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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury

Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?"

Generally no! It might come down to just one person lynching you. But it will happen!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

No ... appears not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If it doesn’t describe me I will become highly offended and cry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No when i said i want to catapult myself into vagina i got abused by the HSE

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"No when i said i want to catapult myself into vagina i got abused by the HSE "

HSE have a profile here?

There goes the neighbourhood!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No when i said i want to catapult myself into vagina i got abused by the HSE "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No when i said i want to catapult myself into vagina i got abused by the HSE

HSE have a profile here?

There goes the neighbourhood!!"
stay off the bareback threads unless you want a fine or jail

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

How kinky are we talking Clem

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

About the only preference you can state with zero comeback is ‘must have a pulse’.

Anything else and you’re bound to offend someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"About the only preference you can state with zero comeback is ‘must have a pulse’.

Anything else and you’re bound to offend someone "

Tut, there's that prejudice against the dead again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant."

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant. "

What is meant by self shooting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant. "

I was quite surprised at the squeamishness re that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant.

What is meant by self shooting? "

Shooting cum into your own mouth.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant. "

Made all the worse because I think thr original question was whether anyone else did this as he'd been asked to. People jump to opinions wrongly so often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant.

I was quite surprised at the squeamishness re that too."
feeling squeamish is understandable for some, but the way the guy was ganged up on was really horrible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant."

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

With the expression of preferences, I think we all probably could be a bit more mindful of how we express them. As I said on that post, there's a difference between saying it's not for me and saying it's vomit inducing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?"

No. you are not allowed to think for yourself or make any of your own decisions. It's the fab way. So stop asking...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant.

Made all the worse because I think thr original question was whether anyone else did this as he'd been asked to. People jump to opinions wrongly so often "

This is true. As regular forum users we need to be aware of the impact of the things we say on here on how other users view the forum. It is little wonder people think that there are cliques.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No when i said i want to catapult myself into vagina i got abused by the HSE "

I didn't realise we were in the presence of royalty..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With the expression of preferences, I think we all probably could be a bit more mindful of how we express them. As I said on that post, there's a difference between saying it's not for me and saying it's vomit inducing. "
indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?"

In my opinion Absolutely not.. describe all ya want...not every shoe fits ...so if a person.. male or female is seeking a certain type of person they should have absolutely no problems saying so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer rugby type... But end up with a few odd balls ??????????

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant."

The responses on that thread made me cringe. It's fine to say you don't like something but it's how you say it. The guy was made to feel like a total deviant just for asking about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant."

Totally agree, if people don't like something just don't reply perhaps? Better than chastising another for their preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?

In my opinion Absolutely not.. describe all ya want...not every shoe fits ...so if a person.. male or female is seeking a certain type of person they should have absolutely no problems saying so."

I agree- endeavouring to make them feel ashamed of their preference or kink is abhorrent.

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By *0something1965Man
over a year ago

Belfast


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant.

Made all the worse because I think thr original question was whether anyone else did this as he'd been asked to. People jump to opinions wrongly so often

This is true. As regular forum users we need to be aware of the impact of the things we say on here on how other users view the forum. It is little wonder people think that there are cliques."

I find it really difficult to contribute (or even ask advice) without being eviscerated. It's may only be a small group or a few individuals but it feels like everyone gets behind it and a lynch mob forms.

Have had to learn to accept it but initially, I would retalliate and it became a slanging match - I even got a couple of timeouts for retaliating - The atteackERS didnt!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was made aware on the clique thread how I can collude with it on here and felt a bit shit that I hadn’t recognised my own part in perpetuating the behaviour. I think it behoves us that do use the forum regularly to check our own behaviour and ensure it really does encourage the behaviour we wan to to see. Particularly if we would like new users or less frequent posters to feel welcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

Couldn't agree more, the response on that post was really unpleasant.

Made all the worse because I think thr original question was whether anyone else did this as he'd been asked to. People jump to opinions wrongly so often

This is true. As regular forum users we need to be aware of the impact of the things we say on here on how other users view the forum. It is little wonder people think that there are cliques.

I find it really difficult to contribute (or even ask advice) without being eviscerated. It's may only be a small group or a few individuals but it feels like everyone gets behind it and a lynch mob forms.

Have had to learn to accept it but initially, I would retalliate and it became a slanging match - I even got a couple of timeouts for retaliating - The atteackERS didnt!"

Yep. I remember 5 years ago being lynch mobbed for calling out lynch mob behaviour. I think the key thing for me now is noticing how my own behaviour may actually be contributing to the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

The responses on that thread made me cringe. It's fine to say you don't like something but it's how you say it. The guy was made to feel like a total deviant just for asking about it. "

I actually quite like doing it, but it’s not often I can get it to fire that far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?"

No, that's what the forum is here for!!!

