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"Absolutely. Jinx
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Charmer. "I meant in the sense we left the exact same comment  . Maybe it's a saddo joke that only people as uncool as me remember. | |||
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"Absolutely. Jinx
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I meant in the sense we left the exact same comment . Maybe it's a saddo joke that only people as uncool as me remember."Ahh, wishful thinking on my part.
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"Absolutely. Jinx
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I meant in the sense we left the exact same comment . Maybe it's a saddo joke that only people as uncool as me remember.
Ahh, wishful thinking on my part.
I don't think you're uncool at all though! "I'm more likely to be bewitched than jinxed by you
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"Absolutely. Jinx
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Jinxed yourself my dear
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I meant in the sense we left the exact same comment . Maybe it's a saddo joke that only people as uncool as me remember.
Ahh, wishful thinking on my part.
I don't think you're uncool at all though!
I'm more likely to be bewitched than jinxed by you
Haha thank you but I'm pretty comfortable in my dorkiness "Pfft, that is definitely charming. 
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"Absolutely. Jinx
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Jinxed yourself my dear
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I meant in the sense we left the exact same comment . Maybe it's a saddo joke that only people as uncool as me remember.
Ahh, wishful thinking on my part.
I don't think you're uncool at all though!
I'm more likely to be bewitched than jinxed by you
Haha thank you but I'm pretty comfortable in my dorkiness
Pfft, that is definitely charming.
I read that as darkness. "
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"Random thought..." Your parents for one I hope. | |||
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"A lot can't as your whole self is a hell of a lot to give. But the fact that many polyamorous trouples or more exist suggests that it's possible for some?" I agree with that | |||
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"You can only fuck one at a time though! " I beg to differ | |||
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"I love everyone. . (Who’s a decent and upstanding citizen) "Love this. I agree we can love many. I also think we can be in love with many...I also think we can have numerous soulmates in our lives...that ordinary person/s that revolutionises your world in an instant! | |||
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"You can only fuck one at a time though! I beg to differ" Fair point. Correction: I can only fuck one at a time. | |||
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"You can only fuck one at a time though! I beg to differ" Me too... nothing like being fucked by two men you are in love with or emotionally connected to at the same time! | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.." Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? " Strictly speaking, no, but it's not really for anyone else but the individual to define what polyamory is or is not to them. | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? " No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable. | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable." And unconditional. That’s a different kind of love. I think the question is maybe more like could you be”in love” with more than one person. | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable. And unconditional. That’s a different kind of love. I think the question is maybe more like could you be”in love” with more than one person. " I know Which us why I stipulated "Romantic love".
Yes I think I could love two women at the same time. Provided each knew about the other and nobody was getting hurt by it. | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? Strictly speaking, no, but it's not really for anyone else but the individual to define what polyamory is or is not to them." I agree that it's down to the individuals involved in any relationship to decide what it means to them. As I understand it though the "amory" part of the word refers to love of some kind and you'd need to be able to feel that. | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable. And unconditional. That’s a different kind of love. I think the question is maybe more like could you be”in love” with more than one person. I know Which us why I stipulated "Romantic love".
Yes I think I could love two women at the same time. Provided each knew about the other and nobody was getting hurt by it. "I agree. It’s definitely possible. | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable." I think we're all very different when it comes to love of the romantic kind (I can't think of a better way to describe love between people in an adult, sexual relationship). Obviously our approach and attitude is partially shaped by previous experiences and partially by personality and circumstances. It's an interesting subject | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable. I think we're all very different when it comes to love of the romantic kind (I can't think of a better way to describe love between people in an adult, sexual relationship). Obviously our approach and attitude is partially shaped by previous experiences and partially by personality and circumstances. It's an interesting subject" Agreed. I also think some mistake possesiveness and fears of losing someone that are created by their own insecurities for love. They are very intense feelings and can exist alongside love but some mistake the absesne of that intense obsession and fear for lack of love which isn't neccessarily true. | |||
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"It is possible to be in romantic love with two people at once. The heart has a huge capacity for love. It just depends on the people involved. " Exactly. It wouldn't be possible for me and I wouldn't seek out a polyamorous relationship | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable. I think we're all very different when it comes to love of the romantic kind (I can't think of a better way to describe love between people in an adult, sexual relationship). Obviously our approach and attitude is partially shaped by previous experiences and partially by personality and circumstances. It's an interesting subject Agreed. I also think some mistake possesiveness and fears of losing someone that are created by their own insecurities for love. They are very intense feelings and can exist alongside love but some mistake the absesne of that intense obsession and fear for lack of love which isn't neccessarily true. " Yes and some confuse sex and love too. I don't know if the way Mr N and I perceive love is unusual or not but some of the things I read on here make me wonder if we are. | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. " Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. " That’s the point I was making.. within an open relationship it’s fine. For me the idea of it without openness isn’t ok. Never something I’d choose to be part of x | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. " Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable. I think we're all very different when it comes to love of the romantic kind (I can't think of a better way to describe love between people in an adult, sexual relationship). Obviously our approach and attitude is partially shaped by previous experiences and partially by personality and circumstances. It's an interesting subject Agreed. I also think some mistake possesiveness and fears of losing someone that are created by their own insecurities for love. They are very intense feelings and can exist alongside love but some mistake the absesne of that intense obsession and fear for lack of love which isn't neccessarily true. " Which is why I'm undecided maybe? | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. " This 
People assume that poly people are shameless with no morals and will shag anything regardless of whether they are hurting people or not which is far from the truth.
