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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

We feel sometimes that we are the only sexual people in the room, pub or club. Why does no-one flash at us lol?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stab in the dark here.. Most people arent fans of flashing?

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Because they don't want to be arrested?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because most people aren't sex offenders.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Because folk aren’t psychic.

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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

Perhaps you are confusing it with the guy in the trench coat. I'm talking about going out with my wife who likes to wear clothes that accidentally on purpose reveals flesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Perhaps you are confusing it with the guy in the trench coat. I'm talking about going out with my wife who likes to wear clothes that accidentally on purpose reveals flesh. "

So just because she's a woman that makes it ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Perhaps you are confusing it with the guy in the trench coat. I'm talking about going out with my wife who likes to wear clothes that accidentally on purpose reveals flesh.

So just because she's a woman that makes it ok?"

Or.. do you just mean a bit of leg or something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We feel sometimes that we are the only sexual people in the room, pub or club. Why does no-one flash at us lol? "

Because they don't want to let you out of the junction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cos i'd call that flirting, not flashing.

If she's getting her tits, arse and clunge out.. it's still flashing.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Because many people don't regard being overtly sexual in public vanilla places as acceptable?

I certainly don't, and despite being quite kinky and sexually adventurous, would be incredibly uncomfortable with someone forcing their sexuality on me in an inappropriate environment.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

As usual some unnecessarily blunt responses. However they are correct based on what you are saying. It is very vague what you are trying to ask, needs a bit more detail for a more in depth response and discussion.

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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

Haha are you saying you wouldn't want to see it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I can hint at my sexuality without making a display. A facial expression, a wink, a few quiet words. Apparently if you're looking it lurks behind my eyes.

But I keep it very subtle in public, for those who don't want to see that.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Haha are you saying you wouldn't want to see it "

Nope. Wouldn't want to see it.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

In my clubbing days i saw a fair few fights break out because fellas were looking/chatting to someone’s lady.

Vanilla folk would just assume they’d get a pasting for ogling boobs that had accidentally fallen out of a top.

But i’m sure they’re still looking, albeit discreetly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Perhaps you are confusing it with the guy in the trench coat. I'm talking about going out with my wife who likes to wear clothes that accidentally on purpose reveals flesh. "

It's the same thing. If it's with people who have agreed to it fine.

A woman flashing people without their consent is the same as a dirty mac flasher.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


" Perhaps you are confusing it with the guy in the trench coat. I'm talking about going out with my wife who likes to wear clothes that accidentally on purpose reveals flesh.

It's the same thing. If it's with people who have agreed to it fine.

A woman flashing people without their consent is the same as a dirty mac flasher.

"

This.

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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

Pheeeewww

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"Pheeeewww"

Tough crowd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pheeeewww"

Judgemental crowd, you've really stirred a hornets nest up here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd not either.. Its happened before, I find it.. confusing.

It always seems to be done by someone I find physically unattractive as well.

No slight on your mrs, if it were Fab or a club.. it's different.. out in public.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


" Perhaps you are confusing it with the guy in the trench coat. I'm talking about going out with my wife who likes to wear clothes that accidentally on purpose reveals flesh.

It's the same thing. If it's with people who have agreed to it fine.

A woman flashing people without their consent is the same as a dirty mac flasher.

This. "

Pretty much, dragging non consenting people into your sex life ain't cool, regardless of who you are or your gender

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We've been flashed before in a café. I say we, I don't think I was her target audience and I didn't notice until Mr N pointed it out. The lady in question was with her partner and very obviously had nothing on under her skirt. When Mr N turned away she moved into his eye line again and when it became clear he wasnt going to look again they moved in to someone else.

Is it more acceptable if its a woman, is it more acceptable if its a very attractive woman and less so if she's 85 and morbidly obese? I don't think so. Non consensual sexual activity is never OK, ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you asking why people don’t do this in adult only environments, or during the day in, say, a cafe where children might be present?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Because many people don't regard being overtly sexual in public vanilla places as acceptable?

I certainly don't, and despite being quite kinky and sexually adventurous, would be incredibly uncomfortable with someone forcing their sexuality on me in an inappropriate environment. "

This!

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North


"We feel sometimes that we are the only sexual people in the room, pub or club. Why does no-one flash at us lol? "

What pub are you in? I’ll flash my knob at you

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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

Good lord people...

Wasn't talking about non consensual sexual activity. So much negatively for a sex site. It's always discreet and prearranged aaoooh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good lord people...

