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By *avethefish400 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chichester

Hi all,

I was blocked last night after chatting a little.

It’s so difficult to know what people want.

Some get bored because you don’t get straight to arranging a meeting or saying what you want to do to them.

Others say on their profile that they like certain things and when you mention them they block you.

Is it just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is all about the timing, once the conversation starts the profile is just background info. Judge the mood by the messages they are cl8ser to the now.

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

Hard to judge someone's mood over text. Take me for example.... I change mood like the wind changes direction.... and I'm guessing lots of other folk do too. I think its hopefully catching the right person... at the right time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hard to judge someone's mood over text. Take me for example.... I change mood like the wind changes direction.... and I'm guessing lots of other folk do too. I think its hopefully catching the right person... at the right time. "

Are you a south westerly or north easterly this morning

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It's not a paint by numbers exercise, one size doesn't fit all.

The way that you phrase your OP, it seems that you're not being yourself with them and trying to find 'the' answer to how to converse. The simple answer is that there isn't, some want to arrange a meet fast, some want to chat for months and there's no way to know as it can vary from conversation to conversation.

The important thing, what you should always and can only do is be true to yourself. Be yourself and talk as you would do, offer to meet when you want and discuss what feels natural. If the conversation dies then so be it, at least then you've be legitimate.

I think where a huge amount of people go wrong is trying to find the key to 'all women', try talking to them as a person, not something you're trying to fuck and not as a homogenised group (I'm not saying you specifically do this but it's how your OP reads and others have done this).

Authenticity is sexy OP, also people can sense when you're not being so.

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By *avethefish400 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chichester

I think you are exactly right!

Always prefer meeting people face to face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the biggest issues we have is men telling me what they want to do to me so explicitly that they get blocked, it's usually me messaging but Mr K is always present.

He doesn't want to read what can look like relationship forming messages.which to me makes sense as i wouldn't want to read it the other way round,so i would just be measured in your content.

We want to meet but we aren't just sat waiting for it.

We have 3 kids so this will never be the priority ,_ea monkeys last sentence is perfectly put x

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