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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That sometimes no matter how many close friends you open up to, it takes a complete stranger to make you feel a little better?

You know who you are.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Because they don’t judge you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because they don’t judge you "

You could be on to something there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they don’t judge you "

Totally this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kindness are within strangers x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Thats why folk go to councelling to talk to someone who does not know or will not judge them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thats why folk go to councelling to talk to someone who does not know or will not judge them"

I get that, but their also highly trained, i just meant ordinary people, but yes i suppose the basis is no different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or we don't open up as honesty with friends as we just assume they will judge. We can't walk just walk away from them as we can with a total stranger

I think strangers do judge, but it's much more about how we view others response or reaction that determines the outcome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strangers sometimes have better perspective, on the outside looking in - and life experience in addition.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Strangers sometimes have better perspective, on the outside looking in - and life experience in addition. "

Thats good point, sometimes not being involved can be insighful.

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By *ilkenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

On the positive side someone did make you feel better there are sadly a lot about who don't.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Novelty of experience, perhaps? You've self-selected your friends, who won't potentially have a difference that a stranger may have. Your friends may also have something to do with the issue. A detached perspective, without any repercussions, may also allow you to distil an issue very concisely, which can often let us gain a different perspective on something that's been overwhelming. Lots possible ways that talking helps and especially with someone who's unonvolved with you and possibly your past.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Complete strangers don't care about you on a more than superficial level. They listen in a different way and if they give advice it's without risk to a friendship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On the positive side someone did make you feel better there are sadly a lot about who don't. "

Yeah, i try to cut them out as much as possible, im perfectly capable of making myself feel bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Complete strangers don't care about you on a more than superficial level. They listen in a different way and if they give advice it's without risk to a friendship. "

Thats a very point about risk to friendship

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Pass, I dont really have many good friends and those that I do have are awesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strangers don't come with the baggage- theirs and yours- that a friend has.

Talking to a stranger means that you can be more honest about your feelings, desires, your past and what you want to do because they are a blank canvas. You havnt invested in them so you don't have anything to lose.

If they disapprove or don't like you it doesn't matter and this gives you a tremendous freedom to be yourself that you might not be able to do with a friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Strangers don't come with the baggage- theirs and yours- that a friend has.

Talking to a stranger means that you can be more honest about your feelings, desires, your past and what you want to do because they are a blank canvas. You havnt invested in them so you don't have anything to lose.

If they disapprove or don't like you it doesn't matter and this gives you a tremendous freedom to be yourself that you might not be able to do with a friend."

My friends know exactly who and what i am they know everything about me (i wear my heart on my sleve) theyve never once disaproved... dispared sometimes though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because friends are supposed to look after you. We don't always appreciate it the same if we 'expect' it.

A stranger owes us nothing. So that little smile or a kind word from a stranger can mean more than if it was from a friend.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because friends are supposed to look after you. We don't always appreciate it the same if we 'expect' it.

A stranger owes us nothing. So that little smile or a kind word from a stranger can mean more than if it was from a friend. "

Wow... that had never even crossed my mind.

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