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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

... reject all single men based on the shitty behaviour of some of them?

Once bitten, twice shy? Too busy to wade through multiple cock pics?

Personally speaking, we have found we can pretty quickly see who's going to be for us and who isn't. The odd vile message but nothing a quick block and report won't sort - certainly not a daily occurrence for us. Sometimes guys approach us, sometimes we approach them.

I'm someone who likes to see the good in people and have even found myself giving advice to a few guys who've made a total hash of messaging and then been apologetic. I don't know what it's like to be in their shoes but I imagine it can be tough going.

Opinions and experiences, please - but let's not let this turn into a single man bashing thread. I'm genuinely interested.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reject most not all.

Not because of other single men, but because I’m a fussy cow and I know what I want!

That doesn’t bode well with some and it leads to abuse, even if you don’t respond.

I think since there are a lot on here who pester and send multiple messages at once a lot of women/couples would rather block all single men and look for them on their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reject all of ya none of you can have my penis

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

There are alot of knobheads but I've met some lovely men over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t apply any blanket rules on here. I apply the same rules I do in real life - i.e. reject all people with shitty behaviour - regardless of gender. If you’re rude and / or unattractive I don’t want to sleep with you, if you’re pleasant and attractive and there’s sexual chemistry, then there’s a good chance I do.

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I reject most not all.

Not because of other single men, but because I’m a fussy cow and I know what I want!

That doesn’t bode well with some and it leads to abuse, even if you don’t respond.

I think since there are a lot on here who pester and send multiple messages at once a lot of women/couples would rather block all single men and look for them on their own.

"

Ah I think I have worded this poorly - I'm talking about avoiding single men completely cos you think "they're all the same" rather than being choosy, which we all are surely?

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I don’t apply any blanket rules on here. I apply the same rules I do in real life - i.e. reject all people with shitty behaviour - regardless of gender. If you’re rude and / or unattractive I don’t want to sleep with you, if you’re pleasant and attractive and there’s sexual chemistry, then there’s a good chance I do. "

Snap!

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"There are alot of knobheads but I've met some lovely men over the years."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reject only the ones I have no interest in.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

To be honest, i've got that bored of reading the same kind of banal messages that I very rarely even look in my inbox any more. This unfortunately does mean that I miss messages from people that I would like to speak to, but then I actively search and message people i'm interested in if I want to meet somebody new.

I don't tar all single guys with the same brush, I know there are pleasant, respectful guys on here - i've chatted to quite a few of them, and even met a few.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

I don't think all men are the same I'm just not looking for them, I'm more into meeting ladies.

Saying that we have met some i would be happy to play with and some who are complete dickheads!

That's life in general for you! Not just people you want to fuck!

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

We are only meeting in clubs so if they have not seen that well ...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"To be honest, i've got that bored of reading the same kind of banal messages that I very rarely even look in my inbox any more. This unfortunately does mean that I miss messages from people that I would like to speak to, but then I actively search and message people i'm interested in if I want to meet somebody new.

I don't tar all single guys with the same brush, I know there are pleasant, respectful guys on here - i've chatted to quite a few of them, and even met a few."

I'm getting to this point tbh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm equal opportunities

As long as they explain what their home life is about, I don't mind...

I'm here for uncomplicated fun that you can't get off normal dating sites where you are expected to pick out frigging china patterns and seating plans...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

My inbox is open to all demographics I might meet. It's been a long time since I've met anyone based on a Fab message, though.

My criteria are clear, but over 95% can't be bothered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reject most not all.

Not because of other single men, but because I’m a fussy cow and I know what I want!

That doesn’t bode well with some and it leads to abuse, even if you don’t respond.

I think since there are a lot on here who pester and send multiple messages at once a lot of women/couples would rather block all single men and look for them on their own.

Ah I think I have worded this poorly - I'm talking about avoiding single men completely cos you think "they're all the same" rather than being choosy, which we all are surely? "

Oh! Sorry!

Well I don’t do that so I’ll just read the replies with a smile!

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"I reject most not all.

Not because of other single men, but because I’m a fussy cow and I know what I want!

That doesn’t bode well with some and it leads to abuse, even if you don’t respond.

I think since there are a lot on here who pester and send multiple messages at once a lot of women/couples would rather block all single men and look for them on their own.

Ah I think I have worded this poorly - I'm talking about avoiding single men completely cos you think "they're all the same" rather than being choosy, which we all are surely?

Oh! Sorry!

