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"The cuddles, hair playing (mine), back scratches and light tickles I’m not a pet dog.. honest " Awww  | |||
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"Cuddles, falling asleep and waking up next to someone, being alone but together (if that makes sense)." Ooo yeah when you both wake up abit early before alarm and reposition and cosy together | |||
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"Cuddles, falling asleep and waking up next to someone, being alone but together (if that makes sense). Ooo yeah when you both wake up abit early before alarm and reposition and cosy together "This. Morning spooning on a winter weekend  | |||
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"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me. It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends. The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does." | |||
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"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me. It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends. The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does." I agree with you completely on that, I'm exactly the same. No one is infinitely better than people who don't really give a shit. | |||
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"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me. It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends. The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does." I'm exactly the same. | |||
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"No one at the end of the day to hug me and listen to things Sending you the biggest hug "aww thank you x | |||
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"Cuddles....definitely the cuddles " Sending a monkey cuddle your way | |||
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"Cuddles....definitely the cuddles Sending a monkey cuddle your way "Aww thank you...very much needed x | |||
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"Having her on tap, even if it's just support or text or call whenever I needed.... "Hugs | |||
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"Having her on tap, even if it's just support or text or call whenever I needed....
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"I moved with work and have some friends here but they're all busy with families.. I love in beautiful countryside but the views don't make up for the empty house and cold bed.. I miss the warmth of a body wrapped around me and miss not having anyone to cook for and share a few drinks with.. especially during this time of year. I think the internet has made society a lot more insular.. big love to all you fellow singletons ?" I hope you find those things, in whatever capacity suits your situation . | |||
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"Cuddles, falling asleep and waking up next to someone, being alone but together (if that makes sense). Ooo yeah when you both wake up abit early before alarm and reposition and cosy together "This | |||
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine. I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling. I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you. I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything. Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky. "Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win! | |||
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine. I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling. I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you. I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything. Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win! "Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several!  | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately "(((((((((((())))))))))))) | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately "Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here | |||
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine. I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling. I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you. I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything. Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win!
Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several! "Its easier when the expectations are less rigid and suffocating. For example, many people may sack something in if you can only see each other sporadically or if they have limited free time to spare as they feel guilty but if you are not limited in finding other connections then there is less pressure on people to "provide enough" of anything when someone is not your only source of any particular need. This isn't to say you don't have consideration for others needs, if anything more so by allowing them to get them met elsewhere. And the ways in which people can get them met don't have to follow the "traditional rules". As long as everyone is happy . | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here "Yes! | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here "We could have our own  | |||
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine. I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling. I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you. I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything. Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win!
Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several!
Its easier when the expectations are less rigid and suffocating. For example, many people may sack something in if you can only see each other sporadically or if they have limited free time to spare as they feel guilty but if you are not limited in finding other connections then there is less pressure on people to "provide enough" of anything when someone is not your only source of any particular need. This isn't to say you don't have consideration for others needs, if anything more so by allowing them to get them met elsewhere. And the ways in which people can get them met don't have to follow the "traditional rules". As long as everyone is happy ."I must admit that I've been thinking about this sort of thing a bit recently, mainly after reading a lot of your posts on poly. It does sound like a good arrangement. | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
We could have our own "I'll get the biscuits and pop the kettle on. No rom coms though! | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
We could have our own
I'll get the biscuits and pop the kettle on. No rom coms though! "Good, I bloody hate rom coms
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
We could have our own
I'll get the biscuits and pop the kettle on. No rom coms though!
