FabSwingers.com forum: Gay guys messaging Straight guys... why?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why???

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Hedge betting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block them, problem solved

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"Block them, problem solved"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just incase you are desperate enough to be swayed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're verified by TV/TS.

Was that a coffee meet?

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"Block them, problem solved"

Sometimes the simplest advice ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From our experience most "bi" guys have straight profiles so he might get lucky somewhere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind if it's for friendship.....

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Yes the crossdressing in your interests and being verified by a Tgirl, could indicate another side to your'straight' status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes the crossdressing in your interests and being verified by a Tgirl, could indicate another side to your'straight' status

Crossdressing does not make someone gay or bisexual.

Meeting a tv/ts also does not make them gay or bisexual. People meet for socials or they have friends they don't have sex with.

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By *modDMan
over a year ago

Lichfield

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? "

Don’t fall for it, they’ve probably just a puncture and they want you to change their tyre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they might be a cross dresser or TV but messaging you in male mode....

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Cause you're a challenge!!!!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

#fabstraight

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Yes the crossdressing in your interests and being verified by a Tgirl, could indicate another side to your'straight' status

Crossdressing does not make someone gay or bisexual.

Meeting a tv/ts also does not make them gay or bisexual. People meet for socials or they have friends they don't have sex with.

Thanks Mavis ...reread I wrote 'could indicate' it wasn't a statement of fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes the crossdressing in your interests and being verified by a Tgirl, could indicate another side to your'straight' status

Crossdressing does not make someone gay or bisexual.

Meeting a tv/ts also does not make them gay or bisexual. People meet for socials or they have friends they don't have sex with.

Thanks Mavis ...reread I wrote 'could indicate' it wasn't a statement of fact."

that'swhy I asked OP if it was a coffee meet but I didn't get a reply..

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By *ancadamMan
over a year ago

Stockport

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? "
because it seems you Shag men dressed as women.duh.or they shagged you. Take it all as a compliment

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? because it seems you Shag men dressed as women.duh.or they shagged you. Take it all as a compliment

Rumbled

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By *orenzoVonMatterhornMan
over a year ago

Lincoln

Because guys don't. Read. Profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because guys don't. Read. Profiles.

You’re kidding?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men lie about being straight. Some are in denial. Some gay men see 'turning' a previously straight man as the ultimate prize.

Some men mail anyone online, doesn't matter what the person is looking for. Even if the person isn't looking for men, they mail anyway because it doesn't matter to them what the other person wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Various reasons in my eyes, in no particular order:

1) so many ‘straight’ men lust after TV on here that gay/ bi men see them as open to gay sex

2) so many gay/ bi men are lying on here and putting their sexualities as straight, that other gay/ bi men are simply trying to identify them for sex

3) some gay/ bi men like the fantasy or challenge of converting, I think they are an extreme embarrassment to gay/ bi men and unfair on genuine straight men, it is deluded

4) some gay/ bi men only like strong masculinity and by hoping they can get a straight man to play they are getting that want fulfilled. However there are plenty of masculine gay/ bi men around though

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By *ux19Man
over a year ago

Essex

"Because guys don't. Read. Profiles.

You’re kidding?!

Oops, busted guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You're verified by TV/TS.

Was that a coffee meet?"

I actually know her in person, we use to work together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're verified by TV/TS.

Was that a coffee meet?

I actually know her in person, we use to work together

Then publish the veri, no wonder other men are messaging you, it has been left open to interpretation. Some women may be put off too and not realise it was a social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're verified by TV/TS.

Was that a coffee meet?

I actually know her in person, we use to work together

Then publish the veri, no wonder other men are messaging you, it has been left open to interpretation. Some women may be put off too and not realise it was a social

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to PM me, OP.

You can explain yourself here in the thread

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I can't watch anymore

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No need to PM me, OP.

You can explain yourself here in the thread

Fair enough, as I mentioned trans women are women, to me. Any gay men are men. But because they have put TS/TV in the same category, that can certainly be open for interpretation.

But yeh the girl who verified me, we use to work together, saw her on here and asked if she could verify me because I wasn’t able to anything else on this site.

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By *eedsSpoonMan
over a year ago

Leeds

If gay guys want to message me that's absolutely fine. I'm not not gay/bi/bi-curious but I'm absolutely happy to chat with anyone. We might have something in common, I like most sports. I'm fairly certain gay men and women also like sports.

Just relax and take the compliment for what it is.

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"No need to PM me, OP.

You can explain yourself here in the thread

Fair enough, as I mentioned trans women are women, to me. Any gay men are men. But because they have put TS/TV in the same category, that can certainly be open for interpretation.

