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People will be judgemental whatever you wear. Some will think it's not fashionable enough. Some won't like that shade of blue. Etc etc.
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People will be judgemental whatever you wear. Some will think it's not fashionable enough. Some won't like that shade of blue. Etc etc.
Give them something to judge and be happy. "Nature of a human being is to judge others whilst not assessing themselves first..if they did that then they would be happier and the world maybe a Lil more peaceful...so anyways next time I ll shadow my eyes like days of old..lol..punk style..that ll fk em up  | |||
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"Some days I wear deep cut tops and shirts with no bra to work. Fridays usually - dress down day, right? Surprising how many colleagues suddenly need to discuss something with me on those days. If not discuss then to borrow a paperclip or something "Haha haha. ..excuse it did make me laugh but yeah get your drift...bet there d be a lot of close vicinity pen dropping if they thought you were in stocking etc | |||
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"Happened to me when my mum dressed me up for the carnival float in something she had made out of tin foil & things from the bin & then stuck me on a dressed up coal lorry to be paraded round the town. It was most embarrassing & I got some strange looks from my friends, It put me off fancy dress for life." My sympathies bud...been there and it's not pleasant...when I was a child my father(using the term loosely) beat crap outta me and cos I cried he made me go to school dressed in my sisters clothes...destroyed my life from that moment til 2 year ago...hope you re over that hiccup now | |||
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"I'm very much I wear what I feel good in. Some may look at me and think a fat girl shouldn't wear that but I get a lot more compliments for my style than bad remarks" Sod em girl..live for you and ignore everyone else for theirs is naught but an opinion... | |||
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"I wear flowery shirts at work. I have 30 of them. One of my colleagues, in his suit, white shirt and tie always remarks "look at the state of you". The guy who owns the company said to me last week "I love your shirts, they really brighten my day". I replied to him that as my job is a client-facing role, I like to brighten everyone's day." Brilliant..bloody tie and neat shirt brigade..if you feel good and others enjoy then do it..my wardrobe is increasing..which is amazing as up until my breakthrough I lived out of a holdall and it was shite make do the shirts n jeans..now gf and I spend ages shopping together..love it..here's to flowery shirts my friend | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen? "When I was younger, I had pink hair. People would shout at me in the street. Downside. Upside I would get in clubs free and I thought people knew and remembered me. Till I went blonde, I had to start paying and no one knew me. I never got how superman was in disguise with a pair of glasses. But that actually does work.  | |||
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"Happened to me when my mum dressed me up for the carnival float in something she had made out of tin foil & things from the bin & then stuck me on a dressed up coal lorry to be paraded round the town. It was most embarrassing & I got some strange looks from my friends, It put me off fancy dress for life. My sympathies bud...been there and it's not pleasant...when I was a child my father(using the term loosely) beat crap outta me and cos I cried he made me go to school dressed in my sisters clothes...destroyed my life from that moment til 2 year ago...hope you re over that hiccup now "I was shocked when I read this. That`s a really awful thing to do to a child & For it to have affected you for so long. Glad your in a better place now & hope its only made you stronger. | |||
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"I wear flowery shirts at work. I have 30 of them. One of my colleagues, in his suit, white shirt and tie always remarks "look at the state of you". The guy who owns the company said to me last week "I love your shirts, they really brighten my day". I replied to him that as my job is a client-facing role, I like to brighten everyone's day." Love that! | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen?
When I was younger, I had pink hair. People would shout at me in the street. Downside. Upside I would get in clubs free and I thought people knew and remembered me. Till I went blonde, I had to start paying and no one knew me. I never got how superman was in disguise with a pair of glasses. But that actually does work. "Hahaha...love it..should a gone back pink to save club entry..less entry, more alcohol...superman was crap at disguise..now Mr Ben..he bleddy understood lol | |||
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"Happened to me when my mum dressed me up for the carnival float in something she had made out of tin foil & things from the bin & then stuck me on a dressed up coal lorry to be paraded round the town. It was most embarrassing & I got some strange looks from my friends, It put me off fancy dress for life. My sympathies bud...been there and it's not pleasant...when I was a child my father(using the term loosely) beat crap outta me and cos I cried he made me go to school dressed in my sisters clothes...destroyed my life from that moment til 2 year ago...hope you re over that hiccup now
I was shocked when I read this. That`s a really awful thing to do to a child & For it to have affected you for so long. Glad your in a better place now & hope its only made you stronger."Yep. I'm in a real good place ta and best part of it is I'm like a kid in a candy shop..learning about who the real me is...but it is complicated as that life created personality differences in me which on the whole I love but it can like today get a wee bit haywire | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen?
When I was younger, I had pink hair. People would shout at me in the street. Downside. Upside I would get in clubs free and I thought people knew and remembered me. Till I went blonde, I had to start paying and no one knew me. I never got how superman was in disguise with a pair of glasses. But that actually does work.
