FabSwingers.com forum: Swingers clubs spoil you

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve been swinging years. Well

Over 10 years. Up until 2014 it was always meets in people’s homes or mine. This took a lot of effort I.e coffee meet, Kik chats etc. Then after attending clubs where the sex is more forthcoming and less “pre” flirting/ etc goes on do people find returning to the coffee/chat/Kik method hard?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We prefer the coffee/chat method

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

It depends I like the coffee chat method and sometimes I like the club method what I dont like is if you do the chat coffee method they assume your going to play

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Always coffee and a chat. I’m not a club fan.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
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over a year ago

My Own Little World

I gave up with the coffee and chat method years back. I found unless you are prepared to drop everything and meet instantly the guy moves onto the next shiny object, some guys have the attention span of a goldfish when they are horny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both. You get different experiences from both.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sincerely hoping the club scene is more welcoming. Even charming someone round to a coffee is labour intensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only go to clubs for the social side I have no interest in fucking in clubs. On the occasions I have it's people that have attended with me or who I've got to know well from chatting to on a few occasions. I don't want to be someone's she'll do fuck

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs are an excuse for being a sexual deviant flashing sexual wanking off to a stanger and his mrs from a foot away is ridiculous feeling them up just cos there half nude aa its like a lawless mental home all of which if anywhere else would get you on a regester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only go to clubs for the social side.... I don't want to be someone's she'll do fuck "

Is that what the vibe is like? I hope not. You look lovely. Top of my list, Ma’am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Clubs are an excuse for being a sexual deviant flashing sexual wanking off to a stanger and his mrs from a foot away is ridiculous feeling them up just cos there half nude aa its like a lawless mental home all of which if anywhere else would get you on a regester"

That’s a strong take. Gonna go out on a limb and say you’re...not a fan?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s a strong take. Gonna go out on a limb and say you’re...not a fan?"

Its all true but dont mean i hate them its just a bit of sensory overload not strong its fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only go to clubs for the social side.... I don't want to be someone's she'll do fuck

Is that what the vibe is like? I hope not. You look lovely. Top of my list, Ma’am."

For some it is yes. And I only fuck people who put in the effort to get to know me. Some people prefer the random sex thing. I don't go to clubs at the minute anyway because all my time is taken up by my wonderful beast

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only go to clubs for the social side.... I don't want to be someone's she'll do fuck

Is that what the vibe is like? I hope not. You look lovely. Top of my list, Ma’am.

Lucky old beast

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

No we prefer the coffee/social route. Currently in GC where it has been full on in the clubs all week and to be honest it has not been to our liking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been swinging years. Well

As a single woman I thought clubs would be the safest way to connect with the swinging community. It is a no pressure to play environment I find. Though I've stuck to couples evenings, I'm not brave to go to the fun for all nights with the single, well allegedly single guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I much prefer a club, in fact that's all I'll do until I get to know someone a bit. I find the meeting for coffee, arranging a hotel or driving to theirs far too much like hard work. Just get to a club, you're there, everyone is there with the same thing in mind, there's no pressure (or there shouldn't be). Even if you don't play you can have a great time.

It's Clubs all the way for me, they usually have some kind of dungeon for my domme side which always a plus .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I like both for different reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love a club vibe tbh, you can use it how you wish, sometimes it is nice to just go along and chat in a liberated environment.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

That’s a strong take. Gonna go out on a limb and say you’re...not a fan?"

I'd take it he hadn't been to many clubs lol.

We've never been to one that is like that.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Club swinger only here!! I wouldn’t do it any other way! I do just socialise as well as play.

Nothing sleezy about the clubs i go to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do both...

Both completely different, I use clubs to mainly socialise but if I take someone or specifically meet them there I’ll play...

Never been to a sleazy club or had a bad experience yet, and I’m never ignored or just sit in the corner watching either

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going. "

They are not as sleazy as you might think. For some people it's a safe place to go to meet friends, socialise, drink, dance and maybe more if you meet the right people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going.

