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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?

Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fella - 1995.

Filly- when a cute dog walked past this morning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This morning because I felt everything was getting on top of me.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?

Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?

"

I cry a lot I guess for a guy, guess it's the pisces coming out.

S

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

My eyes don’t drain properly so there’s always a risk when I lie down but I lost a close friend recently and I’m not afraid to admit I shed a tear.

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"This morning because I felt everything was getting on top of me. "

Hope you are feeling betterer now

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"

I cry a lot I guess for a guy, guess it's the pisces coming out.

S"

Do fish cry?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Big hugs to the men above and any who comment later that need one .

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

I cry at sad things in films and tv. Must get too involved lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry...it seems to be a new release I ve developed after having total meltdown..and to be fair I find it a new and great part of me

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?

Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?

I cry a lot I guess for a guy, guess it's the pisces coming out.

S"

Water sign

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I cry at sad things in films and tv. Must get too involved lol"

Just shows empathy in my opinion .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few month ago when everything came crashing down.

Lost over a stone in 2 weeks due to not eating, drank very heavily, surviving on an hour or 2 sleep a night, getting out of bed was an absolute job in itself

But, I'm back stronger than ever thanks to a few good friends and family

(Arm pump emoji)

Anyone else on the low side of life, just remember you dont have to go at it alone

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Can empathise, Fabrahah. Hope things are improving.

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"My eyes don’t drain properly so there’s always a risk when I lie down but I lost a close friend recently and I’m not afraid to admit I shed a tear. "

That's totally understandable, hope you can remember the good times

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"I cry...it seems to be a new release I ve developed after having total meltdown..and to be fair I find it a new and great part of me "

probably the same for me, Heartless b'stard one minute then blubbering idiot the next. not sure when & where it happened originally but my 2nd divorce probably kicked it into hyperdrive.

I cried for days when she died of an embolism last year as we'd made up 15yrs down the road & were chatty on FB about our new families although we'd decided not to meet.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can empathise, Fabrahah. Hope things are improving. "

Thank you. Everything is great now.

I turn my problems into my bitch

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By *hisCharManMan
over a year ago

South Manchester

When I had to take my last rescue dog to the vets for the last time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I had to take my last rescue dog to the vets for the last time. "

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.

I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

A couple of weeks ago, a certain song came on the radio and just brought back a lot of memories and pain.

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

When I had been a colossal douche nozzle.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Real men cry

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Real men cry

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Absolutely

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Real men cry

Absolutely "

x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

About 3 weeks ago. Stuff was crap, not sure if it helped but it came out

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.

I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back "

That's wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to a couple of funerals recently, seeing my Dad shed a tear set me off.

Other than that I can get a bit overwhelmed with people's kindness. Either in my own life or stuff I see on tv.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.

I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Jack my other half is much more openly emotional than i am,cries when he feels things.

I think its much healthier than bottling everything up until you get to melt down stage.

I rarely cry ,but had some bad news today which brought me to tears.

Mental health is something we should all be able to discuss ,make or female,with no shame or stigma.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.

I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis."

Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...

I'm not crying, you're crying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry...it seems to be a new release I ve developed after having total meltdown..and to be fair I find it a new and great part of me

probably the same for me, Heartless b'stard one minute then blubbering idiot the next. not sure when & where it happened originally but my 2nd divorce probably kicked it into hyperdrive.

I cried for days when she died of an embolism last year as we'd made up 15yrs down the road & were chatty on FB about our new families although we'd decided not to meet.

S

"

Man, wish you well and look after yourself eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Driving through to Edinburgh at 5am last Friday listing to run- snow patrol, not a full on blabber now, just the slight wobble lip and watery eyes till I recompose myself hahah then continue to belt out the song haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.

I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back

That's wonderful "

BEAUTIFUL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my lovely old cat a month ago. He was 19 so a good innings, but hell I miss the old fella.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.

I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.

Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...

I'm not crying, you're crying. "

He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.

The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.

I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.

Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...

I'm not crying, you're crying.

He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.