Hahaha...love it..should a gone back pink to save club entry..less entry, more alcohol...superman was crap at disguise..now Mr Ben..he bleddy understood lol "Omg had completely forgotten about mr Ben probably where my love of fancy dress come from. If I didn’t have to change it for work I would of kept it pink. Now I’m in the mood for unicorn hair. Can’t beat a new look, new you. Have fun with it and enjoy | |||
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"Well done you. I love people who aren’t scared to express their own identities. However the world has its fair share of fuckwits and sometimes it’s difficult to ignore their ignorance. Keep going on your journey of self discovery and I wish you well "Hey thanks very much..my world gets zanier by the day but love it..I just think fuck wits with ego and opinions should be put on a spacecraft and set off to discover the meaning of life..hopefully never to be seen again except on some barren desolate boring drab planet wondering why 42?.....hitchhikers guide lol | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen?
When I was younger, I had pink hair. People would shout at me in the street. Downside. Upside I would get in clubs free and I thought people knew and remembered me. Till I went blonde, I had to start paying and no one knew me. I never got how superman was in disguise with a pair of glasses. But that actually does work.
Hahaha...love it..should a gone back pink to save club entry..less entry, more alcohol...superman was crap at disguise..now Mr Ben..he bleddy understood lol
Omg had completely forgotten about mr Ben probably where my love of fancy dress come from. If I didn’t have to change it for work I would of kept it pink. Now I’m in the mood for unicorn hair. Can’t beat a new look, new you. Have fun with it and enjoy "WTF..you forgot about master of disguise..just shows how good he was..lol....go for it girl..pull out the horn and get colourful..stired this drab old world up...what happened to those days of punk etc..how has this country gone so plain...used to walk down street and see soo many different styles..so colourful | |||
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"Judgement and aggression to cover their irritations at you not confirming to what they think you should wear. It's quite funny how people can't see that imposing their own personal expectations on others is harmful and is actually their own issue. It's much the same thing with people's expectations of how a woman should dress and behave. Congratulations OP, do you your own way. It's a freeing thing! " So agree. .. | |||
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"I get all sorts of comments and stares sometimes, particularly if I bring out the petticoat and pearls. But also compliments. I live in a cosmopolitan city and my dress sense is rarely a problem, never a problem for me. " Nice one...admittedly I live in Cornwall which is pretty stuck in its old world | |||
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"I get all sorts of comments and stares sometimes, particularly if I bring out the petticoat and pearls. But also compliments. I live in a cosmopolitan city and my dress sense is rarely a problem, never a problem for me. Nice one...admittedly I live in Cornwall which is pretty stuck in its old world "Manchester is great like that. I'd definitely be more careful elsewhere. | |||
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"Wear whatever makes you comfortable and happy. My dress sense is very youthful, my wardrobe is full of dungaree dresses, all colours. And turtle neck sweaters. If I am not wearing those then it is leggins and chunky jumpers. Or A-line skirts with thick tights and boots and yup, turtle neck jumpers. Loving all the autumnal colours. Went to Primarni the other day and bought more turtle necks and dungaree dresses" Good for you..my gf is also finding new wardrobe..including burlesque...she loves her dungarees | |||
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"Well done you. I love people who aren’t scared to express their own identities. However the world has its fair share of fuckwits and sometimes it’s difficult to ignore their ignorance. Keep going on your journey of self discovery and I wish you well
Hey thanks very much..my world gets zanier by the day but love it..I just think fuck wits with ego and opinions should be put on a spacecraft and set off to discover the meaning of life..hopefully never to be seen again except on some barren desolate boring drab planet wondering why 42?.....hitchhikers guide lol "Douglas Adams, The creator of Hitchhikers had a keen interest in computer programming. In ascill language 42 is an * (anything you want it to be) | |||
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I dont understand everyone's obsession to look exactly the same as everyone else
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"Well done you. I love people who aren’t scared to express their own identities. However the world has its fair share of fuckwits and sometimes it’s difficult to ignore their ignorance. Keep going on your journey of self discovery and I wish you well
Hey thanks very much..my world gets zanier by the day but love it..I just think fuck wits with ego and opinions should be put on a spacecraft and set off to discover the meaning of life..hopefully never to be seen again except on some barren desolate boring drab planet wondering why 42?.....hitchhikers guide lol
Douglas Adams, The creator of Hitchhikers had a keen interest in computer programming. In ascill language 42 is an * (anything you want it to be)"I never knew that! * | |||
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"Good for you OP
I dont understand everyone's obsession to look exactly the same as everyone else
Boring
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"It hasn't happened to me I'm sorry that it happened to you OP ,small narrowed people just need to back off,be who you are ,stand tall and stick two fingers up to them " Haha..I live a fk it life now...I am who I am..no more living in shadows..plus it gives em something to talk about which means I impacted..quite often it's jealousy of people that would like to but can t find that strength lol | |||
