an arse of myself. It’s generally nothing personal just not looking for the same thing

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No apparent reason to you, but the person doing the blocking has a reason "

And my guess would be that in the time it'd take for admin to look into reports - it's a big site - much more abuse could be sent, where it is abuse. The user being able to just block without justification is unfortunately the solution.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I don't see any attacking or being personal about the OP on this thread, I did see people giving reasons why they block.

I will read the thread again in a bit but in the meantime if anyone sees posts that broke rules please report

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have blocked 100s of people, the majority of which I've never had any contact with on here.

People who live local, I've recognised them and have absolutely no desire to interact with them.

Former pupils, friends of my Eldest son, parents of my kids friends.

People who I know, and also know they're the sort that would blab to others, spread gossip.

Why shouldn't I have the ability to block these people to preserve some privacy?

Then there's the ones that message me, obviously haven't read my profile, meet my preferences.

But they don't care about that, or me.

Should I allow them to carry on messaging me, wasting both our times, causing angst when I polity decline?

If the block option was removed from Fabs, then I'd be off.

I predict many others would too.

Fabs is a bit of fun.

If I had to spend all day dealing with people I'd rather not, then that certainly would take the fun out of it for me. "

OP is talking about people who he was having a normal conversation with and out of the blue he gets blocked. No communication, no feedback.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"I was blocked from saying hello lol

fuck em

Or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have blocked 100s of people, the majority of which I've never had any contact with on here.

People who live local, I've recognised them and have absolutely no desire to interact with them.

Former pupils, friends of my Eldest son, parents of my kids friends.

People who I know, and also know they're the sort that would blab to others, spread gossip.

Why shouldn't I have the ability to block these people to preserve some privacy?

Then there's the ones that message me, obviously haven't read my profile, meet my preferences.

But they don't care about that, or me.

Should I allow them to carry on messaging me, wasting both our times, causing angst when I polity decline?

If the block option was removed from Fabs, then I'd be off.

I predict many others would too.

Fabs is a bit of fun.

If I had to spend all day dealing with people I'd rather not, then that certainly would take the fun out of it for me. "

Glad I don't fit in any of the above criteria. I will be heart broken if I get blocked by you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was blocked from saying hello lol

fuck em

Or not "

Oh that lips! Very tempting..

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

OP is talking about people who he was having a normal conversation with and out of the blue he gets blocked. No communication, no feedback.

To be fair he didn't on his OP, he has elaborated on his other posts to include what you say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve put blocks on some beautiful women but it’s mainly down to me not being what they’re looking for and me trying to put a barrier between d*unk me and them before I make an arse of myself. It’s generally nothing personal just not looking for the same thing "

Mate, you are a legend! A gentleman and a scholar.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't need to give feedback as to why I'm blocking someone. Often I don't want to. Why should I (not talking about the OP, past experiences) give creeps a tip off that they're throwing up red flags about my safety? "here you go Mr creep, lessons on how to overcome women's survival instincts."

No thanks.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

What would be the point? They clearly don't want to speak to you anyway so what would you gain from them not being able to block you?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"I have blocked 100s of people, the majority of which I've never had any contact with on here.

People who live local, I've recognised them and have absolutely no desire to interact with them.

Former pupils, friends of my Eldest son, parents of my kids friends.

People who I know, and also know they're the sort that would blab to others, spread gossip.

Why shouldn't I have the ability to block these people to preserve some privacy?

Then there's the ones that message me, obviously haven't read my profile, meet my preferences.

But they don't care about that, or me.

Should I allow them to carry on messaging me, wasting both our times, causing angst when I polity decline?

If the block option was removed from Fabs, then I'd be off.

I predict many others would too.

Fabs is a bit of fun.

If I had to spend all day dealing with people I'd rather not, then that certainly would take the fun out of it for me.

OP is talking about people who he was having a normal conversation with and out of the blue he gets blocked. No communication, no feedback.

Maybe he was talking about that scenario.

But he also stated that the option to block should be removed, and only admin could block, if there was abuse involved.

I was pointing out why I block so many people.

I have valid reasons.

Blocking them allows me to enjoy my time on Fab without hassle

Can you imagine the admin overload, the amount of requests they'd deal with, if somebody contacted them everytime they spotted someone they wanted to avoid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't need to give feedback as to why I'm blocking someone. Often I don't want to. Why should I (not talking about the OP, past experiences) give creeps a tip off that they're throwing up red flags about my safety? "here you go Mr creep, lessons on how to overcome women's survival instincts."

No thanks. "

So you treat everyone the same? I think I would suggest you reading books on relationship awareness theories. You will be surprised to hear that not everyone are the same..

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Ok repliers - have you been blocked - ever? I doubt it ever happens to women? Maybe I’m strange I don’t want to fuck anyone I can’t actually talk to!,"

Yes I've been blocked.

I'm pretty sure if they've blocked you it's not because they want to fuck you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No thanks.

So you treat everyone the same? I think I would suggest you reading books on relationship awareness theories. You will be surprised to hear that not everyone are the same..

