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"I am sexually assertive " Your bootyhole says otherwise! | |||
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"I like to make sure the lady gets more enjoyment than me. Does that make me a bit submissive? " I think it makes you attentive | |||
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"I like to make sure the lady gets more enjoyment than me. Does that make me a bit submissive? " I think it’s more the other way round. I’m like that and I’m definitely not submissive. | |||
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"Mainly submissive... but for the right guy " | |||
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"I usually say Switch, on reflection I think I'm more a naturally Dominant adonis who is happy to switch occasionally, but on my terms only " Fixed that for you | |||
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"I usually say Switch, on reflection I think I'm more a naturally Dominant adonis who is happy to switch occasionally, but on my terms only Fixed that for you " Ummm.. I'd definitely NOT use that word to describe myself Errr.. thanks, I guess. | |||
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"I usually say Switch, on reflection I think I'm more a naturally Dominant adonis who is happy to switch occasionally, but on my terms only Fixed that for you Ummm.. I'd definitely NOT use that word to describe myself Errr.. thanks, I guess." And so you shouldnt, that would be egotistical | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it." I'm switchy | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it." You'll probably have a few offers now | |||
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"I am a switch but Holly says i lean more towards the sub role I think it’s a change from the norm that I enjoy handing control over Holly also has a very good theory that the sub is the one with the power and i have to agree with her on this LJ" Where were those lush lips last night on the lips thread?! Hope you’re both well you pair of Lovelies x | |||
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"I am a switch but Holly says i lean more towards the sub role I think it’s a change from the norm that I enjoy handing control over Holly also has a very good theory that the sub is the one with the power and i have to agree with her on this LJ Where were those lush lips last night on the lips thread?! Hope you’re both well you pair of Lovelies x" Profile pic changed in honour of your compliment we both thought it was really nice of you to say Holly/Mystique has luscious lips and unsurprisingly i agree with you We are both well thanks for asking Nora and we hope all is good in Nora’s world LJ | |||
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"I usually say Switch, on reflection I think I'm more naturally Dominant who is happy to switch occasionally, but on my terms only " You're just stubborn but some of us like a challenge | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. I'm switchy " Would this be a you scratch my itch I'll scratch yours situation? | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now " Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem ." Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. I'm switchy Would this be a you scratch my itch I'll scratch yours situation? " If you bring rope, anything can happen | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking?" They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting." This is so true! | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting." That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. I'm switchy Would this be a you scratch my itch I'll scratch yours situation? If you bring rope, anything can happen " If I'm tying you I insist in the prettiest, girliest colours... | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not." Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people. | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. I'm switchy Would this be a you scratch my itch I'll scratch yours situation? If you bring rope, anything can happen If I'm tying you I insist in the prettiest, girliest colours..." Works for me, hopefully I'll learn something along the way and can repay the kindness | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people." Arguably i think that could just be a lot of men in general going by my experiences and reading many ladies and couples profiles | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. I'm switchy Would this be a you scratch my itch I'll scratch yours situation? If you bring rope, anything can happen If I'm tying you I insist in the prettiest, girliest colours... Works for me, hopefully I'll learn something along the way and can repay the kindness " Damn you're hard to be mean to, lovely boy | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people." when I'm in sub mode my aim is to please the person in charge which means obeying on their terms and not demanding my own. As long as limits are respected I'm under the dommes control when it happens | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people. Arguably i think that could just be a lot of men in general going by my experiences and reading many ladies and couples profiles" Possibly some truth to that. I think I just find it extra annoying that they believe they're being submissive despite their demands. A lot also seem to think submitting means "woo I get to lie here and have all the things done to me". Fuck that, if I'm in charge and I want a break they're doing the work. Plus half the fun is making them work for what they want . Though submissive womem can also be guilty of this attitude. | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people. Arguably i think that could just be a lot of men in general going by my experiences and reading many ladies and couples profiles Possibly some truth to that. I think I just find it extra annoying that they believe they're being submissive despite their demands. A lot also seem to think submitting means "woo I get to lie here and have all the things done to me". Fuck that, if I'm in charge and I want a break