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"Let them judge. Other peoples thoughts not yours! If you felt good then that's what matters your own happiness! Anyway you probably rocked" that look! Good on you!..x" Well gf loves it and that's all that matters..and adds impact to my dance lol | |||
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"I do burlesque 3 times a week. I walked out of class the other night without covering up my frillies and stockings. I was hot after two classes in a row. I walked out the venue 10 steps to my car and heard people outside smoking making comments and laughing at me. It was maybe 4 or 5 men/ women all younger than me. Previously, I would have never done it and if I did those people laughing would have reduced me to tears on my way home. The other night though, I laughed and felt quite empowered. Not because I was thinking I looked fabulous, (I know I probably didn't) but because I instead thought their response pathetic to the point it made me laugh . Amazing to me that, they felt such a need to react and sad they felt silly comments necessary, what was so lacking for them? " I doff my cap to ya..respect and love it..go girl...we love burlesque | |||
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"Well done for nit giving in and letting the scrote get you down. We get a lot of this sort of abuse, but it says more about those hurling the abuse than those of us on the receiving end of it. Hope you'll keep wearing whatever it is that works for you. After all, people take time to notice us when we're different, but the idiots are only noticed when they're being loud enough to show everyone else how stupid they are." Haha you are so right..time British streets brightened the hell up again...you can imagine response when I did rocky horror | |||
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"It either matters or it doesn't..... ....thats up to you, but my advice is don't let it! "Just written a piece of poetry called does it really matter..we are naught but criminal if we do not live as we are but who we are expected to be | |||
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x" Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc | |||
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc "It is not the clothes a person wears that make the them but who it is within | |||
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc
It is not the clothes a person wears that make the them but who it is within "When a person appears confident & looks totally different, Its a threat to those who don`t have the courage to be individual & so the only thing they can do to feel safe is put you down. Go out there & Wear what you like with pride. | |||
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc
It is not the clothes a person wears that make the them but who it is within "Exactly!! I had so many bruises the night I went out with my friends. We were meant to go to a rock night but ended up in a regular club. The girls banging into me and calling me names were dressed in the tiniest scraps of material, and calling me out for being covered, not even my cleavage was on show. I didn’t care how they were dressed, but the fact that they thought it acceptable to assault me was uncalled for. At the time I was a very much married lady and mum of one, studying for my English degree, just out for a relaxed night with friends. I wasn’t the “stupid slag” one of them called me. I was very much the opposite. The bouncers were oblivious or didn’t care- the women brought in the admirers and the money. Perhaps they genuinely hated the way I dressed, perhaps they wished they had the courage to go against the norm, who knows, but they make the silly mistake of equating clothing with personality and a threat. I dressed like an extrovert but was very much an introvert xx | |||
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"It's funny.like now..sat in car park..ear phones on..absorbed in my sounds..seat dancing, drumming and singing..that gets stares..I ve even been filmed...great when people wave or put thumbs up...but others look at my age and Wear a look of disapproval..sad half wits..music saved my ass "Well you seem like a fun guy to be around,music is the food of life ,and wow your pics your one fit guy | |||
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"It's funny.like now..sat in car park..ear phones on..absorbed in my sounds..seat dancing, drumming and singing..that gets stares..I ve even been filmed...great when people wave or put thumbs up...but others look at my age and Wear a look of disapproval..sad half wits..music saved my ass
Well you seem like a fun guy to be around,music is the food of life ,and wow your pics your one fit guy "If you aint got music in your soul you re screwed..ithe runs thru all cultures...I often trance dance..shut my eyes and I m gone...have been videos a lot at gigs as I have a mishaps mash of dance training so my dance is real different to your average guy..hi energy...yeah fun is all we truly have in life...it, like music can be enjoyed and found by all without expenditure... | |||
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc
It is not the clothes a person wears that make the them but who it is within
Exactly!! I had so many bruises the night I went out with my friends. We were meant to go to a rock night but ended up in a regular club. The girls banging into me and calling me names were dressed in the tiniest scraps of material, and calling me out for being covered, not even my cleavage was on show. I didn’t care how they were dressed, but the fact that they thought it acceptable to assault me was uncalled for.
At the time I was a very much married lady and mum of one, studying for my English degree, just out for a relaxed night with friends. I wasn’t the “stupid slag” one of them called me. I was very much the opposite. The bouncers were oblivious or didn’t care- the women brought in the admirers and the money.