But yeh the girl who verified me, we use to work together, saw her on here and asked if she could verify me because I wasn’t able to anything else on this site. "

Then why the post trying to name and shame other people?

Poor form lad

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"Yes the crossdressing in your interests and being verified by a Tgirl, could indicate another side to your'straight' status

Crossdressing does not make someone gay or bisexual.

Meeting a tv/ts also does not make them gay or bisexual. People meet for socials or they have friends they don't have sex with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No need to PM me, OP.

You can explain yourself here in the thread

Fair enough, as I mentioned trans women are women, to me. Any gay men are men. But because they have put TS/TV in the same category, that can certainly be open for interpretation.

But yeh the girl who verified me, we use to work together, saw her on here and asked if she could verify me because I wasn’t able to anything else on this site.

Then why the post trying to name and shame other people?

Poor form lad"

I’m not interested in Gay men, All I get it guys requesting to suck me off discreetly, it’s annoying. I have gay friends, I’ve experimented, it isn’t for me. I’m here to meet women. It’s frustrating, that is all.

How is it bad form to discuss something like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No need to PM me, OP.

You can explain yourself here in the thread

Fair enough, as I mentioned trans women are women, to me. Any gay men are men. But because they have put TS/TV in the same category, that can certainly be open for interpretation.

But yeh the girl who verified me, we use to work together, saw her on here and asked if she could verify me because I wasn’t able to anything else on this site. "

Then make it clear on your profile. Trans women are women. Gay men are gay men. But you have left out your thoughts on bi men and transvestites and cross-dressers....maybe clear that up too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are not complaining about bi men offering to suck you off, just gays. I doubt it is JUST gay men, bi must be doing it too but no complaints there??? Again mixed messages coming out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easiest solution is to block messages from single guys/MM couples or block on an individual basis as/when/if messaged by somebody you aren't interested in.

Trouble is, there are a hell of a lot of "straight" blokes on here that, well, aren't that straight, actually...

You do partially have them to thank for the inconvenience and I also think the site is deliberately a bit ambiguous with its filters... The most robust way of avoiding it is to block messages from guys altogether but then that can be a bit limiting if you do in fact meet other guys in terms of mmf and gangbangs and the likes...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the message filters Fab has provided you with. End of problem.

We have plenty of straight friends on here that we meet socially. Just because we are bi and Abby is a TV doesn’t make them anything else but straight so I get where the OP is coming from with his explanation of his veri from a TV. However, listing cross dressing as an interest is more unusual on a straight profile and might explain why men are messaging.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Because guys don't. Read. Profiles.

Very true

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

"Yes the crossdressing in your interests and being verified by a Tgirl, could indicate another side to your'straight' status

Crossdressing does not make someone gay or bisexual.

Meeting a tv/ts also does not make them gay or bisexual. People meet for socials or they have friends they don't have sex with.

It does only in the eyes of the law they are "women"

If they've had a cock and you fuck them that makes you gay.

Pure and simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? "
its your avatar your cocks bent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? its your avatar your cocks bent

Hahahah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh"

From what I can see of your face and your stats I think you are MORE THAN safe from gays/ bi

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The same reason anyone messages anyone outside their preferences. They think it's worth taking a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? "

We get straight guys wanting us to turn them BI...

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh"

Turd burglars

You do know a lot of gay/bi guys don't like anal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm never gonna enjoy receiving anal if these 'turd burgalar' terminology keeps popping up!

Regards

Miss

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh

Turd burglars

You do know a lot of gay/bi guys don't like anal."

And even if they do, the homophobia is pretty gross.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh

Turd burglars

You do know a lot of gay/bi guys don't like anal.

And even if they do, the homophobia is pretty gross. "

Very.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No need to PM me, OP.

You can explain yourself here in the thread

Fair enough, as I mentioned trans women are women, to me. Any gay men are men. But because they have put TS/TV in the same category, that can certainly be open for interpretation.

But yeh the girl who verified me, we use to work together, saw her on here and asked if she could verify me because I wasn’t able to anything else on this site. "

..... and my god she's stunning x

If the lovely lady is reading this thread, would you please look at our profile... Thank you x

Regards

Miss x

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By *r Man.Man
over a year ago

London

If I was gay I'd message me

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By *ing_Wookie_RodeoMan
over a year ago

stockport wasteland

If you get messaged by anyone consider it a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really feel these threads are attention seeking, as it is so easy just to put a filter on

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

"No thanks"

Press send

Fixed.

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By *utchersDogMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Because for some guys any hole is a goal and what happens in the glory hole stays in the glory hole..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there's 20 straight (fab straight) guys for every female / couple meet that's 19 missing out.