Sorry I didnt mean to say I think and I would. I better get some sleep. Happy fabing and debating all.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I guess this comes down to understanding perspective. If someone blocks me, I'm not for them, for a simple or complicated reason. I am not going to worry about that.

They do not owe me an explanation, blocking me is not "gutless" as they have demonstrated, by blocking, that they do not wish to meet me, I am saving time by not engaging with someone that may be being polite but in reality is never going to meet me for the reason I joined the site: sex.

I actually think blocking is cool, it saves those long-arsed, inane conversations, that ultimately go nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok repliers - have you been blocked - ever? I doubt it ever happens to women? Maybe I’m strange I don’t want to fuck anyone I can’t actually talk to!,

Yes I've been blocked.

I'm pretty sure if they've blocked you it's not because they want to fuck you

I am sure you haven't heard about block fuck. It is like the hate fuck.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm once bitten and twice shy. It serves me well protecting myself.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"What would be the point? They clearly don't want to speak to you anyway so what would you gain from them not being able to block you?"

You have a point! It’s when you’ve been exchanging messages a while it gets me- it feels like being virtually stood up/ jilted with no apparent reason.

Nice profile by the way! ??

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Ok repliers - have you been blocked - ever? I doubt it ever happens to women? Maybe I’m strange I don’t want to fuck anyone I can’t actually talk to!,

Yes I've been blocked.

I'm pretty sure if they've blocked you it's not because they want to fuck you

I am sure you haven't heard about block fuck. It is like the hate fuck.

Haha!! Must make organising it a bit tricky though!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I have very occasionally blocked people where I want to fuck them but it'd be a terrible idea

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"What would be the point? They clearly don't want to speak to you anyway so what would you gain from them not being able to block you?

You have a point! It’s when you’ve been exchanging messages a while it gets me- it feels like being virtually stood up/ jilted with no apparent reason.

Nice profile by the way! ??"

It's crap but at least you aren't left hanging and know to move on. Banning blocking would achieve nothing in your favour and half the women would probably leave the site anyway.

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"What would be the point? They clearly don't want to speak to you anyway so what would you gain from them not being able to block you?

You have a point! It’s when you’ve been exchanging messages a while it gets me- it feels like being virtually stood up/ jilted with no apparent reason.

Nice profile by the way! ??

It's crap but at least you aren't left hanging and know to move on. Banning blocking would achieve nothing in your favour and half the women would probably leave the site anyway."

Well it definitely puts an end to things - yes. It’s just frustrating. I’m wondering how Many women I chat to on here are actually just playing with it - as a bit of distraction and fun and suddenly run scared and hit the block button? Maybe if I think that I will feel better lol, my confidence with this site is dwindling. I think I’ll stick to meeting people in real life!

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"I have very occasionally blocked people where I want to fuck them but it'd be a terrible idea

I’m sure they were very confused!

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Maybe if I think that I will feel better lol, my confidence with this site is dwindling. I think I’ll stick to meeting people in real life! "

I understand your frustration but this world is only a reflection on real life-there are liars, charlatans and rude people of all sexes out there too!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

Iv blocked 20 female profiles in last 2 days . One needs to keep up to date

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

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"Maybe if I think that I will feel better lol, my confidence with this site is dwindling. I think I’ll stick to meeting people in real life!

I understand your frustration but this world is only a reflection on real life-there are liars, charlatans and rude people of all sexes out there too!"

Yes but I can usually spot them

In real life!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Iv blocked 20 female profiles in last 2 days . One needs to keep up to date"

Block me! It's my kink!

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

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Stud! If you have that many women here you feel the need to block, you are a Legend!

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By *rystaldenisonWoman
over a year ago

salisbury

I bloke when i cant be arsed to say no thanks sometimes lol bad i know haha

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

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Iv blocked 20 female profiles in last 2 days . One needs to keep up to date

Block me! It's my kink!"

Blockfest!

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

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By *ensualhands4u OP Man
over a year ago

harrogate

"I bloke when i cant be arsed to say no thanks sometimes lol bad i know haha "

So lazy -shame on you!

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

I block all the time, Doesn’t bother me in the slightest if someone blocks me

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

To be fair OP, you kinda answered your own question in your first post, you didn't conform to their standards. They blocked you to prevent any nastiness and/or questions about why they don't want you etc. I think you need to start concentrating on the people that do want to meet you instead of those that don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can at times get 100s of messages a day, if they want to block others so be it.

Yes it can miff you, but they WILL have a reason. Nobody knows what goes on in others heads. You, me or anyone could easily say something seemingly innocent that struck a nerve with another, a deep nerve, and for that reason they may block. It doesn't mean either party have done anything wrong, it means one side feels they're not compatible so they've taken action based on that.

Would you prefer people to lie and make excuses? Would you prefer fo be ignored?

I doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have blocked women I blocked one and she turned out to be an amazing gal then I fukked it up so b careful who you do block that’s my advice for the day

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

I'm blocked all the time by people i never spoke to.

I only block someone who has followed me around threads harrassing me, or blocked people back when I stumble on their profile and they have me blocked.