Perhaps they genuinely hated the way I dressed, perhaps they wished they had the courage to go against the norm, who knows, but they make the silly mistake of equating clothing with personality and a threat. I dressed like an extrovert but was very much an introvert xx "That is often the case and often you ll find exterior extroverts are interior introverts..I spend time either with my gf or alone..my life now is very extrovert in sebe I do what pleases me not others but unless you have a similar mindset there is no point to conversation as I d would say litthe. ..I hope you still dress as you please to please you....my gf knOwston I ll never have a down opinion of how she acts or dresses as it is who she wants to be at that time and that is who I fell for..why change her? | |||
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc
It is not the clothes a person wears that make the them but who it is within
Exactly!! I had so many bruises the night I went out with my friends. We were meant to go to a rock night but ended up in a regular club. The girls banging into me and calling me names were dressed in the tiniest scraps of material, and calling me out for being covered, not even my cleavage was on show. I didn’t care how they were dressed, but the fact that they thought it acceptable to assault me was uncalled for.
At the time I was a very much married lady and mum of one, studying for my English degree, just out for a relaxed night with friends. I wasn’t the “stupid slag” one of them called me. I was very much the opposite. The bouncers were oblivious or didn’t care- the women brought in the admirers and the money.
Perhaps they genuinely hated the way I dressed, perhaps they wished they had the courage to go against the norm, who knows, but they make the silly mistake of equating clothing with personality and a threat. I dressed like an extrovert but was very much an introvert xx
That is often the case and often you ll find exterior extroverts are interior introverts..I spend time either with my gf or alone..my life now is very extrovert in sebe I do what pleases me not others but unless you have a similar mindset there is no point to conversation as I d would say litthe. ..I hope you still dress as you please to please you....my gf knOwston I ll never have a down opinion of how she acts or dresses as it is who she wants to be at that time and that is who I fell for..why change her? "I haven’t changed how I dress too much, although I do wear more high street things now as well- practicality as well as the fact I can still make them fit my style with my choice of footwear etc. Mr says that he loves the way I dress, it’s quirky, and he doesn’t want me to change. My ex husband fell for me as I was and then tried to change me. One of the reasons he became my ex, amongst other more serious things. But I digress, I was once asked by a lecturer why I dressed in black and big boots when I was a pretty young woman- I told her “people leave you alone if they think you’re weird” for the most part it worked, sometimes it didn’t, but it wasn’t just that. I didn’t know how to tell her that I liked how I dressed, I liked me, even if it did appear I hid behind my clothing, I wasn’t sullen or the cliché of a goth/metal head, i smiled and laughed a lot, I was was just me xx | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen? "Nah... I dress like a munter all the time... so nobody is shocked lol | |||
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx" Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare | |||
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx" Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare and often ridiculed | |||
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc
It is not the clothes a person wears that make the them but who it is within
Exactly!! I had so many bruises the night I went out with my friends. We were meant to go to a rock night but ended up in a regular club. The girls banging into me and calling me names were dressed in the tiniest scraps of material, and calling me out for being covered, not even my cleavage was on show. I didn’t care how they were dressed, but the fact that they thought it acceptable to assault me was uncalled for.
At the time I was a very much married lady and mum of one, studying for my English degree, just out for a relaxed night with friends. I wasn’t the “stupid slag” one of them called me. I was very much the opposite. The bouncers were oblivious or didn’t care- the women brought in the admirers and the money.
Perhaps they genuinely hated the way I dressed, perhaps they wished they had the courage to go against the norm, who knows, but they make the silly mistake of equating clothing with personality and a threat. I dressed like an extrovert but was very much an introvert xx
That is often the case and often you ll find exterior extroverts are interior introverts..I spend time either with my gf or alone..my life now is very extrovert in sebe I do what pleases me not others but unless you have a similar mindset there is no point to conversation as I d would say litthe. ..I hope you still dress as you please to please you....my gf knOwston I ll never have a down opinion of how she acts or dresses as it is who she wants to be at that time and that is who I fell for..why change her?
I haven’t changed how I dress too much, although I do wear more high street things now as well- practicality as well as the fact I can still make them fit my style with my choice of footwear etc. Mr says that he loves the way I dress, it’s quirky, and he doesn’t want me to change.
