FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling depressed & misserable

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How do you cope with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shut myself off from the outside for a few days then I'm normally ok.

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Talking is the first step, open up to friends and family who can help you further if needed

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Get out in the Welsh air!!

Honestly. There are so many nature walks etc with beautiful scenery it’s a joy - especially now it’s getting colder and you can bundle up with a scarf!

I love a cosy scarf!

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By *lubberMan
over a year ago

Rothwell

"How do you cope with it? "

Talk to my wife and try to keep busy rather then let it take over and wallow.

Get a dog, seriously, so much love and entertainment. 24 hours a day.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Confiding in someone.

Either family, friend, doctor.

Even talking to a complete strange is beneficial - completely unbiased opinion.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Sleep, fresh air, exercise, adequate nutrition. Making sure my physical needs are met and I'm comfortable.

Doing nice or fulfilling things for myself.

Trying to resolve the things that make me feel bad.

Positive self talk, self compassion, meditation, distraction.

Talking to someone qualified.

Riding it out until it goes away.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Go to the beach on a windy day with a flask of hot tea and reflect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smoke

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Confiding in someone.

Either family, friend, doctor.

Even talking to a complete strange is beneficial - completely unbiased opinion.

Agree

Miss

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By *-sas-sinWoman
over a year ago

Arse end of the universe

If I feel crap I take the dog out for a walk, rain or shine, just get going, sometimes via the pub but I get out the house, otherwise I will sit all day and mope.

I know most say it's good to talk but not everyone has someone to talk too, but a walk or generally doing something in the fresh air works wonders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank God that I don't have this illness.

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"How do you cope with it? "

Get the shorts on and ear plugs in and go for a long walk. Stay off the bevvy, keep your head down and focus on yourself

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Make sure you get up early everyday and have a shower. It’s easy to just say I’ll have another half hour and before you know it it’ll be 2 in the afternoon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually go for a drive and blast out music, or a brisk walk with my headphones in, either way music has saved my life on more than 1 ocasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually lock myself away from everyone and bottle things up.

Currently trying to change that with some help.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I usually lock myself away from everyone and bottle things up.

Currently trying to change that with some help. "

Hugs

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I usually lock myself away from everyone and bottle things up.

Currently trying to change that with some help. "

Always happy to talk. You've always been nice to me. X

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Moment by moment.

Hide.

Talk.

Socialise, if I still can.

Keep busy, when I can.

Avoid situations that might spark a panic attack.

If I can't shake it off then I will get antidepressants and find the money to go back to therapy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually lock myself away from everyone and bottle things up.

Currently trying to change that with some help.

Hugs"

back at you! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank God that I don't have this illness. "

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Take a day of quiet and read myself into a new world. Then I get out with the dogs into the park and laugh myself silly at the two of them being a pair of lunatics.

I do need that little space to myself, but knowing that I'm responsible for their wellbeing is a massive help to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get on with my day, but keep myself to myself. In the back of my mind I know tomorrow I’ll be fine and I keep reminding myself if that.

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By *rebs001Man
over a year ago

Widnes

hide away usually

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Keep myself away from other people - not too difficult for me apart from at work where I manage to maintain a certain facade. Luckily there’s always some drama which means no one notices me with my head down. I really don’t do well sharing inner most thoughts and worries with others. I’ve seen a therapist but it made feel extremely uncomfortable and caused me even more stress. So I deal with it my own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As so many people have already suggested:

Talk to someone. The old adage is true “a problem shared is a problem halved” - talking really does help; family, friend or a stranger.

Get outside and do something, anything. Go for a walk, go for a drive, play sport, go bird watching. The more you are cooped up at home the more your brain focuses on the negativity, give your brain something different to focus on.

Personally, when I have a bad day I feel so useless and worthless. I found a coping mechanism for me was to do something productive; washing, ironing, cleaning, mowing the lawn, sweeping the drive, going to an old folks home and playing chess in silence ... anything that made me feel like I had a value to someone. Even if it was just doing the washing and ironing, I knew I had done something productive for someone else that day. It was a little win but it was a win and that is all I needed to get to the end of the day.

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By *ADY VOLUPTUOUS OF KENTWoman
over a year ago

TONBRIDGE ROUNDABOUTS

"Thank God that I don't have this illness.

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it

over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

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we all get down ( unlike that selfish reply person)

As we never know what's around our fate corner ..talking is good if have a listener,then their get bored

Talk things aloud it's good.

Have two sheets of paper write ,compare your pros and cons in your life....probably more things going for you than you realised.

Good luck.. .

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Thank God that I don't have this illness.

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

Worrying about what others think of you is most probably what’s causing you the most stress and confusion. Anyone who is worth the effort won’t think any differently of you if your going through any sort of issues

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually lock myself away from everyone and bottle things up.

