FabSwingers.com forum: Intern dilemma?

By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago

Waltham Abbey

So, work has made it clear in our code of conduct (rightfully so) that relationships at work are frowned upon, especially so with our interns. Who, as you can imagine, are mostly younger males/females seeking work experience.

However, one of the interns (female, 25, and very hot) has recently made it very clear to me that she is keen to hook up - I would have never approached her for fear of being utterly inappropriate. I’m not her boss nor have any say on future recruitment, we just work in adjacent areas.

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

Is it worth getting fired for?

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By *arksxMan
over a year ago

Leicester / London

Don't shit where you eat.

There is 3 billion women on the planet. Plenty more fish in the see.

And is she is 25 if you say no. She will only want you more

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

Go for it, but don't get caught

It's in both of your interests to keep it private.

I'm surprised companies can still have a say on what you do in your personal life.

I assume they wouldn't be happy if they knew you were on here then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t get fired for it. How long left on her internship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go for it, it's only a job after all. Just kidding depends how much you value your job, and can you be sure if caught she will not put all the on blame you, to save herself.

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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago

Waltham Abbey

Let’s just say the owner is a pretty zealous person about moral standards and company reputation!! Yes, being on Fab probably wouldn’t go down well!

"Go for it, but don't get caught

It's in both of your interests to keep it private.

I'm surprised companies can still have a say on what you do in your personal life.

I assume they wouldn't be happy if they knew you were on here then?"

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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago

Waltham Abbey

"I wouldn’t get fired for it. How long left on her internship?"

3 months but she thinks she is moving overseas after. So she sees it as a short term fling for some fun - we do get on professionally/personally very well.

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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago

Waltham Abbey

"Go for it, it's only a job after all. Just kidding depends how much you value your job, and can you be sure if caught she will not put all the on blame you, to save herself."

Good points!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, work has made it clear in our code of conduct (rightfully so) that relationships at work are frowned upon, especially so with our interns. Who, as you can imagine, are mostly younger males/females seeking work experience.

So, any advice from the Fab crowd? Should I steer clear as I’m playing with fire? Or dive in and enjoy ourselves noting the risk (I’d undoubtedly get fired if caught)? Anyone been in a similar situation? "
if you fall out you have to continue working together and at ages 25 and 42 that can easily happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is a “hook up” really worth risking your job for?

If you value your employment don’t do it, hook ups come and go, not worth the potential hassle.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’d leave it. Wait till she’s left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d give that a miss. If work told me I couldn’t mess around with people work I wouldn’t do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is a “hook up” really worth risking your job for?

If you value your employment don’t do it, hook ups come and go, not worth the potential hassle.

And if the company has a specific policy for this situation, stick to it. It'll only take one little thing to go wrong for it to cost you your job.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You wouldn't be the first man to risk his job for sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

or the first to lose it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t do it. You’ll be crying into your p45

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah policies are there for a reason. I.e it’s happens once before and it went south.

If work finds out it sounds like you’ll be dismissed for inappropriate conduct. Do you really want to explain that at an interview?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Giver her one and blow yer beans

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If she has made it clear she wants to hook up explain about the rules and wait for the internship to end and for her to either be employed or move on and then go for it. No quick fumble etc is worth losing your job for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn’t get fired for it. How long left on her internship?

3 months but she thinks she is moving overseas after. So she sees it as a short term fling for some fun - we do get on professionally/personally very well."

Do you trust her motives when you really think about it. The age difference, your position of responsibility in the company, the attitude of the boss ..... do you feel lucky punk?

Let it build for 3 months then pursue it when she leaves if you both want.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I mention this on every thread like this.

Similar situation but both fully employed by Co in same department. They start “dating” and it goes well for a month. She wanted more, he didn’t and she turned into Glen Close in the workplace.

She basically had a stand up row in front of everyone in our department with him, then started telling line manager he was harrassing her. He wasn’t. He snapped one day and basically did the same thing she did but he was seen as being physically aggressive and was escorted from the premises by security, never to return.

She had already told her secretary (who told us) it was deliberate, she had been baiting him to lose his temper. He never got his job back and she moved companies shortly after.

It’s just not worth it. Not for a shag.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Don't do it.

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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago

Waltham Abbey

Thanks for the constructive comments on the pitfalls involved with this course of action - much appreciated all of you.

Clearly a plan needs to be made to delay anything until post-internship!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

You make your choice and take your chance. You know the rules so weigh it all up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mention this on every thread like this.

Similar situation but both fully employed by Co in same department. They start “dating” and it goes well for a month. She wanted more, he didn’t and she turned into Glen Close in the workplace.

She had already told her secretary (who told us) it was deliberate, she had been baiting him to lose his temper. He never got his job back and she moved companies shortly after.

It’s just not worth it. Not for a shag.

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thats really devious and unfair

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By *eleus OP Man
over a year ago

Waltham Abbey

"I mention this on every thread like this.

Similar situation but both fully employed by Co in same department. They start “dating” and it goes well for a month. She wanted more, he didn’t and she turned into Glen Close in the workplace.

She had already told her secretary (who told us) it was deliberate, she had been baiting him to lose his temper. He never got his job back and she moved companies shortly after.

It’s just not worth it. Not for a shag.

thats really devious and unfair

Very good point and well made, thanks. I have everything to lose (career and reputation) and the other party, not so much. Perhaps there is an agenda behind this, I sincerely don’t believe there is, but best not to risk it.

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