My ex husband fell for me as I was and then tried to change me. One of the reasons he became my ex, amongst other more serious things. But I digress, I was once asked by a lecturer why I dressed in black and big boots when I was a pretty young woman- I told her “people leave you alone if they think you’re weird” for the most part it worked, sometimes it didn’t, but it wasn’t just that. I didn’t know how to tell her that I liked how I dressed, I liked me, even if it did appear I hid behind my clothing, I wasn’t sullen or the cliché of a goth/metal head, i smiled and laughed a lot, I was was just me xx"Great and hope you stay that way ..mines not done to be punk etc it's because my darkened eyes do seem to attract attention which I now enjoy and my gf loves them eyeliner. .but also it helps my different sides stay at peace..sorta if that makes sense..does to me... | |||
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare and often ridiculed" Very much so..don t be a sheep lol..actually by being different in any way shows a far stronger and often more interesting person than most..not that I m suggesting that of myself | |||
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx" I agree..and yet it's just clothing..crazy eh... | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen? "you should be used to ' judgemental' by now lol but yes not for my dress sense although do wear skinny jeans but for being happy first thing in morning that quite often irritates people  | |||
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare and often ridiculed Very much so..don t be a sheep lol..actually by being different in any way shows a far stronger and often more interesting person than most..not that I m suggesting that of myself "Does it? So we should judge by dress then | |||
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare and often ridiculed Very much so..don t be a sheep lol..actually by being different in any way shows a far stronger and often more interesting person than most..not that I m suggesting that of myself
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"I'm generally a wear what the hell you want advocate. However if I walk into a gp surgery or consultants office I want them to look the part and be smartly dressed. If I'm meeting someone for a social I want them to have made an effort that might mean harem pants and blue hair but if they turn up having obviously not bothered I will judge and make no apology for it. People judge it's hard wired into us, there's a fair amount of judgement going the other way on here..." Agreed..if I appear to be judging how someone else dresses I m not and mean no offence..I like variety I just wish others would do same back..I was always smart or plain or in my line of work scuffed up. ..drab colours etc but now I wanna dress bright oranges..sexy red n black etc..some of it from those that know me are put off by how drastic my change..my gf put it best..before I was squaddie but it did not match the true character it was a front..now I'm me | |||
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"I’ve always dressed differently than most around me. I’ve always been stared at and had comments. I personally like people who are offbeat and quirky and if they’re just being themselves that genuinely shines through. That said most people just do the “normal” thing with a bit of personalisation and that’s enough individuality and it’s human nature to judge what’s different. People will say it’s brave of me to do or wear xyz and I always think it’s not at all brave to be different. It’s more natural to be who you are. I guess going with the flow is what people do for fitting into society’s standards. I just always have bucked that a bit . Mrs ( mr is also a bit fuck it and wears what he wants) "Loved this..comfy in your skin and your dress sense.. | |||
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare and often ridiculed Very much so..don t be a sheep lol..actually by being different in any way shows a far stronger and often more interesting person than most..not that I m suggesting that of myself
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen? you should be used to ' judgemental' by now lol but yes not for my dress sense although do wear skinny jeans but for being happy first thing in morning that quite often irritates people "Very used to it, I got a lot of it and lost friends when I had my meltdown but few knew or wanted to know what it's core was..and that's cool..such is life | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen?
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"Been called a slut by a man for dressing in pvc- covered head to toe but they didn’t like the material I guess. Been pushed and banged into in a club by women, as again I was dressed differently to the masses. Doesn’t bother me, it used to, now I think that if someone dressing differently is such a threat to them, then they really have some issues that need addressing x Viv x Totally right..I was a roadie for a while and one of the band girls used to wear leather and pic and people would react spent as much time bodyguard ingredients her as I did doing sound checks etc
It is not the clothes a person wears that make the them but who it is within
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare and often ridiculed Very much so..don t be a sheep lol..actually by being different in any way shows a far stronger and often more interesting person than most..not that I m suggesting that of myself
Does it? So we should judge by dress thenjudge judy does
Not not at all...I just mean I personally am drawn more to people who are different...they often have a story behind it..that's all "Positive judgement is still judging .
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"Should probably clarify that I don’t think showing skin in tiny outfits makes anyone anything, I do it all the time, my point was that it wasn’t the amount of skin I had on show that caused people to call me derogatory names and assault me, but the material I chose to wear. It’s much easier to attack someone in the minority when everyone else is dressed the same etc. It’s the pack mentality, and the fear of anyone “different” xx Very true. Nearly all of us have a tribe we belong to, some are smaller than others but true individuals who Grayson Perry are rare and often ridiculed Very much so..don t be a sheep lol..actually by being different in any way shows a far stronger and often more interesting person than most..not that I m suggesting that of myself
Does it? So we should judge by dress thenjudge judy does
Not not at all...I just mean I personally am drawn more to people who are different...they often have a story behind it..that's all
Positive judgement is still judging .
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"I was in America over the summer and one of the things that struck me there was how people just dressed as they were comfortable and nobody gave it a second glance. Free, easy and comfortable. It actually felt liberating. Then you get back home and invariable you notice fertive glances and hear whispers at others expense. It’s soul destroying for some people. Surely it’s more important to be happy and comfortable? " Totally agree..I ve travelled a lot and I do kinda find UK to be a little stuck in its perception of how we should look to conform | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen? "Very well said! The most important thing is that you're comfortable and happy in what you're wearing. I just wear what I like regardless of whether it's fashionable or whether I look a mess to others. Being.on here I've realised I feel pressured to wear super sexy, short, tight and low cut dresses to meet people but that isn't really me. I've been told to wear such and such to meet someone which does not go down well. People should be accepted as they are and not feel the need to change to please others. I bet you looked great! | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen?