Well I don’t do that so I’ll just read the replies with a smile! "

No need to apologise, don't think I was clear x

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"We are only meeting in clubs so if they have not seen that well ..."

Well what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m actively looking for single men ....

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"To be honest, i've got that bored of reading the same kind of banal messages that I very rarely even look in my inbox any more. This unfortunately does mean that I miss messages from people that I would like to speak to, but then I actively search and message people i'm interested in if I want to meet somebody new.

I don't tar all single guys with the same brush, I know there are pleasant, respectful guys on here - i've chatted to quite a few of them, and even met a few.

I'm getting to this point tbh. "

So it's wading through volume that has formed both of your views?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... reject all single men based on the shitty behaviour of some of them?

Once bitten, twice shy? Too busy to wade through multiple cock pics?

Personally speaking, we have found we can pretty quickly see who's going to be for us and who isn't. The odd vile message but nothing a quick block and report won't sort - certainly not a daily occurrence for us. Sometimes guys approach us, sometimes we approach them.

I'm someone who likes to see the good in people and have even found myself giving advice to a few guys who've made a total hash of messaging and then been apologetic. I don't know what it's like to be in their shoes but I imagine it can be tough going.

Opinions and experiences, please - but let's not let this turn into a single man bashing thread. I'm genuinely interested.

Mrs TMN x"

I don’t get rejected on the behaviour of others. I’m perfectly capable of screwing things up and getting rejected all by myself

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"... reject all single men based on the shitty behaviour of some of them?

Once bitten, twice shy? Too busy to wade through multiple cock pics?

Personally speaking, we have found we can pretty quickly see who's going to be for us and who isn't. The odd vile message but nothing a quick block and report won't sort - certainly not a daily occurrence for us. Sometimes guys approach us, sometimes we approach them.

I'm someone who likes to see the good in people and have even found myself giving advice to a few guys who've made a total hash of messaging and then been apologetic. I don't know what it's like to be in their shoes but I imagine it can be tough going.

Opinions and experiences, please - but let's not let this turn into a single man bashing thread. I'm genuinely interested.

Mrs TMN x

I don’t get rejected on the behaviour of others. I’m perfectly capable of screwing things up and getting rejected all by myself "

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By *rufinWoman
over a year ago

notts

I don't think they're all the same, but I just don't have the patience or emotional resource to deal with daily abuse and blocking all single men reduces this massively. I use another site to look for men now. Free sites = too many dickheads.

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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds


"... reject all single men based on the shitty behaviour of some of them?

Once bitten, twice shy? Too busy to wade through multiple cock pics?

Personally speaking, we have found we can pretty quickly see who's going to be for us and who isn't. The odd vile message but nothing a quick block and report won't sort - certainly not a daily occurrence for us. Sometimes guys approach us, sometimes we approach them.

I'm someone who likes to see the good in people and have even found myself giving advice to a few guys who've made a total hash of messaging and then been apologetic. I don't know what it's like to be in their shoes but I imagine it can be tough going.

Opinions and experiences, please - but let's not let this turn into a single man bashing thread. I'm genuinely interested.

Mrs TMN x"

Opinions and experiences.without bashing blokes. lets see how many post positive responses without the caveats.

Personally I suggest it often that more folk do use the site tools to reduce incoming mail, then proactivelysearch themselves, the rationale I use ', you know better than any descriptioin you'd type what it is you seek'

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"... reject all single men based on the shitty behaviour of some of them?

Once bitten, twice shy? Too busy to wade through multiple cock pics?

Personally speaking, we have found we can pretty quickly see who's going to be for us and who isn't. The odd vile message but nothing a quick block and report won't sort - certainly not a daily occurrence for us. Sometimes guys approach us, sometimes we approach them.

I'm someone who likes to see the good in people and have even found myself giving advice to a few guys who've made a total hash of messaging and then been apologetic. I don't know what it's like to be in their shoes but I imagine it can be tough going.

Opinions and experiences, please - but let's not let this turn into a single man bashing thread. I'm genuinely interested.

Mrs TMN x

Opinions and experiences.without bashing blokes. lets see how many post positive responses without the caveats.

