FabSwingers.com forum: First meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away? "

All depends if you want to get to know them or it’s a fuck and go.

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By *ady23Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

Think a social is good first. We did a meet without social first. The guy wasn't how he described. Cringed. Very very uncomfortable. Shame as could of been a good night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first

Kiss 2nd

Caressing 3rd

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

My preference is meet in a hotel I’m staying in. Have a drink and a chat in the bar and if it’s going well then up to the bedroom.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I take it on a case by case basis, there's no set rules and it doesn't have to be the same scenario every time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away?

All depends if you want to get to know them or it’s a fuck and go. "

Prefer to get to know them as dont really want a fuck and go! I like regular

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

My view is social first with no expectations of anything more. If we are both comfortable then we can both decide what happens next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away? "

Social and then decide between yourselves if you want to take it further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My view is social first with no expectations of anything more. If we are both comfortable then we can both decide what happens next

Why did u try to fuck my ass as soon as I turned myself to walk away from you ?

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By *exyangeleyesMan
over a year ago

london

I would always go with an open mind, starting with a social, of course. Always allowing time in my diary for a possible extension. Nobody knows what’s around the next corner, live life as an open book. One must grab an opportunity when presented to them, especially if ones gut feeling is that of a pleasant nature.

Hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would always go with an open mind, starting with a social, of course. Always allowing time in my diary for a possible extension. Nobody knows what’s around the next corner, live life as an open book. One must grab an opportunity when presented to them, especially if ones gut feeling is that of a pleasant nature.

Hope this helps "

Love your outlook. Thank you

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"My view is social first with no expectations of anything more. If we are both comfortable then we can both decide what happens next

Why did u try to fuck my ass as soon as I turned myself to walk away from you ? "

Because you are sexy as fuck that's why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My view is social first with no expectations of anything more. If we are both comfortable then we can both decide what happens next

Why did u try to fuck my ass as soon as I turned myself to walk away from you ?

Because you are sexy as fuck that's why

True dat

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

I'm a sociable fellow

Not one to jump into bed with another person without getting to know them better, they may be smoking Ooft hot, but it's a combo of personality over looks 99.9%of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away? "

I would always go with an open mind, starting with a social, of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away? "
social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take it on a case by case basis, there's no set rules and it doesn't have to be the same scenario every time. "

This ^^^ one size doesn't fit all

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"I take it on a case by case basis, there's no set rules and it doesn't have to be the same scenario every time.

This ^^^ one size doesn't fit all "

I only have one size!! I’ve not found one it doesn’t fit!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd agree with the not one size fits all. Etiquette wise; the focus should be on the person/people you're meeting. Don't log on to fab or discuss others you want to fuck unless the conversation has naturally taken that turn (which can happen and that's okay!). It's happened a couple of times before to me and it makes me feel like they don't actually want to be spending time with me and then I sort of think "hmmm".

I don't always agree with Gemini's bubble analogy but I think it's good here. Make the other person feel a bit special for the time you are with them.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I do a social first meet see how we get on if we get on well then the social can turn into more. I never arrange a first meet as a play meet. If it happens then great but if there is no chemistry then a meet is not going any farther.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First meet is social. No physical contact. If they can only talk about sex I don't meet them again.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I prefer a social first or at least meet for a drink before the fun.

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By *exysquirter77Woman
over a year ago

norwich

"Think a social is good first. We did a meet without social first. The guy wasn't how he described. Cringed. Very very uncomfortable. Shame as could of been a good night"

Had the same nothing like pic made my skin crawl women was amazing so not all bad x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Deffo a social, that way one can see if there's comparability / chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always social for me but there’s no right or wrong. Depends what you’re looking for and everyone’s different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go on a case by case basis, there's no set rules, it depends on the people or person.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

It very much depends on the person and my gut instinct - sometimes social only, mostly social and see what happens, very occasionally straight to an overnight or even weekend meet.

Etiquette wise, Meli makes a good point about phone usage - if somebody was sat on their phone I'd assume they weren't interested and leave (obviously there are exceptions if they have kids, are a carer etc, but that takes a quick apology and a brief glance at their phone to check all is okay).

I also wouldn't expect sex talk on a social, flirting and innuendo certainly, but not blatant sex talk when we're sat in Costa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phones on a meet are a big no no mine goes on silent and i'll pop to the toilet if i need to check it, but i grew up without mobikes so i can live without it for a couple of hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Phones on a meet are a big no no mine goes on silent and i'll pop to the toilet if i need to check it, but i grew up without mobikes so i can live without it for a couple of hours"

Wtf is a mobike? *mobile

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

I would go with the flow. You should feel comfortable with me quickly

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Talk it over with the person/ couple, different people have different boundaries.