The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like "

Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.

I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.

Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...

I'm not crying, you're crying.

He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.

The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like

Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep "

I was literally sobbing uncontrollably A beautiful and highly underrated soundtrack by Phil Collins to (which made me bawl even more)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a good emotional release to cry.

Everyone should do it from time to time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.

I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.

Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...

I'm not crying, you're crying.

He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.

The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like

Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep

I was literally sobbing uncontrollably A beautiful and highly underrated soundtrack by Phil Collins to (which made me bawl even more) "

100% Phil Colin’s does fantastic and honestly think I will play some later now, maybe have the sad tissues near by haha

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Last week I think when my girlfriend was in terrific pain and I couldn't do anything to help her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Fella - 1995.

Filly- when a cute dog walked past this morning. "

Fella here. Just want to say. I do feel sad over things it’s just that I don’t cry. Not sure why. Even losing people doesn’t set me off. It’s just not my make up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fuckin cried like a tit at my mates wedding in Portugal. Everyone was really shocked as they didn't think I was the type. I was just so happy for them though...aww fuck here I go again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when I had to take my first cat to the vets with liver failure and watching him convulse and fck all I could do to help the little sod

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 time back in the summer since i was 10

I gained nothing from it apart from a blocked nose and still dealt miserable so wont be doing again

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Real men cry

"

They do, but not all men can.

People are made up differently, no right or wrong

Thanks to all for sharing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't cry I am a woman trapped in a man's body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

"

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Today.

Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.

Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.

She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day.

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By *actilemale4uMan
over a year ago

London

At my mums funeral... Bucketloads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only get something irritating my eyes when I watch Disney movies.

I watched the film, Up again recently for instance and developed an immediate case of er.....conjunctivitis.

Pixar films are awful, the bit in toy story 3 when they all think they're going to die...

I'm not crying, you're crying.

He he - Although not Pixar in this instance, I also watched Disney’s Tarzan again recently.

The bit where the mother gorilla starts to cry at losing the titular character to the human world.....well, put it this way.....if you’ve ever seen Angel Falls, you’ll have a pretty good image of what I looked like

Even reading your comment and replying that scene in my head in Tarzan it still cuts deep "

You'll be in my heart was played at my mams funeral.

Can't listen to it without crying.

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Today.

Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.

Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.

She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day. "

Hug of support to thee

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Today.

Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.

Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.

She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am starting to cry right at this moment so I can post about it in this thread.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friday when I kicked the coffee table

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Friday when I kicked the coffee table"

That shit hurts!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again."

Jesus I'm so sorry. I hope you're doing better now you've cut ties.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again.

Jesus I'm so sorry. I hope you're doing better now you've cut ties."

It was such a long time ago. It's really hard hating someone you should love but by doing so I was able to breakaway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About a week ago for literally no apparent reason but then theres always a reason (for me anyway) it will never leave me and could start me off at any given point.

Another pisces btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again."

I genuinely feel for you pal.

I let is let the right word? My dad bully and mentally abuse me until he passed away last year. Is it wrong to say that I felt relieved when he died?

I'm finally starting to live my life for the first time at 46 and have actually felt happy for the first time since I was a kid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About an hour ago for me and it’s a regular thing for me to do. Can be from the slightest of a smell to hearing certain songs on radio tv and it has me in a mess

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again.

I genuinely feel for you pal.

I let is let the right word? My dad bully and mentally abuse me until he passed away last year. Is it wrong to say that I felt relieved when he died?

I'm finally starting to live my life for the first time at 46 and have actually felt happy for the first time since I was a kid. "

It's so hard when it's a parent that does these things. And it's so sad that it only stops when they are removed from your life. Great that you're happy now.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Worst i've been was when I had a complete meltdown when they told us our beautiful 2 1/2yr old daughter had cancer but we both just bottled it up while she was undergoing treatment for eighteen months as we needed to be there for her.

She lost a kidney & a few bits inside are not quite complete but she's twelve now & I still stand at her bedroom door while shes sleeping & well up a bit.So does H.