Good, I bloody hate rom coms
Can we have a LOTR marathon? I haven't done that for ages "Now you're talking!! | |||
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine. I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling. I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you. I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything. Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky. "What is full on Aspie-ing? | |||
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"Being with someone that genuinely cares for you, and all the little gestures that come with that. " This + cuddles | |||
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"It's a bit on the negative side but it's something that isn't talked about too much. We always focus on the positive aspects of being single but after a tough few days I could really do with a cuddle, a chat and some company with a bit of unconditional caring thrown in. So singles, what's the bit you hate? Couples; what did you hate? " Hope you feel better soon OP. | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
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Yes!! A cuddle club would be amazing "We should set up cuddle franchises around the country for this purpose... Ill be the Midlands base, obviously | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
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Yes!! A cuddle club would be amazing
We should set up cuddle franchises around the country for this purpose...
Ill be the Midlands base, obviously "I'll be your secretary! | |||
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"Much like everyone else, I miss the affection. Someone to cuddle, and give you a kiss on the head when you've had a bad day. Someone to snuggle and watch films with. I'm missing this stuff a lot lately
Perhaps there should be a cuddles and films club on here
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Yes!! A cuddle club would be amazing
We should set up cuddle franchises around the country for this purpose...
Ill be the Midlands base, obviously "Definitely. I’ll cover the Newcastle area | |||
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"Good grief. Between this thread and the 'when will you next' thread, I'm about the go to Thaibrides.com! " Laughing a little too much at this.. | |||
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"Having no one to go to the cinema with " I’ll go with you. | |||
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"I'm quite particular about the company I like to keep in terms of friendship. I'd rather hang out by myself than with two faced fucks who care nothing for me. It can be quite lonely on your own, especially if you're like me and have no/few local friends. The internet fills a void, but not nearly as much as the real thing does." Absolutely this | |||
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"Okay, this might sound a tad wanky but it's me so that's fine. I did miss cooking for others. I absolutely love cooking and when you share it with someone who you care about it, it's a wonderful feeling. I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you. I missed having someone to snuggle into and laugh with and talk about any and everything. Then I realised I didn't *need* a SO for that stuff and started embracing relationship anarchy. And that helped a lot. My friends are fantastic people and I can do all the aforementioned stuff with them and not feel like I'm missing something. I did warn you it would get wanky.
Fucking love this! Relationship anarchy for the win!
Jesus, its hard enough finding one to hang around, let alone several!
Its easier when the expectations are less rigid and suffocating. For example, many people may sack something in if you can only see each other sporadically or if they have limited free time to spare as they feel guilty but if you are not limited in finding other connections then there is less pressure on people to "provide enough" of anything when someone is not your only source of any particular need. This isn't to say you don't have consideration for others needs, if anything more so by allowing them to get them met elsewhere. And the ways in which people can get them met don't have to follow the "traditional rules". As long as everyone is happy .
I must admit that I've been thinking about this sort of thing a bit recently, mainly after reading a lot of your posts on poly. It does sound like a good arrangement. "Aww you do make me blush. Obviously like anything, it isn't for everyone. But if everyone is good at communicating their needs and feelings, it can be great for many who for whatever reason aren't in a place to have a traditional relationship. There is something called solo polyamory that I often feel would suit so many people who miss relationships but don't want to change their life situation. Even not going that far, as Meli wonderfully mentioned, relationship anarchy is the idea that things don't have to fit into rigid boxes of relationship or friends with benefits, etc. Certain things dong have to be confined just to relationships. As this thread demonstrates, many people have needs that get left unmet (particularly companionship and affection) when they are not in relationships and that makes me sad. I often find that men especially get very little physical affection outside of relationships and sometimes even little emotional support. Sometimes I think people hold back when it comes to affection or opening up with more casual partners through fear that it will lead to the expectation of more but if the boundaries of that connection are discussed and agreed then it's possible to have those things without it meaning you have to fall madly in love or meet all the family. I feel I'm rambling a little here so I hope this makes sense. | |||
