FabSwingers.com forum: Ok, let's get straight to the point

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A lot of us here are looking for one thing and one thing only. We have Facebook, we have friends, we have social lives. What we don't have is regular sex. Isn't the point of this site to fill that void? That's what I was told. So far it's just a repetitive case of 'i want someone who's polite' blah blah. I am polite, but all my messages get ignored or deleted. So I'm left thinking this is pretty mucu false advertising as it's basically just facebook with nudes. Yawn. That's not what I'm here for. I'm here because I'm not the most masculine, muscular man, but I'm red blooded and I like sex, no strings sex. Turns out I need to fit a certain criteria before even being considered. Bollocks, that's every day life for me. So what exactly is the point of this site? Does anyone actually meet or is it only muscular, built men who stand a chance? Not that anyone cares, but this site is pretty fake tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol youve sussed it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are on here for a multitude of reasons and look for different things.

Man men think they just need to pop up a profile and the women / couple will come running. As in real life, things just don’t happen like that!

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By *ltimateGemWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Alot of people go out to socials or clubs. Some, not everyone, would like to feel comfortable with the person they are having sex with. It's not just sex. It's the build up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others said.. people are here for multiple reasons. You cant police how others treat it or chose to use it. I'm sure there is some percentage of those who want just what you are seeking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are on here for a multitude of reasons and look for different things.

Man men think they just need to pop up a profile and the women / couple will come running. As in real life, things just don’t happen like that!"

Yeeh lol, no one has ever come running after me. I realise there is work necessary, but it's boring at this point. How much work should it take to get your willie wet? There are much more important things in life. I've messaged so many girls, been polite, well spoken, all the things listed and nothing. Sorry, but I'm bored now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are free to delete your messages if they choose.

Nobody is entitled to a reply.

Plenty of men on here are successful and manage to use this site in the way it’s intended, so maybe you need to update something or improve something for better success.

It’s not instashag, having a profile on a swingers site doesn’t automatically entitle you to sex. The sooner you go with the flow, the better.

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By *essica jamiesonWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

What does that even mean? Like I said, I have friends, I have a social life. I'm only on here cuz I want to meet women who want a no strings bit of fun, but most people on here seem content with the facebook with nudes. If no one is willing to actually talk, let alone meet, what is the point?"
So u want no strings sex but no female wants to msg u! Ehm... what does it tell u? Ur obviously not what they want regardless if its just 1 night of sex! If the site isnt what u expected then leave!..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you’re bored, simply delete or hide your profile.

Problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Alot of people go out to socials or clubs. Some, not everyone, would like to feel comfortable with the person they are having sex with. It's not just sex. It's the build up. "

Some of us aren't in the position to do that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"People are free to delete your messages if they choose.

Nobody is entitled to a reply.

Plenty of men on here are successful and manage to use this site in the way it’s intended, so maybe you need to update something or improve something for better success.

This Instashag site needs to be made lol

It’s not instashag, having a profile on a swingers site doesn’t automatically entitle you to sex. The sooner you go with the flow, the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not here for any old sex, I'm here for good sex. I realised a likg time ago, that sex is much better when there is some kind of friendship and connection. The only guys getting their dick wet inside me are the ones who genuinely value that shit.

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By *rkrisssMan
over a year ago

Berkshire

Maybe this site is a FWB (FACEBOOK WITH BENEFITS) but, you can't expect every person you're nice to, to just drop her knickers for you! So you haven't had a meet? Many of us haven't! Stand out from the others to get noticed! But you should ALWAYS be nice on here, we're all people after all!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just because it's a site for meeting and chatting to like minded people doesn't mean there's a guarantee of sex. Life in fab mirrors life outside in as much as there still has to be a mutual attraction. Fab's not full of girls who just gotta have sex with just any one. Well some might lol but I'm talking generally.

It's not easy for guys on here as there's so many of us.

Outside of fab in a bar or club you'll often see by a look or body language if a girls interested in you.

On fab your cold calling in the hope you may be what the she finds attractive. Invariably this has high failure.

Just because fab's a "sex site" there's no guarantee of sex. That's treating women as objects...

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By *cloversCouple
over a year ago

Hull

"A lot of us here are looking for one thing and one thing only. We have Facebook, we have friends, we have social lives. What we don't have is regular sex. Isn't the point of this site to fill that void? That's what I was told. So far it's just a repetitive case of 'i want someone who's polite' blah blah. I am polite, but all my messages get ignored or deleted. So I'm left thinking this is pretty mucu false advertising as it's basically just facebook with nudes. Yawn. That's not what I'm here for. I'm here because I'm not the most masculine, muscular man, but I'm red blooded and I like sex, no strings sex. Turns out I need to fit a certain criteria before even being considered. Bollocks, that's every day life for me. So what exactly is the point of this site? Does anyone actually meet or is it only muscular, built men who stand a chance? Not that anyone cares, but this site is pretty fake tbh"

Firstly you acknowledge that a "lot" of people are just here for the sex - which means some of us aren't or you would have said "all"

Many of us do have regular sex whether that be with wives, husbands, friends, other Fabbers & any other combination. Most of us are looking for that extra enhancement to our lives. You presume we all have sexual "voids" which is obviously not the case.

There are so many men on here that are not muscular etc - being that build still doesn't guarantee you a meet - again making presumptions about what other people are seeking. Are you suggesting that you don't have a type, that you'd be willing just to have sex with anyone regardless? That alone would I guess put most people on site off contacting or responding to you.

You sound like you think you're entitled to people turning up and supplying you with sex simply because that's what you want and so everyone should be wanting the same thing.

I know there are people who want what you want - you just haven't found them yet! Or you don't appeal because even if you want NSA there still has to be connection right?

Perhaps if it's truly nsa sex you're seeking you may want to consider an escort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a god everyone who looks at my profile wants to jump into bed with me everyone I look at wants to jump into bed with me

If things were only that easy no effort given then we realise it's not like that here

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

Perhaps you should look at other profiles and compare it to yours and see how you are ‘selling’ yourself. It is a marketing exercise really and your pictures and profile are your shop front. If people aren’t interested they won’t message you.

