FabSwingers.com forum: Affection before, during, and after casual sex

By *naswingdress OP Woman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Are you affectionate with people you meet for casual sex? Why or why not?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Yes, I like kisses, caressing and pillow talk as part of a fab meeting. Not just fuck and go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll ask a guy next time his cock is in my mouth if he needs a hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i cant just fuck someone i love to kiss,cuddle etc

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By *rtraymondo76Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

"Yes, I like kisses, caressing and pillow talk as part of a fab meeting. Not just fuck and go. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes i cant just fuck someone i love to kiss,cuddle etc"

Exactly same as me then

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Erm, considering I've not had casual sex for 12 years I have absolutely no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is not any sensuality there it doesn't work for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very affectionate which is maybe why i can’t do casual sex. No I wouldn’t feel comfortable getting affectionate and cuddly with a stranger.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m very affectionate and it’s all part of the foreplay and come down

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

"I'll ask a guy next time his cock is in my mouth if he needs a hug.

Careful with those teeth!

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By *edMan
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

Seriously though... I love lots of hugging, kissing, caressing, before and after..

Can't too casual about sex tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Most definitely

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am."

I'm the same. Sex without intimacy is just odd.

Intimacy isn't the same thing as emotion though, I think some get the two confused.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the most affectionate person in the world before and during sex, after I've cum you can just let yourself out

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Intimacy is as important as good sex for me

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

My ideal meet is to do something socially first, and build up to the more intimate activities later on, then spend the night together before going our separate ways the next morning and you can't do that without a level of affection and intimacy as part of the proceedings, hand holding, stolen glances and smiles, just cuddling up etc

As TM says sex without intimacy is just not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am the most affectionate person in the world before and during sex, after I've cum you can just let yourself out"

.....just like me!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Yes I am because I only meet those I feel some degree of affection for now. It doesn't mean I want to run into the sunset with them but I do enjoy the hand holding, the post coital snuggles and the tender kisses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am."

Totally agree. For me there has to be cuddles. Kisses, holding hands. I'm an intimate person

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm affectionate 24/7.....

Or is that Horny????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes if the intimacy is being returned some people prefer not too

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By *rbubbleMan
over a year ago

wild west sligo mayo roscommon

I’m affectionate guy.. like who doesn’t love a hug and kiss etc but if it’s just casual sex then no point wasting time get straight to the fun and what ye both want.

problem with casual sex and pillow talk hugs etc is one Person will start to fall for the other which in the first place both agreed NSA sex so best keep the affection for someone that you might pursue more into a relationship

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Yes, intimacy and being sensual is a very important part of sex for me. The level of affection can vary from person to person though

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Definitely, if it’s not there the sex isn’t happening

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Not everyone wants it, and it's not always practical in a club. But one of my most memorable encounters ended with a lovely cuddle as we talked. I would love to have more like that.

As a single person, that intimacy is often missing, and no less needed.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Depends on guy but usually no

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I love affection.. but don’t give it out easily. Hence why I don’t meet for casual sex.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

I've noticed that women like a bit of a cuddle afterward, whereas as men and trans women want me to get dressed, and fuck off!!

must just be the way guys are programmed i guess.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I've noticed that women like a bit of a cuddle afterward, whereas as men and trans women want me to get dressed, and fuck off!!

must just be the way guys are programmed i guess. "

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"I love affection.. but don’t give it out easily. Hence why I don’t meet for casual sex. "

You've come to the right place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all ladies like after sex cuddles....I for one don't, affection before and during but once the fun has been had a nice cuppa while I'm getting dressed is all I need, then I'm out the door....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not something we like to do. But I suppose we have each other so don’t need the intimacy with others. But we do like to have a drink and talk after. X

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"Are you affectionate with people you meet for casual sex? Why or why not? "

Yes, very much so. We are both affectionate people. Couldn’t imagine wanting to have sex with someone and not wanting to kiss and cuddle as well. Especially with threesomes. If we invite another person to share with us, then affection is a big part of it.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"I've noticed that women like a bit of a cuddle afterward, whereas as men and trans women want me to get dressed, and fuck off!!

must just be the way guys are programmed i guess. "

I like a cuddle afterwards too.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's interesting to note the difference between the responses to this thread and a similar one posted by a couple in Swingers Chat - highlights the differences between single swingers and couple swingers

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Yes but it's something that builds over time unless I've spent a lot of time getting to know them beforehand.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Depends on the meet and how many times i’ve met them. Men i meet regularly get to see the more touchy feely La Luna as it’s more friends based fun.

That said, i also have no qualms in meeting someone, doing the deed and going as soon as we’ve both cum. I can be a bit cold like that.

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Are you affectionate with people you meet for casual sex? Why or why not? "

I’m very affectionate and it doesn’t make the sex any less casual for me.

