FabSwingers.com forum: What do women like to see when messaged for the first time?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Inspire me

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

A cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A face pic

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Most women say they hate them!

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Face pic. Humour x

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"A cock pic"

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A face pic "

I always send one...but what do you like them to say? What information do you like involved in the message?

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

"Most women say they hate them!"

Now I’m confused, do they hate cock pics or face pics or is it both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A face pic

I always send one...but what do you like them to say? What information do you like involved in the message?"

Be complimentary

It’s an old one, but flattery will get you everywhere

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By *ardyBumMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

I’ve heard it should be next to a sky remote too, can you confirm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

And over a toilet bowl

But seriously OP

Read their profile ... look at their pics ... and react to those, something witty and observational maybe

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction."

This

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By *ink Panther 123Man
over a year ago

Colnbrook

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

Don't forget about the Measuring up bit with the Sky remote . Have a female partner on here lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

Do you think just a friendly hello how are you is too little?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A face pic

I always send one...but what do you like them to say? What information do you like involved in the message?

Be complimentary

It’s an old one, but flattery will get you everywhere "

Good advice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

And over a toilet bowl

But seriously OP

Read their profile ... look at their pics ... and react to those, something witty and observational maybe"

Its hard to think of something witty to every one you message! They might not even reply!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

What is your fave angle?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is OP there is no "magic formula" that will work for everyone - the key is finding what works best for you and the individual concerned.

Generically people like to be treated with respect and consideration, steer clear of sex talk, pick up on something in their profile, introduce yourself and say why you think they might be interested in getting to know you are all good pointers but not cast iron guarantees to get a reply.

It also pays to make sure you have a well written profile and decent set of pics that are appealing - people will often look at that before even considering opening a message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A message that:

1. Does not contain yet another dick pic I don't want to see.

2. Is not one line long.

3. Sounds like it's from a normal, sane individual.

4. Does not launch into sex talk. Does not say what they want to do to me. Does not mention the word 'pussy' or 'fuck'.

5. Says something interesting.

It's the same rules as real life. You wouldn't walk up to someone in town you never met a Ms show them a picture of your dick and say 'want to fuck'. God. Isn't it obvious?

The above reply that said they wanted to see a dick pic must have been kidding. Just to make it clear.

Normal women do not want to see a bloody dick picture in your first email. IF WE WANTED TO SEE IT WE WOULD ASK. IT'S A FUCKING PENIS. IT'S NOT REMBRANDT.

I feel better now.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Evidence that you're messaging me and are interested in me, and haven't just sent the same message to every woman in a 50 mile radius.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Thing is OP there is no "magic formula" that will work for everyone - the key is finding what works best for you and the individual concerned.

It also pays to make sure you have a well written profile and decent set of pics that are appealing - people will often look at that before even considering opening a message."

And this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A face pic

I always send one...but what do you like them to say? What information do you like involved in the message?

Be complimentary

It’s an old one, but flattery will get you everywhere

Good advice! "

Pick something....

You love blondes...

You love women with big boobs

Her smile is incredible....

Whatever, just make her feel special. As if you’ve been pouring over her profile for hours

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A message that:

1. Does not contain yet another dick pic I don't want to see.

2. Is not one line long.

3. Sounds like it's from a normal, sane individual.

4. Does not launch into sex talk. Does not say what they want to do to me. Does not mention the word 'pussy' or 'fuck'.

5. Says something interesting.

It's the same rules as real life. You wouldn't walk up to someone in town you never met a Ms show them a picture of your dick and say 'want to fuck'. God. Isn't it obvious?

The above reply that said they wanted to see a dick pic must have been kidding. Just to make it clear.

Normal women do not want to see a bloody dick picture in your first email. IF WE WANTED TO SEE IT WE WOULD ASK. IT'S A FUCKING PENIS. IT'S NOT REMBRANDT.

I feel better now.

Good rant I will take advice on board

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

Do you think just a friendly hello how are you is too little?"

