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Are you more Submissive Dominant or Switch... PART 2!

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By *igwilly2k OP   Man
over a year ago

The Land of Kink!

Due to me getting the last comment on the Last thread and it closing I thought I'd continue it and carry on!

The last message I posted was...

Dom!

But!!!

I will swith for the right people and subbing to a sexy fem or couple is at the top of me list and I'd do ANYTHING TO PLEASE

Anyone interested!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to start off submissive. Really turns me on.

Once that happens, switcheroo

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By *ikkevCouple
over a year ago

larkhall

See I'm more of a brat

I like to be told/made to do stuff but I also like to fight against it and be a pain lol

Kirsty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Explorer;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m fairly inexperienced but looking to explore both roles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone interested in what?!

And none for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am definitely not Dom.

And I am even more definitely not Sub.

Plus I don't like to switch.

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By *Jones19Man
over a year ago

Evesham, Worcester, Pershore

I'm much more of a dom these days. Have been known to switch, but havent in years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub, but if asked I will switch even though I'm no good at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See I'm more of a brat

I like to be told/made to do stuff but I also like to fight against it and be a pain lol

Kirsty xx"

Pretty much sums me up too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a switch.

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By *alvin78Man
over a year ago

warrington

I'm very submissive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM."

You’re mistaken if you believe that BDSM or Dom/Sub is being disrespectful.

I completely understand it may not be your cup of tea, it is not for every one but it takes many forms and most involve the utmost respect.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I will always be switch, Depending who it is I like to mix it up

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Dom/sub all bullshit it's trust and control I like control she trust me not here to Dominate people here for a good time..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM."

Why do you think it is disrespecting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM."

Your women? How many do you own? Seems super respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM.

Why do you think it is disrespecting? "

Such a terrible preconception dude! BDSM requires more respect and understanding of the other person than vanilla sex

You can always learn something new

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Sub once tamed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM."

If you think there's no respect between a male dom and a female sub then you don't know anything about bdsm. Which is cool if it doesn't interest you. But don't say things like this because it's unbelievably disrespectful. My dom of six and a half years takes better care of me than any man in my life ever has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heeere we go... must be Thursday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heeere we go... must be Thursday "

Is that when the BDSM couples come out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Heeere we go... must be Thursday

Is that when the BDSM couples come out? "

I believe that's the get together night, yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a complete switch love to Dom and love to be a sub deppends on what side of the bed I get out of

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By *ez1987Man
over a year ago

Great Harwood, Blackburn

Am switch, more dom then sub but it's a whole level of trust and respect though.

I've felt more safety on a dom/sub play than in a vanilla sex act.

There's something special a out being powerless to a degree and having some power returned in small doses.

There's so much to BDSM than what most people persieve.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM."

I am going to put forward some points for you to consider. Firstly submission covers men, women and those who are gender fluid or don't identify as a gender. The same with domination, therefore bdsm is not something done by men to women, it covers a range of genders.

Secondly, I can understand why people think bdsm is disrespectful to submissives. There are a number of reasons, the main one is the depiction of bdsm in films, tv and books where thd submissive is treated brutally (and normally is a women) against their consent. What people don't realise that these depictions are fantasy by people who are not part of the scene. An example is 50 Shades of Grey EL James was not part of the scene. The other reason is the belief that bdsm is a form of domestic abuse.

I would be lying if I said that there were no dominants (male and female) that disrespected their submissives or where brutal. However certainly since the 1980's with books like The Loving Dominant, and Screw the Roses Give Me the Thorns, bdsm is about respect, trust and consent. Yes, there are still exploitative people in the scene. These people tend to go for newbies who do not know better. However the clear public position in the scene is consent respect and trust is essential. I hope that helps.

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By *igwilly2k OP   Man
over a year ago

The Land of Kink!


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM.

I am going to put forward some points for you to consider. Firstly submission covers men, women and those who are gender fluid or don't identify as a gender. The same with domination, therefore bdsm is not something done by men to women, it covers a range of genders.