I just think it’s a wonderful, positive, mood boosting thing to both give and receive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like intimacy, but not all the huggy stuff.. I like to get to know someone, see who they are, I like sensual and tactile kisses.

Long embraces and continual non-sexual kisses can feel a little unnatural. I do trace my fingers down their body, or massage.. touch bonding in the moment. I'm not a pack up and leave person, partly because I like a rounds 2, 3 and a 4, partly because I want to get to know them still, which is why I pick who I pick in the first place.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

"Are you affectionate with people you meet for casual sex? Why or why not?

I’m very affectionate and it doesn’t make the sex any less casual for me.

I just think it’s a wonderful, positive, mood boosting thing to both give and receive. "

Absolutely

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

Yes, I’m not into fuck and go’s.

I’ve usually spent a while getting to know that person so I enjoy the kissing, stroking, talking that comes with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, absolutely. If I like someone well enough to want to have sex with them, I'll definitely be wanting kisses. Otherwise it's just joyless rutting.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Yes, absolutely. If I like someone well enough to want to have sex with them, I'll definitely be wanting kisses. Otherwise it's just joyless rutting."

Joyless rutting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll ask a guy next time his cock is in my mouth if he needs a hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a long sensual kiss and caressing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's interesting to note the difference between the responses to this thread and a similar one posted by a couple in Swingers Chat - highlights the differences between single swingers and couple swingers "

What did the couples say? Haven't seen the other thread.

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By *il_blue_rufusMan
over a year ago

motherwell

Yeh the affection is a natural part of it for me. And I actually enjoy it quite a lot!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

yes. All my gentlemen friends are long term buddies so im very comfortable being affectionate

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By *oisyoctopusWoman
over a year ago

Drogheda

Kisses and cuddles consolidate the memories for me, without them it's ultimately unfulfilling so if I'm not going to get them I might as well just look after myself solo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I'm very tactile and love kisses, cuddles, stroking and affection.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

"Yes, I like kisses, caressing and pillow talk as part of a fab meeting. Not just fuck and go. "

I'm not inot into fuck an go type meets

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm up for cuddles.

Sex before is a bonus.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I have no probs being affectionate after and then leave with respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am the most affectionate person in the world before and during sex, after I've cum you can just let yourself out

.....just like me!"

I'm glad someone agrees

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll ask a guy next time his cock is in my mouth if he needs a hug.

FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always overly affectionate think that's why the ladies fall so hard

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Depends on where i am and who I’m with.

In a club I’m not particularly affectionate.

But with regular meets I am. Or guys I’ve got to know.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am.

I'm the same. Sex without intimacy is just odd.

Intimacy isn't the same thing as emotion though, I think some get the two confused. "

This in a nutshell!

When I have a meet - a good one at least - it’s part rampant fucking and part ‘making love’! I adore and need both!

Obviously that doesn’t mean I need to be ‘in love’ with them - it just means there needs to be a lot of chemistry on both sides!

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Yes without hesitation. I'm a sensual being, it comes as part and parcel of who I am.

I'm the same. Sex without intimacy is just odd.

Intimacy isn't the same thing as emotion though, I think some get the two confused.

This in a nutshell!

When I have a meet - a good one at least - it’s part rampant fucking and part ‘making love’! I adore and need both!

Obviously that doesn’t mean I need to be ‘in love’ with them - it just means there needs to be a lot of chemistry on both sides!

A agree.

Making love and fucking are 2 different things and you don't need love for either.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

It's part of the intimacy for me. It doesn't mean I want to marry them but I like being tactile.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Touching is a strange thing; I’ve been fortunate to meet a woman who was my perfect match for kissing and yet it was someone else who had an amazing touch.

The pace, the delicacy, the passion... it’s fantastic

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Before, during and after would be my preference every time

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Before, during and after would be my preference every time "

Mine too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. Sex without intimacy is just masturbation.

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By *actilemale4uMan
over a year ago

London

100% yes. I like to kiss cuddle caress and feel as one. Otherwise might as well get a blow up doll

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Before, during and after would be my preference as well.

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

Definitely.

I need a connection to enjoy sex, and this is a big part of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't sex affection?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"Isn't sex affection?"

Not always NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't sex affection?

Not always NO"

Nothing says affection like a titwank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Erm, considering I've not had casual sex for 12 years I have absolutely no idea."

How come?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn't sex affection?

Not always NO"

Is that what anal is about?

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

Has to be sensual and all part of it. We re only human. Hugs and some kissing etc makes it all more intense for all parties but not ott

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By *hickennchipsWoman
over a year ago

up above the streets and houses

Yes, totally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely.

I need a connection to enjoy sex, and this is a big part of that!"

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Before, during and after would be my preference every time "

gentle stroking of the inside of the leg, arm or back whilst having a wee natter

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I love sensual sex and being tactile comes naturally to me.