They are not as sleazy as you might think. For some people it's a safe place to go to meet friends, socialise, drink, dance and maybe more if you meet the right people."

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going.

They are not as sleazy as you might think. For some people it's a safe place to go to meet friends, socialise, drink, dance and maybe more if you meet the right people."

I have only been twice but I wouldn't have called it sleazy. As above there are some benefits.

"meet friends, socialise, drink, dance and maybe more if you meet the right people"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love a club vibe tbh, you can use it how you wish, sometimes it is nice to just go along and chat in a liberated environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it."
id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl"

But, but, but there only being sociable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends I like the coffee chat method and sometimes I like the club method what I dont like is if you do the chat coffee method they assume your going to play

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omg assumption is the enemy of success

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

In my opinion, it depends where you live. If, like me, you have a 60 mile drive to get to your nearest club, you will find people locally put more effort in to using Fab for meets. If however, you have a club (or choice of clubs) on your doorstep, it’s a far easier option to get in to that scene (if it’s for you)

Personally, I prefer the chat-coffee-private meet option. Clubs can be fun, but they’re nowhere near as intimate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going. "

So glad to hear it’s not just us who are put off clubs because we think they are sleazy.

We’ve only seen a few clubs but the ones we’ve seem are not in great areas of town in less than appealing buildings. We went to Gran Canaria and thought the Cita Centre was a tacky run down shopping centre.

Each to their own but for us clubs we’ve seen lack sex appeal when you compare this with meeting nice people in a nice hotel bar and going upstairs for fun.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going.

So glad to hear it’s not just us who are put off clubs because we think they are sleazy.

Each to their own but for us clubs we’ve seen lack sex appeal when you compare this with meeting nice people in a nice hotel bar and going upstairs for fun. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl

But, but, but there only being sociable

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prisons are full of social people too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going.

They are not as sleazy as you might think. For some people it's a safe place to go to meet friends, socialise, drink, dance and maybe more if you meet the right people."

I agree x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I am interested to see if my perspective on single meets will change once I've been to my first club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl"

Exactly. That would just make me feel sick. I get why people go though. Don’t see the point

In me going. I’m not an exhibitionist at all and watching other people doesn’t do it for me really. So would be a bit pointless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl

Exactly. That would just make me feel sick. I get why people go though. Don’t see the point

In me going. I’m not an exhibitionist at all and watching other people doesn’t do it for me really. So would be a bit pointless!"

But then again I’m not a swinger and this is a swingers site so I’m happy to be shouted down

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Yes why put in any time or effort when you can just shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes why put in any time or effort when you can just shag

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yes shaggers should get a medal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going.

So glad to hear it’s not just us who are put off clubs because we think they are sleazy.

Each to their own but for us clubs we’ve seen lack sex appeal when you compare this with meeting nice people in a nice hotel bar and going upstairs for fun. "

I didn’t dare venture downstairs in the Cita Centre.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I gave up with the coffee and chat method years back. I found unless you are prepared to drop everything and meet instantly the guy moves onto the next shiny object, some guys have the attention span of a goldfish when they are horny."
very possibly lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I much prefer a club, in fact that's all I'll do until I get to know someone a bit. I find the meeting for coffee, arranging a hotel or driving to theirs far too much like hard work. Just get to a club, you're there, everyone is there with the same thing in mind, there's no pressure (or there shouldn't be). Even if you don't play you can have a great time.

It's Clubs all the way for me, they usually have some kind of dungeon for my domme side which always a plus .

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this is my reasoning exactly! I’ve been to clubs loads and not played. It’s very very social

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I like being chased (not physically!) so I don’t think it would work for me.

And I like seeing a man with clothes on first else i’ll just be staring at his cock non stop - it’s sexy undressing a man. Smelling them, feeling them. Sensual and stuff. Surely that gets lost in a Club environment?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl

Exactly. That would just make me feel sick. I get why people go though. Don’t see the point

In me going. I’m not an exhibitionist at all and watching other people doesn’t do it for me really. So would be a bit pointless!