Very well said! The most important thing is that you're comfortable and happy in what you're wearing. I just wear what I like regardless of whether it's fashionable or whether I look a mess to others.
Being.on here I've realised I feel pressured to wear super sexy, short, tight and low cut dresses to meet people but that isn't really me. I've been told to wear such and such to meet someone which does not go down well.
People should be accepted as they are and not feel the need to change to please others.
I bet you looked great! "Hey thanks..all that matters is I felt good and gf was over the moon...same applies to you..meet as you are not how someone else wants you to be..don t feel pressured..delete and move on | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? " its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time "I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. "if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song "No, I don't really. I suspect I'm in the "normal" category in that if you put me in the crowd at Glastonbury I'd be the odd one out but that seems to allow judgements to be made about me according to some replies. | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song
No, I don't really. I suspect I'm in the "normal" category in that if you put me in the crowd at Glastonbury I'd be the odd one out but that seems to allow judgements to be made about me according to some replies. "really i think you dress fine but then ive only seen you in the woods lol | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song
No, I don't really. I suspect I'm in the "normal" category in that if you put me in the crowd at Glastonbury I'd be the odd one out but that seems to allow judgements to be made about me according to some replies. really i think you dress fine but then ive only seen you in the woods lol "Well I don't go to Tesco like that  although I did go to Waitrose with just a corset, raincoat and heels on once. | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song "Too right...love that track..actually love the kinks..saw them few weeks back...and yeah you re darned one way or the other lol | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. "Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others | |||
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Saying that ive been loving alot of primark gear lately- Recently bought a pair of grey cheque trousers and a white long line tshirt threw it with some crisp trainers, the outfit was sub £25.. i got so many odd looks... but i felt good and thats all that matters
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song
No, I don't really. I suspect I'm in the "normal" category in that if you put me in the crowd at Glastonbury I'd be the odd one out but that seems to allow judgements to be made about me according to some replies. "Nah...the point of the thread was more about how people can react to clothes..something that should not warrant some of the abuse given...everyone has their own style or not...everyone should accept that no matter what | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song
No, I don't really. I suspect I'm in the "normal" category in that if you put me in the crowd at Glastonbury I'd be the odd one out but that seems to allow judgements to be made about me according to some replies. really i think you dress fine but then ive only seen you in the woods lol
Well I don't go to Tesco like that although I did go to Waitrose with just a corset, raincoat and heels on once. "Nice one..love it...heed others not..heed only what your own desire asks of you | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen? "To OP, best wishes on finding your true self. One little one of mine ( ok I’m kind of taking it a bit further than you) When you walk into a pub, and it turns into the scene from American Werewolf... and everyone stops and stares at you, ..... in silence...... you’d think they’d never seen a tranny in a black cocktail mini dress before...... now, 6 + months later, they all know me, there not scared of me, ( I hope) , and I’ve probably made them think a bit further than the football match on the other TV. | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others "yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me  | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song
No, I don't really. I suspect I'm in the "normal" category in that if you put me in the crowd at Glastonbury I'd be the odd one out but that seems to allow judgements to be made about me according to some replies.
Nah...the point of the thread was more about how people can react to clothes..something that should not warrant some of the abuse given...everyone has their own style or not...everyone should accept that no matter what"I know that's the point you're making. | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen?
To OP, best wishes on finding your true self.
One little one of mine ( ok I’m kind of taking it a bit further than you)
When you walk into a pub, and it turns into the scene from American Werewolf... and everyone stops and stares at you, ..... in silence...... you’d think they’d never seen a tranny in a black cocktail mini dress before...... now, 6 + months later, they all know me, there not scared of me, ( I hope) , and I’ve probably made them think a bit further than the football match on the other TV."I love this. | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. " Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
"That sounds normal. I'm imagining Mr N in lime green slacks, a yellow and orange striped polo shirt and a beige cowboy hat. You're in a purple jumpsuit with massive silver spots, a thick red belt and big shoulder pads. And yellow welly bobs. Nothing weird there. Maybe people are actually staring at the people behind you. | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
That sounds normal. I'm imagining Mr N in lime green slacks, a yellow and orange striped polo shirt and a beige cowboy hat. You're in a purple jumpsuit with massive silver spots, a thick red belt and big shoulder pads. And yellow welly bobs. Nothing weird there.