Fucking, well that can lead to a feeling of something lacking, even if the sex has been great.

Now a days even if just a meet I like to touch after, kiss and enjoy my buzz.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It very much depends on who with and the type of the session.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always... I'm not a wham bam thankyou kinda girl....

But I'm happy not to see them again...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. It might be casual sex but if I didn't want to enjoy a partner as a human being I'd just buy a sex doll. Kissing, pleasing, communication, non-sexual touching and being able to enjoy the time however brief are big parts of the experience.

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

No such thing as casual sex for me. Every encounter, whatever the scenario (each one is different), has layers, depth ... even if it's casual if you know what I mean.

'Casual' sex is from the days of my past where I was less conscious in my choices and probably too off my head to care! Not a bad thing .. it's just different now.

I've always been warm and sensual,tactile, intimate but sometimes my encounters are experimental, playing with different aspects of myself that are not affectionate at all!

Sometimes, paradoxically, this can actually bring an intimacy which is deeper to me than some affection can offer.

Do I always require or want to give cuddly affection with sex? .. no. It depends on the connection and the playing field.

I do love it when it flows.

Affection is one form of intimacy and if it flows and feels natural, it is delicious, i can offer it freely.

Fundamentally I want to respect and to be respected, receive and give gratitude. I love warmth and humility, the ability to be present. Affection in the right time and place is precious AND there is so much more to intimacy and connection.

I've gone on a bit ..

Oh and btw, when I'm ovulating, everything i ever say is out the window, i will fuck you like a goddess, stare into your soul like ive known you since we were wolves, you will think I want you and you only forever... but once were done, just shut the door behind you and hug yourself when you get home over a hot milk and honey. Ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am the most affectionate person in the world before and during sex, after I've cum you can just let yourself out"

Ha ha this is so funny...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be seen by a person and i like to see them.....hence intimacy is inevitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as casual sex for me. Every encounter, whatever the scenario (each one is different), has layers, depth ... even if it's casual if you know what I mean.

'Casual' sex is from the days of my past where I was less conscious in my choices and probably too off my head to care! Not a bad thing .. it's just different now.

I've always been warm and sensual,tactile, intimate but sometimes my encounters are experimental, playing with different aspects of myself that are not affectionate at all!

Sometimes, paradoxically, this can actually bring an intimacy which is deeper to me than some affection can offer.

Do I always require or want to give cuddly affection with sex? .. no. It depends on the connection and the playing field.

I do love it when it flows.

Affection is one form of intimacy and if it flows and feels natural, it is delicious, i can offer it freely.

I've gone on a bit ..

I think I've fallen for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No such thing as casual sex for me. Every encounter, whatever the scenario (each one is different), has layers, depth ... even if it's casual if you know what I mean.

'Casual' sex is from the days of my past where I was less conscious in my choices and probably too off my head to care! Not a bad thing .. it's just different now.

I've always been warm and sensual,tactile, intimate but sometimes my encounters are experimental, playing with different aspects of myself that are not affectionate at all!

Sometimes, paradoxically, this can actually bring an intimacy which is deeper to me than some affection can offer.

Do I always require or want to give cuddly affection with sex? .. no. It depends on the connection and the playing field.

I do love it when it flows.

Affection is one form of intimacy and if it flows and feels natural, it is delicious, i can offer it freely.

I've gone on a bit ..

Completely spot on! Well said

Peach x

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By *nkedMilfWoman
over a year ago

Colchester

I don't have a tendency to have sex with people I don't like so I always enjoy the afterwards bit, whether it be snuggled up or just lying naked chatting.

However I do worry one day whether it'll cross the line if I get a regular thing

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

My lady gets 7.5” of my effection when I’m balls deep in her

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Or should that of said erection?

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I love casual sex and love to be affectionate and passionate during and after sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t do cold sex

Kissing and cuddles is a must.

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'll ask a guy next time his cock is in my mouth if he needs a hug.

I've just had a splutte_ed tea meets keyboard moment!

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

Knowing a girl pillow talked with all her meets would put me off now I think about it.

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

Love affection, kissing, hugging, telling her how nice she is etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’m affectionate before, during and after usually. I like to meet people where there is genuine affection for each other. I have met in the past where that was less of the case to non-existent. They ranged from scratching an itch, trying something new or to sexually exciting experiences, but they weren’t spiritually or emotionally fulfilling experiences.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I must have a sensual passionate meet with loads of cuddles and kissing, stoking hair etc after sex . But a lot of the hot husbands wives do not like it, so I tend to stick to single men unless its been previously agreed with the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No as I don't do casual sex

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I’m more of a ‘shoot my fat and wipe my cock on the curtains on the way out’ type of guy

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Physically yes, verbally no.

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