You say you don’t have the luxury to spend time on attending clubs or socials and an escort has been suggested. Personally I wouldn’t meet anyone who doesn’t agree to a social meet so maybe you are putting people off before they’ve even sent a message.

You can surely invest some time into meeting people. There has to be a connection for it to work. Many good points have already been raised in other responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever told you that fab was 'just a sex site' has clearly misled you and / or clearly doesn't understand it themselves.

As others have said, many on here are looking for a social aspect too. Try to think of it as more of a 'lifestyle' site.

Us single men massively outnumber women and couples. The ratio is something like 100 men to every woman, so the ladies really are spoilt for choice.

Yes, some men fair better than others but you're not going to get very far if a) you're waiting for them to find you and b) if you're messaging women with a line like 'fancy a shag?'

Many of us have sent carefully crafted, considerate messages only to have them completely ignored.

Most people you message will check out your profile before they even consider reading what you've sent them. If they don't like what they see and read then there's very little point in them opening up your message and so they'll either leave it unread in their inbox or just delete it.

Everyone has a life outside of fab.

Many women recieve hundreds of messages per day and would likely need to hire a P.A. just to keep up with them all.

If the site isn't working for you the way you hoped it would then perhaps it's time to leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Mikko,

Joining the site isn’t a ticket to instant sex man. I can only imagine how sexually frustrated you might be but being upset because you are not someone else’s preference is a negative move.

As for false advertising, well the site has never advertised that you are certain to get laid.

We all have lives and are entitled to accept or reject at our own will without having to read comments like you have made.

Dude I’m very horny at times but even I have preferences to whom I meet as well.

There has to be some chemistry and attraction.

I would suggest that you take a break and maybe go out more and spend some time with those friends in your social circle and then come back afresh.

Our fellow members have mentioned some very interesting and good points so do take them into account.

I hope your mother gets well soon too.

Cheer up and stop being upset you miserable bugger and have a lovely Sunday.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

What does that even mean? Like I said, I have friends, I have a social life. I'm only on here cuz I want to meet women who want a no strings bit of fun, but most people on here seem content with the facebook with nudes. If no one is willing to actually talk, let alone meet, what is the point? So u want no strings sex but no female wants to msg u! Ehm... what does it tell u? Ur obviously not what they want regardless if its just 1 night of sex! If the site isnt what u expected then leave!.."

^^ this

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Are you saying everyone you message should fuck you?

You know, whether they find you attractive or appalling in any way shape or form?

Because if you are, I'll ask you a question.

Would you fuck someone you didn't remotely fancy?

If the answers yes, this isn't the place for you.

If the answers no, you've answered your own question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No strings doesn't mean not fussy

Attraction and the ability to hold my attention are still vital. .. surely it should be important for you too OP or is any hole a goal?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand the frustration here but we have all been through it. It can be demoralising just having people look at you profile and not message or just seeing your messages being deleted all the time. I have learned to just go with the flow and the people i have spoken to or chatted with i think are great would i like more of course i would but as it is im happy just to make a new friend regardless of if i get to do the horizontal shuffle with them.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm here for my own needs not those of others OP. No one is entitled to use my body because I'm on a SWINGERS site, (notice I used the word swingers not sex) some of us are looking for long term swinging partners. People are allowed to have choices and preferences, clearly they are making them by not being a willing hole for you to fill when it suits you. Effort in = rewards out. Simple equation and it works. If you want instant gratification, try an escort site, but please do remember that they are also allowed choices and prefences and they are perfectly entitled to say no as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve been told a few porkies by whoever told you to join this site pal, women have to have a connection on here and most men for that matter, if you want to just get your willie wet as you say, an escort will be your best chances....... or maybe join fabguys

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

By the way, hope your mum makes a speedy recovery. Xx

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Are you saying everyone you message should fuck you?

You know, whether they find you attractive or appalling in any way shape or form?

Because if you are, I'll ask you a question.

Would you fuck someone you didn't remotely fancy?

If the answers yes, this isn't the place for you.

If the answers no, you've answered your own question."

Also, it's not only muscular, built men who stand a chance.

If it was, many of us would never have met a single person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are ladies not opening their legs quick enough for you, OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never met the kind of man you describe

I often find that people who are unsuccessful on here tend to blame everyone but themselves. This site is exactly what YOU make of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you need to start going to gang bangs and greedy girls events at clubs in London....

As long as you show up clean and respectful...

You should have fun......

The reason I’m suggesting such events is because a lot of guys don’t show up....

So if they say 10 guys are coming, you might be the only one there and have all the fun....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well im sure if nothing else,this post will have upped your chances

Fab swingers isn't full of slags,maybe you need to get down your local snog a dog night club bud xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just because it's a site for meeting and chatting to like minded people doesn't mean there's a guarantee of sex. Life in fab mirrors life outside in as much as there still has to be a mutual attraction. Fab's not full of girls who just gotta have sex with just any one. Well some might lol but I'm talking generally.

It's not easy for guys on here as there's so many of us.

Outside of fab in a bar or club you'll often see by a look or body language if a girls interested in you.

On fab your cold calling in the hope you may be what the she finds attractive. Invariably this has high failure.

Just because fab's a "sex site" there's no guarantee of sex. That's treating women as objects...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you need is an escort OP.

This is a swingers site - not instashag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not easy for guys on here as there's so many of us.

Outside of fab in a bar or club you'll often see by a look or body language if a girls interested in you.

On fab your cold calling in the hope you may be what the she finds attractive. Invariably this has high failure.

Just because fab's a "sex site" there's no guarantee of sex. That's treating women as objects...

Yeah but I heard women are only on here to satisfy men’s needs. We should meet anyone who asks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but I heard women are only on here to satisfy men’s needs. We should meet anyone who asks

Exactly- stop that chitter chatter woman and get on your knees!

This isnt Facebook, we're not friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah but I heard women are only on here to satisfy men’s needs. We should meet anyone who asks

Exactly- stop that chitter chatter woman and get on your knees!