Currently trying to change that with some help.

Always happy to talk. You've always been nice to me. X"

Thanks Chunky! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God that I don't have this illness.

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

My bad. I thought you were suffering with depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to suffer from from it every time the kids went back to there mum's after having them for the weekend.. you just have to focus on the postives and not the negatives...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God that I don't have this illness.

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it

over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

we all get down ( unlike that selfish reply person)

Did you mean me? Hardly a fair assumption. I misread the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God that I don't have this illness.

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it

over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

we all get down ( unlike that selfish reply person)

Did you mean me? Hardly a fair assumption. I misread the OP.

What did you think it said?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont at the minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God that I don't have this illness.

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God that I don't have this illness.

I don't think I have an illness. I just feel down sometimes and there's been a lot going on in my life recently.

I've been thinking about it

over the weekend and thinking what others think of me and its got me down.

Thanks to all who replied.

we all get down ( unlike that selfish reply person)

Did you mean me? Hardly a fair assumption. I misread the OP.

What did you think it said?"

The title was about being depressed.

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By *rebs001Man
over a year ago

Widnes

worst thing is now the clocks are about to change and nights drawing in, end up in dark dwelling on things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you cope with it? "

Figure out why you are feeling this way and do something about it. Easier said than done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually watch Malcolm in the middle when I am depressed

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By *rebs001Man
over a year ago

Widnes

"Easier said than done

it always is

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By *rebs001Man
over a year ago

Widnes

"I usually watch Malcolm in the middle when I am depressed "

or Futurama...... waiting to see benders shiny metal ass bitten lol

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I usually watch Malcolm in the middle when I am depressed "

I used to watch that...it is funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you cope with it? "
Talk about it mate ! It doesn’t matter who to as long as they listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go for a drive, music loud and windows open, then when the tine is right pull over and have a cry.. Then a sleep and drive home.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I usually watch Malcolm in the middle when I am depressed

I used to watch that...it is funny"

I still remember the one where Hal teaches Malcolm to rollerskate as one of the funniest things I've ever seen on TV.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fortunate, however bad things seem, I just need a cwtch with my daughter and to spend some time being silly with her and it all fades. Also I find being productive, starting something I've been putting off or talking to my bestie helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually watch Malcolm in the middle when I am depressed

I used to watch that...it is funny

I still remember the one where Hal teaches Malcolm to rollerskate as one of the funniest things I've ever seen on TV. "

Haha the way he moves on that song is priceless !!

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

Force myself out, and if no one about, treat a homeless person to lunch/ coffee

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

I go anti-social. I hide away. Sleep. Except at night, when U can't sleep.

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By *rebs001Man
over a year ago

Widnes

"I go anti-social. I hide away. Sleep. Except at night, when U can't sleep."

know that well or just couple hours sleep and awake the rest of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm feeling down I usually go to the gym, put my headphones on, make a playlist of my fave tunes and zone out while I pump some weights. It usually helps.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

If there is a clear issue and I can solve then I start chipping away at it. If it can’t be done in one go then I know I have at least started.

If it’s something that can’t be solved I try not to wallow in it and divert myself with something.

I have a group of good solid friends and family that helped me during a very tough time. They are there when I need them and vice versa.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Isolation and sleeping it off can perpetuate depression. Be wary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go anti-social. I hide away. Sleep. Except at night, when U can't sleep."

That’s exactly what I do. I know I shouldn’t but I still do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Family friend sadly committed suicide yesterday, no signs or indications he was feeling this way. So sad his son ahd mine play footy together. Not sank in yey

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I hope tomorrow is a good day for us all xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How do you cope with it? "

10 mins meditation every day (I use a free app called “insight timer” start with the guided meditations.

20 mins exercise every day, 3 days a week do some cardio exercise that will increase your heart rate, the other days do yoga (look up “man flow yoga” on YouTube).

Sauna 20 mins 3 x per week,

I used to suffer with depression really badly, but have found this program is better than any antidepressant I ever took. But you have to do it religiously even when you do t feel like it. (Especially when you don’t feel like it)

Hope things improve soon.

Take care dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Family friend sadly committed suicide yesterday, no signs or indications he was feeling this way. So sad his son ahd mine play footy together. Not sank in yey

So sorry for your loss.

It’s such an incredibly hard thing to come to terms with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go anti-social. I hide away. Sleep. Except at night, when U can't sleep.

That’s exactly what I do. I know I shouldn’t but I still do it "

Ditto me too, at night you can't stop your brain in the day you can't be bothered to think so just sleep and do nothing.

Felt like this for months and even with doctors help still the same.

Greyhound

Hey ho

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By *enie MeenieMan
over a year ago

Crawley Down

Keep on fighting til the day u think u know what fuck this!

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