FabSwingers.com forum: If you are lonely...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on your expectations and your success in meeting them.

Fab can be great to pass the time and feel a little involved in the forum ....if you log on expecting some human contact asap I can see it being isolating alright

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what makes you feel less lonely? And how likely it is to be found here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?"
i imagine they would for a person who isnt confident in themselves, its hard enough for confident people

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?"

They can do. Just like you can be in a room full of people and feel alone and invisible.

You ok OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?

They can do. Just like you can be in a room full of people and feel alone and invisible.

You ok OP?"

I'm fine, thanks for asking

Was just wondering opinion, because everyone seems to use dating apps or social media etc to be more social yet it really seems to do the opposite.

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By *aughtyNipplesWoman
over a year ago

newport, shrops

I can actually resonate with this at the moment.

I am an outgoing and confident person. I have friends and lots to occupy me BUT this site, other sites such as dating apps are highlighting the fact I am single when I don't want to be.

... And it's a shitty feeling. I hate it!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

The only time I've felt lonely I was surrounded by my husband and kids, and it was Christmas day.

You can be alone and not lonely and lonely in a crowd.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?

They can do. Just like you can be in a room full of people and feel alone and invisible.

You ok OP?"

My point!

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By *angerineMan
over a year ago

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"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?"

If you're just browsing the profiles and trying to meet then yes, I think it can be a very lonely process to start.

If you're on the forums though, I think that can be a much more fulfilling way to connect- even if physical meets aren't necessarily on the table

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By *litreMan
over a year ago

everywhere

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?

They can do. Just like you can be in a room full of people and feel alone and invisible.

You ok OP?

I'm fine, thanks for asking

Was just wondering opinion, because everyone seems to use dating apps or social media etc to be more social yet it really seems to do the opposite. "

Agree, I'd personally much prefer to meet people the old fashioned way. Hunt and be hunted. Unfortunately the restraints of today keep us from socialising and giving eachother the time of day. I think social media/ dating apps gives us false pretences. Only ourselves to blame.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?

They can do. Just like you can be in a room full of people and feel alone and invisible.

You ok OP?

I'm fine, thanks for asking

Was just wondering opinion, because everyone seems to use dating apps or social media etc to be more social yet it really seems to do the opposite. "

Saddest thing is watching a group of people all fiddling with their phones, posting updates on Instagram, Twitter et al whilst ignoring the people around them.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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"The only time I've felt lonely I was surrounded by my husband and kids, and it was Christmas day.

You can be alone and not lonely and lonely in a crowd. "

I can understand this. For me it happened towards the end of an 18yr relationship. I just looked out of the window towards the road and wanted to be on it.

Obviously I couldn't because of the kids..but in that moment I felt lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know people joke about the clique, but it's very evident after using the chat roon a few times and being ignored

Very easy to feel invisible on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t have anyone outside of fab...

I go into Preston a lot on my own but nobody talks like they used too, all just sat on the phones.. so I prefer going swingers clubs and chatting on here

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"The only time I've felt lonely I was surrounded by my husband and kids, and it was Christmas day.

You can be alone and not lonely and lonely in a crowd.

I can understand this. For me it happened towards the end of an 18yr relationship. I just looked out of the window towards the road and wanted to be on it.

Obviously I couldn't because of the kids..but in that moment I felt lonely. "

That was it for me too: I knew it would be our last Christmas as a family: by the Easter I'd left...with my kids.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I think I’ve been extremely lucky. 3 years ago on the 9th October I met a guy from this site. Last month we got married and I can honestly say I’ve never had it so good. He’s an absolute diamond and a total soul mate. So this site made a miracle happen. I was widowed before I met him but had a very rocky 13 year relationship full of lonely times. Not now though.

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By *litreMan
over a year ago

everywhere

"I think I’ve been extremely lucky. 3 years ago on the 9th October I met a guy from this site. Last month we got married and I can honestly say I’ve never had it so good. He’s an absolute diamond and a total soul mate. So this site made a miracle happen. I was widowed before I met him but had a very rocky 13 year relationship full of lonely times. Not now though. "

Congratulations. Always good to hear a positive outcome

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"The only time I've felt lonely I was surrounded by my husband and kids, and it was Christmas day.

You can be alone and not lonely and lonely in a crowd.

I can understand this. For me it happened towards the end of an 18yr relationship. I just looked out of the window towards the road and wanted to be on it.

Obviously I couldn't because of the kids..but in that moment I felt lonely.

That was it for me too: I knew it would be our last Christmas as a family: by the Easter I'd left...with my kids."

I ended up leaving with my 3 kids and absolutely nothing but it had to be done.

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By *angerineMan
over a year ago

somewhere inbetween the right and wrong

Awww, that's awesome

Congrats to the pair of you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

In answer to the OP - I think they can be a double edged sword, they can provide an outlet and an escape from loneliness, but they can also exacerbate it - especially if you're not in a position to be able to do anything about it.

It comes down to the individual and personal management ultimately

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

If anyone feels lonely......regards of sex or anything else....you can always come say hi and share some banter.....

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

For someone like me, who very very rarely gets to go out then i’d Say they have been a godsend.

I’m shy, reclusive, a single parent to two and a carer for my mum. Yet these apps allowed me to have sex, date, and chat to interesting folk that I otherwise wouldn’t unless they worked somewhere I happened to be passing and we “clicked” suddenly.

But i’ve seen the flip side too. And that is sad.

