FabSwingers.com forum: Married but bicurious

By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Married but bicurious

Is this right or wrong

Love sex xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married but bicurious

Is this right or wrong

Love sex xx"

What does wife say about it

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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Go get yourself a man bum and try it out then tell the wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not wrong to be curious.

It’s wrong to act on it if your wife doesn’t know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi all

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By *ungandMan
over a year ago

daveyhulme

I’m sure most men are curious married or not

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

She don’t know but we talk about it when having sex and watching porn

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is full of people cheating on their partners behind their backs.

It makes me happy I'm single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married but bicurious

Is this right or wrong

Love sex xx"

I'm presuming wife doesn't know you have an account - play safe and don't take any chances.

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

This site is like watching porn

But chatting to real people

About there kinky side

Every one has one x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site is like watching porn

But chatting to real people

About there kinky side

Every one has one x"

Except you don’t tend to fuck other people when watching porn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site is like watching porn

But chatting to real people

About there kinky side

Every one has one x"

That's the beauty of fab!...FREEDOM

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

I would think that most on ere watch porn

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

"This site is like watching porn

But chatting to real people

About there kinky side

Every one has one x"

If your bi feelings are "kinky", what do you call your straight feelings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She probably already knows. She may have already accepted it. She may even be comfortable with you getting some experience. She may not.

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

We talk about every thing together

St8 gay lesbian

Swinging

getting caught is one of our fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She don’t know but we talk about it when having sex and watching porn "

Does the thought of it make her horny?

Mine does if i start to describe what that extra person could be doing right at that moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This site is like watching porn

But chatting to real people

About there kinky side

Every one has one x"

True now I've looked properly. You've only cammed so far, according to the holy gospel of 'verifications'... Loads of married folk on here experimenting

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Yes only Skype with both sex

I love the thought of other kinky people watch

Me on cam

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married but bicurious

Is this right or wrong

Love sex xx"

Something a lot of men get after marriage gets a bit boring

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Life’s not boring or sex

I think I’m just very curious

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Nothing wrong with curiosity, its human and there's nothing wrong with human desire per se. The potential problems come when these desires conflict with your marriage. I'm assuming your other half married you under the conditions that it was going to be a monogamous relationship? In which case to do anymore than be curious would be to move the goal posts in your relationship. Does your other half know your on here. Personally just being on here and saying you want to meet people I'd say you have already over stepped a mark if your other half doesn't know. It's very upsetting when a partner cheats on you.

So where do you go with this curiosity? I assume you want to keep your relationship with you other half?

Option 1: Keep it as a curiosity and take it no further at the expense of suppressing your sexual desires. Which in its self is sad because we should all be free to be who we are and express ourselves. Life is too short.

Option 2: Lead a double life and cheat on your partner. Which is really unhealthy for all involved. And although even if done with good intention to protect them is in my mind very disrespectful. The the fall out from the truth coming out is so painful and damaging. As someone who was lied to and cheated on by my ex spouse I can tell you the pain, loss of your sense of reality, emotional and trust issues going forward are unreal. It really undermines your belief in reality and your self. Honestly the worst period of pain, self doubt and feeling completely lost in my life. It feels like the world has been pulled from under your feet, wouldn't wish it on anyone. These are wounds that don't heal easy. So be warned if you love your other half then taking this option may hurt them worse than anything and make the future very hard for them.

Option 3: Be open with your desires, there is nothing wrong with them. Often when we are younger we form long term relationships, marriages etc before we truly know our own selves. And over time some people change. Surely with should be in a relationship where we are be free to be truly ourselves and be loved for who we are. So if you can be yourself with anyone it should be them. Be open, honest about your desires and what you want from life. Since you are the one moving the goal posts let them decide what they want to do going forward. Maybe they will still love you and accept who you are and wish to support you in that. Maybe they too wanted to look into moving the goal posts in terms of monogamy and sexuality? Or maybe this is something they cant tolerate in a relationship? If so yes that will cause hurt too, but your sexuality and desire is no ones fault, sometimes life is just like that. In which case you split and both free to find a life where you can both live on your own term.

Non of these options are easy but that is up to you to reason and find away. You are who you are but hopefully you reason a way forward that is ethical and fair.

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Wooo nice long message thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is full of people cheating on their partners behind their backs.

It makes me happy I'm single."

This, all day long!

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Single st8 bi does it matter

As long as it’s safe clean fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well your in the right place thats for sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married but bicurious

Is this right or wrong

Love sex xx"
Are you curious to give or receive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is full of people cheating on their partners behind their backs.

It makes me happy I'm single.

This, all day long!

Me three ...

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Love been bi very curious

Nothing wrong with chatting with

M and f

To have safe clean fun xx

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Nothing wrong with curiosity, its human and there's nothing wrong with human desire per se. The potential problems come when these desires conflict with your marriage. I'm assuming your other half married you under the conditions that it was going to be a monogamous relationship? In which case to do anymore than be curious would be to move the goal posts in your relationship. Does your other half know your on here. Personally just being on here and saying you want to meet people I'd say you have already over stepped a mark if your other half doesn't know. It's very upsetting when a partner cheats on you.