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"It's a bit on the negative side but it's something that isn't talked about too much. We always focus on the positive aspects of being single but after a tough few days I could really do with a cuddle, a chat and some company with a bit of unconditional caring thrown in. So singles, what's the bit you hate? Couples; what did you hate? " Loneliness is something that doesn’t get discussed very often. Thank you, OP, for starting this one. I’ve been with Ailsa for a very long time, but I’m aware of how hard some things would be without her. If you ever need to talk, you can always message us. Xx | |||
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"I mostly miss cwtches and someone else making me a cuppa" I make you coffee, what you on about? | |||
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"I can't imagine I'd like much about being single. I was a teenager last time I was single! I think I'd miss companionship the most. Someone to share stuff with. I've never been without that. " That’s lovely. Lucky you, Scarlet! x | |||
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"Don’t want to digress from the thread op and sorry if if it does. But do you think because we (singles) are a little lonely is why we come on fab. For that brief moment of being with someone. Enjoying each other’s company and good sex? Or just scratching an itch that needs scratched then back to your normal life. Maybe that’s another thread sorry. "Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've definitely met people who have used sex as a substitute for other things missing in their life but of course that isn't true for all singles. | |||
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"But if everyone is good at communicating their needs and feelings, it can be great for many who for whatever reason aren't in a place to have a traditional relationship. There is something called solo polyamory that I often feel would suit so many people who miss relationships but don't want to change their life situation. Even not going that far, as Meli wonderfully mentioned, relationship anarchy is the idea that things don't have to fit into rigid boxes of relationship or friends with benefits, etc. Certain things dong have to be confined just to relationships. As this thread demonstrates, many people have needs that get left unmet (particularly companionship and affection) when they are not in relationships and that makes me sad. I often find that men especially get very little physical affection outside of relationships and sometimes even little emotional support. Sometimes I think people hold back when it comes to affection or opening up with more casual partners through fear that it will lead to the expectation of more but if the boundaries of that connection are discussed and agreed then it's possible to have those things without it meaning you have to fall madly in love or meet all the family. I feel I'm rambling a little here so I hope this makes sense." You make absolute perfect sense and describe it brilliantly. I'll do a now and that applies to whenever you post about different relationship structures and dynamics (I can't keep thumbing your posts, it might look a bit weird).
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"Loneliness.. and you don't have to be single to experience it.. " So true. | |||
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day. Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately." Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it | |||
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day. Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately. Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it" Rent no no fricken *rant | |||
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day. Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately. Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it Rent no no fricken *rant " Haha! Thank you, that's super kind x | |||
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"But if everyone is good at communicating their needs and feelings, it can be great for many who for whatever reason aren't in a place to have a traditional relationship. There is something called solo polyamory that I often feel would suit so many people who miss relationships but don't want to change their life situation. Even not going that far, as Meli wonderfully mentioned, relationship anarchy is the idea that things don't have to fit into rigid boxes of relationship or friends with benefits, etc. Certain things dong have to be confined just to relationships. As this thread demonstrates, many people have needs that get left unmet (particularly companionship and affection) when they are not in relationships and that makes me sad. I often find that men especially get very little physical affection outside of relationships and sometimes even little emotional support. Sometimes I think people hold back when it comes to affection or opening up with more casual partners through fear that it will lead to the expectation of more but if the boundaries of that connection are discussed and agreed then it's possible to have those things without it meaning you have to fall madly in love or meet all the family. I feel I'm rambling a little here so I hope this makes sense. You make absolute perfect sense and describe it brilliantly. I'll do a now and that applies to whenever you post about different relationship structures and dynamics (I can't keep thumbing your posts, it might look a bit weird).
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"Don’t want to digress from the thread op and sorry if if it does. But do you think because we (singles) are a little lonely is why we come on fab. For that brief moment of being with someone. Enjoying each other’s company and good sex? Or just scratching an itch that needs scratched then back to your normal life. Maybe that’s another thread sorry.
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've definitely met people who have used sex as a substitute for other things missing in their life but of course that isn't true for all singles."
