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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I need some advice. So I'm happily married and have no desire for that to change. Our relationship is great apart from our sex drives have gone in opposite directions. I find myself wanting to try new and exciting things and she seems less and less interest in sex. Obviously sex is important, but it also seems like a really crap reason to feel unhappy. Anyone have any words if wisdom to offer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is an important part of a relationship. The only thing I can say is you really need to talk to her about it, especially if it's making you unhappy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean she knows your here so she seems willing to help you fufill your desires in someways.

There is no going back from your first meet though so my advice would be keep talking to your wife and take your time arranging a meet as you clearly still have some reservations yourself

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Priotitise your wife over everything if you love her. Keep talking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I mean she knows your here so she seems willing to help you fufill your desires in someways.

There is no going back from your first meet though so my advice would be keep talking to your wife and take your time arranging a meet as you clearly still have some reservations yourself"

That meet meet was on webcam, physically meeting people on here is off limits and I respect that.

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By *ants cockWoman
over a year ago

lincoln


"I need some advice. So I'm happily married and have no desire for that to change. Our relationship is great apart from our sex drives have gone in opposite directions. I find myself wanting to try new and exciting things and she seems less and less interest in sex. Obviously sex is important, but it also seems like a really crap reason to feel unhappy. Anyone have any words if wisdom to offer? "

You need to talk to her. Help out round the house more. She will know your playing away. You need to make her feel like she’s the one

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Priotitise your wife over everything if you love her. Keep talking. "
I guess that's the reason I feel so bad for feeling frustrated. There are more important things to worry about

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I need some advice. So I'm happily married and have no desire for that to change. Our relationship is great apart from our sex drives have gone in opposite directions. I find myself wanting to try new and exciting things and she seems less and less interest in sex. Obviously sex is important, but it also seems like a really crap reason to feel unhappy. Anyone have any words if wisdom to offer?

You need to talk to her. Help out round the house more. She will know your playing away. You need to make her feel like she’s the one "

To be fair helping out around the house more is probably something I should take on board. Not that I don't help, but I could always do more

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Priotitise your wife over everything if you love her. Keep talking. I guess that's the reason I feel so bad for feeling frustrated. There are more important things to worry about "

Aren’t there always.. life’s tough. Finding someone that special is tougher. Make sure you can come back from this.

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By *ants cockWoman
over a year ago

lincoln


"I need some advice. So I'm happily married and have no desire for that to change. Our relationship is great apart from our sex drives have gone in opposite directions. I find myself wanting to try new and exciting things and she seems less and less interest in sex. Obviously sex is important, but it also seems like a really crap reason to feel unhappy. Anyone have any words if wisdom to offer?

You need to talk to her. Help out round the house more. She will know your playing away. You need to make her feel like she’s the one

To be fair helping out around the house more is probably something I should take on board. Not that I don't help, but I could always do more"

I always liked that more. If she’s tired she won’t be in the mood

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can forget to flirt when in long term relationships, flirting can be exciting which in turn gets the juices flowing. I'm not assuming this is the case for you. But if it is.... . I'd speak to her, ask her if she's up for flirty fun, naughty texts throughout the day etc... Then see if that helps her mojo.

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By *ickygirl41Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I need some advice. So I'm happily married and have no desire for that to change. Our relationship is great apart from our sex drives have gone in opposite directions. I find myself wanting to try new and exciting things and she seems less and less interest in sex. Obviously sex is important, but it also seems like a really crap reason to feel unhappy. Anyone have any words if wisdom to offer? "

Some contraceptive pills cause depression and kill libido, when women are unhappy it is unlikely they'll want sex.

At stressful or unhappy times sex is the last thing you want.

Coming from a position of my ex sneaking around with someone I'd say you'd be better served being honest and trying to resolve this or breaking up, but I am me and you are you and I don't wear your shoes.

"Life is pain, anyone telling you different, is lying... or selling something."

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By *evyn69Man
over a year ago

Staines

Yeah I get you. My wife has no urges or wants or desires hates flirting in any form.....tells me to go and look elsewhere if that is what I want. It is a real pain going to bed with her as I still fancy the arse off her but she don't want nothing....nothing!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Any young children, what medication does your wife take, are there unresolved issues causing resentment, how's her job, does she feel happy within your marriage, can she articulate why she no longer feels desire, have you seen a medical professional together? The list is endless. The fact is until and unless you explore this thoroughly with your wife rather than random strangers on the net you will never know the answers. Communication with her is the only way forward. I was quite surprised when someone suggested that you do more around the house and you casually said you could do more, hasn't this come up in your discussions?

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By *evyn69Man
over a year ago

Staines

Agree. Definately talking. Find a specialist to help.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and don't look on keeping your own home nice to live in as helping. You're jointly responsible for it.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You can only communicate with each other, so you can both more fully and easily understand your perspectives. You may find consensual conclusions, where you haven't started to build a secret life of sex that she doesn't know about and wasn't given the opportunity to agree for you to be part of.

If you value her and your relationship you will build trust and openness. Sex is diverse, so she may be able to enjoy sex differently but trust is paramount for many people to be able to become more open. Invest time in her and your relationship, before finding others

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