This isnt Facebook, we're not friends

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Are ladies not opening their legs quick enough for you, OP?

Not at all by the sound of it.

Not all single guys "get" the site or swinging in general.

Some guys understand from the off.

Some guys realise after a while and have a great time.

Some never do and have a miserable existence here until the inevitable UNLOS.

Some attitude and expectation adjustment required from the OP methinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im a short tubby man

Before i fell for a girl my and my penis was available

I spent 1 year meeting many fab ladys

I dont have facebook never have so dunno about that

As for a social life i dont go drinking or have what you call a social life i have kids i spend as much free time with as i can

So to sum up

Buck up

Stop complaining

Be better than you were and stop wittering

Women like confidence not entitled children

Learn from your mistakes

And the polite thing dont take so literal they mean dont be abusive when you fail at first attempt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are ladies not opening their legs quick enough for you, OP?

Not at all by the sound of it.

Not all single guys "get" the site or swinging in general.

Some guys understand from the off.

Some guys realise after a while and have a great time.

Some never do and have a miserable existence here until the inevitable UNLOS.

Some attitude and expectation adjustment required from the OP methinks.

Nailed all of that!

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Basically you are moaning because people have a preference. It is real life and also this is about living out fantasies so if somebodies fantasy is that they want to meet muscular men then accept it and move on. Moaning is not going to get you a pity meet or shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are on here for a multitude of reasons and look for different things.

Man men think they just need to pop up a profile and the women / couple will come running. As in real life, things just don’t happen like that!

Maybe they just don't find you as attractive as they do others?

If they have had 'better' offers then its only natural they wouldn't waist your time or theirs.

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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol East

" Does anyone actually meet or is it only muscular, built men who stand a chance? Not that anyone cares, but this site is pretty fake tbh"

Muscular, built men did you say?

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Are ladies not opening their legs quick enough for you, OP?

Not at all by the sound of it.

Not all single guys "get" the site or swinging in general.

Some guys understand from the off.

Some guys realise after a while and have a great time.

Some never do and have a miserable existence here until the inevitable UNLOS.

Some attitude and expectation adjustment required from the OP methinks.

Nailed all of that!

I try to be realistic and helpful in my contributions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're here for one thing and one thing only - you're in the wrong place. Women are not disposable holes to be available and used whenever someone waves a cock. Swinging is a lifestyle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to say this but you sound like you have an inferiority complex. I mean no disrespect just your explanation keeps refering to you not being Masculine or Muscular.

Lots of males are just like you and they do ok. Women like all different types of guys don't be so hard and negative about yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Altho women dont like moaning crybabys i do they dont half make me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Altho women dont like moaning crybabys i do they dont half make me chuckle

This....ha ha

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Altho women dont like moaning crybabys i do they dont half make me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I think you don't understand this site. It's neither how you describe it nor how you want it to be.

It's a swinging site. You seem to think it should be full of women that will and should shah anybody and everybody based in minimal interaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is the site fake?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I realise there is work necessary, but it's boring at this point. How much work should it take to get your willie wet? "

Perhaps you need to be looking to pay someone if all you want is to find someone for sex without too much effort

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

In my experience, the men who join Fab thinking its a sex site just seem to think the women here are free prostitutes for their pleasure regardless of their own bad attitude, and behaviour.

These men need to appreciate we are here for our own wants and needs and have an open mind when it comes to sex.

We are not all here looking (or expecting) to meet a toned tanned Adonis who in real life wouldnt look twice at us...we are here to make a mental connection with another human and explore our sexuality in an unihibited and safe way.

So OP, stop whining, leave your self-entitled attitude at the door, and use the forums as a source of knowledge, wisdom and swinging enlightenment and your fab experience will improve immensely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In my experience, the men who join Fab thinking its a sex site just seem to think the women here are free prostitutes for their pleasure regardless of their own bad attitude, and behaviour.

These men need to appreciate we are here for our own wants and needs and have an open mind when it comes to sex.

So OP, stop whining, leave your self-entitled attitude at the door, and use the forums as a source of knowledge, wisdom and swinging enlightenment and your fab experience will improve immensely.

amen sister

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

If the site is so shite, why are you here?

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

I can understand your frustration OP but if you continue to use the site exactly the same way then you will continue to get the same results so i suggest you find social events advertised on here and go to those and you will be able to chat to people in the scene. You will find it is a scene and what people are looking for is not how you have described it. When you start chatting and meeting people face to face you will get playmates and it will escalate.Eventually you will only need to use the site to get involved in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well im sure if nothing else,this post will have upped your chances

Fab swingers isn't full of slags,maybe you need to get down your local snog a dog night club bud xx "

Snog a dog! I'm in!

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

There seems to be a bit of an oxymoron here. The OP appears to be rather pessimistic and disappointed about this site, yet there's a saying that goes something like "be pessimistic, as you'll never be disappointed"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to say this but you sound like you have an inferiority complex. I mean no disrespect just your explanation keeps refering to you not being Masculine or Muscular.

Lots of males are just like you and they do ok. Women like all different types of guys don't be so hard and negative about yourself."

OP I understand it can be soul destroying to not get a reply to polite messages. Unfortunately many women get abuse when they say no, so they find it's best not to reply. Blame the nasty men for that- don't blame the women for not replying.

Some women like muscley men and some don't. Even muscley 6 pack types have posted on the forum saying they can't get any meets.

People ^do* have to 'fit a certain criteria before they will be considered'. Most people won't fuck those they're not attracted to. They won't chat to people they're not attracted to because that would be leading them on.

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

" Does anyone actually meet or is it only muscular, built men who stand a chance? Not that anyone cares, but this site is pretty fake tbh

Muscular, built men did you say?

Vastly overrated all ego I hear

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You're onto us OP we're all just pretending. All the verifications people have are fake. Swingers clubs sit empty and everyone's sex pics are photoshopped. You've accidentally joined a celibate cult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want insta-shag you are in the wrong place!!

Swinging is a lifestyle choice with basic rules of safe,sane and consensual.

