FabSwingers.com forum: Reclaim Sex

By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Does this really exist or is it BS.? Didn't you belong to each other in the first place ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It does but i wouldnt loan out my woman so il never experience it

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

"It does but i wouldnt loan out my woman so il never experience it"

This this. I can’t believe I’m saying this.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Does this really exist or is it BS.? Didn't you belong to each other in the first place ?"

For starters it's a simple term to describe having sex with a primary partner after they had sex with someone else and very much exists in that context - so not really something to get hung up on semantics of a label over.

I'd also disagree that people "belong" to each other, which implies ownership of some sort (which I know to an extent contradicts my first point about getting hung up on semantics of terminology but think it's key that the sense of "ownership" the OP implies is clarified)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t belong to anyone

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Im not owned by anyone and im certainly not "loaned" out im a person in my own right. But yes reclaim sex exists. Its great its why some couples do this

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think language is very important (it is to me anyway) and I dislike terms like "reclaim" and "share" applied to people. I think it perpetuates myths and stereotypes.

I'm quite a literal thinker though and will takes words at face value.

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By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I appreciate the comments. I believe that some couples believe in ownership and especially in some sub Dom relationships. That aside I think more people think of partnership before ownership.

It's the reclaim bit that interests me. If it's reclaim sex then it seems there is a smattering of, 'your mine again' about it

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

That's why I could never be in a Dom/sub thing. I am my own person and would never be "owned" by anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it does, personally I love it. X

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.

I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"That's why I could never be in a Dom/sub thing. I am my own person and would never be "owned" by anyone."

I'm not owned by anyone.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.

I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'. "

I like that phrase 'reunion sex'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.

I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'.

I like that phrase 'reunion sex'

Agreed, I was gonna go with reconnection sex but reunion is more fitting.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It exists. Some enjoy it. Personally I wouldn't be comfortable with a partner feeling like we need to have sex just because I've slept with someone else but that's just me and my relationships.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?

Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?

Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.

There is, you have to go to the office and apply in writing.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"It does but i wouldnt loan out my woman so il never experience it"

You'll fit in here just fine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?

Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.

I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'. "

I've said this many many times, people put far too much focus on individual words, giving them more power than they actually should have, instead of viewing them in the context.

The whole D/'s relationship is never truely about ownership as it is anyway (please correct me if I am wrong) unless that is the actual dynamic both people want from it.

It could also be viewed as reclaiming your presence within the relationship.

Despite that, I do agree "reunion" is a much better word, but it doesn't have the same punch and impact that the name "reclaim sex" has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Experienced reclaim/reunion sex a couple of times with a primary partner after a meet with someone else. It wasn’t politically correct but it was incredibly hot.

But most of my sex life runs in opposition to the way I live the rest of my life. That’s what makes it dark and edgy for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ughhh I used to LOVE the reclaim fuck after a night in a club. Worked perfectly for the play scenarios we had.

Was never "owned" but I don't think that kind of label has to apply in any dynamic unless it's your kink.

It was always a big thing that I looked forward to with a play night.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?

Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.

There is, you have to go to the office and apply in writing. "

Thanks butt you sea my right inn wood ant bee the best.

Tymes i can juice a boot red it me sail.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.

I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'.

I've said this many many times, people put far too much focus on individual words, giving them more power than they actually should have, instead of viewing them in the context.

The whole D/'s relationship is never truely about ownership as it is anyway (please correct me if I am wrong) unless that is the actual dynamic both people want from it.

It could also be viewed as reclaiming your presence within the relationship.

Despite that, I do agree "reunion" is a much better word, but it doesn't have the same punch and impact that the name "reclaim sex" has."

In my experience, D/s dynamics have little to do with reunion sex (I'm using that phrase now!). It's far more prevalent in hotwife/stag & vixen or cuck dynamics, where one partner plays but the other waits for their return. It depends on individuals though. There are so many nuances at play that any encompassing terminology is almost impossible to define or make fit.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

London/Suffolk

"I don’t belong to anyone

Spoken like a true Tonks!

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

London/Suffolk

"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?

Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.

There is, you have to go to the office and apply in writing. "

That seems a bit like sending the newbie down to stores to ask for a long weight!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really looking forward to reunion sex with my FWB after his recent club visit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there such a thing as unclaimed sex?

Just putting my name forward if there is a surplus of it about.

There is, you have to go to the office and apply in writing.

That seems a bit like sending the newbie down to stores to ask for a long weight!"

Since they are going anyway could they pick me up a skirting board ladder, a left handed screwdriver and some Tartan paint?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.

I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'.

I've said this many many times, people put far too much focus on individual words, giving them more power than they actually should have, instead of viewing them in the context.

The whole D/'s relationship is never truely about ownership as it is anyway (please correct me if I am wrong) unless that is the actual dynamic both people want from it.

It could also be viewed as reclaiming your presence within the relationship.

Despite that, I do agree "reunion" is a much better word, but it doesn't have the same punch and impact that the name "reclaim sex" has.

OK good good point about D/s but still as you say, regardless of the relationship it is used, whatever its called a single phrase is never going to fit every scenario and dynamic. Reunion is pretty damn close though.

It is still focused on the power of the word instead of looking at the larger picture. Which is my main point overall of the power people give to individual words - if you look past the word itself, does it really matter what it is called when what really matters is what is under the label.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I obviously see things differently to other women because I believe a big part of my life is owned by my partner just as I own a big part of his life. We both could revoke that ownership any time we wish but we love each other and so dont ever see that happening.

I am a hotwife/vixen and my husband shares me with other men. I allow myself to be shared and want it to happen.

So reclaim sex is very much a thing for us and we enjoy it very much.

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By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

To those who have reclaim sex:

How did you view the sex with the other party before being reclaimed?

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By *eilde HoarWoman
over a year ago

In a wax coated bubble

My hot husband explained it this way...

It is reaffirming relationship sex as they reaffirm the bond and promises in sex that they made to each other and I think that's quite special.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that the terminology is very clunky and doesn't really fit the actual situation or emotions involved.

I think that the term 'reunion sex' is more fitting. The actual act and emotions involved though are the same. Sometimes the phrasing and connotations are just 'off'. "

I love this! Such a great way of looking at it. Reunion sex.

It's not about ownership or bdsm (for us). It's indescribable but such a buzz.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The semantics and context should be clarified but given this is mainly about sex, I see terms like this as kinky expressions (role play) for better experiences and has no real meaning outside of that

Know one belongs to anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It does but i wouldnt loan out my woman so il never experience it

You'll fit in here just fine

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By *ssex_tom OP Man
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It sounds like it's born out of insecurity in some ways?

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

Reclaim sex is some of the best sex it not about being owned its about you both knowing it always come back down to the two of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same for both of us where comments about ownership are concerned..we re both free spirits though if she had sex with someone else I wouldn't necessarily want sex afterward cos I know she ll have had a real long enjoyable time of it and will probably be all puckered out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reclaim sex is some of the best sex it not about being owned its about you both knowing it always come back down to the two of you

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By *hilledout-coupleCouple
over a year ago

telford

My hubby likes to reclaim often I’ve had a single meet weather he’s watches or is invited in after the event but I kinda love the feeling

(Mrs)

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