FabSwingers.com forum: Whose job is it anyway?

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Ladies, do you have a man who sees it as woman's work to do the housework, cooking etc? If so is that ok with you?

Guys, do you expect a woman to take care of the house, cook and clean and meet your needs.

Or do you muck in and work together.

Whose role is it anyway?

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

If I had a partner, share.

So if she happy to do garden (if I had a garden) then I am happy to cook.

Housework, share.

So find what each person is good at/prefers do that, share the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There area lot of single men on here and the ones I have visited have kept their homes really nice on their own so not an issue for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B helps if he's here and I'm at work, either than that it all comes down to me as I'm the only one here. That's why it's in need of work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The kitchen is mine. Any cooking and it's down to me, as is the cleaning of the kitchen. I also clean the bathroom. I can help with ironing but very slow. Everything else we can share x

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

I think that in a relationship then work together.

I had seen something on TV and thought wow people can't really still think that it's womans work. After all on the whole I'd say most couples both work a job so fair is fair

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By *nderIwonder.Man
over a year ago

2nd City

I think women are better at washing up

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

We share... lighten the load for the other.. teamwork..

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I think women are better at washing up "

Maybe you just need more practice

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By *nderIwonder.Man
over a year ago

2nd City

"I think women are better at washing up

Maybe you just need more practice "

I'm terrible I get water everywhere

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I think women are better at washing up

Maybe you just need more practice

I'm terrible I get water everywhere"

lol...wipe it up after. you .may as well mop the floor as well in that case

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By *ing CobraaMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

Honestly I love cooking

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Honestly I love cooking"

I love eating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe sharing is caring. If a job is done with more hands then it gets done quicker.

Jokes asides, there is no such thing as a man’s job or a woman’s job according to me. Almost all tasks these days can be done and performed by either sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50/50 down the middle. If I was single I wouldn’t live like a pig. Always keep my house clean and tidy

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I enjoy cooking, so it was a pleasure to prepare a lovely meal for ex g/f's. I know how to operate a vacuum cleaner, clean the windows, change the bedding and wash clothes etc.

I don't do the dusting however. I've lived in this flat for 6 years now and still have half a can of Barry left from when I first moved in

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Honestly I love cooking

I love eating

I have cake!

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By *ing CobraaMan
over a year ago

Kings Lynn

"Honestly I love cooking

I love eating

A match made in heaven

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Honestly I love cooking

I love eating

I have cake!

so you do and custard...you haven't eaten all the custard have you?

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

"Honestly I love cooking

I love eating

I have cake!

so you do and custard...you haven't eaten all the custard have you?"

Still un-opened.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Honestly I love cooking

I love eating

A match made in heaven

Feed me and I'll eat it

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Honestly I love cooking

I love eating

I have cake!

so you do and custard...you haven't eaten all the custard have you?

Still un-opened.

Good to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to cook and bake and there's a reason dishwashers were invented... Ideally, work it out between you x

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Honestly I love cooking

I love eating

A match made in heaven

nicely done

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I think women are better at washing up "

Hahaha, I had to do them again after one of my ex g/f's had "apparently" done them, so I barred her from the kitchen permanently sometime later

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I remember my parents sharing cooking and housework when I lived at home. They worked as a team.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

A man who can take of himself is attractive. I certainly don't want to be my lovers mom

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Almost all tasks these days can be done and performed by either sex."

Try telling that to yer Missus when it's her turn to take the bins out on a freezing cold Monday morning

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By *Man1263Man
over a year ago

Stockport

My mum made sure I could do everything from ironing, cooking, light sewing, things like before I joined the Army.

I wonder if that is a "lost art" your mum teaching you to live for yourself?

When I did agency, did some work inside Uni's and if your willing to pay, they will really look after you and all you need to do is turn up for the odd class.

(Think sort your room out, wash everything, pay bills, I think the only thing they didnt do was cook)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

we have a pretty equal distribution of labour round here. We tend to play to our skills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A man who can take of himself is attractive. I certainly don't want to be my lovers mom"

I agree!

I've never had this issue in my relationships.

Chores have always been shared - and to be honest I'm happy to look after my partner - just as long as it's not expected.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"A man who can take of himself is attractive. I certainly don't want to be my lovers mom

I agree!

I've never had this issue in my relationships.

Chores have always been shared - and to be honest I'm happy to look after my partner - just as long as it's not expected."