Yes I suppose everyone has there own reasons and good luck to everyone who gets what they crave at that time. Just going to cuddle my dog now she loves me lol | |||
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"...I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you... What is full on Aspie-ing? " Ah. It's a term myself and Nell Gwynn (if you remember her?) use when we've had a stimuli overload/stressful day and we're close to an autistic meltdown/having one. It manifests itself in different ways. I guess it's like when anyone (neurotypical) has had too much and then cranked up to 11. | |||
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"Definitely relationship anarchy... With all of my Friends, I interact with everyone in the individual way that feels right for both of us. Communication is the most important part of our relationship. " | |||
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"Don’t want to digress from the thread op and sorry if if it does. But do you think because we (singles) are a little lonely is why we come on fab. For that brief moment of being with someone. Enjoying each other’s company and good sex? Or just scratching an itch that needs scratched then back to your normal life. Maybe that’s another thread sorry.
Sometimes yes, sometimes no. I've definitely met people who have used sex as a substitute for other things missing in their life but of course that isn't true for all singles.
Yes I suppose everyone has there own reasons and good luck to everyone who gets what they crave at that time. Just going to cuddle my dog now she loves me lol "The love of a dog is the purest kind | |||
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"I miss sex, cuddles and someone to talk to after a hard day. Really going through it at the moment and talking to the dog just isn't cutting it unfortunately. Im usually around on here if you ever feel you want to vent your spleen or even just rent at someone who'll absorb it Rent no no fricken *rant Haha! Thank you, that's super kind x" Anytime, like bt used to say... its good to talk | |||
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"When I was single what I discovered to be the worst thing (not initially at the time itself but with hindsight), was my belief that I was not OK, I was ‘missing’ something from my life, and that I *should* be with someone. When I realised that the things I wanted or felt I needed from a partner could be found either within myself or in my relationships with my family and friends, I finally then felt OK with being single and it took on a whole new positive meaning. So I think what I’m saying is, the worst part for me was my own perception of what I needed / should have. Once that changed for me, happiness followed "very philosophical, i enjoy being single the freedom of decision making and spontaneous adventure is life  | |||
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"When I was single what I discovered to be the worst thing (not initially at the time itself but with hindsight), was my belief that I was not OK, I was ‘missing’ something from my life, and that I *should* be with someone. When I realised that the things I wanted or felt I needed from a partner could be found either within myself or in my relationships with my family and friends, I finally then felt OK with being single and it took on a whole new positive meaning. So I think what I’m saying is, the worst part for me was my own perception of what I needed / should have. Once that changed for me, happiness followed very philosophical, i enjoy being single the freedom of decision making and spontaneous adventure is life "It took me months of soul searching and the help of a lovely life coach to figure all this out, mind... it’s left me in a stronger position though. If I ever found myself single in future, I’d approach it with a whole different mindset | |||
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"Loneliness.. and you don't have to be single to experience it.. " Oh so true, I was more lonely the last 7 years with my ex than I’ve ever been since | |||
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"Loneliness. " Even when surrounded by people who you know care but you just dont feel it quite the same | |||
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"When I was single what I discovered to be the worst thing (not initially at the time itself but with hindsight), was my belief that I was not OK, I was ‘missing’ something from my life, and that I *should* be with someone. When I realised that the things I wanted or felt I needed from a partner could be found either within myself or in my relationships with my family and friends, I finally then felt OK with being single and it took on a whole new positive meaning. So I think what I’m saying is, the worst part for me was my own perception of what I needed / should have. Once that changed for me, happiness followed very philosophical, i enjoy being single the freedom of decision making and spontaneous adventure is life
It took me months of soul searching and the help of a lovely life coach to figure all this out, mind... it’s left me in a stronger position though. If I ever found myself single in future, I’d approach it with a whole different mindset "partners are to enhance your enjoyment of life as soon as they dont move on | |||
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"Loneliness.. and you don't have to be single to experience it.. Oh so true, I was more lonely the last 7 years with my ex than I’ve ever been since " Me too duck. X | |||