If you want and engage in a poly relationship but you keep it secret from your current partner, you aren't poly.... Just a cheating ratbag | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. That’s the point I was making.. within an open relationship it’s fine. For me the idea of it without openness isn’t ok. Never something I’d choose to be part of x" Sorry it sounded like that part was an explanation of why you weren't interested in polyamory. Polyamory without openess and honesty isn't polyamory, it's cheating. So I agree . | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. " I dont think polyamory is about multiple partners and great sex, more a by product of it.. sometimes. It strikes me more as an open, honest, transparent way of being, without the insecurity, fears and feelings of ownership over another human being.. that often, but not always happen in monogamous relationships. Most other animals have multiple partners, even the ones we usually think of as being monogamous. We're just animals. | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. " It can be hard work yes but I'd disagree it was beyond most people. I think most people could do it if they wanted it enough and wanted to do it ethically. Many people however don't want to which is absolutely fine . | |||
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"I'm not sure if I'm potentially polyamorous, or dont feel love at all in a romantic sense anymore. Time will tell I guess.. Would polyamory be possible if you couldn't feel romantic love? No, but I'm not sure which camp I'm in. I love everyone, or nobody at all, romantically speaking. Love for my boys is undeniable. I think we're all very different when it comes to love of the romantic kind (I can't think of a better way to describe love between people in an adult, sexual relationship). Obviously our approach and attitude is partially shaped by previous experiences and partially by personality and circumstances. It's an interesting subject Agreed. I also think some mistake possesiveness and fears of losing someone that are created by their own insecurities for love. They are very intense feelings and can exist alongside love but some mistake the absesne of that intense obsession and fear for lack of love which isn't neccessarily true. Which is why I'm undecided maybe?" Only you could figure that out. It could not play a part at all. | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. It can be hard work yes but I'd disagree it was beyond most people. I think most people could do it if they wanted it enough and wanted to do it ethically. Many people however don't want to which is absolutely fine . "I'd like to ask you a personal question openly in the forum Lacey, if you dont mind? For me, but I think itd interest others to know. At what point did you realise you were definitely a Poly person?
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. I dont think polyamory is about multiple partners and great sex, more a by product of it.. sometimes. It strikes me more as an open, honest, transparent way of being, without the insecurity, fears and feelings of ownership over another human being.. that often, but not always happen in monogamous relationships. Most other animals have multiple partners, even the ones we usually think of as being monogamous. We're just animals." Absolutely! Asexual people can be poly too for a start. Open and honest, yes and I absolutely agree on the feelings of ownership point, however we all have insecurities and fears. Being poly doesn't make me immune to them. I think the important part is how you deal with them. I try to see my insecurities as my problem to deal with rather than my partner(s)'s. That isn't to say I don't talk to them about them. I personally always welcome, even encourage anyone I date to talk to me if they're feeling insecure so we can work through it together. However I think it should come from a place of " I'm feeling this way" without trying to assign blame or expecting your partner to make any any adjustment neccessary to ease your insecurities. I think it's something that is useful for both monogamous and polyamorous people to look at as too many resort to attempting to control their partner or placing unreasonable restrictions on them instead. | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. It can be hard work yes but I'd disagree it was beyond most people. I think most people could do it if they wanted it enough and wanted to do it ethically. Many people however don't want to which is absolutely fine .
I'd like to ask you a personal question openly in the forum Lacey, if you dont mind?
For me, but I think itd interest others to know.
At what point did you realise you were definitely a Poly person?
Feel free not to answer."I met a woman in a polyamorous relationship and a single man who had previously had one. I liked them both and started seeing them both. Things went well with them both and I liked it. It was a little hard to adjust at first and quite a steep learning curve but I do think it has changed my life and attitudes to relationships for the better. I wouldnt say i realised I was a polyamarous person, more that I discovered polyamory through meeting those people, tried it and realised it worked for me. | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. It can be hard work yes but I'd disagree it was beyond most people. I think most people could do it if they wanted it enough and wanted to do it ethically. Many people however don't want to which is absolutely fine .