Thing is it's never over now, a knock, a tummy pain, a mark on her skin, whatever. GOSH have said that for those having that certain cancer while survival rates are high, relapses are quite common & historical evidence shows patients are more susceptible to over forms of C, therefore she will be under GOSH's care for the rest of her life & we are due back there in March for her full service as we now call it.

Life's just shit sometimes & great some others..

S

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.

I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.

I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.

"

It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Worst i've been was when I had a complete meltdown when they told us our beautiful 2 1/2yr old daughter had cancer but we both just bottled it up while she was undergoing treatment for eighteen months as we needed to be there for her.

She lost a kidney & a few bits inside are not quite complete but she's twelve now & I still stand at her bedroom door while shes sleeping & well up a bit.So does H.

Thing is it's never over now, a knock, a tummy pain, a mark on her skin, whatever. GOSH have said that for those having that certain cancer while survival rates are high, relapses are quite common & historical evidence shows patients are more susceptible to over forms of C, therefore she will be under GOSH's care for the rest of her life & we are due back there in March for her full service as we now call it.

Life's just shit sometimes & great some others..

S"

Thank god she has you both, I truly hope theres good news in March, from one Parent to another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 years ago when I had to put my pet cat to sleep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I'd driven over 500 miles to pick my farther up and punched me in the face; it didn't really hurt but it made me cry because I was frustrated and angry that at 26 he was still able to bully and abuse me. I took him home and never saw him ever again.

I genuinely feel for you pal.

I let is let the right word? My dad bully and mentally abuse me until he passed away last year. Is it wrong to say that I felt relieved when he died?

I'm finally starting to live my life for the first time at 46 and have actually felt happy for the first time since I was a kid.

It's so hard when it's a parent that does these things. And it's so sad that it only stops when they are removed from your life. Great that you're happy now."

Wish I'd had courage to break away like you did but I had to be there for my mam. I broke away for a while after she passed away but ended up my dad's carer for the last 2 and a half years until he passed as he would let no one else look after him. When I think about it now it was just another way for him to control me,but what's done is done and I'm moving forward.

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By *eturningcplCouple
over a year ago

felixstowe

Yep, I (Mr) did have a few tears in the last couple of weeks, a very close friend had a misscarriage and it hit me hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.

I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.

It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things "

There are 3 songs that i can not listen to exept for one day a year when i usually put them on repeat, one of them was playing in the background when my son was born sleeping and the other 2 we picked for his funeral.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Worst i've been was when I had a complete meltdown when they told us our beautiful 2 1/2yr old daughter had cancer but we both just bottled it up while she was undergoing treatment for eighteen months as we needed to be there for her.

She lost a kidney & a few bits inside are not quite complete but she's twelve now & I still stand at her bedroom door while shes sleeping & well up a bit.So does H.

Thing is it's never over now, a knock, a tummy pain, a mark on her skin, whatever. GOSH have said that for those having that certain cancer while survival rates are high, relapses are quite common & historical evidence shows patients are more susceptible to over forms of C, therefore she will be under GOSH's care for the rest of her life & we are due back there in March for her full service as we now call it.

Life's just shit sometimes & great some others..

S

Thank god she has you both, I truly hope theres good news in March, from one Parent to another "

xx

Thank You

S

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion."

Buts the trivial things like tv, movie and music that trigger the emotions connected to said "darn good reason"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.

I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.

"

Agreed. I think we all cope in different ways, but I hope men and boys are learning that letting their emotions out is OK if they need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.

I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.

It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things

There are 3 songs that i can not listen to exept for one day a year when i usually put them on repeat, one of them was playing in the background when my son was born sleeping and the other 2 we picked for his funeral."

That’s similar to me 3 for sons who sadly passed and then me mam and dads funeral songs just hit me hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few month ago when everything came crashing down.

Lost over a stone in 2 weeks due to not eating, drank very heavily, surviving on an hour or 2 sleep a night, getting out of bed was an absolute job in itself

But, I'm back stronger than ever thanks to a few good friends and family

(Arm pump emoji)

Anyone else on the low side of life, just remember you dont have to go at it alone"

Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Crying is nothing to be ashamed of. I think it's definitely healthier to let it out than bottle it up.

