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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Currently I’ve have no previous experience with meeting or playing with a couple so my question is this .... does my lack of experience put couples off or intrigue them ? Or does it not even come into it ? Is it just about me being me and connecting with the right ones ? Or am I even over thinking this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you were to message us your lack of pics on your profile would instantly make me ignore your message.

I always look at profiles before opening messages.

Sin.

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"If you were to message us your lack of pics on your profile would instantly make me ignore your message.

I always look at profiles before opening messages.

Sin."

I totally understand your point

But can I ask when you say my lack of pics would instantly make you ignore my message because you look at profiles before opening messages do you mean you look at pictures or the actually profile text ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. I actually really liked the text, but I'm not going to waste both of our times if I cant see pics to decide if there is an attraction or not.

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Point taken, my thoughts are simple regarding my pictures, when I first joined which was only a week ago today I had my pictures public but found absolutely nobody took a look at the text where now I’m finding that I get contact from people who actually take the time to read it and get a little understanding about me and I usually attach pictures within the first few messages anyway, admittedly I’m probably restricting myself from some lovely people so might have to rethink my approach.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

No experience wouldn’t put us off and everyone has to start somewhere. Like above though, no public pictures is an instant delete from us.

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter

I disagree cause I am sure if he wants a meet I am sure he will share a pic if just asked. That’s just my opinion maybe I’m wrong I normally am lol

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"I disagree cause I am sure if he wants a meet I am sure he will share a pic if just asked. That’s just my opinion maybe I’m wrong I normally am lol"

Absolutely like I stated in my second response after the initial contact I always send with a few messages sometimes even if I get a message asking before the conversation starts but that depends on if the contact is from a profile that intrigues or interests me.

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

But admittedly I might have to rethink if it is putting people off, again like I stated I have found more people read the text and I get a more thought about response rather than just responding about how I look and for me it’s as much about the mind as the body and would like contact from people with a similar outlook, obviously physical attraction is important to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree cause I am sure if he wants a meet I am sure he will share a pic if just asked. That’s just my opinion maybe I’m wrong I normally am lol"

Lol not wrong, just how you view it.

If it was us however, I wouldn't open the message until I'd checked out the profile. There may be pics in the message but I wouldn't know as I wouldn't bother to open it as theres nothing on the profile to catch my attention.

Profile write up might be well written, but ultimately I want to see what that person looks like before wasting any time messaging and finding there is no initial attraction.

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter


"I disagree cause I am sure if he wants a meet I am sure he will share a pic if just asked. That’s just my opinion maybe I’m wrong I normally am lol

Lol not wrong, just how you view it.

If it was us however, I wouldn't open the message until I'd checked out the profile. There may be pics in the message but I wouldn't know

as I wouldn't bother to open it as theres nothing

on the profile to catch my attention.

Everyone has different ways of doing things on here I don’t mind asking for a face pic other people like to see what people look like before msging them. I say every way works for the individual

Profile write up might be well written, but ultimately I want to see what that person looks like before wasting any time messaging and finding there is no initial attraction."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I disagree cause I am sure if he wants a meet I am sure he will share a pic if just asked. That’s just my opinion maybe I’m wrong I normally am lol

Lol not wrong, just how you view it.

If it was us however, I wouldn't open the message until I'd checked out the profile. There may be pics in the message but I wouldn't know

as I wouldn't bother to open it as theres nothing

on the profile to catch my attention.

Everyone has different ways of doing things on here I don’t mind asking for a face pic other people like to see what people look like before msging them. I say every way works for the individual

Profile write up might be well written, but ultimately I want to see what that person looks like before wasting any time messaging and finding there is no initial attraction."

I agree. But doesn't have to be face pics on a profile, just a general idea of body type, build etc.

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By *KAholeandgloryCouple
over a year ago

exeter


"I disagree cause I am sure if he wants a meet I am sure he will share a pic if just asked. That’s just my opinion maybe I’m wrong I normally am lol

Lol not wrong, just how you view it.

If it was us however, I wouldn't open the message until I'd checked out the profile. There

may be pics in the message but I wouldn't know

as I wouldn't bother to open it as theres nothing

on the profile to catch my attention.

Everyone has different ways of doing things on here I don’t mind asking for a face pic other people like to see what people look like before msging them. I say every way works for the individual

Profile write up might be well written, but ultimately I want to see what that person looks like before wasting any time messaging and finding there is no initial attraction.

I agree. But doesn't have to be face pics on a profile, just a general idea of body type, build etc."

Couldn’t agree more

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate

Glad I posted this thread I think I’m going to put at least a couple public, certainty no harm in doing so

I do appreciate your help and feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Currently I’ve have no previous experience with meeting or playing with a couple so my question is this .... does my lack of experience put couples off or intrigue them ? Or does it not even come into it ? Is it just about me being me and connecting with the right ones ? Or am I even over thinking this ? "

Why would you tell them you have no experience?

Ideally you'd discuss any rules beforehand. All meets are different and I don't think experience is important. Some will care about lack of experience of course, but then they won't meet you so it's fine.

You could overthink it forever and still not please everyone. Be yourself and it will attract similar people.

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"Currently I’ve have no previous experience with meeting or playing with a couple so my question is this .... does my lack of experience put couples off or intrigue them ? Or does it not even come into it ? Is it just about me being me and connecting with the right ones ? Or am I even over thinking this ?

Why would you tell them you have no experience?

Ideally you'd discuss any rules beforehand. All meets are different and I don't think experience is important. Some will care about lack of experience of course, but then they won't meet you so it's fine.

You could overthink it forever and still not please everyone. Be yourself and it will attract similar people. "

I’m definitely over thinking it and just need to be myself x

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By *nvisible Curious CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bridgnorth

Actually liked your profile. Especially the bottom bit ref couple's. Would lack of experience put us of. Probably not. Lack of pictures would.

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"Actually liked your profile. Especially the bottom bit ref couple's. Would lack of experience put us of. Probably not. Lack of pictures would."

Thank you for taking time to have a look, seems a bit of a pattern and seems I’m missing out on connecting with some decent couples

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By *hromosexualsCouple
over a year ago

Near Abercynon

Your profile is very good. Like others have said; add a few pictures.

The problem single guys have with couples is that there are thousands of you, it’s hard to stand out. A well written profile certainly helps with people who like that sort of thing

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By *ackinabox19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Harrogate


"Your profile is very good. Like others have said; add a few pictures.

The problem single guys have with couples is that there are thousands of you, it’s hard to stand out. A well written profile certainly helps with people who like that sort of thing "

I’m just wanting to stand out for the right couple I’m not looking to connect with loads, appreciate you looking and giving me feedback. Thank you

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

You're overthinking. Lack of experience certainly wouldn't put us off. In fact Mrs would quite enjoy 'teaching'. That is of course, if we met single guys.

Mrs would love a single lady to join us for her 1st MFF experience.

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