FabSwingers.com forum: Striking up a convo

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I doing something wrong,been on here now over a year now and can count the number of massages back from couples and single females on one hand. What ice breaker do you start with or like to see being sent to you ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nice tits", a dick pic, and some copy and paste message which clearly shows that I haven't read their profile.

Works every time

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I always go for good old fashioned flattery; ‘Madam, thy beauty is truly astounding! May I beseech you; Please might you permit me to play with thy bountiful bosoms?’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mention something from the profile. I find just having a normal conversation works for me. Most men are sending ridiculous messages straight off the bat with full blown erotic stories. Keep things human and it will all fall into place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mention something from the profile. I find just having a normal conversation works for me. Most men are sending ridiculous messages straight off the bat with full blown erotic stories. Keep things human and it will all fall into place. "

^this

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Sometimes it's not the content of the message that is key OP (although it is important) but the content of the profile, which a lot of people will look at before even considering whether to open a message.

So take a look at your profile and ask if it sells you well - does it tell a viewer something about you, what you are looking for and can offer - or is it a generic one much the same as thousands of other guys. Likewise your pics are they appealing and show you off in a good way?

Message content that is polite and respectful and not at all sex oriented usually goes over well and acts as a good conversation starter.

Also consider other ways to get to know people if messaging isn't your thing - the forums is one way, or the chat rooms, group socials or clubs

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

“Hey”!

I normally just talk shite but keeping things open helps. Comments that invite a complex reply. Yes/no just shuts everything down.

That’s not to say I’m any good at this - I’m not - but it at least helps establish whether you are likely to get on.

But I do also feel I’m missing some unwritten code of expected conduct. Maybe I’m just not pushy enough.

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We reply to messages where possible, but always to polite ones. Single guys aren’t why we’re here, but we can see why a lot don’t get responses.

Avoid text talk, single word or short strange messages. “Hey”, “what u up2” won’t get a response.

Neither will overly aggressive sexual comments, just say something nice and relevant about the profile, a reason why you think you’d get on, be polite and you’ll be doing better than 90% on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I sometime start off with a complement and how they look in the pictures or the sound of their profile sometimes it's I've seen your status I am in interested in what you're offering type of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had a massage in ages

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