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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Suppose you agree to meet somebody - suppose you meet them and they are nice enough but.... halitosis or BO is a problem!

Do you tell them the reason why you are not playing or do you make excuses?

Serious answers please.. ok, semi serious ones are welcome as well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends how sexy they/how horny you are, there are many options to block out the smell, quick blast of deodrant/perfume on them might help the bo, or maybe suggest a shower together?

bad breath is easy, just tell them how sexy it is to see them brushing their teeth.

finally you coukd just say, " sort your smelly fucking self out, your aroma is offending my nose "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suppose you agree to meet somebody - suppose you meet them and they are nice enough but.... halitosis or BO is a problem!

Do you tell them the reason why you are not playing or do you make excuses?

Serious answers please.. ok, semi serious ones are welcome as well!"

I would try and be polite about it,,,,,

Perhaps sumit along the lines of.....

Hey... do you own a cat? cuz if you don't !!! you should get one so you can lick it's arse and freshen your breath....hmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id be a complete wimp and not mention the real reason and just say 'your just not my type'

Im no good with stuff like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"id be a complete wimp and not mention the real reason and just say 'your just not my type'

Im no good with stuff like that"

i thought you'd be quite straight with people an say "no brushy brushy, no fucky fucky"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago i met a man who was clean and smart but his breath was so bad it made me fee sick, and he kept kissing me, i didnt say anything and had sex with him, which was quite good, but i would of prefered not to. Then i once met someone else at a pub and he had the same problem, so i told him, in a nice way, i know we can all get bad breath sometimes, but this was realy bad. He said that it was because he had just had a cigarete and meant to buy some mints. I didnt hear from him again, i still felt a bit guilty for telling him though.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

'Nice enough' probably isn't 'nice enough' to make an effort and try to resolve the problem.

Shit-hot-fit is a different matter, but then it still does depend on a few things.........

If the BO is obviously an ongoing not washing situation..... I'd leave and probably not feel the need to explain why. The same with the bad breath, if it is obviously due to regular bad oral hygiene.

If it looks more like a one off, not had time type thing... I'd tell them to go and shower or clean their teeth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem getting the air freshener out....its a daily occurence at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"id be a complete wimp and not mention the real reason and just say 'your just not my type'

Im no good with stuff like that

i thought you'd be quite straight with people an say "no brushy brushy, no fucky fucky" "

Sometimes its not enough just to brush them though, you need to see a good dentist regulaly and use dentil floss and mouthwash or breath spray.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was with a girl once and as soon as my face got near her fanny it was obvious she hadn't cleaned it in a week.

I suggested a shower first and she still kicked off!

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By *uud 4-funMan
over a year ago

Dartford

Let's not pretend that we are going to meet our ideal life partner on here.

And let's not pretend we don't try to change the people we're with to make them more like our ideal.

If you fancy the pants of them in every other respect then put a strong mint in your mouth before you kiss them and make them gasp at the sensation. Make having a shower part of the foreplay.- How very erotic to wash each other before getting down and dirty!

Best wishes

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Sorry but if I meet someone with bad BO I couldnt even contemplate playing with them, couldnt hold my breathe long enough and would be gagging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

havnt met anyone with bad BO, it could always be because they forgot to use their deodrant after having a shower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you show up for a meet smelling like shit you should be banned from swinging for life

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Its a difficult one if you dont want to offend, yet at the same time you might be doing them a favour if you tell them. I know of somebody who had the guts to tell the person they were meeting and that person was really grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends, I usually have a social meet first and there's a big difference between 'todays lunch' breath and plain old bad hygene in that scenario I would just tell them I didn't want to play with them.

One time, I fooishly arranged to go to an out of town Swinging Social with a guy I'd been chatting with but not yet met in person. He arrived very late and came straight from work, he absolutely honked, at first I thought well OK, he can shower when we get to the hotel - but when I got in the car man I nearly vomitted!

I got out to nip into the local shop and just couldn't imagine sitting in the car for an hour, even with the window open it was bad. When I got back he had poured half a bottle of cheap aftershave on the floor on my side of the car, Christ! I just stood there at the door aghast at the stench lol!

Anyhoo, I couldn't do it, I told him I wasn't going with him due the smell. He gave me a lift back home (2 minutes away) I had my head stuck out the window lol!

