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The Chase (not the TV show)...

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By *onkyLemons OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Sorry Bradley!

Quick question, are we alone in enjoying “the chase” leading up to a meet?

We’re relatively inexperienced, but our meets thus far have been as the result of some time spent chatting and flirting with the other person and building that tension beforehand.

And in hindsight, I think that’s what we enjoyed the most (the physical stuff was fun too!).

We’re exchanging a few messages here and there with some people, but mostly we’re finding that the overwhelming majority seem in it for a quick hook up (which is fine, but it’s just not for us).

Where are all you social butterflies hiding!?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

In my experience, a lot of couples are quite guarded and reclusive in many ways, often they like to be chased as well so there's a lot of 'working things out' regarding dynamics and the like.

There are plenty of couples out there that do enjoy chatting though, it's just a case of finding them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do so much chasing that by the time i get a meet i need to rest lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to your guns and you will find them! It's how we like to do things, though at the beginning of our fabventure we did give in and meet couples without chatting, which was fun but we soon realised we preferred to take time getting to know people.

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the build up and sexual chemistry before a meet...would be great to actually have someone turn up at the end though ;£

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

The build up to a meet is all part of the fun for us.

We enjoy getting to know people through chatting, it let's us know if we actually do want to meet them or not.

Plus, it's good to talk.

Jo.Xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Although the forums is made up of only a small percentage of people who use fab most people say they need a connection with people before they can have sex with them so I'm surprised at your experience.

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By *onkyLemons OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Don’t get us wrong, we have a few convos on the go which sound promising.

But in the main we get the feeling that when we say we’d rather chat and have a social before any nakedness - the initial spark dies off and the replies stop coming through so quickly

We’re not likely to give in and change our approach tho - here for the fun, not for the numbers!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes, we always chat and have at least one social. We tend to gravitate towards people who feel the same

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry


"Sorry Bradley!

Quick question, are we alone in enjoying “the chase” leading up to a meet?

We’re relatively inexperienced, but our meets thus far have been as the result of some time spent chatting and flirting with the other person and building that tension beforehand.

And in hindsight, I think that’s what we enjoyed the most (the physical stuff was fun too!).

We’re exchanging a few messages here and there with some people, but mostly we’re finding that the overwhelming majority seem in it for a quick hook up (which is fine, but it’s just not for us).

Where are all you social butterflies hiding!?"

Many chasers are all full of ego and get more enjoyment and satisfaction from the chase than they do from the actual catch.

Its similar to a spoiled child stamping its feet and screaming to get something and once they get it then they no longer want it or have any interest in it.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth

I love a good chase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry Bradley!

Quick question, are we alone in enjoying “the chase” leading up to a meet?

We’re relatively inexperienced, but our meets thus far have been as the result of some time spent chatting and flirting with the other person and building that tension beforehand.

And in hindsight, I think that’s what we enjoyed the most (the physical stuff was fun too!).

We’re exchanging a few messages here and there with some people, but mostly we’re finding that the overwhelming majority seem in it for a quick hook up (which is fine, but it’s just not for us).

Where are all you social butterflies hiding!?"
I'm a social butterfly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh! Thought this was about me #gutted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the chase and a social before anything else. Personally I need to feel some sort of connection with the person or couple.

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By *onkyLemons OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Oh! Thought this was about me #gutted "

Who said it isn’t!?

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry


"I love a good chase"

I will play chase with you as long as you give me a head start.

I am not as quick as i use to be.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth


"I love a good chase

I will play chase with you as long as you give me a head start.

I am not as quick as i use to be."

Nobody gets a head start. It's a full-on game, or nothing. Play to win by whatever means, I take no prisoners. If you can't play at my pace, you're out of the game. Done.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry


"I love a good chase

I will play chase with you as long as you give me a head start.

I am not as quick as i use to be.

Nobody gets a head start. It's a full-on game, or nothing. Play to win by whatever means, I take no prisoners. If you can't play at my pace, you're out of the game. Done. "

Ok then.

I was going to let you go on front anyway just so i can admire the view.

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By *latinumkittenWoman
over a year ago

from Home Counties to Middle Earth


"I love a good chase

I will play chase with you as long as you give me a head start.

I am not as quick as i use to be.

Nobody gets a head start. It's a full-on game, or nothing. Play to win by whatever means, I take no prisoners. If you can't play at my pace, you're out of the game. Done.

Ok then.

I was going to let you go on front anyway just so i can admire the view. "

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