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"I used to work on a dementia ward. Think of it like a rainbow. Theres more than our eyes can see. And someone can be at the very bottom and appear normal and fluid daily, or theres others who are just happy usually. But sometimes confused. Then theres others who bite, punch, throw things, kick. You name it it's been done to me. Have to get very got a dodging. But it depends on the individual, how well you know them, how well they remember you." great way to explain ..and spot on | |||
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"Saddest thing iv ever seen " I’m so sorry it really is. In my old job I saw it a lot and it was so hard, harder for the family and loved ones I think. The grief happens long before they’re gone as you just watch them leave. Sending hugs. | |||
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"I managed to get my Mother into a very good home. They undertook a bespoke decoration of her room with old photos of her past not only from her family life but also of places she lived. She was also given a doll to look after which brought out some sort of mothering instinct in her. It was quite sweet but heartbreaking to see. As she was always proud of her appearance they also looked after her hair and nails. It’s worth shopping around for care. I used to only spend around an hour with her in the end as she lived in 15 minute bubbles. It’s important to look after yourself in all of it mate. " That’s beautiful. I love that her experience was so gentle. I hope for that for everyone like that. It’s so difficult. | |||
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"Going through it at the moment with my own mother. Most heartbreaking thing ive ever experienced. They go through so many stages and what works today may not ever again in 2 weeks time. Can only do your best and show them as much love and care as you can. Its the worst disease I have ever seen in my life. Music is the only time we ever got to see my mam as herself for a few moments. Play a song and she would remember it and sing along, was actually quite beautiful. Gone beyond even that now and theres just nothing of her left now " My mum is the same but we've never had the greatest of relationships. You have to ignore that and put it to one side. The condition brings out the worst traits and with no filter what so ever. Really, really horribly loss of dignity. My heart goes out to all carers. | |||
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"Humour them or tell thrm no" Love them. That's you family. | |||
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"Humour them or tell thrm no Love them. That's you family. " thats a bit like saying the sea is blue obviously i do its mi granny | |||
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"we found it easier on mum to go along with her world so she wouldn't get agitated, she seemed happier with her thoughts . it was s blessing when she forgot that she forgot and then wasnt plagued by forgetfulness which did bother her a lot " This. There's absolutely nothing to be gained by arguing for the sake of accuracy. | |||
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"I work in a residential dementia unit and often tell a few white lies to prevent further aggitation. Dementia is a horrid illness but working with people with dementia is a pleasure. " Xxx I’ve filled up xxx | |||
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"Most of the time it’s best to half play along, as long as they’re not in danger as they can become quite agitated being told their reality is not accurate. If they think they’re in a school, just chat about it, if they think you’re they’re niece rather than grand child, just chat with them anyway and maybe say your name again in a bit. It’s very tricky but usually easier to be gentle and enter their world rather than to push them to accept a reality that makes no sense to them anymore. Best of luck to anyone going through this, it is very hard to watch someone fade away and to become unrecognisable. - Mrs " 100% this. Can you imagine how frustrating and scary it must be to be convinced of something, only to have those around you question everything and tell you you're wrong. It's heart breaking and my heart goes out to anyone having to deal with it. | |||
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"Patience care and understanding, listen to them talk to them, " If only it was that easy. When you're tired, nobody else in the family gives a damn and someone asks for the fiftieth time if we've sorted out how they're getting somewhere patience, care and understanding can be difficult things to display | |||
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"Patience care and understanding, listen to them talk to them, If only it was that easy. When you're tired, nobody else in the family gives a damn and someone asks for the fiftieth time if we've sorted out how they're getting somewhere patience, care and understanding can be difficult things to display" it can be very frustrating at times , you need the rest of the family to step up and help , you cant do it all by yourself, | |||
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"Patience care and understanding, listen to them talk to them, If only it was that easy. When you're tired, nobody else in the family gives a damn and someone asks for the fiftieth time if we've sorted out how they're getting somewhere patience, care and understanding can be difficult things to display" 100% this word for word | |||
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"Patience care and understanding, listen to them talk to them, If only it was that easy. When you're tired, nobody else in the family gives a damn and someone asks for the fiftieth time if we've sorted out how they're getting somewhere patience, care and understanding can be difficult things to display it can be very frustrating at times , you need the rest of the family to step up and help , you cant do it all by yourself, " It's true it isn't possible to do it alone. My parents employ a gardener, a cleaner and we've finally managed to persuade my mother to have a career three times a week for one hour. The rest of my family either won't help, can't help or my parents refuse to let them. I'm not complaining I'm just stating facts . I find it easier to deal with a situation of I accept it now it is not how I'd like it to be | |||
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