they're doing the work. Plus half the fun is making them work for what they want . Though submissive womem can also be guilty of this attitude." Thats just a silly attitude to take, you get out what you put in, if you make the effort to satisfy then you'll be rewarded in turn (in theory) | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. I'm switchy Would this be a you scratch my itch I'll scratch yours situation? If you bring rope, anything can happen If I'm tying you I insist in the prettiest, girliest colours... Works for me, hopefully I'll learn something along the way and can repay the kindness Damn you're hard to be mean to, lovely boy " Oh you can be a little mean, if not I'll twist your nipples to anger you a little | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people. Arguably i think that could just be a lot of men in general going by my experiences and reading many ladies and couples profiles Possibly some truth to that. I think I just find it extra annoying that they believe they're being submissive despite their demands. A lot also seem to think submitting means "woo I get to lie here and have all the things done to me". Fuck that, if I'm in charge and I want a break they're doing the work. Plus half the fun is making them work for what they want . Though submissive womem can also be guilty of this attitude." it should be a 2 way thing. A domme should be able to get what she wants from the sub after all they are in charge but at the same time the sub should hopefully get something out of it without being selfish and should remember that they are there to please their domme and should get pleasure from that | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people. Arguably i think that could just be a lot of men in general going by my experiences and reading many ladies and couples profiles Possibly some truth to that. I think I just find it extra annoying that they believe they're being submissive despite their demands. A lot also seem to think submitting means "woo I get to lie here and have all the things done to me". Fuck that, if I'm in charge and I want a break they're doing the work. Plus half the fun is making them work for what they want . Though submissive womem can also be guilty of this attitude.it should be a 2 way thing. A domme should be able to get what she wants from the sub after all they are in charge but at the same time the sub should hopefully get something out of it without being selfish and should remember that they are there to please their domme and should get pleasure from that" That last bit is spot on, to me the main part of being sub is that i take geat pleasure in knowing that i am or have pleased my dom/domme its somewhat satisfying. Even in a vanilla situation ive been with men who have cum and then asked if i want finishing off and they get confused when i tell them that im satified enough without the need to ejaculate | |||
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"I’m neither. I go with the flow of the person I’m with and where it leads us" Yes - we’ll put. I hate having to label one or the other but defo feel obligated to do so these days. | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting." I think the nature of sites like this means that the 'sexual requirements' are often bought to the fore before the old fashioned 'getting to know some' part of human interaction. Also, and I caveat this with, iny limited experience male subs bring a lists of wants and needs while female subs come with a shorter list of what is off limits and also what they enjoy. The latter seems to allow a more natural flow of 'play' and without pressure to provide to a shopping list. That's just my observation | |||
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"If I had to describe myself it would be a switch. I like to turn the tables and take control every so often" I concur, while I'm normally dominant I do enjoy you slapping me round the face with your strap on occasionally. | |||
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"If I had to describe myself it would be a switch. I like to turn the tables and take control every so often I concur, while I'm normally dominant I do enjoy you slapping me round the face with your strap on occasionally." | |||
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"In a D/s or actually bisexual context I'm very much sub/bottom and naturally so - have tried switching in the past but just isn't something I am comfortable with. I'd add as a rider to that that I need to "feel" submissive to someone to submit to them, which is a rare thing for me. " Absolutely agree with this I can be a bit flirty and playful in a meet,so to get me to play or be submissive takes some skill and knowledge of how to manipulate the natural nervousness of a new partner and the changing of the dynamic between us both. I don't submit to anyone I believe can't handle my personality when dressed. | |||
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"I'm very submissive! I love a dominant man " Your new pic | |||
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"In a D/s or actually bisexual context I'm very much sub/bottom and naturally so - have tried switching in the past but just isn't something I am comfortable with. I'd add as a rider to that that I need to "feel" submissive to someone to submit to them, which is a rare thing for me. Absolutely agree with this I can be a bit flirty and playful in a meet,so to get me to play or be submissive takes some skill and knowledge of how to manipulate the natural nervousness of a new partner and the changing of the dynamic between us both. I don't submit to anyone I believe can't handle my personality when dressed. " I think in most cases here it will be a case of knowing each other quite well first of all before taking it to d/s roles | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. I think the nature of sites like this means that the 'sexual requirements' are often bought to the fore before the old fashioned 'getting to know some' part of human interaction. Also, and I caveat this with, iny limited experience male subs bring a lists of wants and needs while female subs