For sure. Those messages are the ones we’ll be unlikely to reply to. They come across as lazy and bland. You could literally cut and paste it to a 100 different people. Say something that suggests you have read our profile and we’ll almost certainly reply - so long as you’re polite. If you can be funny, or say something of substance, then even better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ll get a lot of different responses on here... why? Because we are all different! Read the profile and make a judgement call. Best bet is to be yourself.

I for one don’t find complementary messages appealing as they seem insincere.

Most profiles tell you exactly what you need to do...

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

What is your fave angle?"

Inside the trousers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliment and some banter x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

Do you think just a friendly hello how are you is too little?

Very true but as a man on here a lot of women choose not to reply. So can find it very hard to try and engage convo with something orignal that stands out every

time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

Do you think just a friendly hello how are you is too little?

Very true but as a man on here a lot of women choose not to reply. So can find it very hard to try and engage convo with something orignal that stands out every

time

Sure. But I delete "hi how are you" and similar every time, so there's that.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

I’ve heard it should be next to a sky remote too, can you confirm? "

Or a Lynx can, you can even use the travel size to make your tinky winky look bigger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A message that:

1. Does not contain yet another dick pic I don't want to see.

2. Is not one line long.

3. Sounds like it's from a normal, sane individual.

4. Does not launch into sex talk. Does not say what they want to do to me. Does not mention the word 'pussy' or 'fuck'.

5. Says something interesting.

It's the same rules as real life. You wouldn't walk up to someone in town you never met a Ms show them a picture of your dick and say 'want to fuck'. God. Isn't it obvious?

The above reply that said they wanted to see a dick pic must have been kidding. Just to make it clear.

Normal women do not want to see a bloody dick picture in your first email. IF WE WANTED TO SEE IT WE WOULD ASK. IT'S A FUCKING PENIS. IT'S NOT REMBRANDT.

I feel better now.

All of this. Plus some indication they've read my profile so I won't have to answer questions I've answered a million times or explain stuff that I've put in my profile so I don't have to. And don't ask me how I'm "finding the site" or if I've had any meets. You want nsa right? That means no strings for BOTH of us. You don't get to ask me who else I play with. If it's no strings then it shouldn't matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some women like a respectful message and a face pic, other like a picture of your cock it all depends on the woman but it’s always good and a safe bet to be respectful and if they ask .. well when In Rome!

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By *mberWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"A message that:

1. Does not contain yet another dick pic I don't want to see.

2. Is not one line long.

3. Sounds like it's from a normal, sane individual.

4. Does not launch into sex talk. Does not say what they want to do to me. Does not mention the word 'pussy' or 'fuck'.

5. Says something interesting.

It's the same rules as real life. You wouldn't walk up to someone in town you never met a Ms show them a picture of your dick and say 'want to fuck'. God. Isn't it obvious?

The above reply that said they wanted to see a dick pic must have been kidding. Just to make it clear.

Normal women do not want to see a bloody dick picture in your first email. IF WE WANTED TO SEE IT WE WOULD ASK. IT'S A FUCKING PENIS. IT'S NOT REMBRANDT.

I feel better now.

Good rant I will take advice on board "

100% this. And do not use the words baby, babe, hun, hunni, sweetheart.....blah blah blah.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

Do you think just a friendly hello how are you is too little?"

For what it's worth, I think that's perfectly fine in an initial message. Its what youd say anywhere else and I'm a bit phased if someone sends me a big long 1st message but were all different huh...anyway, hello, how are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"a lot of women choose not to reply. So can find it very hard to try and engage convo with something orignal that stands out every

time

Yes it must be hard. I ranted about this yesterday. I get 100 emails a day. I delete all the one liners, dick pics, sex talk without reading. Then I read the rest. There are too. Many to reply to. I try and reply to the ones that tried hardest. Otherwise seriously its a full time job. It's a problem.

