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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Whats a good opening message contain?

I see alot of "dont say hi or ask how i am"

But then how else are you supposed to start a civilized conversation?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Pick on an aspect of their profile make a witty comment about it

It's different and shows you've read their profile and thought about the message

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I use someone's post from a thread, but everyone is different

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By *r AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"Whats a good opening message contain?

I see alot of "dont say hi or ask how i am"

But then how else are you supposed to start a civilized conversation?"

go Tru their pics, find something that catches your eye, comment on it, a little work, be inventive , be polite, banter never hurt no1,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whats a good opening message contain?

I see alot of "dont say hi or ask how i am"

But then how else are you supposed to start a civilized conversation?"

Usually that is all it say though... Surely if you want a decent conversation, you can think of more than that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore the don’t say hi thing lol as I always start with hello or hi and how are things with you followed by a lot more it’s called being polite and having manners unlike a lot of people in the world x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They dont want civilised convo they want your hand up there snatch and used like a sexy puppet

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Whats a good opening message contain?

I see alot of "dont say hi or ask how i am"

But then how else are you supposed to start a civilized conversation?"

If you say hi, then they say hi back, what would your next message be? Use that as the first one instead.

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By *lwayshorny79Woman
over a year ago

Leicester


"Whats a good opening message contain?

I see alot of "dont say hi or ask how i am"

But then how else are you supposed to start a civilized conversation?"

I enjoy an intriguing question, I feel the need to reply to.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"They dont want civilised convo they want your hand up there snatch and used like a sexy puppet "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They dont want civilised convo they want your hand up there snatch and used like a sexy puppet

"
see dude thats how its done

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

The completely cold opening first messages I’ve responded to have (on reflection) all involved literature in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't use the subject for the basis of your message and then put... In that message bit or start half a sentence in the subject then finish it in that message. It's just bad grammar also do what the profile requires you to do and read through it before hand

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Most of my first messages I send off the back of a thread. Occasionally someone catches the eye outside the forums and I just comment on what I like

Same in reverse, some messages will catch my eye and intrigue me to reply but only after I’ve checked their profile.

Then just let the conversation flow

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

It’s not just the opening message. I hate when I feel as though I am interrogating someone just to keep the conversation going and I just get one sentence replies, or worse one word. I just give up.

Conversation is a two way street and I like people that are genuinely interested in other people.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"It’s not just the opening message. I hate when I feel as though I am interrogating someone just to keep the conversation going and I just get one sentence replies, or worse one word. I just give up.

Conversation is a two way street and I like people that are genuinely interested in other people."

This I've often had a message from someone I find interesting and eventually it goes to my paragraph of an answer to a couple of words as an answer from them.

However the best first message I've had was a cheeky insult, I had to reply. It didn't go much further as I wasn't attracted to that person, but I really admired the intelligence and wittiness of that message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the interesting replies ladies and gents, i can see theres a variety of different ideas on what constitutes a good first message

Keep up with the posts im sure plenty of other people would be interested in the replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unsolicited dick pics. Works every time

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Show you've read the profile and write a message that the recipient can tell is about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show you've read the profile and write a message that the recipient can tell is about them. "

Don't call them recipient though they don't like that

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By *inkysexpotMan
over a year ago

leeds

Always try and go from something on their profile, doesn't always work as they might not have an interest it you.

But for the love of god don't try telling them you would 'destroy' or the likes...common sense tends to prevail.

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