come with a shorter list of what is off limits and also what they enjoy. The latter seems to allow a more natural flow of 'play' and without pressure to provide to a shopping list. That's just my observation " To an extent I think you're right - *some* male submissives see it as a sexual act (usually informed by porn they have watched or misconceived ideas) as opposed to something more cerebral and as such have a list of wants and needs they expect to be fulfilled almost as a tick box - for me my submission goes a lot deeper than that and whilst I think discussing wants and needs, as well as likes/dislikes and limits beforehand is important that is all it *should* be - a discussion. Once submission is given and control passed over it becomes the dominants role to decide what does/doesn't happen - otherwise it becomes topping from the bottom and to my way of thinking at least, kind of defeats the object. That all said, if all concerned are happy with how they play that is up to them entirely - there is no right way to D/s, only the way agreed between two (or more) consenting adults. | |||
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"I'm very submissive! I love a dominant man Your new pic " fanks | |||
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"I'm very submissive! I love a dominant man Your new pic fanks I like all your pics " Thank you! You guys are making me blush now! | |||
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"I'm very submissive! I love a dominant man Your new pic fanks I like all your pics Thank you! You guys are making me blush now! " Cant blame them. You are gorgeous. | |||
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"I'm very submissive! I love a dominant man Your new pic fanks I like all your pics Thank you! You guys are making me blush now! " I like your pics, personality, body head to toe and even your quirk for examining male anuses | |||
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" Right guys stop it or I'm going to kill you three with a banana!! I'm dying here " What a way to go. Pwaoh. | |||
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" Right guys stop it or I'm going to kill you three with a banana!! I'm dying here " Please ....no....not the banana.....I submit.....no I can't I'm not not switch....ahhhhhhh.....that's really messing with my melon man | |||
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"This is just not a paradigm we relate to at all. Neither of us has any desire to dominate or submit to anybody. We just want all parties to have as much pleasure as possible as equals." Most that are into the D/s lifestyle would consider themselves equals to one another to be honest - just different sides of the same coin - by giving their submission, a submissive does so of their own free will and from a place of equality to the dominant who accepts it | |||
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"This is just not a paradigm we relate to at all. Neither of us has any desire to dominate or submit to anybody. We just want all parties to have as much pleasure as possible as equals. Most that are into the D/s lifestyle would consider themselves equals to one another to be honest - just different sides of the same coin - by giving their submission, a submissive does so of their own free will and from a place of equality to the dominant who accepts it " | |||
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"This is just not a paradigm we relate to at all. Neither of us has any desire to dominate or submit to anybody. We just want all parties to have as much pleasure as possible as equals." I agree. But being a little dominant doesn’t necessarily mean the other person submitting etc. I see it as one person taking control at the time. I’m not at all into the proper BDSM side of it, not that kind of dominant. | |||
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"Well Mr Morningstar I am submissive in the bedroom, a bit more assertive out of it " Haha, care to elaborate on the latter | |||
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"Silverback alpha male" Did you know they have the smallest testicles in relation to body size? | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people. Arguably i think that could just be a lot of men in general going by my experiences and reading many ladies and couples profiles Possibly some truth to that. I think I just find it extra annoying that they believe they're being submissive despite their demands. A lot also seem to think submitting means "woo I get to lie here and have all the things done to me". Fuck that, if I'm in charge and I want a break they're doing the work. Plus half the fun is making them work for what they want . Though submissive womem can also be guilty of this attitude.it should be a 2 way thing. A domme should be able to get what she wants from the sub after all they are in charge but at the same time the sub should hopefully get something out of it without being selfish and should remember that they are there to please their domme and should get pleasure from that" Absolutely it should be a two way thing but unfortunately with some submissive men it's all about them. | |||
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"Sorry guys. Damn text. I meant I love to feel in control and desired so I am the mistress dominating my sub or subs " You can dominate me any time! | |||