I went on the train by myself though and had a brilliant night

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"It depends, I usually have a social meet first and there's a big difference between 'todays lunch' breath and plain old bad hygene in that scenario I would just tell them I didn't want to play with them.

One time, I fooishly arranged to go to an out of town Swinging Social with a guy I'd been chatting with but not yet met in person. He arrived very late and came straight from work, he absolutely honked, at first I thought well OK, he can shower when we get to the hotel - but when I got in the car man I nearly vomitted!

I got out to nip into the local shop and just couldn't imagine sitting in the car for an hour, even with the window open it was bad. When I got back he had poured half a bottle of cheap aftershave on the floor on my side of the car, Christ! I just stood there at the door aghast at the stench lol!

Anyhoo, I couldn't do it, I told him I wasn't going with him due the smell. He gave me a lift back home (2 minutes away) I had my head stuck out the window lol!

I went on the train by myself though and had a brilliant night "

Good on you for being honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

many moons ago I met a woman who had arranged to meet a previous date in the Tate Modern - massive galleries - she said she could smell him a floor away he was so bad. You must always be clean before a meet!

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

reminds me of the only time you can get halitosis into a joke !!

Mahatma Gandhi always walked barefoot and ultimately the soles of his feet became thick and very hard. He also was, of course, known to be a man of deep spiritual conviction. He undertook hunger strikes as a political protest and at times was both thin and frail. Furthermore, due to his weird diet, he suffered from bad breath. VERY bad breath.

In fact, in time he came to be known as "a super-callused fragile mystic hexed by halitosis."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well it was a good lesson for me, won't arrange anything like that again without meeting first.

He was really nice about it to be honest, even offered me his half of the Hotel room payment, but I didn't take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"reminds me of the only time you can get halitosis into a joke !!

Mahatma Gandhi always walked barefoot and ultimately the soles of his feet became thick and very hard. He also was, of course, known to be a man of deep spiritual conviction. He undertook hunger strikes as a political protest and at times was both thin and frail. Furthermore, due to his weird diet, he suffered from bad breath. VERY bad breath.

In fact, in time he came to be known as "a super-callused fragile mystic hexed by halitosis."

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"reminds me of the only time you can get halitosis into a joke !!

Mahatma Gandhi always walked barefoot and ultimately the soles of his feet became thick and very hard. He also was, of course, known to be a man of deep spiritual conviction. He undertook hunger strikes as a political protest and at times was both thin and frail. Furthermore, due to his weird diet, he suffered from bad breath. VERY bad breath.

In fact, in time he came to be known as "a super-callused fragile mystic hexed by halitosis."

"

There is always one...eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if its body odour probably just leave it... if its bad breath... could be remedied more easily so if I want to play, I'd just tell em!

In fact, I have done, both with boyfriends and meets and they have always just gone and brushed their teeth and used mouthwash

Amazing what the promise of a shag will do!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Meet someone with a bad sense of smell, they may never notice,

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"Suppose you agree to meet somebody - suppose you meet them and they are nice enough but.... halitosis or BO is a problem!

Do you tell them the reason why you are not playing or do you make excuses?

Serious answers please.. ok, semi serious ones are welcome as well!"

i doubt i would, if its just a meet there is no way of knowing how they might react. i would just say there was no spark or something generic.

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By *outhsider69Man
over a year ago

glasgow

I met someone through another website. She seemed lovely to chat to, and when we meet she looked very sexy in her stockings and heels, minus any panties! However when she leaned in to kiss, I got this overpowering smell of gum disease. I'm a dentist and I don't mind many of the smells I encounter, except for this one, which makes me wretch! I managed to dodge the actual kiss, fearful of throwing up there and then. We were in a secluded part of the pub and I already had my fingers inside her, so it would have been incredibly awkward to back out now. We drove to a quiet spot and played, but I avoided all kissing.

I wasn't planning to meet again, but had no idea how to let her down gently, but as 'luck' would have it, 12 hours afte the meet I was hospitalised with an adverse reaction the the flu vaccine I'd had the day before. Didn't play for a month and came off that website, never to return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Suppose you agree to meet somebody - suppose you meet them and they are nice enough but.... halitosis or BO is a problem!

Do you tell them the reason why you are not playing or do you make excuses?

Serious answers please.. ok, semi serious ones are welcome as well!"

I split from a girl because of the halitosis. I was much much younger and never mentioned it to her, which was a shame because she was a nice girl. But the breath smelt like.....

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