Maybe people are actually staring at the people behind you. "You've met us haven't you? Nobody could have guessed that accurately. Yeah they probably are staring at the people behind us or staring and thinking "what the hell!" | |||
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"OK so I had huge breakdown a Lil while back but it was actually a breakthrough as I discovered the real me and am still learning about the mes. ..yup plural me..long story..anyways other night I changed my dress style completely for my dancing..normally wear the usual boring jeans and shirt but I do a lot of deep slow stretches and splits so I got a pair of eastern style light . Baggy pants..hippy style..blued up my hair and off we went..the response was what I expected..majority looked me up and down with a look of wtf! But one was quite hostile...which made me laugh tbh..but he made some fkd up comments then over his pint he just stared shaking his head and swearing...again I just find it funny.. it's clothing ffs....why should people be so judgemental about another looks..it's crazy..any of you had this happen?
To OP, best wishes on finding your true self.
One little one of mine ( ok I’m kind of taking it a bit further than you)
When you walk into a pub, and it turns into the scene from American Werewolf... and everyone stops and stares at you, ..... in silence...... you’d think they’d never seen a tranny in a black cocktail mini dress before...... now, 6 + months later, they all know me, there not scared of me, ( I hope) , and I’ve probably made them think a bit further than the football match on the other TV."Which just goes to show..know the person not the clothes..good for you..don t expect it was easy but shows your strength and who you are...I love that...your life...live it | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others
yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me "Perfect...what more does one need | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart. if you dare to be different youre either a trail blazer or a freak dont you think, a dedicated follower of fashion in the words of the song
No, I don't really. I suspect I'm in the "normal" category in that if you put me in the crowd at Glastonbury I'd be the odd one out but that seems to allow judgements to be made about me according to some replies.
Nah...the point of the thread was more about how people can react to clothes..something that should not warrant some of the abuse given...everyone has their own style or not...everyone should accept that no matter what
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others
yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me
Perfect...what more does one need "nothing. I think the same way you do. I try not to judge in day to day life but I do admit to preferring a certain way of dressing if I'm dealing with someone on a professional level. A surgeon in a giraffe onesie would not fill me with confidence | |||
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"I have my own style. Yes, people go what the fuck, but it leads to conversations. I'm somewhere between distinguished gentleman and Michael Portillo. I get noticed. But people then actually respect me more for standing out. If I dress more subtle or coordinated, I get asked if everything is ok! Be yourself and I doff my cap at thee." Love it ..know what you mean..reckon some think oh oh..he says heading for trouble again..lost the plot...ha they wanna see me dance contemporary in ballet style...they did bloody well straight jacket me or at the very least lock away all sharp things...lolol | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others
yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me
Perfect...what more does one need
nothing. I think the same way you do.
I try not to judge in day to day life but I do admit to preferring a certain way of dressing if I'm dealing with someone on a professional level. A surgeon in a giraffe onesie would not fill me with confidence"Haha haha. ..point taken...though admittedly think I d just laugh | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
"Gf loves jump suits though think she calls them something else...yeah see your occassional outing...sweet...oddly I seem to have an eye for clothes..feel like Gok Wan sometimes shopping with gf cos I know the right cut for her and colours etc...where the hell that's come from I don t know lolol. ..seems to be built into the female me | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
Gf loves jump suits though think she calls them something else...yeah see your occassional outing...sweet...oddly I seem to have an eye for clothes..feel like Gok Wan sometimes shopping with gf cos I know the right cut for her and colours etc...where the hell that's come from I don t know lolol. ..seems to be built into the female me "Mr N has a good eye for what suits me. He buys me a lot of clothes that I wouldn't have considered and I look at him like  but when I put them on I (usually) have to admit that he's got it right.
I expect your girlfriend does call jumpsuits something else I'm at the stage in life where I call everything by an outdated name | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
Gf loves jump suits though think she calls them something else...yeah see your occassional outing...sweet...oddly I seem to have an eye for clothes..feel like Gok Wan sometimes shopping with gf cos I know the right cut for her and colours etc...where the hell that's come from I don t know lolol. ..seems to be built into the female me
Mr N has a good eye for what suits me. He buys me a lot of clothes that I wouldn't have considered and I look at him like but when I put them on I (usually) have to admit that he's got it right.
I expect your girlfriend does call jumpsuits something else I'm at the stage in life where I call everything by an outdated name "Reckon I know that look. .a while back I picked out a black shortish dress with longer tail..bit funky goth...can t wear black..she says..some fashion professional told her it would drain her..bullocks says I , try it now..OK over embellished with the Arnold schwartzenneager now bit..she tried it and looked drop dead gorgeous...worked for us both...in many ways | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
Gf loves jump suits though think she calls them something else...yeah see your occassional outing...sweet...oddly I seem to have an eye for clothes..feel like Gok Wan sometimes shopping with gf cos I know the right cut for her and colours etc...where the hell that's come from I don t know lolol. ..seems to be built into the female me
Mr N has a good eye for what suits me. He buys me a lot of clothes that I wouldn't have considered and I look at him like but when I put them on I (usually) have to admit that he's got it right.