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"I'm a switch. I used to be mostly submissive but over the past 6 months or so I've had incredibly strong dominant urges which has been incredibly frustrating as I've only had dominant partners and therefore no outlet for it. You'll probably have a few offers now Probably. Unfortunately I find most submissive men really annoying! That's probably my problem . Out of curiosity what is it that you find annoying? If you dont mind my asking? They're often very demanding. They rock up with a list of wants with very little thought given to what pleases me. It's useful to me to know what they like and dislike but the administering of each will be on my terms, not theirs and that's what a lot of them don't get. Of course they set their boundaries and I will always respect them but if they want to dictate how play is going to happen then I'm not interested and despite what they may think they are not submitting. That sound to me like they are just selfish people, i have a list quite a long list of things i would like but i wouldn't dream of demanding or expecting anything, playtime should just evolve naturally and to my mind the dominant should be taking the lead with how they feel and its up to me to signal if im enjoying it or not, for me a big part of being sub is the anticipation of wether im going to get to experience xyz or not. Unfortunately a lot of submissive men are very entitled and see Dominant women as fantasy dispensers instead of people. Arguably i think that could just be a lot of men in general going by my experiences and reading many ladies and couples profiles Possibly some truth to that. I think I just find it extra annoying that they believe they're being submissive despite their demands. A lot also seem to think submitting means "woo I get to lie here and have all the things done to me". Fuck that, if I'm in charge and I want a break they're doing the work. Plus half the fun is making them work for what they want . Though submissive womem can also be guilty of this attitude.it should be a 2 way thing. A domme should be able to get what she wants from the sub after all they are in charge but at the same time the sub should hopefully get something out of it without being selfish and should remember that they are there to please their domme and should get pleasure from that Absolutely it should be a two way thing but unfortunately with some submissive men it's all about them." Tell me about it. Sometimes a little re-education is needed | |||
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"This is just not a paradigm we relate to at all. Neither of us has any desire to dominate or submit to anybody. We just want all parties to have as much pleasure as possible as equals. I agree. But being a little dominant doesn’t necessarily mean the other person submitting etc. I see it as one person taking control at the time. I’m not at all into the proper BDSM side of it, not that kind of dominant. " Curious on your thoughts of what BDSM side of dominant is? Its not about pain although can be a little depending on limits. I am (Scooby) and Dom and Luna is sub we dont switch. Although Luna does do some dominant actions when asked to. | |||
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"This is just not a paradigm we relate to at all. Neither of us has any desire to dominate or submit to anybody. We just want all parties to have as much pleasure as possible as equals. I agree. But being a little dominant doesn’t necessarily mean the other person submitting etc. I see it as one person taking control at the time. I’m not at all into the proper BDSM side of it, not that kind of dominant. Curious on your thoughts of what BDSM side of dominant is? Its not about pain although can be a little depending on limits. I am (Scooby) and Dom and Luna is sub we dont switch. Although Luna does do some dominant actions when asked to." I’ll be honest and say I don’t have a clue and have no interest in BDSM whatsoever. I may have worded it wrong but I was making a point that being dominant doesn’t have to be linked to that. | |||
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"I can go either way with men, but I'll never sub to another woman " See I can with women. Never have with men although that has changed a bit recently but in general I don’t. | |||
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"I can go either way with men, but I'll never sub to another woman See I can with women. Never have with men although that has changed a bit recently but in general I don’t. " Sub for me anytime you like | |||
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"As usual I agree with Geminiman. I would like to examine more closely three themes in the thread. The first where people say "I am this but..." . I would like to thank the Proud to be Kinky Podcast for helping me with this point. I think despite what role we say we take, we are all individuals and do not necessarily fit entirely in one definition. There are people who seem to enforce compliance with a role or "you are not a proper [insert role]" which is bollocks. Life is messy people are messy. If a female submissive likes to peg men, it does not means she can't identify as a submissive. How a person identifies themselves is their own business. Kink is an alternative lifestyle, people should be free to be quirky within the lifestyle. The second point is the pain thing. On the other site I identify as a sensual sadist. I have attended workshops and studied it. But it is about only playing with the right people, playing consensually and understanding the limits. But there is more to D/S than pain. Individuals have their own desires Be it from service to humiliation to just having the feeling of being owned. There is no one way to do D/S, there is only personal D/S. So even casual D/S can be as intense as D/S in a long standing relationship. My final point is on who controls the relationship. My position has always been it is joint control as it is a case of serving both parties needs. However, (and would add everyone has their own definition of submission) I am tending to view as mentioned by Geminiman the submissive gives over control to the dom/me. In doing so the sub is not surrendering the right to be treated with respect, nor surrendering their basic humanity, nor the right to say no and walk away. It is a granting of control within defined limits. But everyone obviously is entitled to their own definition. " Spot on | |||
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"I find it interesting as to how many people identify on this aspect even if its not specifically in a D/s dynamic. In general terms I don't play that way and can get frustrated if someone expects me to be dominant all the time. I find that power dynamics can be incredibly intricate things and very addictive with the right person. " Very. | |||
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