Id never block someone for having a different opinion to me, or voicing an opinion I didnt agree with on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If somebody wants nothing to do with you, it's up to them. Long live the block feature I say

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

I only ever block people for a reason. The latest was someone who had cut and pasted the same message to me 3 times over a couple of weeks. Each time I had politely declined, until I eventually said why do you keep sending me the same message? Why am I "so noncommittal and what is your point?" was his last reply.

Harsh of me? Maybe, but blocking is a simple way of getting your "point" across.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you've had the same person message you over 10 times and you've repeatedly said no thank you, then, yes, the block button gets used.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"When you've had the same person message you over 10 times and you've repeatedly said no thank you, then, yes, the block button gets used. "

Yup. Same message, same response... If you don't get the message after the second time blocking shouldn't be a surprise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you've had the same person message you over 10 times and you've repeatedly said no thank you, then, yes, the block button gets used.

Yup. Same message, same response... If you don't get the message after the second time blocking shouldn't be a surprise. "

I totally agree, its not to be a dick or be unkind, but if someone clearly cant get the message, rhen they deserve a block.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I used to think differently, more polite and more conciliatory but over the past few years I have learnt that sometimes blocking is the best way.

I am not just tlaking about those who send rude or inappropriate messages but also those who bombard others with (polite, pleasant) tons of messages as well as those, who just keep sending messages like "hi", "hello" or "what u up 2"...

I do now block, not with anger in my heart but just to make my life easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or if messaging couples, perhaps only one half had been reading and replying so far. When the other half reads it, the content isn't to their liking.

I've come close to blocking a few times exactly for this reason. I cannot stand messages that have a sexual undertone or contain innuendo from the get go, unless it's someone I've spoken to previously or know from a club. I'm all back the fuck up sugartits, we're people first and sexual deviants ONLY when you're given the green light from both of us.

B is much less that way and enjoys flirty talk and compliments. Nah, not me, it's a sure fire way to get on my shit list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish i could get a message so i could have an option to block them..haha

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The reason for admin to block somebody would be the same as it currently is. Somebody doesn't want messages from a particular person/couple. That's the only criteria needed.

It would be preposterous for admin to force people to receive unwanted messages from people. Even if admin did get involved, how would they find the time to adjudicate?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What ever! Happy blocking folks, it’s clearly the most loved feature on Fab.

It turns my experience from tolerable and even pleasant from horrific and impossible to find good people. So, probably.

Come on guys! Leave the chap alone. He just asked a question. Don't be so judgmental.

Exactly, instead of jumping to assumptions as to why people block, he could of just asked on here why people choose to block.. simple and non offensive

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

We block people every day. For various reasons.

Some people message us multiple times despite us not replying.

Some people are vulgar in an opening message.

Some people are rude during messages.

Some people are abusive during messages.

This can be opening messages or after they've been told no.

So they get blocked. We will continue to block whoever we want, because it's our choice.

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By *eastAndTheHarlotCouple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

"Or if messaging couples, perhaps only one half had been reading and replying so far. When the other half reads it, the content isn't to their liking.

B is much less that way and enjoys flirty talk and compliments. Nah, not me, it's a sure fire way to get on my shit list

We're the same. If people are being rude and vulgar in opening messages, then they're blocked.

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By *Marvel-Man
over a year ago

In The Gym

I block anyone who leaves me on read. If you've time to read it you've time to reply. Saves me wasting my time ever messaging them again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most important function on the site, it’s the only efficient way of dealing with the false, the incessant mitherers, the impolite, the pretentious and all the other forms of the undesirable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" when I’m simply being chatty and don’t conform to their exact criteria ( whatever that is?)

Why are you messaging people when you know you don't conform to their criteria?

This is one reason Id block, someone (however nice, respectful, genuine they claim to be) ignoring my stated preferences wouldn't be the kind of attentive lover I'm looking for."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete unread or block all dick pictures, dick profiles and anyone saying anything sexual in a first message.

I don't think some men understand that getting 100 messages a day saying 'I want to eat your pussy' and "want sex?" and 'hi hru' is not pleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I delete unread or block all dick pictures, dick profiles and anyone saying anything sexual in a first message.

I don't think some men understand that getting 100 messages a day saying 'I want to eat your pussy' and "want sex?" and 'hi hru' is not pleasant. "

Totally understandable as it's like a second job trying to answer your messages here and if you do reject someone you get another email asking why and then an abusive message once you have explained it.

I'm sure the quality off massages would be better through fellow forum users.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get blocked regularly

I also block regularly. If I'm anot to someones taste or them to kine I block them. Its nothing personal it just saves confusion afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A prime example is a profile that says no gym addicts or BBC only amongst other things. That warrants a block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok repliers - have you been blocked - ever? I doubt it ever happens to women? Maybe I’m strange I don’t want to fuck anyone I can’t actually talk to!,"

Yeah, today. By someone who contacted me twice to bitch about my status, related the story of his awful treatment of his wife and then got cross when i commented. Insulting and blocking is hilariously cowardly, anyone who does that is such an obvious wet wipe I can't stir myself to even care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is a blessing and muchly needed by many users, wether it’s male female or couples it helps us all. Everyone isn’t for everyone and it’s a just a case of accepting that and enjoying it for what it is x

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