I get how certain songs or smells can be triggers, there are a couple of songs I can only just about bear to hear now, years after the events the remind me of.

It is healthier to let it out than to bottle it all up I learnt the hard way with that and didn’t do me any good at all. Ah some songs I hear know just getting me in a tearful state and have to switch off to out the ear of it can be a bit of nightmare at times but just one of those things

There are 3 songs that i can not listen to exept for one day a year when i usually put them on repeat, one of them was playing in the background when my son was born sleeping and the other 2 we picked for his funeral.

That’s similar to me 3 for sons who sadly passed and then me mam and dads funeral songs just hit me hard "

Music is the one single optional thing that i cant live without, it just stirs emotions good or bad and can pull you into or out of some seriously dark places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some insightful comments on here boy's xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say every night but the tears have dried up life can't throw much else at me I hope.

Feeling very low indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

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Of course they do. They just cry alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right i said to 1 person earlier, but i'm going to say to every single person on this thread and i fucking mean it!

If any of you male/female/other feel you need to talk to someone anyone even if its just to shout and rant.

My inbox is always open x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

Of course they do. They just cry alone."

Not always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in tune with my emotions, so will regularly shed a tear or 3. Nature of my job I guess too.

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

November 19th is International Men's Day

Men have a suicide rate 3 times higher than women.

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1 in 3 men have been the victims of domestic violence.

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Men on average die 4-5 years before women.

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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from lung cancer than women.

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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from heart disease than women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

Of course they do. They just cry alone.

Not always"

True. I have been known to release a tear as I did recently at the funeral of one of my very few friends. In my adult life I have only cried uncontrollably at the death of my dog, and my child.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"November 19th is International Men's Day

Men have a suicide rate 3 times higher than women.

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1 in 3 men have been the victims of domestic violence.

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Men on average die 4-5 years before women.

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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from lung cancer than women.

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Men are nearly twice as likely to suffer from heart disease than women. "

Men are 99% more likely not to get a reply on fab

Sorry couldnt resist

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.

Buts the trivial things like tv, movie and music that trigger the emotions connected to said "darn good reason""

It's one thing to have any of these associated with something you have strong feelings about triggering that reaction in you. For example if it was the favourite song or movie of a dearly departed friend or loved one. It's another thing entirely to cry on a constant basis when presented with emotionally charged lyrics, entertainment or anything that doesn't directly impact your livelyhood.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I cry regularly and I’ll freely admit it.

I cried last Sunday - just from feeling a bit sad and lonely really. I’d plucked up the courage to give my number to someone I liked a couple of nights before and didn’t hear back.

I fully realise that pails into insignificance given some of the reasons men have cried on here

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I would say every night but the tears have dried up life can't throw much else at me I hope.

Feeling very low indeed"

So sorry to hear that.

Hug of support to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually I’m more likely to cry at something good, like someone achieving their goal they’ve worked really hard for.

But a few weeks ago the dog fell ill very quickly out of the blue and he had to be put to sleep. He was my best friend and it broke my heart. Sobbed for hours that night.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.

Buts the trivial things like tv, movie and music that trigger the emotions connected to said "darn good reason"

It's one thing to have any of these associated with something you have strong feelings about triggering that reaction in you. For example if it was the favourite song or movie of a dearly departed friend or loved one. It's another thing entirely to cry on a constant basis when presented with emotionally charged lyrics, entertainment or anything that doesn't directly impact your livelyhood. "

Thats a fair assement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I cry regularly and I’ll freely admit it.

I cried last Sunday - just from feeling a bit sad and lonely really. I’d plucked up the courage to give my number to someone I liked a couple of nights before and didn’t hear back.

I fully realise that pails into insignificance given some of the reasons men have cried on here "

Nope we all have a threshold

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When merlin died in kingsman 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the weekend when I was clearing out some cupboards which had personal effects of my late wife in it

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion."