I would suggest for you other more notable sites for your gratification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I dont understand did you think that people would come on here and leave all their preferences at the door? Just some sexy buffet free for all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Does anyone actually meet or is it only muscular, built men who stand a chance? Not that anyone cares, but this site is pretty fake tbh

Muscular, built men did you say?

Vastly overrated all ego I hear

Too focused on protein shakes and workouts too have a conversation, let alone meet anyone - so I understand anyway

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Sex is the ultimate goal for many but not all.

And even if sex was the goa goal for everyone, well you wouldn't walk into a pub and just fuck anybody. You'd pick your victim and they would surely need to

fit a certain criteria.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not here just for one thing. I met friends on fab who I chat to. I go on forums. I have sex with men I fancy. I definitely don't chat to negative people who complain about not getting any..

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I was joking about the word 'victim' because if anyone picked on me for the sake of it I wouldn't appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was joking about the word 'victim' because if anyone picked on me for the sake of it I wouldn't appreciate it"
this disclaimer was brought to you by sydney university

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for my wallet

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By *b_LIVI_ousWoman
over a year ago

Wigan

"Hi Mikko,

Joining the site isn’t a ticket to instant sex man. I can only imagine how sexually frustrated you might be but being upset because you are not someone else’s preference is a negative move.

As for false advertising, well the site has never advertised that you are certain to get laid.

We all have lives and are entitled to accept or reject at our own will without having to read comments like you have made.

Dude I’m very horny at times but even I have preferences to whom I meet as well.

There has to be some chemistry and attraction.

I would suggest that you take a break and maybe go out more and spend some time with those friends in your social circle and then come back afresh.

Our fellow members have mentioned some very interesting and good points so do take them into account.

I hope your mother gets well soon too.

Cheer up and stop being upset you miserable bugger and have a lovely Sunday.

THIS ! All of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People are on here for a multitude of reasons and look for different things.

Man men think they just need to pop up a profile and the women / couple will come running. As in real life, things just don’t happen like that!

Right, I'm gonna jump in here.

"How much work should it take to get your willie wet?"

When I meet I don't just hand my vagina in a silver platter for it to be used. I am me on a meet, I'm my body plus my personality, I'm the WHO I am, and I'm worth an awful fucking lot.

Messaging through the site is much much harder than meeting people in a club, social setting as you can't hear tone of voice, you can't tell if the sender is writing to you out of desperation, you can't see into their eyes or read body language.

If meeting through the site we take time getting to know people, why? Because we're worth it. Yes you have your friends, your real life.... but guess what? Inviting someone into my life, our lives, even if it's just for the length of time for a fuck IS bringing someone into real life. My vagina is real, my home is real, and all of the nasty shit that can happen in real life can happen here too.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Well im sure if nothing else,this post will have upped your chances

Fab swingers isn't full of slags,maybe you need to get down your local snog a dog night club bud xx

Snog a dog! I'm in!"

Mug or T shirt?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I was joking about the word 'victim' because if anyone picked on me for the sake of it I wouldn't appreciate itthis disclaimer was brought to you by sydney university

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well im sure if nothing else,this post will have upped your chances

Fab swingers isn't full of slags,maybe you need to get down your local snog a dog night club bud xx

Snog a dog! I'm in!

Mug or T shirt? "

Mug- one size fits all.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

As a muscular Male I was going to take issue with some of the comments but every time I went to reply I would get a message begging for a shag so I would have to bestow the god like penis.

Just go with the flow. Pick up some tips and join in on the forums. Perhaps try and attend a social and you’ll soon have them dropping their knickers.

(Some of the above may have been tongue in cheek)

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"Well im sure if nothing else,this post will have upped your chances

Fab swingers isn't full of slags,maybe you need to get down your local snog a dog night club bud xx

Snog a dog! I'm in!

Mug or T shirt?

Mug- one size fits all.

Sorted. I'll speak to my marketing and merchandising department right away.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

So many threads, from single men moaning.

They join here, they have this notion that all they need to write are a few boring lines, post a few boring pics, send a few FAF messages, and they'll be fighting off sex mad women with a stick.

Wrong!

You don't need to be a chiseled hunk, the face of a Greek god, have a ripped body.

What you do need is too stand out from the 1000s of other bland profiles, make yourself shine, be engaging, be interesting.

If Fabs isn't working for a person, then it's down to them... Not the people they're messaging.

Sick of the fucking entitlement issues, one swift look at a profile, is all I need to know who has them, who doesn't.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"So many threads, from single men moaning.

They join here, they have this notion that all they need to write are a few boring lines, post a few boring pics, send a few FAF messages, and they'll be fighting off sex mad women with a stick.

Wrong!

You don't need to be a chiseled hunk, the face of a Greek god, have a ripped body.

What you do need is too stand out from the 1000s of other bland profiles, make yourself shine, be engaging, be interesting.

If Fabs isn't working for a person, then it's down to them... Not the people they're messaging.

Sick of the fucking entitlement issues, one swift look at a profile, is all I need to know who has them, who doesn't.

It's not Thursday.

You're right though.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Spend an hour putting all of your toys back in the pram and then have a dam good look at yourself because this post is ridiculous for a grown man just because you can't get laid

Try a prostitute if you just want a release or a wank if you want to save money.

If you were a woman would you choose to fuck you or would you choose a happy guy with a gsoh who makes your fanny flutter ?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"So many threads, from single men moaning.

They join here, they have this notion that all they need to write are a few boring lines, post a few boring pics, send a few FAF messages, and they'll be fighting off sex mad women with a stick.

Wrong!

You don't need to be a chiseled hunk, the face of a Greek god, have a ripped body.

What you do need is too stand out from the 1000s of other bland profiles, make yourself shine, be engaging, be interesting.

If Fabs isn't working for a person, then it's down to them... Not the people they're messaging.

Sick of the fucking entitlement issues, one swift look at a profile, is all I need to know who has them, who doesn't.

Well said xx

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"So many threads, from single men moaning.

They join here, they have this notion that all they need to write are a few boring lines, post a few boring pics, send a few FAF messages, and they'll be fighting off sex mad women with a stick.

