FabSwingers.com forum: Might give up

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

New to this scene so no published verifications which seems to be important.

Been exchanging pics (sometimes nice, sometimes naughty) and not being vulgar too much, trying different angles to try and progress a little or a lot but not getting anywhere. Don’t think I’m bad looking so any tips please!!!???

Had better luck in real life recently without trying that hard really, work colleague but that’s another topic!

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

Its not easy to get meets without verifications and you cant get verifications without meets.

Dont know what the answer is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try going on cam or meeting just for a social first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not easy to get meets without verifications and you cant get verifications without meets.

Dont know what the answer is!

The answer is often real life, get along to socials meet people for real get contacts and even verifications along with the opportunity to maybe go further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this doesn’t work for you and you don’t need to make any real effort in ‘real life’ why not stick to that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bye OP

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Its not easy to get meets without verifications and you cant get verifications without meets.

Dont know what the answer is!

The answer is often real life, get along to socials meet people for real get contacts and even verifications along with the opportunity to maybe go further.

That might work where a club is involved but i will be old and past it before clubs are allowed in this part of the world.

As for partys its near impossible to get an invite or a ticket if you are a single man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not easy to get meets without verifications and you cant get verifications without meets.

Dont know what the answer is!

The answer is often real life, get along to socials meet people for real get contacts and even verifications along with the opportunity to maybe go further.

That might work where a club is involved but i will be old and past it before clubs are allowed in this part of the world.

As for partys its near impossible to get an invite or a ticket if you are a single man."

No it’s not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not always about the looks, OP. But I can't really comment as don't know what you look like. Your username would put me off tbh.

And as mentioned before, if you say you've had more luck elsewhere then perhaps that's your answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I detest those disclaimers on profiles, it makes me want to hit the block button. It means nowt.

Unless you’re used to pulling every time your out without effort then you’ll just have to realise that online sites are like real life - you have to put effort in to building rapport with people.

Too many men seem to think they can put up a profile and they’ll have a long queue of women and couples wanting to be fked by them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was meeting I would meet people without veris. Beast didn't have veris when I met him. I've had shocking meets with well verified people so I take veris with a pinch of salt

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"New to this scene so no published verifications which seems to be important.

Had better luck in real life recently without trying that hard really, work colleague but that’s another topic!"

I pass through Waterloo every day.

If you fancy an after work coffee and a natter PM me.

Assuming your a genuine sincere friendly guy, as you allude to, I'd have no problem writing you a veri.

As long as you're not a total bell end of course.

Veris aren't the golden ticket to future meets though.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Bye OP

Harsh

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

You've asked so...

your pics are uninspiring as is your profile content.

Take a look at some of the guys profiles on here. They have some really hot pics..teasing pics.

Spice up your profile text. Be imaginative, sell yourself and remember it can be difficult for guys on here. Stick with it and see how you go and good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've asked so...

your pics are uninspiring as is your profile content.

Take a look at some of the guys profiles on here. They have some really hot pics..teasing pics.

Spice up your profile text. Be imaginative, sell yourself and remember it can be difficult for guys on here. Stick with it and see how you go and good luck."

This

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By *rwhowhatwherewhyMan
over a year ago

Aylesbury

Just be patient, as hard as it is. It took me 3 years to get a verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"New to this scene so no published verifications which seems to be important.

Had better luck in real life recently without trying that hard really, work colleague but that’s another topic!

I pass through Waterloo every day.

If you fancy an after work coffee and a natter PM me.

Assuming your a genuine sincere friendly guy, as you allude to, I'd have no problem writing you a veri.

As long as you're not a total bell end of course.

Veris aren't the golden ticket to future meets though.

I think it’s Waterloo near Liverpool

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"New to this scene so no published verifications which seems to be important.

Had better luck in real life recently without trying that hard really, work colleague but that’s another topic!"

If you're having better luck in real life I'd concentrate on that side of things rather than put all your eggs in one fab basket.

I think with a work colleague they already know you and it's easy to flirt and chat.

If you were trying to message the same work colleague on here you'd just be one of Hundreds messaging her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When your pointless disclaimer is far longer than your actual profile, it's an instant not interested.

Try actually writing something that will make people want to chat.

Sin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well personally I tend to switch off when the warning on a profile is longer than the detail about the person it tends to indicate a lack of imagination in most cases.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its not easy to get meets without verifications and you cant get verifications without meets.

Dont know what the answer is!

It's piss easy to get both on here with a little charm, character and individuality. Stay fussy though and dont just meet anyone is my advice, theres only one you and loads of them....! Peace etc

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing is OP there is no magic formula that will work - it's about finding the right one for you - also while verifications can help, they're also not the be all and end all - plenty of people will meet unverified people. As someone suggested above though get along to a group social and mingle (there are plenty happening if you check the Events section of the forums).

Whilst there may not be a magic formula, there are five key areas to think about, that getting them right will help improve your experience even if they won't guarantee anything:

Profile - it's your shop window and your chance to present yourself in the best possible light, so write one that does that, that shows you off, tells people a little about you, what you are looking for and think you can offer.

Pictures - learn how to use the timer feature on your mobile camera along with the editing software and get creative - show off your body (but not necessarily your cock) in the best way you can. If you're stuck for ideas, take a look at other verified guys with a similar body type to yours for inspiration of what might work for you.

Attitude - keep it positive, be respectful and considerate, just because this is a "sex site" doesn't have to mean all the usual rules of life have to go out the window.

Approach - think about your approach to the site and what might work best for you - a lot of guys fall into the trap of thinking it is all about sending cold messages to other users in the hope of getting a response, and while that approach can work, it's not the only way - getting more involved in the forums or chat rooms is another way to get to know people, and them you and often sparks conversations that can lead to meets. Getting along to clubs or socials is another way. If you do stick to sending messages, take a look at them and see if there's anything you could change to make them better.

Expectations - set them as low as you possibly can, then turn them down a notch, just because you have a profile here doesn't mean sex on a plate, which is another trap people fall into. No-one is entitled to get meets.

In summary here is no different from the real world, all the usual rules of attraction etc still apply and the key is finding those you are attracted to who also find you attractive.

Good luck

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"New to this scene so no published verifications which seems to be important.

Had better luck in real life recently without trying that hard really, work colleague but that’s another topic!"

Are you looking to get your end away or swing?

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

You pitch a nice tent OP.....chin up!!

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"New to this scene so no published verifications which seems to be important.

Had better luck in real life recently without trying that hard really, work colleague but that’s another topic!

I pass through Waterloo every day.

If you fancy an after work coffee and a natter PM me.

Assuming your a genuine sincere friendly guy, as you allude to, I'd have no problem writing you a veri.

As long as you're not a total bell end of course.

Veris aren't the golden ticket to future meets though.

I think it’s Waterloo near Liverpool "

That'd be why he's not taken me up on my kind offer then.

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