But then again I’m not a swinger and this is a swingers site so I’m happy to be shouted down

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its all fun and games until your hit in the head with a rogue penis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl

Exactly. That would just make me feel sick. I get why people go though. Don’t see the point

In me going. I’m not an exhibitionist at all and watching other people doesn’t do it for me really. So would be a bit pointless!

But then again I’m not a swinger and this is a swingers site so I’m happy to be shouted down

its all fun and games until your hit in the head with a rogue penis

This is why I don't frequent fun for all nights. Sounds chaotic, I'd be overwhelmed and not in a good way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl

Exactly. That would just make me feel sick. I get why people go though. Don’t see the point

In me going. I’m not an exhibitionist at all and watching other people doesn’t do it for me really. So would be a bit pointless!

But then again I’m not a swinger and this is a swingers site so I’m happy to be shouted down

its all fun and games until your hit in the head with a rogue penis

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going. "

Same. With clubs I worry about the cleanliness, I imagine rogue bodily fluids and wet patches left by God knows who. As for the bacteria cauldrons that are hot tubs

The reality is probably not as bad as I imagine, but I'm happy with the comfort of a hotel where I don't feel the need to get out the room ASAP so the next person can fuck.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl"

Well no..nor would I.

Maybe its my limited experience but I wouldn't expect that in the dance room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too sleazy for my liking but each to their own

Me too personally. They sound like my worst nightmare. Can’t see me ever going.

Same. With clubs I worry about the cleanliness, I imagine rogue bodily fluids and wet patches left by God knows who. As for the bacteria cauldrons that are hot tubs

The reality is probably not as bad as I imagine, but I'm happy with the comfort of a hotel where I don't feel the need to get out the room ASAP so the next person can fuck. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve been swinging years. Well

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By *inkyman1964Man
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"I like being chased (not physically!) so I don’t think it would work for me.

And I like seeing a man with clothes on first else i’ll justp be staring at his cock non stop - it’s sexy undressing a man. Smelling them, feeling them. Sensual and stuff. Surely that gets lost in a Club environment?"

Not if it's a sexy, nightclub style Club, where you stay dressed until you are ready to play. Maybe even in a private room so no rogue cocks about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs have places for play, either openly or privately don't they?.

I don't think it makes people sexually deviant to be playing openly.

If I go to a club I would expect to come across certain sights. For me as long as respect is shown to all then go for it.id not expect 15 men staring at you as they knock one out as you kiss a girl

Well no..nor would I.

Maybe its my limited experience but I wouldn't expect that in the dance room."
limited here too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only play at clubs, its fun, safe and far less time consuming.

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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We prefer to meet socially in a pub and have a drink and a chat to see if we all have a connection before any sexual activities take place.

Mr2

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

I've enjoyed myself on the few occassions I've gone to a club. It's alot easier when people can see you and talk in person there and then. Paradox for me is the behaviour of some single males. They should be banned from clubs lol

As a single male I find it difficult making initial contact, then creating rapport and arranging a meet through Fab. That said, my preference is the coffee/chat method!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only play at clubs, its fun, safe and far less time consuming."
I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of online chatter, maybe a phone or video call? Followed by a social, with a hopeful view to play if we click. No expectations from either one of us..

If that's a bit Labour intensive, or too much hard work for whoever messaged me, I'd walk away without a care in the world..

If a bit of a natter seems like too much effort, I dread to think what they're like when it's time to get nekkid.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Plenty of online chatter, maybe a phone or video call? Followed by a social, with a hopeful view to play if we click. No expectations from either one of us..

If that's a bit Labour intensive, or too much hard work for whoever messaged me, I'd walk away without a care in the world..

If a bit of a natter seems like too much effort, I dread to think what they're like when it's time to get nekkid. "

Fancy a shag then

hah

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