You're entitled to your opinion of course.

I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".

The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.

There's no right or wrong way to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.

You're entitled to your opinion of course.

I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".

The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.

There's no right or wrong way to be.

"

No, but when you have a lot of people depending on you, you can't be their rock if you are seen to crumble too often.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.

You're entitled to your opinion of course.

I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".

The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.

There's no right or wrong way to be.

"

I didn't say there was. But when someone often cries over trivial matters it is what it is; a lack of emotional control.

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By *abonWoman
over a year ago

L’boro/Ashby & Cheltenham


"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.

I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back "

We do ‘happy tears’ a LOT in my family! My kids love it when they make me do them!! Show him how much he moved you...he might just feel how powerful his love is xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Certain films usually get me blubbing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.

You're entitled to your opinion of course.

I think it's interesting you feel people should be "in control of their feelings".

The world isn't going to end because you've shed a tear over something "trivial"that moves you.

There's no right or wrong way to be.

No, but when you have a lot of people depending on you, you can't be their rock if you are seen to crumble too often."

I can cry and in no way am I crumbling. It is controlled and can be seen as a release of a tap. Generally those who try to control it by not doing it are the ones that crumble as the dam breaks in my experience, often unable to handle it when it happens and can lead to exposure of other issues they were never aware of.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion."

I'm buggered then . I cry over everything. Films, songs, weddings, adverts, sad stories, other people crying, etc. I inherited it from my mum!

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"I must be atypical. I am an empathetic person but rarely do I actually cry and it takes an extreme set of circumstances to cause this. I keep hearing this talk that men need to be in touch with their inner feelings and cry more. Perhaps, but if you do this on a regular basis and over trivial things like a movie, tv program or song, that's not being in touch with your feelings, it's having little control over them. If you're going to cry, it should be for a darn good reason. Just my opinion.

I'm buggered then . I cry over everything. Films, songs, weddings, adverts, sad stories, other people crying, etc. I inherited it from my mum! "

Apples never fall far from the tree

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"My son (he's 6) just out of the blue told me how much he 'loves me so much' (his words) I get maudlin about the unfairness of my situation with them. So to get that affirmation from such a young mind, well I had to nip in a room on myself due to the tears. He'd think I was feeling sad, quite a mix of emotions.

I hold myself together for them, so occasionally it pays me back

We do ‘happy tears’ a LOT in my family! My kids love it when they make me do them!! Show him how much he moved you...he might just feel how powerful his love is xx"

As I only have them at the weekend, I don't want them going back to their Mother saying Daddy was crying. It's a balancing act as they're both Autistic so known to drop me in it at times

I agree with happy tears though

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Lost my Mum and met a Brother I hadn’t seen for 20 years the day before the funeral.

I felt I had let him down and cried like a baby when he said he had nothing but love for me.

0 fucks given it was a massive weight off my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel like as I've gotten older, my emotions and feelings have become stronger. And my ability to hold tears back has weakened.

In saying that, apart from family funerals etc I've not actually broken down and cried in a long long time. A part of me wants to just let it happen, but then the other part tells me to just bottle it up.

Is this something anyone else has noticed?

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I'm getting worse as I get older too, and will well up at all kinds of things - sad films, songs and the like. Even seeing someone on TV crying has been known to set me off.

And things like the Remembrance Service, where the older I get the more poignant it gets

However, I think a lot of that is symptomatic of some long repressed emotions, and things and people I haven't grieved for properly

Ladt real tears were recent, too. A relationship has ended, where I think we both started out thinking it might be The One, but I screwed it up

We said goodbye exactly a week ago, and that hurt.

And not just because I couldn't eat for 5 days....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching Meet Joe Black last week.

Often last to leave the cinema as it takes me a while to compose myself, last two times being A Star Is Born and La La Land.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last night watching pride of Britain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That film used to give me large lumps in the old throat.

