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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Who said that?

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By *irth.Minge.FireMan
over a year ago

Seen in far off places

Sorry, who posted this thread?...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Wait til you turn 50

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Who said that?

I knew someone would say that - I'm not amused

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I know the feeling. Think it's because I'm over 40 and small!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry, who posted this thread?..."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Wait til you turn 50

I'm 45 soon - I'm nearly there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sam's 40 in January, but he is invisible in clubs anyway when he goes by himself apparently

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By *orthern PowerhouseMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

It slows down interest in some sectors but we all age and all at the same rate so why worry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know the feeling. Think it's because I'm over 40 and small!!"

Yes well you're teeny tiny - people have a valid reason for not being able to see you

I'm a big fat giant with big frizzy hair!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

55 is a big cut off. Mind you, I'm not interested in people the same age as my children... Eugghhhh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sam's 40 in January, but he is invisible in clubs anyway when he goes by himself apparently

Tell Sam that he can do anything while he's invisible - if no one can see or hear him then the possibilities are endless

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It slows down interest in some sectors but we all age and all at the same rate so why worry."

I'm not worried about interest.

Im genuinely worried for my safety - if no one can see me then I might get run over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd best enjoy my last 3 years of being visible then

Have you tried showing a bit of cleavage, I'm sure that will turn some heads

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

55 is a big cut off. Mind you, I'm not interested in people the same age as my children... Eugghhhh"

I dont mean on Fab - I mean in general x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

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lol i get that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd best enjoy my last 3 years of being visible then

Have you tried showing a bit of cleavage, I'm sure that will turn some heads

Haha I think it's different for men.

You could pull off a silver fox look

And men seem to get more respect by the staff in shops etc than women.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'd best enjoy my last 3 years of being visible then

Have you tried showing a bit of cleavage, I'm sure that will turn some heads

Haha I think it's different for men.

You could pull off a silver fox look

And men seem to get more respect by the staff in shops etc than women.

Yeah, I think women are idiot girls until they're 40 or so, then invisible. Men... Get to be adults and treated with respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know. Maybe i shouldn't really speak as Im still 39, but we don't walk around with a dob stuck on our foreheads?

I am sorry you feel like this. I see you! Virtually at least

i like watching people out and about.. And eldest i find most amusing. So much stories in all the wrinkles or limbing walk even.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

Yup, they do that, and talk over you, cannot bear it when people do that, so rude and unnecessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*many even!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

It happens. I would like to say don’t worry, things get better but they don’t with regard to that

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Wait til you turn 50

Oh shush, you look fabulous

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd best enjoy my last 3 years of being visible then

Have you tried showing a bit of cleavage, I'm sure that will turn some heads

Haha I think it's different for men.

You could pull off a silver fox look

And men seem to get more respect by the staff in shops etc than women.

Yeah, I think women are idiot girls until they're 40 or so, then invisible. Men... Get to be adults and treated with respect. "

What is that about?

I have just been reduced to tears and humiliated in a Shop by the staff

It's a long boring story I wont go into - but it would have been a different story if I was a man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

Can I answer this at the end of 2020?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'd best enjoy my last 3 years of being visible then

Have you tried showing a bit of cleavage, I'm sure that will turn some heads

Haha I think it's different for men.

You could pull off a silver fox look

And men seem to get more respect by the staff in shops etc than women.

Yeah, I think women are idiot girls until they're 40 or so, then invisible. Men... Get to be adults and treated with respect.

What is that about?

I have just been reduced to tears and humiliated in a Shop by the staff

It's a long boring story I wont go into - but it would have been a different story if I was a man!"

I wish I fucking knew. And if you get angry or upset you're probably on your period or something. God forbid women sometimes have reason to get pissed off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

Yup, they do that, and talk over you, cannot bear it when people do that, so rude and unnecessary"

But why do they do it?

Is it because when the clock strikes midnight on your 40th birthday your opinion is no longer valid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

55 is a big cut off. Mind you, I'm not interested in people the same age as my children... Eugghhhh

I dont mean on Fab - I mean in general x"

It's nothing to do with you. Nothing personal about it at all.

It's the society of putting oneself first all the time, being told to look after no one because no one else will. The problem with that statement is, it's created a selfish society who cares little about anyone else.

This permiates though the whole of society and all that we do. We no longer believe anyone else will help.

Only leads to a disregard of others. So people generally no longer really care and don't look out for others.

So you end up with the scenario you've described.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life absolutely began at 40 for me...

I’m a short, fat, single mum, but I get lots of attention on here and in the real world. I found my confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd best enjoy my last 3 years of being visible then

Have you tried showing a bit of cleavage, I'm sure that will turn some heads

Haha I think it's different for men.

You could pull off a silver fox look

And men seem to get more respect by the staff in shops etc than women.

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see lol

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Life has been getting better since 40, more of a don't give a f*** as time passes

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I know the feeling. Think it's because I'm over 40 and small!!"
no I think people in general have just got ruder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd best enjoy my last 3 years of being visible then

Have you tried showing a bit of cleavage, I'm sure that will turn some heads

Haha I think it's different for men.

You could pull off a silver fox look

And men seem to get more respect by the staff in shops etc than women.

The silver fox transition has been underway for sometime now

Hope you're ok.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

You have a point,

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

The opposite for me I hit 40 and started to be noticed ..Think it’s more to do with the confidence I suddenly had ..

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I know the feeling. Think it's because I'm over 40 and small!! no I think people in general have just got ruder "

I agree, which means it’s not to do with our delicious OP but the idiots around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know the feeling. Think it's because I'm over 40 and small!!

no I think people in general have just got ruder "

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By *ikerdude2017Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I feel like I'm invisible on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have felt like that since 38 and it's been worse at 40!!

As for you, why people would ignore you I do not know!! All good things come curvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel like I'm invisible on here "

I see you. You're the guy with the pink tattoos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it that bad??

one year left then.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it just me or did anyone else turn invisible when they reached 40?

People literally cant see me or hear me anymore.

When I was young and slim people could see me.

Now I can be standing looking at something in a shop and someone will just stop in front of me like I'm not there

No not at all, ive found i get more as ive got older as appeal to most ages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep. It's because of wrinkles and tits heading towards Cornwall in my case. Getting old sucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t swap my 50’s for my 40’s.

Sometimes life gets better the older we get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been thinking the same thing. I seem to be "invisible"

I've been off sites for about a year but even after returning I'm still invisible.

Time to use a proper dating site.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

C'mon now Mary. Make the first move n make it loud.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Wait til you turn 50

Or even 60

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I made myself invisible in my 30s so I didn't notice when others stopped seeing me.

I think it is probably worse for those who were feted for their looks when it happens.

Find your presence and others will notice.

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