For me, hands off (no play that day) social first. After that, depends on what we negotiate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It very much depends on the person and my gut instinct - sometimes social only, mostly social and see what happens, very occasionally straight to an overnight or even weekend meet.

I also wouldn't expect sex talk on a social, flirting and innuendo certainly, but not blatant sex talk when we're sat in Costa."

to all you've said

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I misread the title as Fist meets.

To much internet for me today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all depends how long you’ve been talking for have they got any verifications if not or only one from a year ago then I’d probably want a social first.. just go with the flow how it feels

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

"What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away? "

I started playing (not on this site) in 2011. And never met first.. just straight in there. I was actually shocked the first time a man asked to meet for a drink first, and then we played straight away after (I already had room booked).

I havent met for nearly 3 years... and my new rule is to meet socially first in a public place and dont play straight away, take time to reflect and not feel or be pressurised to go through with what you may not feel 100% about. The time I would do otherwise, is in a swingers club.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I don't go to a meet with a template to follow . Women generally let you know what they want so just go with the flow.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'll bring my clipboard with the questionnaire for the other person to fill out before any fun is considered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'll bring my clipboard with the questionnaire for the other person to fill out before any fun is considered.

What dont you have a polygraph aswel? I dont leave home without mine

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By *harlotte SometimesWoman
over a year ago

Leafy Warwickshire

A social first always to be safe and to see if there’s a spark. Call me picky but I have to fancy somebody to want to get naked with them.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A social first always to be safe and to see if there’s a spark. Call me picky but I have to fancy somebody to want to get naked with them. "

This, and I find it gets rid of or outs a lot of guys who think they'll push me beyond my stated boundaries. (often before the social, so, nothing lost)

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"A social first always to be safe and to see if there’s a spark. Call me picky but I have to fancy somebody to want to get naked with them. "

This is how I approach it as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have played on a first meet but that’s not the norm , social wins out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's whatever works for you. I always meet for social first and don't play on the same day. Having said so it has happened that after 5 minutes of chatting in a public place I was following him to his place in my car.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I misread the title as Fist meets.

To much internet for me today

Now that would be an interesting conversation

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A social first always to be safe and to see if there’s a spark. Call me picky but I have to fancy somebody to want to get naked with them. "

Thanks, I'm rather picky and there has to be mutual attraction

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I like a social. Mainly because i’m a big lass and i don’t want to meet someone for sex and they run off screaming because the reality of me is intimidating.

Plus i like to give them the once over to make sure i fancy them and that they’re not crackers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone for your posts.....I've been having socials first and theres attraction with a couple of them and a couple I would have happily played with afterwards..but didnt want to come across as desperate or that what I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also social only first meet for me unless we have met previously at a group social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% off the time its always a social first for me. I have only ever gone for a full play once but the chemistry was ridiculous so we both knew we'd be fine.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Its up to each person how they choose to meet,

I only ever meet socially first,then Theres a chance to chat and have a brew or drink with no pressure.

I wouldn't ever go straight to someones home or invite them to mine for a first meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone for your posts.....I've been having socials first and theres attraction with a couple of them and a couple I would have happily played with afterwards..but didnt want to come across as desperate or that what I do."

Have you stayed intouch since the socials? If so then just let them know youd like to meet them again

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have you stayed intouch since the socials? If so then just let them know youd like to meet them again"

Yes I have and have arranged to meet this week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people thoughts and views on first meets or even the etiquette?

Should first meet be a social? Social and play? Or generally play straight away? "
i prefer social first to see if there is a connection and as not to make anyone feel like they have to do anything they don’t want to x

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By *ussylouWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Coffee or a drink first and if I'm attracted to them I'll go for the kiss to make sure the chemistry works.

Then arrange another meet spelling out what you're after!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Mine are always a social...coffee or drinks. I wouldn't have it any other way.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Social. That way if she does a runner I know it's not because she's seen me naked.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I've done it both ways. But I'd say a drink at the bar first is a good idea.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I've done it both ways. But I'd say a drink at the bar first is a good idea."

Depends if it's a lock in. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mine are always a social...coffee or drinks. I wouldn't have it any other way."

Agree .....public meet first ,coffee/chat maybe a kiss.

Depart on amical terms , then afterwards you can email saying thanks but no ..or wanna rip your pants off ........

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I've done it both ways. But I'd say a drink at the bar first is a good idea.

Depends if it's a lock in. Lol"

I have enjoyed a lock in or 2 in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you should always meet in a social public setting to be safe. From there you can assess them and decide what you fancy doing there after

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

A social does make things less awkward if not all goes to plan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to go straight to it but after a few messages and studying profiles. Mainly because we have little time for meets. Just our preference. X

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I've done it both ways. But I'd say a drink at the bar first is a good idea.

Depends if it's a lock in. Lol

I have enjoyed a lock in or 2 in the past

With me you definitely would.

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