(p.s. keep being yourself buddy, it's refreshing)

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?

No, that's what the forum is here for!!!

(p.s. keep being yourself buddy, it's refreshing)"

Thanks, and you keep that gorgeous body on display!

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?"

Is it possible?

Yes

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Any other mungers here?

No?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

The responses on that thread made me cringe. It's fine to say you don't like something but it's how you say it. The guy was made to feel like a total deviant just for asking about it. "

I stopped reading after three vomit icons in a row..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?

No, that's what the forum is here for!!!

(p.s. keep being yourself buddy, it's refreshing)

Thanks, and you keep that gorgeous body on display! "

Awww thank you

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?

No. you are not allowed to think for yourself or make any of your own decisions. It's the fab way. So stop asking..."

Just like Twitter, then, from what I can gather. But with kinkier profile pictures

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not in the Lounge. Swingers section yes, far more liberal minded over there it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not in the Lounge. Swingers section yes, far more liberal minded over there it seems.

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Tru dat

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Often it's better to say nothing that's not supportive. Our preferences are aspects of our tastes and help to define our uniqueness. If something is relevant and may help you and others, detailing your preferences is fine, within the boundaries of site rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on how those so called preferences are stated though.

It is funny how some people hide blatant body shaming, racism, homophobic, transophobic, mysogyn statement behind 'preferences'.

Having preferences is totally fine but being derogatory towards the ones who do not fit your preferences is not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Often it's better to say nothing that's not supportive. Our preferences are aspects of our tastes and help to define our uniqueness. If something is relevant and may help you and others, detailing your preferences is fine, within the boundaries of site rules. "

But then why bother getting out of bed if you can't just be yourself and tell ppl what it is you like...? I think banana milkshake is superior to strawberry but if I said that here then somehow I could quite easily be seen as a racist, sexist bigot in someone's poor eyesight....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends on how those so called preferences are stated though.

It is funny how some people hide blatant body shaming, racism, homophobic, transophobic, mysogyn statement behind 'preferences'.

Having preferences is totally fine but being derogatory towards the ones who do not fit your preferences is not.

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I think that is the really important point here

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

It should be you’ll always get those that don’t agree.

As stated already above by many it’s how those preferences are worded and the responses received.

Everyone has their kinks / preferences it’s what makes us, everyone is different just respect that.

If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all.

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By *irlintheRedRed dressWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow

Every time I post that my preference is Black guys my inbox is undated with messages either telling me Im racist or asking whats wrong with white guys. So tedious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it possible to state a preference or a desire to meet a particular type of person, without being lynched on the forum?"

You have to remember that this is Fabswingers, not one of those weird sites were people are non-judgemental and tolerant of other peoples needs and wants. What were you thinking man!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

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Is it possible for anyone to not have short term memory loss on the forums? Goodness go back and look at some comments and I don’t mean just yesterday, go back. People can be very selective about what they remember they’ve said.

As far as preferences go ... I’m not sure. I have stated a preference of not wanting bareback sex or wanting to have sex with anyone that has had bareback sex and not liking videos and that hasn’t gone down well at all.

Just because you have a different point of view it doesn’t make you wrong, although I do agree that it’s not always expressed in the correct way.

When people resort to labelling you with something - in my case ‘naive’. I’m a big girl I can take it but it can put others off giving an honest opinion.

You’re not wrong for disagreeing or disliking something that happens or is stated. That is what preference is all about.

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on whether it's a preference or something a little darker at work really, doesn't it?

If you want to avoid being lynched by the forum, then how you word your preferences plays a massive part in the mob's reaction.

Some things are best left unsaid though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is becoming more commonplace to kink shame on here. The guy yesterday who liked self shooting received a very strong visceral reaction from a lot of Forum users and I really would prefer to see more tolerance of what people like. I respect people’s right to express their opinions but it can seem like a lynch mob in here at times, which is really unpleasant.

The responses on that thread made me cringe. It's fine to say you don't like something but it's how you say it. The guy was made to feel like a total deviant just for asking about it.

I stopped reading after three vomit icons in a row..

"

I stopped reading that one and ducked out without posting my thoughts which I was going to but the entire flow was making me feel really uncomfortable. And that isn’t something I come here for. Perhaps when I’ve been here longer and feel more comfortable I’ll say that but some threads seem to become aggressive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I stopped reading that one and ducked out without posting my thoughts which I was going to but the entire flow was making me feel really uncomfortable. And that isn’t something I come here for. Perhaps when I’ve been here longer and feel more comfortable I’ll say that but some threads seem to become aggressive "

Relate to feeling of discomfort about it.

Also - pick your battles. Naah that's too many. Put some down. Yeah.. that's better.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I never had an issue stating preferences on the forum when I was meeting. I never started a thread about them though just added to an existing thread

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