Me too...I'm very happy for us to take care of each other (if I had one that is)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are certain jobs/ chores I do. There are certain jobs/ chores he does. Then there are things we both do. Luckily it works for us.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My live in partner does most of the cooking, the dishes, the bins and the cat litter tray. I basically do the the rest. He is also very messy. He tries to chip in with the cleaning but isn't very good at it

. It's the thought that counts eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex thought if he washed a few pots he had done 99% of the housework!!

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By *inn_the_humanMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I love to cook, and make the majority of meals in our house.

I think I probably do slightly more of the housework too but we work quite well together - I've got things I don't mind doing, and I do them. She has things she doesn't mind doing, and she does them. Between us, pretty much everything gets done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do whats needed i love to iron tho

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

Back in the late 70's, a work colleague had an unfortunate attitude towards women, that was, women should be kept in the Kitchen and pregnant all the time!

He wondered why he couldn't attract any girl???

Then a newly arrived female colleague started going out with him; we thought it wouldn't last!!

Thirty five years on, they're still together, he's changed his attitude, simply because she said if he didn't, she do very painful things to his nuts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am a single dad of a 4 year old so I do the cooking cleaning and live with just us two. Kinda frowned upon in old fashion Asian culture cos the expectation is that the women stays at home cooks cleanes look after the children etc while the man only goes to work and everything is done for him. So its kinda disliked where I play the role of the dad and mum where I cook etc and work combining both

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

The hired help.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Am a single dad of a 4 year old so I do the cooking cleaning and live with just us two. Kinda frowned upon in old fashion Asian culture cos the expectation is that the women stays at home cooks cleanes look after the children etc while the man only goes to work and everything is done for him. So its kinda disliked where I play the role of the dad and mum where I cook etc and work combining both"

Hats off to you. Being a single parent is difficult enough without added complications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hats off to you. Being a single parent is difficult enough without added complications."

It's not as hard as it seems. He is my son and he is my responsibility so all I can do is try raise him the best I can do. What makes it tough is the asian culture is where aunties or uncles tell me to get married for the sake of having a women at home who will act as a maid. So I kinda stopped going to these social gatherings so i can avoid those weird looks and whispers

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

Hats off to you. Being a single parent is difficult enough without added complications.

Yes..that is what I meant by added complications. And yes, he is your responsibility I totally get that.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Ladies, do you have a man who sees it as woman's work to do the housework, cooking etc? If so is that ok with you?

Guys, do you expect a woman to take care of the house, cook and clean and meet your needs.

I did.

I divorced him

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Share and explore preferences without any one individual being burdened by load or pressure to do any specific jobs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby does most of the cooking. I do the ironing and clean the bathroom. I do most of the laundry.

We share the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies, do you have a man who sees it as woman's work to do the housework, cooking etc? If so is that ok with you?

Guys, do you expect a woman to take care of the house, cook and clean and meet your needs.

Or do you muck in and work together.

Whose role is it anyway?

Hell no! All effort in a relationship, especially when you are at the point of discussing housework, should be 50/50. It's difficult to put a clear line sometimes if only one fo the partner os working especially, but, breaking tha monotony of the person you love and are with... just bloody do it! That's me at least!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Almost all tasks these days can be done and performed by either sex.

Try telling that to yer Missus when it's her turn to take the bins out on a freezing cold Monday morning

Are you crazy? And got a broken nose? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ladies, do you have a man who sees it as woman's work to do the housework, cooking etc? If so is that ok with you?

Guys, do you expect a woman to take care of the house, cook and clean and meet your needs.

Or do you muck in and work together.

Whose role is it anyway?

When I will have partner, I will share everything 50-50, even expenses if she is working no free lunches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both work full time and both share all the household duties, i do have family members who don’t lift a finger and have their partner do all the work round the house, i find that very 1950s these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any job that needs patience and attention to detail is mine. The rest is whoever (husband or I) gets to it first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A chap does the garden lawns etc , a local lady comes Thursdays to clean the house ready for the weekend, a mobile valeting service comes on Saturday morning to valet the vehicles . We share cooking Monday- Friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We re on equal footing..my gf does what she wants to do..don't want a domestic woman, prefer her to be independent. ..I m used to looking after myself so if I want something..dinner, ironed, sewing etc I do it myself..we are all equal and have no right to expect of others even when married etc

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