I dont think I could hack watching it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a reason why three quarters of suicides in the UK last year were men. And I personally believe a huge part of that is the societal narrative around it not being OK for men to express their feelings. Little boys are generally told to “be strong, don’t cry”; little girls are cuddled and shown sympathy (I accept this is a huge generalisation and there will be exceptions). Hence men are more likely than women to try and cope alone and not show emotion. Men’s mental health should be spoken about more in my view. It really is OK to not be OK and to have a good cry, regardless of your gender

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worst phrase ever "man up!"

Bullshit!!!! Everyone needs to release, crying isnt a weakness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worst phrase ever "man up!"

Bullshit!!!! Everyone needs to release, crying isnt a weakness."

agreed. Such a damaging phrase!

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Men will always have differing opinions on whether it’s right for them to cry or not, and that’s their entitlement

But there is no shame in having a cry, its not a weakness but a strength to be able to let your emotions out and better than keeping them bottled up and eat away at you.

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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago

Masked and Distant

I'm not ashamed to say I cry.

I cry at sad films, sad stories, when I'm explaining to someone why I'm proud of them.

I sobbed like a baby when visiting Tyne Cott WW1 cemetery.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks


"Men will always have differing opinions on whether it’s right for them to cry or not, and that’s their entitlement

But there is no shame in having a cry, its not a weakness but a strength to be able to let your emotions out and better than keeping them bottled up and eat away at you. "

It felt fucking brilliant for me. Almost like an epiphany. I lost all the hurt I carried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There’s a reason why three quarters of suicides in the UK last year were men. And I personally believe a huge part of that is the societal narrative around it not being OK for men to express their feelings. Little boys are generally told to “be strong, don’t cry”; little girls are cuddled and shown sympathy (I accept this is a huge generalisation and there will be exceptions). Hence men are more likely than women to try and cope alone and not show emotion. Men’s mental health should be spoken about more in my view. It really is OK to not be OK and to have a good cry, regardless of your gender "

What she said.

The mental health provisions in the UK are a disgrace. Just interested in filling people full of meds.

Needs to far more people out there to listen to guys and their problems. A problem shared and all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope nothing wrong with it actually have sat there tonight and had a cry yes feeling emotional etc and life stresses etc so I feel better for letting it go yes and with the help of a good charity it always calms me down etc

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…


"When merlin died in kingsman 2"

That was bloody sad indeed But he went out with great honour and whilst singing with pride

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Nope nothing wrong with it actually have sat there tonight and had a cry yes feeling emotional etc and life stresses etc so I feel better for letting it go yes and with the help of a good charity it always calms me down etc "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today.

Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.

Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.

She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day.

Hug of support to thee "

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Today.

Lost so many friends and family in the last few years it's unreal.

Lost my dad last year,lost friends to suicide and cancer but I cry for my mam the most, lost her 6 years ago after a 6 year battle with breast cancer.

She was the biggest loss I've ever suffered and miss her every single day.

"

Thank you.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

A few weeks ago, anniversary of my dad's passing

I usually have a stuff upper lip but sometimes I have to let it out

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By *ed1boxMan
over a year ago

Braintree

As I get older I find it more difficult to hold back the choking and tears, especially at family and friends funerals. However I recently watched my daughters graduation and for the first time ever started blubbering with tears of pride and joy. Sometimes tears are for good reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time

D

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By *ackooo69Man
over a year ago

South London

Someone obviously has never listen to The Cure haha

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"As I get older I find it more difficult to hold back the choking and tears, especially at family and friends funerals. However I recently watched my daughters graduation and for the first time ever started blubbering with tears of pride and joy. Sometimes tears are for good reasons "

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"

I sobbed like a baby when visiting Tyne Cott WW1 cemetery. "

I'm with you there & at the Menin Gate where we along with many many others have names listed.

Went once, cant bring myself to go again although I still do other sites & the tears still flow.

S

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?

Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?

"

When my Nan died 2015

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This morning because I felt everything was getting on top of me. "

in a good way I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?

Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?

"

last night...

this morning ...

everything going wrong at work ho hum

still on my day off what could go wrong?