So where do you go with this curiosity? I assume you want to keep your relationship with you other half?

Non of these options are easy but that is up to you to reason and find away. You are who you are but hopefully you reason a way forward that is ethical and fair."

Brilliant answer and something to really consider

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We talk about every thing together

St8 gay lesbian

Swinging

getting caught is one of our fantasy

Sounds like she may be open to a deeper conversation that would allow you to explore this with the person you trust most. That would be my advice. Being bi isn’t kinky just a different preference, nothing wrong with it.

We took a quiz called mojo which is meant for couples and it shows just the things you match on but opens discussion to preferences and kinks. Our chat about those results led us to Fab and we are really happy swinging and exploring together and it’s way nicer to explore other people with their consent and even brings us closer. If she’s that open in regular sex chat that would be the best way to go about it and it may not feel as kinky or wrong. Good luck

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

One life - it's your rules. It's better to include respect for others amongst them.

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

She knows I’m curious

She curious about lady’s to

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"We talk about every thing together

St8 gay lesbian

Swinging

getting caught is one of our fantasy

Great tip on the mojo quiz guys

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"She knows I’m curious

She curious about lady’s to"

Don't see how it could be wrong then, as Her Majesty says

it would only be wrong if you acted on it and she didn't know

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Very true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab is full of people cheating on their partners behind their backs.

It makes me happy I'm single."
Excatly don’t cheat just leave

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"Married but bicurious

Is this right or wrong

Love sex xx"

Does your wife know you're on fab? If not would she be happier that you cheated on her with a man or a woman? Then you decided if it's right or wrong! Simple.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Who do the boobs on the profile belong to is no meets and wife unaware of the profile?

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

She knows

We’re both curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If youre both curios explore it.

If not dont.

Its marriage.

Youre both in agreement or you're not mate.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"She knows

We’re both curious "

My wife's on here, i even mention our profile in my profile, just so people know... you know?

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

"She knows

We’re both curious "

If she knows you're on fab, isn't your user name a bit of a hint to your interests...?

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

I'm failing to see the dilemma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk about it with your other half.

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

Its deffo very wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP I’m slightly confused by some of your answers, you seem to be contradicting yourself. If your wife knows you’re Bi curious and you both get turned on discussing it then what’s the problem?

Is she aware you’re on Fab or not? If she’s not then that’s your problem.

You might also want to consider changing your status from straight to bi curious considering your user name.

Miss V

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So wrong on so many levels

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Still failing to see the issue

You're on here, she's on here

Now crack on with it

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Thank u

We had a couples account

But. All the guys just wanted her but she more

Wanting lady for pleasure then lots of cocks

She has mine lol

I’m curious about cock

Yes ok we’re a crazy pair

But u only live once’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So wrong on so many levels"

How?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

"Married but bicurious

Is this right or wrong

Love sex xx

Something a lot of men get after marriage gets a bit boring "

True

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over a year ago

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Morning guys and dolls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, have you ever tried a cock?

For a long time I wanted to try it, but the reality was it was just OK.

If I was with a couple and he was bi would I play with him now? Absolutely.

Would I be devastated if I never had another one? Certainly not.

Assuming this is a fantasy then my advice would be try it, it's possibly just a mental block you need to try to be sure that you definitely like it or definitely don't like it.

I tried it and it didn't definitively answer my question but it did stop me wanting to know what it would be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi all

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Would love to try cock

But I’m shy

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By *hesterXXXMan
over a year ago

in your dreams

Shyness gets you nowhere. Be brave and message someone you fancy

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

There a fu lol

I need to grow some balls x

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By *hesterXXXMan
over a year ago

in your dreams

What have you got to lose? (Except your relationship obviously lol)

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

Very true unless I’m private

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over a year ago

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By *tsonlysexCouple
over a year ago

bedford

I told my partner ten years ago took ages to get to point

Never cheated on her and now we play together. She enjoys watching and sharing with me.

We only play if guy happy me to give oral. Amazing straight guys not so straight and end up wanting me to give head.

But glad I told her. I don’t fancy men in anyway just enjoy giving head. My partner would ask when out who I would go with. I said I would need to see naked.

I am lucky she understood and supports me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been in your shoes OP, so no judgement, I've not read entire thread though.

Talk about it more with your partner. Talk about Fab. Talk about this conversation on it.. talk, talk, talk!

If you're at the stage where you're seriously considering cheating, you can salvage your relationship, if you love her and want to. She may want to run a little free too.

Cheating breaks the trust and without trust, you don't have much to build s happy relationship on.

It sounds like you need to experiment, that may be all this bi urge is, no matter how strong you feel about it now. It may even be a reflection of how you feel about yourself right now, thinking the way you are.

No judgement from me, but you have the choice not to lie ever again. It's hard, it'll change your life, for the better, in the long run.

Better to learn the lesson now than risk causing more damage?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good Morning all

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By *icurious51 OP Man
over a year ago

beverley

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not wrong to feel that way..tis what it is...it's what you do with those feelings that count and how you go about it..imo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bore Da ~ Good Morning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone genuine with nice personality

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