There are basically too many retards on the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Interesting choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rainbows, unicorns, and sparkly slippers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A message that:

1. Does not contain yet another dick pic I don't want to see.

2. Is not one line long.

3. Sounds like it's from a normal, sane individual.

4. Does not launch into sex talk. Does not say what they want to do to me. Does not mention the word 'pussy' or 'fuck'.

5. Says something interesting.

It's the same rules as real life. You wouldn't walk up to someone in town you never met a Ms show them a picture of your dick and say 'want to fuck'. God. Isn't it obvious?

The above reply that said they wanted to see a dick pic must have been kidding. Just to make it clear.

Normal women do not want to see a bloody dick picture in your first email. IF WE WANTED TO SEE IT WE WOULD ASK. IT'S A FUCKING PENIS. IT'S NOT REMBRANDT.

I feel better now.

Lol. But absolutely this. How do you approach people in real life OP?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"a lot of women choose not to reply. So can find it very hard to try and engage convo with something orignal that stands out every

time

There are basically too many retards on the site.

Basically this.

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By *otfabcouple2017Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Got a feeling there isn't going to be a "one size fits all" answer

Varies from one lady to the next!

That said face pic seems a solid start,then maybe see if there's anything you can deduce from the profile, I.E if she's looking for gym bods, and your buff then perhaps include a shirtless pic

With regards to dick pics, if she's specifically looking for hung, and you are then maybe its appropriate to send,since you are appealing to her stated preference - If not then, id only send if asked.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A face pic, and a polite message and introduction.

Do you think just a friendly hello how are you is too little?

Toatally agree. I like to send a simple message first just to see if the other person is interested. Im great thanks for asking. Hope you are well?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A message that:

1. Does not contain yet another dick pic I don't want to see.

2. Is not one line long.

3. Sounds like it's from a normal, sane individual.

4. Does not launch into sex talk. Does not say what they want to do to me. Does not mention the word 'pussy' or 'fuck'.

5. Says something interesting.

It's the same rules as real life. You wouldn't walk up to someone in town you never met a Ms show them a picture of your dick and say 'want to fuck'. God. Isn't it obvious?

The above reply that said they wanted to see a dick pic must have been kidding. Just to make it clear.

Normal women do not want to see a bloody dick picture in your first email. IF WE WANTED TO SEE IT WE WOULD ASK. IT'S A FUCKING PENIS. IT'S NOT REMBRANDT.

I feel better now.

Lol. But absolutely this. How do you approach people in real life OP?"

Well in real life I would only approach a woman if there was clear signs she was interested. Ie body language and so forth

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've tried to get conversation out of simple hi how are you messages, and have found that they don't lead anywhere, which is why I stopped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proper punctuation amd spelling.

Note the typo

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By *ardyBumMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"A cock pic

Oh come on we need more than one, we need one from every angle

I’ve heard it should be next to a sky remote too, can you confirm?

Or a Lynx can, you can even use the travel size to make your tinky winky look bigger

Cheers for the tip

hahaha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anything other than a cock pic, "Alpha" or "Genuine".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talking about lynx cans... what does it mean when women do the same with their dildos and toys? Saw that for the first time today

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Talking about lynx cans... what does it mean when women do the same with their dildos and toys? Saw that for the first time today

What do you mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking about lynx cans... what does it mean when women do the same with their dildos and toys? Saw that for the first time today

What do you mean? "

Saw pic today of a woman having her dildo and a can of something next to each other showing the size of the dildo. Was a first for me

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

They like to see that you’ve read their profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Talking about lynx cans... what does it mean when women do the same with their dildos and toys? Saw that for the first time today

What do you mean?

Saw pic today of a woman having her dildo and a can of something next to each other showing the size of the dildo. Was a first for me "

Oh im with you now! Well i suppose its useful to get a scale of size

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A face pic

I always send one...but what do you like them to say? What information do you like involved in the message?

Be complimentary

It’s an old one, but flattery will get you everywhere "

Wow you have a gorgeous smile.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A face pic, a polite message that ideally makes me laugh, an introduction and something that shows that they have read my profile.

Hate dick pics and descriptions of what they want to do sexually with a passion!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Hi hows u.

Definitely not this!

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