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights" That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely | |||
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights" Winter is the absolute worst, its hard not to just shut yourself away and spiral | |||
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely "Big hugs,I'm not lonely as such as I like my own company, I do miss male company though,this is the longest I've been single since I was 17 lol | |||
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely
Big hugs,I'm not lonely as such as I like my own company, I do miss male company though,this is the longest I've been single since I was 17 lol"I can totally understand that , I've been single for about 4 years now and to begin with I very much enjoyed my own company and time for myself , but I'm now at that stage where I know I'm ready for a relationship or regular company | |||
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"...I missed that unconditional support you get; you've had a shitty day and you're full on Aspie-ing and they just get it. And you... What is full on Aspie-ing? Ah. It's a term myself and Nell Gwynn (if you remember her?) use when we've had a stimuli overload/stressful day and we're close to an autistic meltdown/having one. It manifests itself in different ways. I guess it's like when anyone (neurotypical) has had too much and then cranked up to 11." Yes I remember her. Thank you for the info. | |||
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"Coming home to an empty house after a tough shit at work's toilet." I feel your pain. | |||
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"Someome to share moments and create memories with. Taking about everyday things or planning future trips. Cooking together, dancing, the sexual side..obvs!! Cuddles..kissing.......fucking hell I will go stick my head in the oven now . Good bye sweet world " This | |||
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"Loneliness. Even when surrounded by people who you know care but you just dont feel it quite the same" exactly | |||
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights" Basically being alone lol. | |||
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"I love being single, but there are some things I miss. I love the intimacy of being driven home after a night out, just the two of you in the car talking shit. It's a very particular type of intimacy. I miss waking up at 3am all tangled up in each other, and just relaxing back into sleep. I miss having in-jokes, just those stupid things that you both laugh at. Oh and of course, I miss having sex on a regular basis. I just don't want to trade all the things I love for the few things I miss." With you on this. Happy being single and don’t want to trade the things I love for the few things I miss. Watching television together. The old Netflix and chill. The cooking thing. Buying gifts for someone. Fab’s a funny old place x | |||
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights Basically being alone lol. " Haha you could say that | |||
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"Playfights and giggles over stupid shit ." Used to love this | |||
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"The cuddles and someone to make me feel better when things aren't great "I know all about that feeling | |||
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"Facing everything alone No one to hold you after a bad day or to celebrate with after a good one . I've been single 11 years now and it's incredibly lonely . I've accepted it but still hate it. " Big hugs from me!! | |||
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"I'll refrain from commenting lest I become somewhat meloncholic "Hugs! | |||
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"I really miss the cuddles,going to bed alone and waking up alone,going home to an empty house especially the long dark winter nights That's the biggest thing for me too, Lonliness is a real killer, and I know you don't have to be single to be lonely. But I'm very much single and lonely "Yes I remember esther rantzen doing a campaign on lonliness and she said the same thing lonliness is or can be a real killer depending on the Individual themselves November Is my worst month christmas and after the celebrations It feels better and Its soon getting light again give it a month or so.. | |||
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"Having no one to go to the cinema with "+1 I even met someone off fab and we briefly were cinema buddies no sex involved x | |||
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" being single but after a tough few days I could really do with a cuddle, a chat and some company with a bit of unconditional caring thrown in too " Exactly this for me too | |||
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Hugs! "Thank you xx | |||
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"I need to stop reading this thread, it’s actually making me worse. Hugs to you all x"It’s making me throw up 
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"Facing everything alone No one to hold you after a bad day or to celebrate with after a good one . I've been single 11 years now and it's incredibly lonely . I've accepted it but still hate it. " Same here. Single for 10 years now. You get used to it even if you don't want to. | |||
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"I also miss those gentle, tender kisses on your forehead that make you feel loved and cared for . " Reading all these is making me miss it all even more, I love this | |||
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