Wrong!

You don't need to be a chiseled hunk, the face of a Greek god, have a ripped body.

What you do need is too stand out from the 1000s of other bland profiles, make yourself shine, be engaging, be interesting.

If Fabs isn't working for a person, then it's down to them... Not the people they're messaging.

Sick of the fucking entitlement issues, one swift look at a profile, is all I need to know who has them, who doesn't.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

To be perfectly honest, OP, you sound a bit entitled.

There are various ways of getting sex. Fab is one tool that can be used for that objective. Don't make it the only one you use.

In my experience, people here (especially women) don't just want sex to the extent they would pick a profile name out of a hat and fuck them. They want a spark with that person. They want interesting conversation and a sense of humour. That gets more women into bed than muscles.

Maybe you have that great personality but you are just not presenting yourself well. During my twenties my love life was a desert. Then in my thirties I worked it out. I discovered how to connect with women and offer what they want. Since then I have been getting laid like nothing on Earth in Fab Land and in the real world, and I certainly don't have big muscles.

One of your posts says it takes work. Correct. You are not entitled to a shag just because you want one. Don't complain if you're not prepared to put the work in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

“That’s what I was told” haha too funny!!

I can’t really think of anything else to say to this really. Have a nice day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If this site is pretty fake, feel free to opt out, OP.

Thanks for popping in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow OP, I can't imagine why you are struggling.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s many reasons why people come on here, but no one forces you to be here.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I've not read the whole thread, I don't think I necessarily need to as these types of threads pop up with alarming frequency OP.

As no doubt others have told you; no one owes you sex, simply appearing on the site, sending a message and being 'polite' doesn't entitle you to sex. And yes, your attitude is very entitled.

I find it very discomforting just how often it needs to be pointed out that potential partners have every right to be choosy about who they talk to, meet and possibly fuck. They can be, they are and they will be, if that rules you out every single time then that's your issue, not theirs.

Take a good long look at yourself here, what are your expectations? Are you doing everything you can to put the best you across? If being polite is the best that you can do (which is the very least that a human being should actually be), if that's such an effort that it makes you throw your toys, then it's going to be a long and quiet time here OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swingers site: For people who dont have regular sex..... Jesus Christ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah but I heard women are only on here to satisfy men’s needs. We should meet anyone who asks

Sadly doesn't just apply to women, hun... the state of some of the entitled idiots I get contacted by... pretty sure a lot of 'em only approach TV/CD as last-chance-saloon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So OP, as you can see there is a strong suggestion above that it might be wise for you to adjust your view In this site. Set more realistic expectations or find another outlet for your sexual frustration. This site has many benefits, but finding quick sex as you have found isn’t usually one of them.

There are plenty of lovely people on the site who do enjoy meeting others for sex, but they all have their own needs and expectations. Meeting them is only possible though if you discover those needs and expectations and match them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also say that if you open your mind to the fact that people are people with feelings (just like you) then you'll realise that actually, if you can make REAL friends. My closest and most trusted friends are people I've met through the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a swingers site for...er...swingers! We're here to meet like minded couples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also say that if you open your mind to the fact that people are people with feelings (just like you) then you'll realise that actually, if you can make REAL friends. My closest and most trusted friends are people I've met through the site.

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

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By *STWO65Couple
over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"What you need is an escort OP.

This is a swingers site - not instashag.

Our thoughts exactly.

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By *ungscotsman26Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Sounds like you have just spat the dummy and feel entitled to a shag. There is substantially more males than females on the site. So they have plenty choice. If you expect to not put some work in then you won't get anywhere.

Oh and if you don't like it, leave. See ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall."

He got lots of replies on this thread

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By *rAitchMan
over a year ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

He got lots of replies on this thread

Probably not the ones he wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

He got lots of replies on this thread

Probably not the ones he wanted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall."

They could possibly detect the frustration or the friendliness didn't seem genuine, who knows.

I reply to messages I get a certain vibe off even if I know they're not someone I'll bang. Messages that make me smile and leave me thinking "what a throughly decent chap, I do hope he finds some wonderful peeps"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

They could possibly detect the frustration or the friendliness didn't seem genuine, who knows.

Fair point.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

Nobody is here to fill a void for you, they are also not here to fuck someone they don't want to, regardless of what you were told.

You say you repeatedly get told 'I want someone who's polite', this tells me you aren't polite and whatever you're saying is putting people off. Your attitude will put the majority of people off because they still wanted to be treated like people, not a vessel for you to dump your load.

Frankly, you come across as petulant and childish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People dont run after you? What kind of statement is that? Nobody runs after me, or many many other men but you dont here us complaining. You take this site for what it is, and what it is is what you make it. Have a laugh, a bit of banter. Listen to people, interact in a positive way. Sure you may not get the 'No String Sex' you desire but what you could have is a laugh and pass the time.

If you take this site too seriously it will get you down, make you feel unwanted, i understand that. You, like many other are just a little fish in a enormous pond.

Lighten up and enjoy the banter

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

When you stop thinking about the place as a collection of individuals with equally valuable wants and needs you’ve really gone astray.

If it’s mindless hook ups you’re after maybe it’s more a business transaction you seek.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

OP, a few questions.

1) What did you expect?

2) What do you suggest?

3) Whom are you addressing?

4) Who in your opinion is responsible for making the site exactly as you expected it to be?

5) How do you think this can be achieved?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Current status would put me off straight away. Without reading a profile or a forum thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you stop thinking about the place as a collection of individuals with equally valuable wants and needs you’ve really gone astray.

If it’s mindless hook ups you’re after maybe it’s more a business transaction you seek.

Well said

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall."

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers....."

Actually if you ignore preferences and expect sex then it is unreasonable. It's a swinging site not a sex site. There are plenty of hook up sites out there, failing that, as you say there's always car boot sales and bingo. Good luck with those.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers....."

This is the issue, it isn't a sex site, it's a swingers site, if you come on here and just expect loads of sex, you'll be disappointed. People are still people and they need some kind of attraction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway? "

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends. "

If he sent you the most lovely message, would you reply?