I expect your girlfriend does call jumpsuits something else I'm at the stage in life where I call everything by an outdated name
Reckon I know that look. .a while back I picked out a black shortish dress with longer tail..bit funky goth...can t wear black..she says..some fashion professional told her it would drain her..bullocks says I , try it now..OK over embellished with the Arnold schwartzenneager now bit..she tried it and looked drop dead gorgeous...worked for us both...in many ways "I hear ya! I have a couple of things like that  | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? What kind of things do you wear? As a couple. Just ordinary stuff, a dress, a jumpsuit, trousers and top that sort of thing. Mr wears shorts or trousers with a polo shirt of shirt. Jacket or coat in winter. We do choose clothes that have something individual about them or style them up a bit and tend to go for colour rather than black. We don't go out in skin tight latex or leather corsets . Well not all the time
Gf loves jump suits though think she calls them something else...yeah see your occassional outing...sweet...oddly I seem to have an eye for clothes..feel like Gok Wan sometimes shopping with gf cos I know the right cut for her and colours etc...where the hell that's come from I don t know lolol. ..seems to be built into the female me
Mr N has a good eye for what suits me. He buys me a lot of clothes that I wouldn't have considered and I look at him like but when I put them on I (usually) have to admit that he's got it right.
I expect your girlfriend does call jumpsuits something else I'm at the stage in life where I call everything by an outdated name
Reckon I know that look. .a while back I picked out a black shortish dress with longer tail..bit funky goth...can t wear black..she says..some fashion professional told her it would drain her..bullocks says I , try it now..OK over embellished with the Arnold schwartzenneager now bit..she tried it and looked drop dead gorgeous...worked for us both...in many ways
I hear ya! I have a couple of things like that "Hmm mm reckon you do | |||
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"OK this might be a flunk..say I ve hired a nightclub..my party..dress as ya please and bring your music style request..anyone caught ridiculing gets the boot out..anything goes..what's your pick. I'm gonna look at wearing just purple on toenails..my hippy trousers for stretching and a bright yellow and orange psychedelic waistcoat..purple hair..eyes lined maybe dark lipstick to add to it..or I maybe totally out there and go the whole rocky horror style..gf hates that I walk in heels better than she..but it's because it's all about balance of which I have heaps and how you distribute your body weight.....lololol "Oh yeah as host I would have every kinda music available til requests came in..funk it up | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others
yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me
Perfect...what more does one need
nothing. I think the same way you do.
I try not to judge in day to day life but I do admit to preferring a certain way of dressing if I'm dealing with someone on a professional level. A surgeon in a giraffe onesie would not fill me with confidence"
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others
yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me
Perfect...what more does one need
nothing. I think the same way you do.
I try not to judge in day to day life but I do admit to preferring a certain way of dressing if I'm dealing with someone on a professional level. A surgeon in a giraffe onesie would not fill me with confidence
If he was a child's surgeon I'd think he was awesome though."Definitely. .puts em at ease instead of frightening sweet bejesus outta them | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others
yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me
Perfect...what more does one need
nothing. I think the same way you do.
I try not to judge in day to day life but I do admit to preferring a certain way of dressing if I'm dealing with someone on a professional level. A surgeon in a giraffe onesie would not fill me with confidence
If he was a child's surgeon I'd think he was awesome though."yep. I suppose what I've been trying to say throughout this thread is dress appropriately when its necessary and don't judge harshly whether people are dressing to conform or dressing to be different. | |||
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"I get stared at when I'm out, we both do. A friend told me I'm very daring with my clothes whatever that means. I don't dress differently I don't think but I do dress well (in my opinion) a lot of people would say I conform to certain expectations I suppose. Why is that wrong? its not but you cant please all of the people all of the time
I don't think it's wrong either but the gist of most of the replies seem to imply that it is. The op apart.
Hey whether it's jeans n t shirt, collared shirt..or out there alternative..if you re happy then it's right..you re dressing for you not others
yes I do and I genuinely don't care what anybody else thinks of my clothes. I know I look great but I also know not everyone agrees with me
Perfect...what more does one need
nothing. I think the same way you do.
I try not to judge in day to day life but I do admit to preferring a certain way of dressing if I'm dealing with someone on a professional level. A surgeon in a giraffe onesie would not fill me with confidence
If he was a child's surgeon I'd think he was awesome though.
yep. I suppose what I've been trying to say throughout this thread is dress appropriately when its necessary and don't judge harshly whether people are dressing to conform or dressing to be different.
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"I dress casually almost all the time Good for you..that's your style I guess it is. It reflects my laid back personality although unconsciously I think. With hindsight. "Haha as a laid back person would be about clothes | |||
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