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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What stops us speaking to random people in public we find attractive?

I went the shop earlier today, on the way there and on the way back I passed a gorgeous guy and we both locked eyes each time for a good chunk of time. All I could think is I'd love to just speak to you and see if the same thoughts were going through his mind the same as mine and yet I carried on walking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"What stops us speaking to random people in public we find attractive?

I went the shop earlier today, on the way there and on the way back I passed a gorgeous guy and we both locked eyes each time for a good chunk of time. All I could think is I'd love to just speak to you and see if the same thoughts were going through his mind the same as mine and yet I carried on walking "

Fear of rejection.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

Nothing...

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside

it dsnt stop me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Societal conditioning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What stops us speaking to random people in public we find attractive?

I went the shop earlier today, on the way there and on the way back I passed a gorgeous guy and we both locked eyes each time for a good chunk of time. All I could think is I'd love to just speak to you and see if the same thoughts were going through his mind the same as mine and yet I carried on walking

Fear of rejection."

This

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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Societal conditioning "

or lack of confidence...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All or the above?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of. Of the above

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Confidence.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Absolutely nothing

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By *irty Flirty HarryMan
over a year ago

East Sussex

Making a complete arse of yourself, I know as I've done it so many times

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

As you may feel foolish if he sed no

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

Only ourselves stop us.

Good luck next time. Will you stop and engage in conversation next time?

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By *i1971Man
over a year ago

Cornwall

Lack of confidence & probably fear of rejection when it's "real life" situations.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Laziness for me, I prefer to seek on here at my leisure with like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What stops us speaking to random people in public we find attractive?

I went the shop earlier today, on the way there and on the way back I passed a gorgeous guy and we both locked eyes each time for a good chunk of time. All I could think is I'd love to just speak to you and see if the same thoughts were going through his mind the same as mine and yet I carried on walking "
nothing stops me i chat to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The fact the women can scream if they don't like you,then your branded a sex pest and weirdo for approaching them in the street,then maybe your name gets splashed all over social media, you start getting funny looks in the street and called names by random people, hereby ruining your life totally..... I think that's why I would talk to a random woman..... Tea anybody?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Nothing stops us...life's too short to worry what someone else might think or say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The fact the women can scream if they don't like you,then your branded a sex pest and weirdo for approaching them in the street,then maybe your name gets splashed all over social media, you start getting funny looks in the street and called names by random people, hereby ruining your life totally..... I think that's why I would talk to a random woman..... Tea anybody? "

See I hate this, I know with society the way things are today this is considered normal - men fearing to step out for fear of being persecuted.

But it's so wrong, I have no problem someone randomely speaking to me so long as they don't take it the wrong way if I am not interested back.

I do think in reading the responses my initial reaction today was the embarassment if he had not been keen but if I see him again I think I will try to grow some balls and say hi haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact the women can scream if they don't like you,then your branded a sex pest and weirdo for approaching them in the street,then maybe your name gets splashed all over social media, you start getting funny looks in the street and called names by random people, hereby ruining your life totally..... I think that's why I would talk to a random woman..... Tea anybody?

See I hate this, I know with society the way things are today this is considered normal - men fearing to step out for fear of being persecuted.

But it's so wrong, I have no problem someone randomely speaking to me so long as they don't take it the wrong way if I am not interested back.

I do think in reading the responses my initial reaction today was the embarassment if he had not been keen but if I see him again I think I will try to grow some balls and say hi haha "

My mate nearly got beat up for asking a women where she was from,she said 'nothing to do with you, go away' then she told her brother and his mat, it nearly kicked off,probably would of been different if he'd been goodooking

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"The fact the women can scream if they don't like you,then your branded a sex pest and weirdo for approaching them in the street,then maybe your name gets splashed all over social media, you start getting funny looks in the street and called names by random people, hereby ruining your life totally..... I think that's why I would talk to a random woman..... Tea anybody? "

Crikey, that escalated quickly.

Surely saying hi to someone wouldn't get you branded as a sex pest. I'm curious as to how you approach women if this is the response you get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The fact the women can scream if they don't like you,then your branded a sex pest and weirdo for approaching them in the street,then maybe your name gets splashed all over social media, you start getting funny looks in the street and called names by random people, hereby ruining your life totally..... I think that's why I would talk to a random woman..... Tea anybody?

Crikey, that escalated quickly.

Surely saying hi to someone wouldn't get you branded as a sex pest. I'm curious as to how you approach women if this is the response you get "

The art of seduction is dead

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

Ladies perhaps suggest some wording to us that is a non threatening way to say we are interested in flirting....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There usually with their Mrs

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Ladies perhaps suggest some wording to us that is a non threatening way to say we are interested in flirting...."

Just say hi like a normal person?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't want to be annoying. I'm not unkind to anyone who approaches me, but I do try to get rid of them as politely as possible.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier


"I don't want to be annoying. I'm not unkind to anyone who approaches me, but I do try to get rid of them as politely as possible. "

Not the one you fancy though I hope as well?

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier


"Ladies perhaps suggest some wording to us that is a non threatening way to say we are interested in flirting....

Just say hi like a normal person? "

A great female friend of mine had a guy say hi to her in the supermarket queue. Married 15 years and 2 kids now.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Ladies perhaps suggest some wording to us that is a non threatening way to say we are interested in flirting....

Just say hi like a normal person?

A great female friend of mine had a guy say hi to her in the supermarket queue. Married 15 years and 2 kids now."

Exactly, it's not a huge deal unless you make it one. Say hello to people, if they don't want to talk they will make it clear.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I don't want to be annoying. I'm not unkind to anyone who approaches me, but I do try to get rid of them as politely as possible.

Not the one you fancy though I hope as well?"

It's yet to happen, but yes, approaching me in public is a never win strategy.

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