If I was looking for men I doubt I would.

I am attracted to friendly, fun positive people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends.

If he sent you the most lovely message, would you reply?

If I was looking for men I doubt I would.

I am attracted to friendly, fun positive people. "

Yes I would. I reply to all first messages.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends.

If he sent you the most lovely message, would you reply?

If I was looking for men I doubt I would.

I am attracted to friendly, fun positive people.

Yes I would. I reply to all first messages. "

In that case, let's hope he comes back to the thread and reads this.

Might make him a bit happier.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers....."

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging

Like minded people who In social environments explore different sexual fantasies , either as singles, couples, or more... I need to have a connection before anything happens.. so I wouldn’t say it’s like Facebook pal but you only get out what you put in, if the roles where reversed and it was women who outnumbered the men and made the first move etc.. I know I’d want to be treated with respect.. flirted with .. made to feel desired ... I don’t come on here just for sex, I come on here to meet people with common interests..

try a different angle, go clubs.. parties and get to know people.. you have come on a forum which is a good start

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Think you confused with a website for escorts this is a social site for like minded individuals ..

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

Think you confused with a website for escorts this is a social site for like minded individuals ..

As someone has pointed out, escorts have the right to say no as well.

Poor OP...

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends. "
then he should maybe try clubs or organised socials, even pop into the cam rooms is a good thing to do.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

Its more a case of people wanting what they cant get.

The same if you are in a pub or club you will get lots of attention from other girls if you have a girl already with you but if you are single and on your own it will be alot less and the same girls showing all the attention may then totally ignore you... I know why they do it but why do they need to do it??

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends. "

But if he is impolite, which is implied in his OP, why would people reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex."

that last bit, for me that is very true and I agree.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Cba to read the whole thread but OP the women of fab still need to fancy you to want to have sex with you.

I know....it's crazy that, isn't it!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Cba to read the whole thread but OP the women of fab still need to fancy you to want to have sex with you.

I know....it's crazy that, isn't it!!

Totally bonkers idea. What's wrong with you, woman??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is a veritable smörgåsbord of potential sexual partners, so with such a huge selection, people can afford to be extremely selective.

There is no need to settle for anything less, than exactly what they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not easy for guys on here as there's so many of us.

Outside of fab in a bar or club you'll often see by a look or body language if a girls interested in you.

On fab your cold calling in the hope you may be what the she finds attractive. Invariably this has high failure.

Just because fab's a "sex site" there's no guarantee of sex. That's treating women as objects...

Preach brother!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've not read the whole thread, I don't think I necessarily need to as these types of threads pop up with alarming frequency OP.

As no doubt others have told you; no one owes you sex, simply appearing on the site, sending a message and being 'polite' doesn't entitle you to sex. And yes, your attitude is very entitled.

So true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, we have regular sex we just want to invite others to join us. We have met with single males from this site, we answer many messages. So yes people meet, no it’s not nude Facebook. But people do make friends here too. It’s a swinging site not a free easy sex site. It’s a tool to assist us to find each other not a guarantee that anyone will fuck just anyone. Your attitude is unattractive

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

O.P. you are right ! This is a site where people are looking for sex.

Thing is O.P. you think you are the shopper and the woman is the goods. She's shopping too and only selects the fruit she fancies the look of. No just any old ripe banana.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends.

But if he is impolite, which is implied in his OP, why would people reply?"

He says he is polite. I assume that's why he's fed up of no replies.

If he's not polite (like so many men on here who demand sex in their first message) then he (like the other men) will never understand why he doesn't get a reply.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex."

Do you mean Bart not Homer?

*Thread drift for the pedants....

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

How about this analogy: fab is a street full of shops of goods. The goodly ladies of fab are strolling up and down the street looking at the merchandise. Some aren’t actively looking in shops, they stand and gossip on the corner. Some go straight in to the same shop week in week out cos they know what they like and where it is. A lot of ladies are window shopping, so.....there are two shop windows: one is brightly lit and full of a variety of attractive goods in the window all clearly labelled and enticing. The window next door is dusty, not much in the window, poorly lit and not welcoming. A sign in the window says ‘don’t touch the goods’.

Which shop do you think she will go into?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

Just as in Vanilla life it boils down to attraction surely. If you are not having to beat them off with a stick normally why on earth do you think it would be any different on here..

Just because this is a swingers site does not mean we are all desperate to have sex with anyone and everyone....

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Cba to read the whole thread but OP the women of fab still need to fancy you to want to have sex with you.

I know....it's crazy that, isn't it!!

Totally bonkers idea. What's wrong with you, woman??

Lol....I must have lost the plot!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my partner have met someone through this site and had sex with them multiple times. So it deffo works as it should. I get it’s not easy for single guys.

Some could be on here for a year and not get a single response to a message.

If I was single I’d do the old fashioned thing and just go out and meet single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"O.P. you are right ! This is a site where people are looking for sex.

Thing is O.P. you think you are the shopper and the woman is the goods. She's shopping too and only selects the fruit she fancies the look of. No just any old ripe banana. "

Another winning comment from from Granny. I am selective about my bananas- Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How about this analogy: fab is a street full of shops of goods. The goodly ladies of fab are strolling up and down the street looking at the merchandise. Some aren’t actively looking in shops, they stand and gossip on the corner. Some go straight in to the same shop week in week out cos they know what they like and where it is. A lot of ladies are window shopping, so.....there are two shop windows: one is brightly lit and full of a variety of attractive goods in the window all clearly labelled and enticing. The window next door is dusty, not much in the window, poorly lit and not welcoming. A sign in the window says ‘don’t touch the goods’.

Which shop do you think she will go into? "

I want to know what’s in the spooky dusty shop, every time without fail. It’s a curse hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So people should just shag you because you’re on here and you like sex, even if you’re not what they’re looking for? Get a grip man, people are free to choose who they have sex with and there is plenty of sex going on on here. Just because that doesn’t include you doesn’t make it fake.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Which shop do you think she will go into?