Maybe they think at least a few of those 19 may not be to bothered about who is sucking their dick as long as it's getting sucked.

I've meet a few gay men whose only interest is straight men or breeders as I've heard straight guys been called.

KJ x

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By *unshine05Man
over a year ago

Sherborne

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh

Turd burglars

You do know a lot of gay/bi guys don't like anal.

And even if they do, the homophobia is pretty gross. "

I'm not afraid of my house so can't be homophobic.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I really feel these threads are attention seeking, as it is so easy just to put a filter on

Yes xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh

Turd burglars

You do know a lot of gay/bi guys don't like anal.

And even if they do, the homophobia is pretty gross. "

Shockingly so!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh

Turd burglars

You do know a lot of gay/bi guys don't like anal.

And even if they do, the homophobia is pretty gross.

I'm not afraid of my house so can't be homophobic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They want to have discreet fun I guess but I may mistaken myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Problem is if a guy messages a lesbian all hell breaks loose.

But when you get the turd burglars messaging straight guys,

Hoping they are fab straight it's fine.

Little bit of double standards tbh

Turd burglars

You do know a lot of gay/bi guys don't like anal.

And even if they do, the homophobia is pretty gross.

I'm not afraid of my house so can't be homophobic.

No you are just a twat

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? "

Join the club buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block men from messaging then

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Well for one straight of FAB doesn't necessarily mean straight on fab and people tend to like to try their luck just on the off chance.

I have had the occasional message off men making advances. No good to me as I am straight but some of the quality of the open messages I get it's a wonder how some guys get any cock?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was the first block I put on as soon as I joined and despite it being written all over my profile that im straight and not interested in TV ts gays men in general I still get as many views from gay men as from women. Is this site being taken over by them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? "

Have you heard the saying, any hole is a goal!

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Jeeez

First world problems

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

Despite being advised several times that the solution to your issue is 'just block single men' you have not done so.

That only suggests you want the attention from men and like it. The solution is easy enough to do, so why not just block men?

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Welcome to the world of fab straight

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By *he riverdeep69Couple
over a year ago

North west ish

"Despite being advised several times that the solution to your issue is 'just block single men' you have not done so.

That only suggests you want the attention from men and like it. The solution is easy enough to do, so why not just block men? "

And in answer to your OP ask the men who message you why. They are not blocked and only they know the reason why they have sent a message to a 'straight' man.

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

The same reason straight guys message bi couples.. to TRY THEIR LUCK.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gay and bi men message straight men because many of them don't seem to know the meaning of the word straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It only happens to the less intelligent men. The smarter ones who really aren't looking for other men block men as they have the intelligence to see filters will stop this.

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

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Well you have met TV/TS so what you think you are and the reality might be different. Your journey though. I get plenty of messages from 'straight' men who clearly state on profiles that they do not want to meet single guys. I don't get all uppity about it. I go with flow and accept people have internal psychology that we have no access to. One thing I do know is that people who over emphasise their sexual orientation are usually the people with the least confidence. Take any attention in a positive fashion, be polile, be kind and have integrity.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It only happens to the less intelligent men. The smarter ones who really aren't looking for other men block men as they have the intelligence to see filters will stop this. "

I don't block all men because sometimes I get messaged about forum topics. It's just nice to get a message sometimes.

This doesn't mean I'm any less intelligent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because loads of straight men are actually bi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All I ever seem to get it guy men messaging me for discreet fun. Why??? "

Because there's a difference between "straight" and "fab straight". A lot of straight guys on here have numerous veris from guys.

Having said that however, it's not just gay men who message for fun - despite it stating on our profile that we are not interested in single guys, guess who the majority of our messages, winks and friend requests are from...? We just ignore them or block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was the first block I put on as soon as I joined and despite it being written all over my profile that im straight and not interested in TV ts gays men in general I still get as many views from gay men as from women. Is this site being taken over by them.. "

You do realise people could look at your profile for a whole load of reasons - forums, veris, filters not working etc. I look at profiles for all 3 of those reasons. I tick certain boxes on my searches and most of them DO NOT WORK, it is annoying for me too. I get all sorts looking at my profile, fabbing pics, winking and messaging etc. I do not get precious over it though

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By *arkndirtyMan
over a year ago

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People will get views from everyone or anyone because it is only by looking at profile that you can see that you are not a match. E.g. they might not be interested in single guys. I might regularly view same ones as I peruse who is around etc. Always say just block if not interested as I will. No big deal. If people are too precious then they should filter better. The key is to respect people's preferences.

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