Personally I suggest it often that more folk do use the site tools to reduce incoming mail, then proactivelysearch themselves, the rationale I use ', you know better than any descriptioin you'd type what it is you seek' "

I think it's been pretty positive so far

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No one gets tarred with the same brush, because one idiot might have done or said something wrong

If a message or a profile catches my eye I’ll start a conversation with them and see where it goes. Others will either get a reply saying “sorry not for me” or just a straight delete

I’ve talked to and met some great people this way and I don’t see my approach changing

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"No one gets tarred with the same brush, because one idiot might have done or said something wrong

If a message or a profile catches my eye I’ll start a conversation with them and see where it goes. Others will either get a reply saying “sorry not for me” or just a straight delete

I’ve talked to and met some great people this way and I don’t see my approach changing

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Snap!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reject all of ya none of you can have my penis"

Lol!! S x

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We blocked guys because they are not what we are here to meet. Those on our friends list we either knew outside of Fab or met & had a laugh with at big socials.

We didn't blanket block immediately though, took a few weeks of shitty messages from those that can't read, might block couples soon too as too many of those are run by those who also can't read.

Ho hum, it is what it is.

S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single, had one play meet, so how do fit that?

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By *orkguy69Man
over a year ago

York

As a single Male on here, I did message a young lady that has posted on this thread, but I wont name her.

I sent her a lovely message (her words) but as I wasn't her type she replied saying so, to which I replied, thank you for taking the time out to reply and good luck in your search.

I know and appreciate that I am not going to be everyone's cup of tea, be it a single lady or a couple, but there is no need to be nasty or offensive if you don't get the reply you want or no reply at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few abusive messages recently and reported them. Absolutly nothing has been done.

I can't be arsed reporting anymore.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

I have found on odd occasions in past years, that some Ladies or Couples state they don't wish to hear from Single Males at all!

This however, is a safeguard for them, so they can filter out the chaff or the moronic approaches so they can concentrate on those Single Guys they do want to meet.

I've met a few couples that way; in turn, I've respected their relative anonymity and not place them on my Veri's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel sorry for a lot of guys on here but not all of them are schmucks. The problem is, we girlie's have one body and can't meet everybody so majority of messages will be deleted nice or not. Most nights I get very trigger happy with the old delete button.

Cock pick... delete

No face pic.... nearly always delete

Blank Avatar... delete

Manky cock Avatar... delete

Hi... delete

Can I ask you a question... delete

How big are they.... delete

Me and my fb.... delete

I'm staying in a hotel nearby... delete

I'm passing right now.... delete

I can breathe through my ears... delete

I can lick pussy for hours... delete

I'm moving to your area... delete

Blah, blah, blah... delete

The crap messages can be a chore but I do find the odd gems here and there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How can people give their reasons for not wanting to fuck men without them being accused of man bashing?

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By *wist my nipples OP   Couple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"How can people give their reasons for not wanting to fuck men without them being accused of man bashing? "

That's not man bashing, that's stating a preference. I was asking about those who feel all single are a bit shit. Perhaps it's just a negative slant thrown up by the forums but it seems some single men think others bring them all down, and some couples/single women think the same. Was interested in how prevalent an attitude it really is

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"How can people give their reasons for not wanting to fuck men without them being accused of man bashing?

That's not man bashing, that's stating a preference. I was asking about those who feel all single are a bit shit. Perhaps it's just a negative slant thrown up by the forums but it seems some single men think others bring them all down, and some couples/single women think the same. Was interested in how prevalent an attitude it really is "

It does seem that any vaguely negative view that involves men, though, you get accused of bashing men in general

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"To be honest, i've got that bored of reading the same kind of banal messages that I very rarely even look in my inbox any more. This unfortunately does mean that I miss messages from people that I would like to speak to, but then I actively search and message people i'm interested in if I want to meet somebody new.

I don't tar all single guys with the same brush, I know there are pleasant, respectful guys on here - i've chatted to quite a few of them, and even met a few.

I'm getting to this point tbh.

So it's wading through volume that has formed both of your views? "

I still go through my inbox at this point, although I tire of it.

It's partly volume and partly experience. The overwhelming majority of the messages I get are one line inane crap that I'm clear I don't want. The times I've looked myself, I've not fared much better.

I think I'm just jaded by my inbox. I do consider every single message I get. Unfortunately, for most the consideration is over within two seconds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How can people give their reasons for not wanting to fuck men without them being accused of man bashing?

That's not man bashing, that's stating a preference. I was asking about those who feel all single are a bit shit. Perhaps it's just a negative slant thrown up by the forums but it seems some single men think others bring them all down, and some couples/single women think the same. Was interested in how prevalent an attitude it really is "

My female friends who don't use the forums are all fed up of men due to crappy messages. Some have ranty SHOUTY profiles trying to put idiots off but I think it just attracts the idiots as they like the challenge of pissing them off.

Some have left the site because they're so fed up.

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