Wasn't talking about non consensual sexual activity. So much negatively for a sex site. It's always discreet and prearranged aaoooh"

There was no negativity in my question. Just a genuine curiosity / attempt to clarify your meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think their profile explains their wants and needs and how they go about them, sufficiently, for those bothered to read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think their profile explains their wants and needs and how they go about them, sufficiently, for those bothered to read it."

The OP was asking why others don’t flash at them in public. The above responses are an attempt to answer that. As well as echoing all that’s been said already, I’d add that people probably don’t do it because of the likelihood of children being around in places like buses, trains and Tesco (all referred to on the OP’s profile). I personally wouldn’t want my daughter to witness an adult of either gender flashing their genitals in Tesco or anywhere else.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


" Perhaps you are confusing it with the guy in the trench coat. I'm talking about going out with my wife who likes to wear clothes that accidentally on purpose reveals flesh. "

That's no different to a guy in a trench coat. Don't force your sexual perversions on innocent people.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Good lord people...

Wasn't talking about non consensual sexual activity. So much negatively for a sex site. It's always discreet and prearranged aaoooh"

So the answer is. ...because you haven't arranged for the people to be there to flash you

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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

Innocent people and kids are not and will never be involved. Don't let your imaginations runaway on you people. As I have explained, it consensual and prearranged. Was merely encouraging others to join us. Once again aaooohh

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Back track back track!

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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

No... the answer is, if you don't have anything positive, encouraging or constructive to say, then it's best to say nothing.When you are targeting like minded it's probably best to walk on if it doesn't interest you.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"No... the answer is, if you don't have anything positive, encouraging or constructive to say, then it's best to say nothing.When you are targeting like minded it's probably best to walk on if it doesn't interest you."

I positively disagree with encouraging flashing.

The discussion interests me....I enjoy seeing people construct a good back track when they realise their thread isn't looking good for them lol

If it's all ore arranged then the answer to your OP is you haven't taken time to arrange people flashing at you.

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By *entralscotscpl7Couple
over a year ago

Falkirk


"No... the answer is, if you don't have anything positive, encouraging or constructive to say, then it's best to say nothing.When you are targeting like minded it's probably best to walk on if it doesn't interest you.

I positively disagree with encouraging flashing.

The discussion interests me....I enjoy seeing people construct a good back track when they realise their thread isn't looking good for them lol

If it's all ore arranged then the answer to your OP is you haven't taken time to arrange people flashing at you. "

I have to agree with the above comments OP.

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By *lashers500 OP   Couple
over a year ago

lisburn. don't judge lol

Never waste you time trying to explain who you are and what your journey is to those who are committed to misunderstanding you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never waste you time trying to explain who you are and what your journey is to those who are committed to misunderstanding you"

You really should have made your original post clearer. If you’d said “why do people who we prearrange to meet with for the purposes of some consensual flashing fun, not join in with the flashing?”, then the responses you received would have been different. Because you didn’t provide this context in your original post, people are bound to ask questions to clarify what you mean. And how are you sure “innocent children are not involved”. Do you ensure Tesco is completely empty? Ot the train you are on?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Never waste you time trying to explain who you are and what your journey is to those who are committed to misunderstanding you"

Ok I won't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never waste you time trying to explain who you are and what your journey is to those who are committed to misunderstanding you

Ok I won't "

I don’t feel they’ve made any coherent attempt to explain anything, that’s the point...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would just like to contribute that I am happy to be flashed at by anyone who fancies it....

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Never waste you time trying to explain who you are and what your journey is to those who are committed to misunderstanding you

You really should have made your original post clearer. If you’d said “why do people who we prearrange to meet with for the purposes of some consensual flashing fun, not join in with the flashing?”, then the responses you received would have been different. Because you didn’t provide this context in your original post, people are bound to ask questions to clarify what you mean. And how are you sure “innocent children are not involved”. Do you ensure Tesco is completely empty? Ot the train you are on? "

Quite. If you're in a public place, non consenting people might see. You might see that as a risk worth taking. I don't and never will.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Never waste you time trying to explain who you are and what your journey is to those who are committed to misunderstanding you

Ok I won't

I don’t feel they’ve made any coherent attempt to explain anything, that’s the point... "

Absolutely, the response seems to be don't criticise or judge our sexual preferences. And if you don't endorse our original point.

OP set up a meet, specify what you want, make sure all parties are consenting and no non consenting parties are inadvertently involved in your meet

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