Secondly, I can understand why people think bdsm is disrespectful to submissives. There are a number of reasons, the main one is the depiction of bdsm in films, tv and books where thd submissive is treated brutally (and normally is a women) against their consent. What people don't realise that these depictions are fantasy by people who are not part of the scene. An example is 50 Shades of Grey EL James was not part of the scene. The other reason is the belief that bdsm is a form of domestic abuse.

I would be lying if I said that there were no dominants (male and female) that disrespected their submissives or where brutal. However certainly since the 1980's with books like The Loving Dominant, and Screw the Roses Give Me the Thorns, bdsm is about respect, trust and consent. Yes, there are still exploitative people in the scene. These people tend to go for newbies who do not know better. However the clear public position in the scene is consent respect and trust is essential. I hope that helps."

Well said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be all of those depending on who Im with and what we are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s wrong with both

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By *igwilly2k OP   Man
over a year ago

The Land of Kink!


"What’s wrong with both "

Nothing, I switch myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What’s wrong with both

Nothing, I switch myself! "

Are there many Dom females tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be dom with most women. Love to sub for the right women and couples.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I am most definetly switch. Can't beat nicibg it up a bit.

When playing with another woman, I (Mrs) do naturally tend to be more dom.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"I am most definetly switch. Can't beat nicibg it up a bit.

When playing with another woman, I (Mrs) do naturally tend to be more dom."

*mixing

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

I'm just me

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

If I had to give myself a label then I guess I’d refer to myself as switch!

Essentially, though, I just adore great sex with nice people - and I’m fairly open as to what that might entail!

Tbh I don’t think amazing sex can be too formulaic!

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I am switch, but I mostly prefer to be domme unless I know and trust my partner.

I enjoy lots of different activities basically

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I respect my women. So never been or will be able to do BDSM."

Wow....bdsm isn't about disrespecting a woman....good god almighty!

I've been a Dom for many years and respect and honour are 2 values I hold very highly indeed....I wouldn't suggest you actually do some research before making such assumptions....

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

Below are the results of my kink test and yet I have a really powerful desire to switch. An opportunity to do so hasn't presented itself in years which may be why my desire to switch roles and worship the right woman is so strong at the moment.

95% Dominant

93% Voyeur

92% Degradation giver

92% Primal (Hunter)

89% Bondage giver

86% Non-monogamist

85% Master/Mistress

85% Experimentalist

80% Owner

79% Exhibitionist

79% Brat tamer

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By *mnipotent_BehemothMan
over a year ago

near Merry Hill shopping centre

I’ve always like the term Naturally Assertive Top! So I guess Dom but I like to think I have a softer edge to my play than Dom suggests

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a bratty sub.

But lately I’ve enjoyed chatting about being a domme, not sure I could perform in reality though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sub all the way. For the use and pleasure of others only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Belle is a sub. Beast is not a Dom but he handles Bells submissive tendancies quite well and indulges her favourite urges.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"I’m a bratty sub.

But lately I’ve enjoyed chatting about being a domme, not sure I could perform in reality though."

I can relate to that but on the flip side. I'd love to be with a Domme but fear I would be a terrible sub. I'd love to really worship a woman but because I have no desire to be humiliated a lot of Dommes, sadists in particular would find me rather frustrating or too tame for them lol

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Doesn't seem to be many true doms on here. And I've looked

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Any tall, fit doms out there that may like the look of me, you know where I am. Ooft....

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Below are the results of my kink test and yet I have a really powerful desire to switch. An opportunity to do so hasn't presented itself in years which may be why my desire to switch roles and worship the right woman is so strong at the moment.

95% Dominant

93% Voyeur

92% Degradation giver

92% Primal (Hunter)

89% Bondage giver

86% Non-monogamist

85% Master/Mistress

85% Experimentalist

80% Owner

79% Exhibitionist

79% Brat tamer

"

Tbh I find it incredibly tedious when I see those on people’s profiles!

I always think of it as the swingers version of the ‘Which Hogwarts house do you belong to?’ Online tests!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cave man here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d probably enjoy both... tend to have been dominant up to now tho

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