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

When those stand up to cancer stories are on. Right blub sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been to a couple of funerals recently, seeing my Dad shed a tear set me off.

Other than that I can get a bit overwhelmed with people's kindness. Either in my own life or stuff I see on tv. "

I'm so glad it's not just me! I SO relate to that. I find myself weeping over video clips on Facebook.

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By *illingVicMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks

I cry at the drop of the hat. Last time “in public” was at a wedding (always happens), but frequently watching TV/films.

Hell, I cried watching Star Trek the other night.

And I’m not ashamed of it. I have a high EQ and it’s just part of me!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I'm a serial blubber and not ashamed to admit it - the silliest and simplest of things can set me off and get to me and make me watery eyed.

DIY SOS is guaranteed to, Toy Story 3 I sobbed like a baby for the last 15 minutes, Up for the first 15 minutes, John Lewis Xmas ads have got me in the past too.

The last time I can remember crying was at the episode of Corrie where Sinead passed away which was so beautifully scripted and acted you couldn't help but be touched by it.

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated"

This was sad to read. How can an expression of emotion be weak? How can processing pain - a really bloody tough thing to do - be weak?

I think there is immeasurable strength in owning your feelings and accepting your vulnerability.

The coward’s way out is to repress them and act out in “socially acceptable” and stereotypically “masculine” ways.

Sending hugs to all. X

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's interesting to see others say that more things make them cry as they get older. My mum said the same! I'm not sure if maybe the older you get the more sad experiences you have had to relate to. It does make me worry a little though that in 20 or 30 years I might be an hourly crier .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The older you get the more your emotional side does open up don’t know why it is but I’ve noticed more so the past few years things just get on top of you daily stress grief losing friends family members etc and a lot of things reminded me of them so the tears flow not afraid to open up my emotions where as go back 10/15 years I wasn’t the same used to hold a stiff lip about most things but know if need to cry or let go I just let it out doesn’t matter if that’s while I’m alone or when I’m out and about even this morning sat in van at work I’ve had a good cry

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By *otNewMan
over a year ago

Nearby

Hearing / seeing the Last Post being played always sets me off. Weird as I've never been in the services...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid stuff will set me off...

The Iron Giant. Its a cartoon for crying out loud. I'd have to watch it in the dark in case the kids saw me welling up...

The last post as well... And if I go to any sort of military museum I have to be careful....

Some music will bring me to tears...

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Hearing / seeing the Last Post being played always sets me off. Weird as I've never been in the services..."

Not only The Last Post but Nimrod always gets me right in the feels and the wet eyes are never far behind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

November the 4th, birthday of a relative which cancer took to early a couple of years back, sorely missed and always brings a tear to my eye when i think back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated

This was sad to read. How can an expression of emotion be weak? How can processing pain - a really bloody tough thing to do - be weak?

I think there is immeasurable strength in owning your feelings and accepting your vulnerability.

The coward’s way out is to repress them and act out in “socially acceptable” and stereotypically “masculine” ways.

Sending hugs to all. X"
explain how crying helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

July 23rd 2019 when my boxer had a brain tumour and just switched off mentally. Wasn’t the same dog I put down that I pulled out his mum 9 years previously

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated

This was sad to read. How can an expression of emotion be weak? How can processing pain - a really bloody tough thing to do - be weak?

I think there is immeasurable strength in owning your feelings and accepting your vulnerability.

The coward’s way out is to repress them and act out in “socially acceptable” and stereotypically “masculine” ways.

Sending hugs to all. X

explain how crying helps"

It's one way of letting emotions out that's how - of showing you're vulnerable at a given moment. For what it's worth I disagree that suppressing tears is cowardly, but I also don't think that shedding them is a sign of weakness in any way shape or form - we all express and deal with our feelings and emotions in different ways - some of us cry, some get angry, some bottle them up until they pass or burst out spectacularly - but there is nothing wrong at all with showing your emotions and if that means having a good sob then so be it.