I want to know what’s in the spooky dusty shop, every time without fail. It’s a curse hahahaha"

Mrs Tiger - can I be the gusset in your knickers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well im sure if nothing else,this post will have upped your chances

Fab swingers isn't full of slags,maybe you need to get down your local snog a dog night club bud xx "

my thoughts also xx

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

To be fair he did say people won't even reply/ chat and consider him. Can't be friends with a brick wall.

Why should they reply if he's ignored their preferences and messaged anyway?

I didn't say they should. I meant he said he was trying to make contact but no-one was replying.

If he never gets any replies he can't make any friends.

But if he is impolite, which is implied in his OP, why would people reply?

He says he is polite. I assume that's why he's fed up of no replies.

If he's not polite (like so many men on here who demand sex in their first message) then he (like the other men) will never understand why he doesn't get a reply. "

I get the feeling he's not as polite as he says he is because people have repeatedly mentioned to him that they want polite people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't fully agree with you but I do get where you're coming from. I love your Facebook with Nudes comment because that is exactly how some people seem to view it to.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"People are on here for a multitude of reasons and look for different things.

Man men think they just need to pop up a profile and the women / couple will come running. As in real life, things just don’t happen like that!

There you go, it always comes out in the end.

If you want a wet cock, you will probably have to pay for it, most of the women here want more than just a random cock shoved in their holes.

We are not free sex workers.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex."

So how many people would be joining fab with the mindset of NOT wanting sex?

Like if i joined a knitting club i would be expecting to be doing a bit of knitting at some stage...

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy. "

No the point is it’s a swingers site, where you swing??? The geezer has a point I’m afraid, a lot of women and couples use this as a forum to basically promote their nudes and feel good about the fact Thousands of guys (they don’t want) want them. To a certain degree he is right. That being said by no means should anyone have to ever play with anyone they are not feeling nor drop their standards... also everyone does have a type so the op cannot really complain about that bit. For me networking, attending parties and being active off the site increases your chances substantially on it. Thinking you can send a message asking to bend someone over every-other day, I’m

Afraid will rarely work unless your are said,Adonis and I’m sure even they struggle hahaha

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

"People are on here for a multitude of reasons and look for different things.

Man men think they just need to pop up a profile and the women / couple will come running. As in real life, things just don’t happen like that!"

Honestly this literally DOES happen in real life.. the amount of times I have taken a girl home after a night out, after speaking to her for 5 minutes at the end of a night is testament to that fact (it’s not just me this happens every weekend FYI). Things like that do happen, just not on here. Have I ever met someone I’m a coffee shop

And taken them home though mmmmm never hahahaha

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

"People are on here for a multitude of reasons and look for different things.

Man men think they just need to pop up a profile and the women / couple will come running. As in real life, things just don’t happen like that!

And taken them home though mmmmm never hahahaha "

That’s random shagging, not swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex."
its true its just a website a meeting point at best but with an emphasis on sexual activity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

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By *hesexpeopleCouple
over a year ago

s wales

OP, I’m thinking ( I may be wrong) that your post may have just been a little angry venting, probably not helped with your mother being unwell, so put this thread behind you and focus on being productive on here. Join in the forums positively and it could make the world of difference to your experience here

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

Afraid will rarely work unless your are said,Adonis and I’m sure even they struggle hahaha

Yep, it's a swingers site, he doesn't want to swing, he wants a hole to dump his cum.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex.its true its just a website a meeting point at best but with an emphasis on sexual activity

Which is not guaranteed.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You find your own 'point' for the site. The site doesn't sell you anything that is guaranteed. As with all social environments, behavioral norms and rules develop.

You fit in, adjust to fitting in or potentially endure something that doesn't match you. Or people leave and find something else to do instead.

The rules are 100% clear -

No reply = no interest

Whatever you want instead, however badly you consider people who don't answer exquisite messages you have written, the site rule remains clear.

It's your call. Accept how it is and change what you have control over - your perception and destiny.

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By *eal_curves_is_backWoman
over a year ago

London

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex.

So how many people would be joining fab with the mindset of NOT wanting sex?

Like if i joined a knitting club i would be expecting to be doing a bit of knitting at some stage..."

People want or do not want sex with a particular person/people. Except of course some who want sex with anyone. Well, most people don't.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex.

So how many people would be joining fab with the mindset of NOT wanting sex?

Like if i joined a knitting club i would be expecting to be doing a bit of knitting at some stage..."

But would you knit something you liked or something you hated the look of just because it's knitting club?

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

Afraid will rarely work unless your are said,Adonis and I’m sure even they struggle hahaha

Yep, it's a swingers site, he doesn't want to swing, he wants a hole to dump his cum. "

I saw him shoot him self in the foot after a scrolled hahah

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"The point is what you make of it surely? Not a blanket policy.

Afraid will rarely work unless your are said,Adonis and I’m sure even they struggle hahaha

Yep, it's a swingers site, he doesn't want to swing, he wants a hole to dump his cum.

I saw him shoot him self in the foot after a scrolled hahah"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which shop do you think she will go into?

I want to know what’s in the spooky dusty shop, every time without fail. It’s a curse hahahaha

Mrs Tiger - can I be the gusset in your knickers? "

Why not? Are you spooky and dusty?

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"OP, I’m thinking ( I may be wrong) that your post may have just been a little angry venting, probably not helped with your mother being unwell, so put this thread behind you and focus on being productive on here. Join in the forums positively and it could make the world of difference to your experience here

That's great advice

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Which shop do you think she will go into? "

I like this

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Which shop do you think she will go into?

I like this

I'm the joke shop.

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By *hechapMan
over a year ago

Derry

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex.

So how many people would be joining fab with the mindset of NOT wanting sex?

Like if i joined a knitting club i would be expecting to be doing a bit of knitting at some stage...

But would you knit something you liked or something you hated the look of just because it's knitting club?"

Sure that all depends on whos looking at it.

I might think its beautiful and you might think its the worst looking thing ever or vice versa.

So if i join fab knitters do you want me to knit you a nice winter cardigan with a matching hat and scarf?