I'd like to ask you a personal question openly in the forum Lacey, if you dont mind?
For me, but I think itd interest others to know.
At what point did you realise you were definitely a Poly person?
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I met a woman in a polyamorous relationship and a single man who had previously had one. I liked them both and started seeing them both. Things went well with them both and I liked it. It was a little hard to adjust at first and quite a steep learning curve but I do think it has changed my life and attitudes to relationships for the better. I wouldnt say i realised I was a polyamarous person, more that I discovered polyamory through meeting those people, tried it and realised it worked for me."Thankyou, informative as always x | |||
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"No way. You cant really be in love with 2 partners at once surely you love 1 more than the other maybe. No I don't think you can be in true love with 2 partners at once in my opinion! X" YOU may not, but you cant answer that question for someone else.. Surely? | |||
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"Apparently the hardest part of a poly relationship is the scheduling one part of the relationship forgetting which night they are with each partner lol"Google calenders helps . I know a poly V who have all synced their calenders with a different colour for each of them. | |||
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"I’m not interested in a poly relationship so not for me. The most important criteria for being in a relationship is trust and openness. If that’s there and works all round then great, sadly many of these kind of set ups involve deception towards one or more of the parties. I don’t think that’s a healthy environment so not something I’d want to be part of. I know it’s idealistic and can’t always be the case, but I don’t think love should be at the expense of other people. Its fine to not be interested in a polyamarous relationship but to say they often involve deception is unfair and the opposite of the truth. Polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy are all about openess, honesty and communication. Of course none of us are perfect just as with monogamous people but that is the general ethos. I get messages on here from people cheating on their partners who expect me to be more okay with it because I'm polyamorous which is incredibly insulting as it goes against everything my relationship model is about. Exactly. The level of communication and honesty, emotional maturity and compassion required for a polyarmorous relationship is beyond most people. Many love the idea of it, all those multiple partners, all that amazing sex, but they forget that the emotional landscape between just two people can be complex, so adding another person or two other people exponentially increases the complexity. It can be hard work yes but I'd disagree it was beyond most people. I think most people could do it if they wanted it enough and wanted to do it ethically. Many people however don't want to which is absolutely fine .
I'd like to ask you a personal question openly in the forum Lacey, if you dont mind?
For me, but I think itd interest others to know.
At what point did you realise you were definitely a Poly person?
Feel free not to answer.
I met a woman in a polyamorous relationship and a single man who had previously had one. I liked them both and started seeing them both. Things went well with them both and I liked it. It was a little hard to adjust at first and quite a steep learning curve but I do think it has changed my life and attitudes to relationships for the better. I wouldnt say i realised I was a polyamarous person, more that I discovered polyamory through meeting those people, tried it and realised it worked for me.
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"I can't love more than one romantic partner at a time. I'm more suited to long term relationships with one person and prefer to invest emotionally that way. Of course I love my parents, children, friends etc but that's a different kind of love. It's why I'm an advocate of marriage for people that are both genuinely suited to it" This | |||
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"Why would you want to iv gone 40 years and truly loved only 1 woman and will do forever i could never love again i would refuse as they say in hotel transylvania you only zing once "Many do and quite successfully. Sometimes we don't understand because it's different to what we're accustomed too. | |||
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"Why would you want to iv gone 40 years and truly loved only 1 woman and will do forever i could never love again i would refuse as they say in hotel transylvania you only zing once
Many do and quite successfully. Sometimes we don't understand because it's different to what we're accustomed too."its not about understanding for me it would be refusal | |||
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"Probably. But romantically i’m a one man woman. All or nothing. I don’t want a piece of their heart, i want all of it." this is how i am now. | |||
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"Why would you want to iv gone 40 years and truly loved only 1 woman and will do forever i could never love again i would refuse as they say in hotel transylvania you only zing once "But the Count zinged twice.. Have you not seen the 3rd one yet? | |||
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"I've got two kids love them both Why can't you love two people or even more" That's an explanation that we heard when we first started researching poly relationships and it really stuck with us | |||
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"Yes you can absolutely. Poly relationships are proof of that even though they aren't really represented well in the media. We aren't in a poly relationship but are definately open to one if we each met someone and it clicked. You can't expect to get everything you need from one person. Puts far too much pressure on each person as it leads to doubting the relationship when interests differ. " Poly is not represented well in the media as the Uk dose not ilgalise Poly marridge. As in the uk it's biggamy. They have very hard a set rules for poly marridges profromed in legal states and residing in the uk. | |||
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"Random thought..." Yes and 3 or 4 or 5 at the same time. Love isn't defined by numbers but how you feel. | |||
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