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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you do when your best just isn't enough?

Do you dig deep and find more, do you walk away? Give up and admit defeat?

Have you been in that place? What did you do?

LMM x

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By *aven RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

It depends on the situation. I know when to admit defeat or when to try and push a bit more x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assume you're talking about a person / a relationship. I walked away, my friends all agree it was for the best. I actually regret it. But it's done now so...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, half way up a mountain I might not have much choice. Trying to set a relationship back on course, sometimes one needs to learn when it’s just not worth the effort any more.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

If you have belief in yourself you should take that belief and show it.

When others recognise it they will encourage you to push for what you know is what you deserve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how much i care about the outcome

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’d walk away.. a relationship should be meeting in the middle, not pushing someone to the edge x

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By *izzymonkeyMan
over a year ago

Hiding In A Bush

God loves a trier....just work work and work some more....apparently?!

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It entirely depends on what you're trying to do.

Carrying the weight of the world because you're expecting more of yourself than is humanly possible is not healthy.

Realising that you're human, you can only do your best and if that's not enough, accepting it, is important.

Dont beat yourself up for being human.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It entirely depends on what you're trying to do.

Carrying the weight of the world because you're expecting more of yourself than is humanly possible is not healthy.

Realising that you're human, you can only do your best and if that's not enough, accepting it, is important.

Dont beat yourself up for being human. "

Hey thanks for this. Just what I needed to hear today ( and most days). It’s my biggest struggle in life: I’m quite mean to myself. - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends what it is. I wrestle to be the best at all the things and I try too hard and I struggle to admit defeat or walk away.

When the burdens outweigh the benefits and it’s toxic and not serving you positively, it is time. It’s just hard to see that sometimes - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do when your best just isn't enough?

Do you dig deep and find more, do you walk away? Give up and admit defeat?

Have you been in that place? What did you do?

LMM x"

Don't think anyone else but you would know what to do. Only you know your situation and what needs to be done at any given point in time.

It's not simple and it definitely there are infinite variables to be taken into consideration.

Where I am from, the literal translation of the word relationship is givetake.

If you're only giving without anything being given in return that I would say that is toxic. That is the only advice I can give.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It entirely depends on what you're trying to do.

Carrying the weight of the world because you're expecting more of yourself than is humanly possible is not healthy.

Realising that you're human, you can only do your best and if that's not enough, accepting it, is important.

Dont beat yourself up for being human. "

you're like a little pocket Buddha, TM. Can you fit in my pocket please and speak up when I'm behaving like a spam brain?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’d walk away.. a relationship should be meeting in the middle, not pushing someone to the edge x"

Very true!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Depends how much i care about the outcome"

LOL, likewise, if I didn't care about the outcome tho, I'd definitely have walked away, flicking them several v signs on the way telling em to feck off

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

You've got to know when to hold 'em

Know when to fold 'em

Know when to walk away

And know when to run

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You've got to know when to hold 'em

Know when to fold 'em

Know when to walk away

And know when to run"

I love this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've got to know when to hold 'em

Know when to fold 'em

Know when to walk away

And know when to run"

Cant beat a bit of the Gambler

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"What do you do when your best just isn't enough?

Do you dig deep and find more, do you walk away? Give up and admit defeat?

Have you been in that place? What did you do?

LMM x"

I practice my dance techniques longer until they are better.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this recently and I gave it my all but my all was too much. It took a lot of tries to realise I wasnt enough and so painfully walked away. Feel better now though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you do when your best just isn't enough?

Do you dig deep and find more, do you walk away? Give up and admit defeat?

Have you been in that place? What did you do?

LMM x"
i will try and do better always kinda depends what it is but in a sporting context age tends to beat you lol

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"You've got to know when to hold 'em

Know when to fold 'em

Know when to walk away

And know when to run

Cant beat a bit of the Gambler "

I think it rings true for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In tough situations I normally get told by friends I need to make more time for myself, and above all be kind to myself.

Long story as to why I’ve been told that a lot this year, that I’ll save for when it’s dealt with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You've got to know when to hold 'em

Know when to fold 'em

Know when to walk away

And know when to run

Cant beat a bit of the Gambler "

I like this. It can do the mental state a whole lot of good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know the saying: she believed she could so she did it? Bullshit.

More like:

She believed she could... but she was tired. So she rested and decided to face it fresh tomorrow.

Or something along those lines.

You are enough. Just hard to keep that faith, when your efforts I guess hit the wall?

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