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By *moothman2000Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Think the loneliest I've ever been is stuck in an abusive marriage that I couldn't see any escape from - it's not just women that get caught in them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think the loneliest I've ever been is stuck in an abusive marriage that I couldn't see any escape from - it's not just women that get caught in them."

Same here... hope you get through it

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By *ooskiMan
over a year ago

south coast

"Think the loneliest I've ever been is stuck in an abusive marriage that I couldn't see any escape from - it's not just women that get caught in them.

Same here... hope you get through it

Only once out the other side does the scale of things hit you........then the different feeling phases and doubts.....

Watched a good friend get crucified by a complete fruit bat and good help the next poor soul....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well I'm all ears if anyone wants to talk

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I think if you come on sites likes this or dating sites with any expectations, you’re probably setting yourself up for a fall. From what I can see, many that go actively looking for relationships seem to end up lonelier.

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By *moothman2000Man
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Think the loneliest I've ever been is stuck in an abusive marriage that I couldn't see any escape from - it's not just women that get caught in them.

Same here... hope you get through it

Yeah, that's ancient history as gar as I'm concerned now - learnt from and never to be repeated.

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By *xperimentalistMan
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

"For someone like me, who very very rarely gets to go out then i’d Say they have been a godsend.

But i’ve seen the flip side too. And that is sad.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

"The only time I've felt lonely I was surrounded by my husband and kids, and it was Christmas day.

You can be alone and not lonely and lonely in a crowd.

I can understand this. For me it happened towards the end of an 18yr relationship. I just looked out of the window towards the road and wanted to be on it.

Obviously I couldn't because of the kids..but in that moment I felt lonely.

That was it for me too: I knew it would be our last Christmas as a family: by the Easter I'd left...with my kids.

I ended up leaving with my 3 kids and absolutely nothing but it had to be done."

Gutsy. Well done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Congrats!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?"

I agree with both. Sometimes they can help. For others they can seem very lonely, on the outside looking in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that unless you can spend some time with your tribe now and again it's possible to be lonely even in company. Fab could make a lonely person feel even more isolated if they couldn't identify with anyone on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that unless you can spend some time with your tribe now and again it's possible to be lonely even in company. Fab could make a lonely person feel even more isolated if they couldn't identify with anyone on here."
bit like going to london for the day so many people but no time for anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's rare when I read every post in a thread, but this one I did and feel both better and worse for it. It turns out that no matter how down and alone we can feel at times there is always a little light on the horizon. I battled loneliness myself within a relationship for many years and still feel it too at times, I have joined and rejoined fab and several other dating/hook up sites in the last 3 years and have been fortunate enough to at least find intimacy from time to time which is something I missed tremendously. As you can see from my profile however I don't take the site too seriously and that's why I enjoy it. Thanks to all for your honesty and I hope you all find happiness.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think that unless you can spend some time with your tribe now and again it's possible to be lonely even in company. Fab could make a lonely person feel even more isolated if they couldn't identify with anyone on here.bit like going to london for the day so many people but no time for anyone

Maybe but I mean people who "get" you. It can feel very isolating being constantly in the company of people with who you have few common points of reference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal experience was it helped me massively when I had major issues..my friends ran a mile when mental flashbacks started to occur..most avoided contact in case it came up in conversation hence I deleted Facebook. ..here they d tell me jokes or humour me in conversation and chat..as in normal chat or sexy..definitely fabbers helped me connect with the outside world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that unless you can spend some time with your tribe now and again it's possible to be lonely even in company. Fab could make a lonely person feel even more isolated if they couldn't identify with anyone on here.bit like going to london for the day so many people but no time for anyone

Maybe but I mean people who "get" you. It can feel very isolating being constantly in the company of people with who you have few common points of reference. "

Totally agree about being lonely in a crowd of people but for me, whose boundaries got smashed during my hassles, I found I could always find someone on fab to chat about stuff your run of the mill person wouldn't ..not disagreeing, for some on fab it would be the other way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that unless you can spend some time with your tribe now and again it's possible to be lonely even in company. Fab could make a lonely person feel even more isolated if they couldn't identify with anyone on here.bit like going to london for the day so many people but no time for anyone

Gawd yeah..great parallel..cities can be so insular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t have anyone outside of fab...

I go into Preston a lot on my own but nobody talks like they used too, all just sat on the phones.. so I prefer going swingers clubs and chatting on here "

Know that feeling..I sometimes think communication is a dying art..which invariably leads to isolationism

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over a year ago

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

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"My personal experience was it helped me massively when I had major issues..my friends ran a mile when mental flashbacks started to occur..most avoided contact in case it came up in conversation hence I deleted Facebook. ..here they d tell me jokes or humour me in conversation and chat..as in normal chat or sexy..definitely fabbers helped me connect with the outside world

This is what our lovely community is all about x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I no is if I'm feeling down I don't even put phone on as most things make it worse till my little sunshine comes back

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Oooh...how lovely. Congratulations to you both x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I think if you come on sites likes this or dating sites with any expectations, you’re probably setting yourself up for a fall. From what I can see, many that go actively looking for relationships seem to end up lonelier. "

My view too

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I think some people get a lot from being on here in times of need. It can be a supportive place and if it helps then why not?

It wouldn’t be my ‘go to’ place but we’re all different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think fab or even other dating apps actually help with loneliness?

I actually think they somehow make a lonely person feel more isolated. What are your thoughts?"

I can’t disagree with that theory

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

Never realised straight guys got lonely

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Oooh...how lovely. Congratulations to you both x"

Thank you

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