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

"I dont think its unreasonible to expect sex from a sex site but the reality is that you would have more chance of getting sex at the bingo or a carboot sale than on fabswingers.....

I picture Homer Simpson writing on a blackboard many times:

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site.

Fabswingers.com is not a sex site...

It is unreasonable to expect sex from anyone who has not promised you sex.

So how many people would be joining fab with the mindset of NOT wanting sex?

Like if i joined a knitting club i would be expecting to be doing a bit of knitting at some stage...

But would you knit something you liked or something you hated the look of just because it's knitting club?

Sure that all depends on whos looking at it.

I might think its beautiful and you might think its the worst looking thing ever or vice versa.

So if i join fab knitters do you want me to knit you a nice winter cardigan with a matching hat and scarf?"

Yes but you wouldn't knit yourself something ugly to wear.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Which shop do you think she will go into?

I like this

I'm the joke shop. "

Its good to laugh, it's good for the soul x

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By *UNISHR23Man
over a year ago

heathrow

I’ve met loads of amazing people on here it takes time, once you have verifications tho it gets easier and easier

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By *zQTWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere

"How much work should it take to get your willie wet? "

I somehow think that it may be this sort of attitude that’s getting you nowhere.

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

OP’s rules:

- women must respond to nice messages

- women must meet nice men.

Let’s do the maths OP...

WEEK ONE:

Monday: Three nice men get in touch. Be friendly to each. Time taken - 30 mins.

Tuesday: Three more nice men get in touch. Chat to each of them. Mustn’t ignore because they’re nice and they’ve written a personalised first message. Must also chat to yesterday’s men. Time taken - 60 mins

Weds: Three more men bring the total to nine. Time taken - 90 mins.

Thurs - three more. 120 mins.

Friday - three more. 150 mins.

Saturday - Three more. Today, I have time to meet someone. But I’m talking to 18 nice guys. Which one do I meet? If I do two-hour meets with all of them, it’d take 36 hours and there are only 24 hours in the day. I meet one guy.

Sunday - the guy I met veris me. Half of the guys I’m talking to shout at me. They had assumed they would be the next one to “get their dick wet” (horrible phrase) when I got a spare moment. Three more nice new guys get in touch bringing the total to 21.

WEEK TWO - total number of guys I’m talking to reaches 42 and it takes 420 minutes per day (seven hours) to chat to them all if I give them ten minutes each. I mustn’t drop any because they’ll go into the forum and moan about how the were suddenly dropped for no reason at all. And I mustn’t ignore any of the new nice men because they’re entitled to an answer.

WEEK THREE - 21 more nice men show up bringing the total to 63 (taking 630 minutes per day - ten and a half hours per day)

WEEK FOUR - 21 more nice men. The total is now 84 (840 mins or 14 hours per day).

By WEEK SEVEN, I’m talking to 147 nice men. At ten minutes each per day, it takes me 1470 minutes to respond. That twenty four and a half hours per day.

You see OP? Your rules are MATHEMATICALLY IMPOSSIBLE to follow by week seven.

If I’ve met one guy each week, I’ve met 7/147 and it’ll take me nearly three years to clear the back log.

So women choose who they respond to and who they have sex with.

Entitled men, with incel-type beliefs, get offended and angry. “These women are so full of themselves. I sent a nice message. The least she could do is chat. This is a sex site. Stupid bitches aren’t fucking me. I bet they’re all after gym-fit men with big cocks. They don’t even give the rest of us a chance”...

This type of belief is a MASSIVE red flag. You aren’t ENTITLED to a reply, or to sex or to any attention at all.

The men who do well put in significant effort with their profile, their photos, they chat, they accommodate, the go to socials and clubs, they gain and display veris, chat nicely in the forums. They’re still owed nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahmen sis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" OP’s rules:

- women must respond to nice messages

- women must meet nice men.

Let’s do the maths OP...

WEEK ONE:

Monday: Three nice men get in touch. Be friendly to each. Time taken - 30 mins.

Weds: Three more men bring the total to nine. Time taken - 90 mins.

Thurs - three more. 120 mins.

Friday - three more. 150 mins.

WEEK THREE - 21 more nice men show up bringing the total to 63 (taking 630 minutes per day - ten and a half hours per day)

WEEK FOUR - 21 more nice men. The total is now 84 (840 mins or 14 hours per day).

By WEEK SEVEN, I’m talking to 147 nice men. At ten minutes each per day, it takes me 1470 minutes to respond. That twenty four and a half hours per day.

You see OP? Your rules are MATHEMATICALLY IMPOSSIBLE to follow by week seven.

If I’ve met one guy each week, I’ve met 7/147 and it’ll take me nearly three years to clear the back log.

So women choose who they respond to and who they have sex with.

This type of belief is a MASSIVE red flag. You aren’t ENTITLED to a reply, or to sex or to any attention at all.

Please copy and paste this post in every single male moaning thread.......

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By *akingtheplungeMan
over a year ago

kent

" OP’s rules:

- women must respond to nice messages

- women must meet nice men.

Let’s do the maths OP...

WEEK ONE:

Monday: Three nice men get in touch. Be friendly to each. Time taken - 30 mins.

Weds: Three more men bring the total to nine. Time taken - 90 mins.

Thurs - three more. 120 mins.

Friday - three more. 150 mins.

WEEK THREE - 21 more nice men show up bringing the total to 63 (taking 630 minutes per day - ten and a half hours per day)

WEEK FOUR - 21 more nice men. The total is now 84 (840 mins or 14 hours per day).

By WEEK SEVEN, I’m talking to 147 nice men. At ten minutes each per day, it takes me 1470 minutes to respond. That twenty four and a half hours per day.

You see OP? Your rules are MATHEMATICALLY IMPOSSIBLE to follow by week seven.

If I’ve met one guy each week, I’ve met 7/147 and it’ll take me nearly three years to clear the back log.

So women choose who they respond to and who they have sex with.

This type of belief is a MASSIVE red flag. You aren’t ENTITLED to a reply, or to sex or to any attention at all.

Plus Time spent writing that long explanation, priceless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it is what it is you cant change it its an Internet domain

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