FabSwingers.com forum: Which are you?

By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

As we know, the fun social interaction posts are at this point definitely a staple of the fab forums. Not everyone takes part in them. Some are active. Some are lurkers.

To those that do take part, are you active in sending a pm etc, or do you just say you are in but sit and wait expecting others to send you a message?

Generally I will be active and will send messages. Now and again though I will say I'm in but end up not bothering to follow up on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on who is in really. Sometimes yes and sometimes no....

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"It depends on who is in really. Sometimes yes and sometimes no...."

that's what I mean though. And hindsight should have said.

Do you keep returning to see who else is in, or just say in and then never check up on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are referring to the face puc fridays or feel good/send a nice message threads, I try my very best to respond and send messages to those playing as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am active but selectively so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends on who is in really. Sometimes yes and sometimes no....

that's what I mean though. And hindsight should have said.

Do you keep returning to see who else is in, or just say in and then never check up on it. "

I do go back to check but sometimes it seems to be exactly the same people so then I cba... with face pic fridays I responded to each one I got actually as it seemed rude not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to keep my interactions in the open if its thread related.

I'd hope anyone who liked me would read my profile, then be brave enough to send a PM regardless of any thread going on.

I'm one of those who tends to avoid the PM me if you think I'm hot posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im active but if its the same people over and over i generally dont pester, once is enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always join in.

Nearly all of my meets have been as a result of forum interaction, the games are a light hearted way to break the ice and strike up conversation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are they a staple though they are mainly started by guys in an attempt to get women involved so they can chat them up in public because they can't get an answer in private, i never message from the forum threads but i do get quite a few message me but not from the f#ck, kiss, avoid threads which i rarely get involved with, the forums are about interaction though thats what we all want from them otherwise why comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always join in.

Nearly all of my meets have been as a result of forum interaction, the games are a light hearted way to break the ice and strike up conversation."

And see some interesting pics

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Im generally very active and don't like being passive. I find that a lot of people are passive though. Obviously that's their prerogative but I believe that the more people are proactive, the more positive connections that they'll make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am usually interactive but sometimes I'll post then completely forget only to return 2 days later feeling like a bad forumite

Peach x

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"I always join in.

Nearly all of my meets have been as a result of forum interaction, the games are a light hearted way to break the ice and strike up conversation."

Indeed. That's why I enjoy them. I do always wonder though to what extent each "player" is involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on my moods. But I don't send much messages

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"Im generally very active and don't like being passive. I find that a lot of people are passive though. Obviously that's their prerogative but I believe that the more people are proactive, the more positive connections that they'll make. "

Indeed, not to shame them for doing so. Just as you say it's about interactions and the more passive you are, the less interactions (and more) can be made.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t meet from the forums so it’s not always followed up, plus i’m easily distracted by other stuff and forget what i’ve posted on

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I generally join in, send messages and check back...occasionally I just want to be told i'm pretty without putting any effort in

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I generally join in, send messages and check back...occasionally I just want to be told i'm pretty without putting any effort in

You need to check more than occasionally. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must admit I say I’m in then wait for others to message me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t meet from the forums so it’s not always followed up, plus i’m easily distracted by other stuff and forget what i’ve posted on"

And she killed my hope to get her hairy minge one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends on my moods. But I don't send much messages "
bet you get a few though lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always join in.

Nearly all of my meets have been as a result of forum interaction, the games are a light hearted way to break the ice and strike up conversation.

And see some interesting pics

I've got plenty more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The forum games is the only time i send a first message because its just a bit of fun.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Yes we are active or we don't post in the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am active but selectively so."

Yes ^^

And I am sorry if I am interacting slowly. But i do try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rarely do we send these days as we're not meeting people at the mo'.

However, if we felt that we and the other party had something that was mutually inclusive we'd send a message.

Worked / works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try to join in but most people on the threads live miles away and are too far to meet for a coffee/social so I don't message, even if I fancy them. I'm selective with my face pic and a little shy letting guys know I want to get to know them.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm active and do send a message first x

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"are they a staple though they are mainly started by guys in an attempt to get women involved so they can chat them up in public because they can't get an answer in private, i never message from the forum threads but i do get quite a few message me but not from the f#ck, kiss, avoid threads which i rarely get involved with, the forums are about interaction though thats what we all want from them otherwise why comment

I'd say they are, they keep things pretty much friendly and get people talking without it devolving in to chaos. And insults.

The fuck, kiss, avoid one's are different from face pic Friday etc. Though whichever it is, the number of friendships or something more that's has come from them is pretty high. Other threads, like this for example won't give that push to increase the intimacy or connection.

With that said all threads have potential to spark something between 2 (or more) people.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"I try to join in but most people on the threads live miles away and are too far to meet for a coffee/social so I don't message, even if I fancy them. I'm selective with my face pic and a little shy letting guys know I want to get to know them. "

That is understandable, but I think in the concept of those types of threads can be a good "excuse" to push that shyness away. Almost like a cover.

You never know what may come from just a simple interaction.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I rarely join in on those sorts of threads, the times I do I'm active and message people first - I'm joining in to interact with others and I see little to no point waiting around for someone to message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm in I send messages! I'll only send them to people who post more often though.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I like to send messages.

Sometimes trying to be funny.

Sometimes being complimentary

Other times just trying to be helpful.

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By *aitonel OP Man
over a year ago

Travelling

"I like to send messages.

Sometimes trying to be funny.

Sometimes being complimentary

Other times just trying to be helpful.

that's what it is ultimately all about in my opinion. Not about seeing who will fuck you, but just being part of the community with nice little reasons to break the ice without things turning nasty or heated debates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say I'm in, go for a puss and forget "I'm in" more often than not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say I'm in, go for a puss and forget "I'm in" more often than not

Piss... I go for a piss

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't join in. I will sometimes join in a "guess the job of the person above" but anything such as tell someone what you really think of them etc I leave well alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send messages (reply privately button so they know which thread it's for) but don't post on the threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole site seems like that. Everyone waiting for someone else to make the first move.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely active.

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

I used to be a lurker... now I'm becoming a little more active.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I used to be a lurker... now I'm becoming a little more active."

Go girl, go girl, go girl. ..

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

If I'm in then I'm in and will start by firing off a couple of PMs and hope it strikes a conversation.

Lurking doesn't yield much interaction for me.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

If it’s an interactive post I’ll interact or not comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm in then I'm in and will start by firing off a couple of PMs and hope it strikes a conversation.

Lurking doesn't yield much interaction for me. "

That suprises me

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I'm active I'll send a message to people if I join a thread saying I will. I've also had a meets from doing this on saying that I've also being ignored lol but that's fab

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

Yes I allways send messages love been in forum's

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) am definitely active but I hardly ever send a pm from a forum thread. I would say publicly is I like somebody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No point saying I'm in if I'm not in.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No point saying I'm in if I'm not in....."

I have to tell them when im in too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont play at all much now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been guilty of saying I'm in and then forgetting, but usually I'm fairly forward with the messaging. I always try return a face or compliment if someone else goes first too, it's only fair. I'm not generally looking to meet off the back of forum threads though, it's just a bit of fun and socialising.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It’s rare I do them now, but when I did I PM’d if it was required

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