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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know women and couples get lots of attention and messages and the fakes are dick heads who make it impossible for me to get noticed while wanting to be discreet on my public profile.

I’m never pushy or disrespectful and that’ll never change if I don’t know you enough

How can I get noticed even for a chat

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


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How can I get noticed even for a chat"

Have an enticing profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personalised message. Witty and not 3 paragraphs starting with "I..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself and don't over try

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent

Definitely a few pics. You don’t have to reveal anything about who you are in the photos, but something to pique the curiosity. Same goes for your profile text.

When you message someone, read their profile carefully and show genuine interest in who that person is.

Use these forums. People will come to know you (we’re new on the forums - been on Fab for ages but a bit backward with all social media so didn’t realise they were here. Talked to lots more lovely people since we’ve been posting).

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m grateful for the suggestions so far, keep them coming I will take note and update later

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"I know women and couples get lots of attention and messages and the fakes are dick heads who make it impossible for me to get noticed while wanting to be discreet on my public profile.

I’m never pushy or disrespectful and that’ll never change if I don’t know you enough

How can I get noticed even for a chat"

Stop being negative and blaming other men for your lack of success. Nobody likes a debbie downer.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
over a year ago

kent


"Personalised message. Witty and not 3 paragraphs starting with "I...""

This

And off topic... oh wow you have a photo with a book XoXo

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Very good point actually, I should not rant about fakes I should beat them by standing out more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very good point actually, I should not rant about fakes I should beat them by standing out more.

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Exactly. Blaming others for your failures is a very unattractive trait and will put people off

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Definitely photos, I’m fairly sure you don’t look all black with no facial features

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a half decent profile for a start

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi

You’ve put “photos on request” but no one will request them. If an online shop said “you can view our products on request”, would you bother?

There are several typos in your profile text.

Best of luck.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Look at what others have suggested.

Plus, as said, don't have every sentence starting with a Capital I. Instead, bunch separate similar sentences into short paragraphs.

Proof your text as there are a few spelling errors; eg, instead of Il, use I'll.

Yes the Grammar Police will say something, but it's all about putting over a good profile image to draw in potential meets.

The fact is you've only been on a week or so. It is a vicious circle, as you have to compete against so many other single guys, but it is a case of getting yourself noticed!

Perseverance and Patience are key but the more you put in, the better the result. It does work but it can take time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clean, polite, and respectful? That should be a given. That shouldn’t be good qualities used to describe yourself. I expect that of anyone.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If you’re planning on going fishing, have an attractive bait and good equipment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know women and couples get lots of attention and messages and the fakes are dick heads who make it impossible for me to get noticed while wanting to be discreet on my public profile.

I’m never pushy or disrespectful and that’ll never change if I don’t know you enough

How can I get noticed even for a chat"
A blank avatar will put most women off you need pics even if body or a suit, a good write up with checked grammar and some personality count for a lot, if youve been here before you know that surely

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