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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Try not to take it to heart and keep on persevering.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Unfortunately it’s something you have to get used to. I find it’s easier to bear if you expect to be let down. When they don’t it’s a great bonus!

Insisting on a social first wastes less time and isn’t a completely wasted time if they don’t show

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You came on too strong and scared them away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fit a social in around your day so it’s not a massive issue if a no show and if they do and you click bingo more confidence at next meet

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You came on too strong and scared them away"

And how would you know that???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You came on too strong and scared them away

And how would you know that???"

He’s psychic

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By *idsAndyMan
over a year ago

Worcestershire


"Fit a social in around your day so it’s not a massive issue if a no show and if they do and you click bingo more confidence at next meet

"

I'll second that! I can't understand it but you've just got to accept that some people don't show

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I was let down a couple of times at first, but the right people will catch your eye and 'hey presto'

Chin up mate.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.

I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate being let down in this way can be extremely traumatic and potentially harmful. I would make yourself a big cup of tea ( anything but green) and a digestive ( you can choose any variety but pref not dark chocolate). Then watch a sad movie and let the emotions out.

Then put your big boy pants on ( helps if they have a super hero theme ) and go find the next willing person to let you down...and repeat.

In all seriousness just crack on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate being let down in this way can be extremely traumatic and potentially harmful. I would make yourself a big cup of tea ( anything but green) and a digestive ( you can choose any variety but pref not dark chocolate). Then watch a sad movie and let the emotions out.

Then put your big boy pants on ( helps if they have a super hero theme ) and go find the next willing person to let you down...and repeat.

In all seriousness just crack on "

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they probably came to your house and saw you still live in your mums basement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few experiences where I have an amazing connection with somebody, arrange a meet then out of the blue get blocked. Couldn't think of anything I'd done or said to warrant a block. Maybe they got cold feet or were a fake, but anybody can change their minds and I still love the discretion this site provides.

All that aside, had some amazing meets on here and been a paid subscriber for years. You just got to keep looking for the good ones and forget the timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"they probably came to your house and saw you still live in your mums basement "

Nah moved outnof Basement when Fritzel got caught!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mate being let down in this way can be extremely traumatic and potentially harmful. I would make yourself a big cup of tea ( anything but green) and a digestive ( you can choose any variety but pref not dark chocolate). Then watch a sad movie and let the emotions out.

Then put your big boy pants on ( helps if they have a super hero theme ) and go find the next willing person to let you down...and repeat.

In all seriousness just crack on

Good advice "

Quite like idea of superhero pants..lol

I am cracking on. The people i was scheduled to meet were the ones who instigated it.. which makes it even more weird.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You came on too strong and scared them away

And how would you know that???

He’s psychic "

If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then..

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By *etite HandfulWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."

Talk to people on the phone its been said 100 times or more on here you get let down less when people have a rapport with you and chatting on cam or on the phone helps.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"You came on too strong and scared them away

And how would you know that???

He’s psychic

If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then.. "

*puts hand to temple...

You're thinking "I bet he's not really psychic"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be.

Talk to people on the phone its been said 100 times or more on here you get let down less when people have a rapport with you and chatting on cam or on the phone helps. "

We had.. makes it even more weird.. at no time was i rude, always respectful and allowed them to dictate the speed at which we moved etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."

A regular occurrence, unfortunately.

Block, move on.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"Fit a social in around your day so it’s not a massive issue if a no show and if they do and you click bingo more confidence at next meet

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Exactly how I do it, I'm out and about anyway, works well.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You came on too strong and scared them away

And how would you know that???

He’s psychic

If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then..

*puts hand to temple...

You're thinking "I bet he's not really psychic""

That has made me laugh. In reality i was thinking something that rhymes with brick!!!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Hugs OP

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Disappointed is my middle name right now

Chin up OP. Onwards and upwards it's really the only way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re probably better off not meeting them anyway.

They probably weren’t good enough to meet you. Maybe they were just arrogant time wasters !!

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."

Happens to all of us mate. Don't let it get to you. Juar focus on the genuine people.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Yes it's always best to go with the thought the bugger may not turn up,but a pleasant/not so pleasant surprise when they do.

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."

How many time you been let down?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."

It happens to lots of people on here which is soul destroying and plays havoc with the mind. Its a shame a few people spoil it for others whereas others make it all worthwhile. Chin up and keep smiling.x

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.

I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off. "

Sadly I don't have a schrodinger's foof - it's either waxed or it isn't, and if I'm having it de-fuzzed twice in ten days for two no-shows it's hard to meet that with equanimity.

Still, I'm a randy bugger so I carry on trying and living in hope

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be.

How many time you been let down?"

A married couple over the weekend. And 2 single women on seperate occassions since i rejoined..

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It's so frustrating to be let down, but chin up and move on.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"You came on too strong and scared them away

And how would you know that???

He’s psychic

If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then.. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a couple of ocassions now.. now i find trust is massive issue.

Will they show, etc.. dont want to be as sceptical about it but i guess we have to be."
makes me laugh how women and couples I would love to meet her let down but won’t let someone reliable like myself have the chance to meet them.... oh well x

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot


"You came on too strong and scared them away

And how would you know that???

He’s psychic

If he is psychic then he will know what i am thinking now then..

*puts hand to temple...

You're thinking "I bet he's not really psychic"

That has made me laugh. In reality i was thinking something that rhymes with brick!!!"

Why would you be thinking "stick"

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.

I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off.

Sadly I don't have a schrodinger's foof - it's either waxed or it isn't, and if I'm having it de-fuzzed twice in ten days for two no-shows it's hard to meet that with equanimity.

Still, I'm a randy bugger so I carry on trying and living in hope "

I know exactly the feeling! Manscaping for nothing is much the same!

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

Hey it happens buddy. I've had the same over my 3 years or so here... Especially when I came back and had deleted the profile. Chat, post in forums, interact and people will get to know you a little better and build a decent relationship.... You'll find your meets soon enough....

Christ I remember one lady let me down 3 times.... I learned from that (eventually )

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By *almprintsWoman
over a year ago

deepest, darkest West


"I try and view every meet that I have planned as 'schrodingers meet'; it exists in a state of both happening and not happening until the point of discovery.

I find that helps me to manage my expectations and possible disappointment if it does get called off. "

Genius!!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Sorry to hear that OP. Luckily not everyone is the same. Put it down to experience and carry on.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

These things happen. We were chatting to a couple and getting on great, when we exchanged face pics they blocked us . Hurt a bit at the time, but fab is a fickle place it seems ( still like it though)

Just need to adopt “Fishmo”: Fuck it, shit happens, move on.

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