I've already said that emotive things on TV or in films can trigger me, it doesn't mean I am out of control of my emotions, not in the slightest, and even if I were in those instances would it really matter? Is it any different from laughing at a comedy, or being gripped by a thriller, or feeling sad due to a death of a good character? Not at all it's just another emotion same as the others.

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over a year ago

My moms birthday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated"

So my mum dying out the blue 7 years ago and me crying is weakness.

Or my daughter trying to commit suicide 5 times within the space of a month and then having to have her sectioned was also weakness when I cried?

Utter fucking bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes cry not often. Times a tough recently and something a cry is all you can do. Always got told when growing up men don't cry. But that's shit. Real men do cry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry every Saturday at either strictly or X factor but I'm still cool and hot

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

I don't often but watched 'Marley and me' the other week and the ending brought back memories of losing dogs I've had over the years and my eyes started pouring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated"

Fuck me. Do people really hold these views in this day and age??

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated"

WOW!

You just quoted my ex verbatim

Hearing him tell my sons to stop crying, don't be a sissy, man up, stop being weak, pathetic, men don't cry.

Well, yes they do.

I don't want them growing up emotionally repressed & stunted like him.

Real men do cry, and they're not afraid to show their emotions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DIY SOS always gets me

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By *illingVicMan
over a year ago

Sevenoaks


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated

Fuck me. Do people really hold these views in this day and age?? "

I’d love to be able to hate on this too, but it’s so inextricably linked with the upbringing of many men that you can’t really blame the guy for having this opinion. It’s a tough cycle to break - and it needs to come from the sensitive types and the single-mum families. Get rid of the macho BS

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By *antra MassageMan
over a year ago

Wicklow

I can cry easily as I'm soft hearted. They can be tears of joy or sadness. Some years ago I was working in a very difficult place, so I used to bring on a good cry every night, listening to Chris Rea, Tell me There's a Heaven. It worked and I always felt better after it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated

Fuck me. Do people really hold these views in this day and age??

I’d love to be able to hate on this too, but it’s so inextricably linked with the upbringing of many men that you can’t really blame the guy for having this opinion. It’s a tough cycle to break - and it needs to come from the sensitive types and the single-mum families. Get rid of the macho BS"

Perfectly put. Used to try and suppress my feelings and stop crying and if anything made me even unhappier. Now I tear up if I see my son happy lol and my life is so much better.

As for the person who thinks it's a sign of weakness - it is brave to show your emotions boss, put on the rugrats movie get a box of tissues and let it all out my friend

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By *innie The Minx OP   Woman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Real men cry

Wrong its a moment of weakness that should rarely if ever be repeated

Fuck me. Do people really hold these views in this day and age??

I’d love to be able to hate on this too, but it’s so inextricably linked with the upbringing of many men that you can’t really blame the guy for having this opinion. It’s a tough cycle to break - and it needs to come from the sensitive types and the single-mum families. Get rid of the macho BS"

Agree,it must be hard if your upbringing has been "boys dont cry".

Here's hoping future generations will be more emotionally open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cry quite often it's a learned response to release my pent up emotions caused by my autism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?

Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?

"

The last time I cried was when my old dog died, cried bucket loads and still get tearful sometimes when I think of her. Miss her a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taking my dog to the vet to die. It was a kindness but I wept. And when the woman I loved the most called it a day. Seeing her tomorrow for a catch up so today I'm smiling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another phrase I hate, along with "man up" is "they're just animals/just pets". It's absolute bullshit. They get to us every bit as much as people, I believe sometimes even more. Grief for someone you've lost isn't any easier if that someone wasn't a human.

Crying isn't weak, it's a release that can be very beneficial. Crying at emotional films is recognised as a form of therapy. What do you think opera is for? It's to give us an opportunity to release the pain that life is full of. You may choose to do it in private but never ever feel ashamed of it.

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By *haremoreMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Men of Fab, when was the last time you had a blub and why?

Did you feel better for it? Or are you the "stiff upper lip" type of a hombre?

"

When a certain female fabber pulled and twisted my nips

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