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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So going from Fab back to dating in the real world do you find it difficult to tell them your real turn ons and kinks.

Or do you bring them up slowly

Or do you have secrets still

Xx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I just do my usual thing. Most men love a dirty bitch in their bed don’t they? Regardless of being on here or a normal dating site?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I just do my usual thing. Most men love a dirty bitch in their bed don’t they? Regardless of being on here or a normal dating site?

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I think the challenge is the other way around ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just do my usual thing. Most men love a dirty bitch in their bed don’t they? Regardless of being on here or a normal dating site?

"

This I'm me. I don't think I'm particularly kinky really. It's all about the dynamics. With the right person I could be but it's not the thing that defines me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn't that part of a normal developing relationship ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Isn't that part of a normal developing relationship ?"

Depends on the person hence the question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't that part of a normal developing relationship ?

Depends on the person hence the question "

Not really, normal people communicate throughout relationships. Going to bed with anyone is a journey. I like this, don't like that, fancy trying, is there anything you want to try, have you seen those massagers. ..

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By *-sas-sinWoman
over a year ago

Arse end of the universe

I went off dating in general and sex...shock horror....for 14 months, when I felt like it I came straight to here rather than the dating sites, I want to find a like minded person and although I'm not here to find Mr Right i have more chance of getting someone on my wavelength than on match.com

That's my theory anyway...so far it's not worked out but i live in hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what your kinks and turn ons are I suppose. Not everyone who’s not on fab is vanilla! I don’t think I have any unusual ones so wouldn’t really make a difference really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, don't wait too long or you might end up with someone you really aren't compatible with in bed, but are everywhere else, and foolishly think you can either live with it or bring them around slowly...

Before you know it, you stuck in a rut with no way realistic way out.

If you have something that you really can't do without (like sex more than once every couple of months etc), best bring it up fairly quickly into a relationship (not on a first date though, maybe).

Sorry, that sounds bitter....

:-/

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By *he Devils Daughter!Woman
over a year ago

some where in yorkshire


"I just do my usual thing. Most men love a dirty bitch in their bed don’t they? Regardless of being on here or a normal dating site?

"

This

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"So going from Fab back to dating in the real world do you find it difficult to tell them your real turn ons and kinks.

Or do you bring them up slowly

Or do you have secrets still

Xx"

Vanilla dating is just people who haven't discovered swinging yet or don't really know about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I doubt I'll vanilla date again - it's too much like hard work these days!

I rarely have opportunities to meet men in my day to day life and internet dating is exhausting!

Most of the men in my area are on here anyway

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I dont bother vanilla dating, I much prefer fab dates

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fab world and vanilla world have collided. We are not overly kinky per say, but we have a very open dialogue about what we like and what our desires are. Saying that, I would think that those that met someone outside of fab would have a similar dialogue. A healthy sexual appetite is not something that someone would feel the need to be modest about, I'm assuming

Holly

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I sometimes think about vanilla dating just to bring that uncertainty back.

Not sure how long it'd last before this lifestyle came calling again and it had to be addressed so looks like i'm here for good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Vanilla dating" is a fucking" bore to me. Hell they have not lived

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't actually believe in the term vanilla, just because they're not here doesn't mean to say anyone has a boring sex life or just because you're on here meand you're great at sex! Think any two people in any sort of relationship are capable of a sexual journey of discovery together ... there is so much more to life and relationships than fab!

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