FabSwingers.com forum: What is holding you back from being the person you want to be?

By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

confidence and self-esteem the usual suspects im afraid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My boss

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South Ipswich

What other people will think of you of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing, I'm happy enough as I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inner voice that tells me not good. It's damned loud

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley

A certain illness that takes over sometimes

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

To be honest there is nothing holding a person back from being who they want to be ... just the state of mind .. anyone can achieve anything with the right attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always think my life would be better if I was slim !

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Weird.. just had this exact conversation with someone!

I’m completely happy with who I am. But I’m fearful of things outside my control.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't take this the wrong way but my parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing

. - Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting everyone else before myself.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"confidence and self-esteem the usual suspects im afraid.

that’s me. Was good at one point. Then hit a downward spiral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Responsibilities!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 6 pints.

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By *urvyandCurious999Woman
over a year ago

Hiding from twats

Time, money, mental health, responsibilities...

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By *ylvie 888Woman
over a year ago

Cleethorpes

"I always think my life would be better if I was slim !"

You look lovely on your pics.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am my best person and love life regardless of money, dicky health etc every day is a good day to be alive and isn't guaranteed to everyone

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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Trust

I feel the same somtimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"confidence and self-esteem the usual suspects im afraid.

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nothing i am him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money

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By *easidegirlWoman
over a year ago

south shore

All the insecurities stemming from 20 years in an abusive marriage..two years out and damm, the criticism and belittling still affects me and my ability to make decisions or try something new without being so worried I will fail.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Putting others before myself

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"confidence and self-esteem the usual suspects im afraid.

Yep

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By *ookingformilfsMan
over a year ago

Derby

Confidence, self esteem, anxiety and self consciousness are holding me back from where I would like to be in life.

Over the past few years I have trying my best to become a better person and feel like I have come along way compared to how I used to be. I feel like the next step is changing my current position and where I am in life.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'd say state of mind is the biggest factor in this.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

"I'd say state of mind is the biggest factor in this."

I said that above

I was being serious for once

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I'd say state of mind is the biggest factor in this.

I said that above

I was being serious for once"

I did see that monkey and I totally agree

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

About 40 years

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

There is one thing, a big thing to me that I won’t discuss but it’s a barrier and it’s self imposed. One day maybe I will be able to find a way. Who knows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right now, my job. Every time I make a little progress my horrible manager does or says something to make me feel like shit and bring me back down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"All the insecurities stemming from 20 years in an abusive marriage..two years out and damm, the criticism and belittling still affects me and my ability to make decisions or try something new without being so worried I will fail."

This is so like me, 4 years out and it’s still a battle every day x

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

In the main, laziness, but I'm OK with it. I don't feel a strong desire to be better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always think my life would be better if I was slim !

You look lovely on your pics. "

You’re too kind x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

my mental health

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could do with losing a couple more stone, 6 down 2 to go. Then I will be more confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone fails sometimes. Getting out after so many years proves you are strong.

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By *xMFM3sumsxxWoman
over a year ago

SouthWest Lancashire

Being physically disabled.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm fine, work in progress, there's no end point

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

It's easy to be who I want to be

Less easy to be where I want to be..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anger management, suffered with a bad temper since I was a kid.

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Asperger's

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

"Asperger's "

Part of me thinks ditto and part of me thinks that helps me bypass a load of bullshit.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

The fear others will judge me. I know much of this is in my head but it’s still there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her boyfriend lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work in progress but getting more comfortable and confident with myself every day.

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By *hatMinxOverThereWoman
over a year ago

42 Wallaby Way

Confidence and mental health.

But I've made huge strides by leaving my marriage and starting over again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way I look, I use to be slim and toned and now I'm not which brings me down and then suffering from depression has bought my self esteem down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way I look, I use to be slim and toned and now I'm not which brings me down and then suffering from depression has bought my self esteem down "
you look slim and toned to me. I used to be your size in the pictured and now put on 4 stone. Trust me mate, you have nowt to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The way I look, I use to be slim and toned and now I'm not which brings me down and then suffering from depression has bought my self esteem down you look slim and toned to me. I used to be your size in the pictured and now put on 4 stone. Trust me mate, you have nowt to worry about"
I just miss clothes looking good on me

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

If i was skinnier my health was better and i didnt always feel.so low maybe i could be the person i know is inside hiding x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

money

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If i was skinnier my health was better and i didnt always feel.so low maybe i could be the person i know is inside hiding x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self esteem.

Maybe not the place to be admitting that. Target ??

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Aspergers and hairline issues.

But I cannot do anything about it so I just have to be who I currently am. And that’s not bad to be honest so I have learnt to be ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Self belief, fear of failure, finances.

Daft as it may sound I'd worry about the staff I left behind if I left my job. I'm a mother figure, best friend, agony aunt to most. I'm a mentor and I don't even realise it half the time. Without me there picking up the pieces and supporting and believing in them I know it would be a far less pleasant place for them to work. When the time is right I'll move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Money and a sence of doing the right thing not the following my heart thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wrong lottery numbers

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I did 22 years. I’d say it took me about 4 years to lose his voice in my head.

Things will get better

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

To answer the OP, only myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer the OP, only myself

Drinking teas from my hello kitty mug just doesn’t seem as good anymore. Where do we purchase _inky-minx mugs?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Right now, my job. Every time I make a little progress my horrible manager does or says something to make me feel like shit and bring me back down."

sounds like a nice man not #pig

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Too many emotional scars, which until recently I thought I'd dealt with.

A few events have reopened old wounds & taken me back to somewhere I didn't want to go.

But as a good friend reminded me earlier.

I climbed out of that hole once before.

I can, and will do it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy where I am now

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Too many emotional scars, which until recently I thought I'd dealt with.

A few events have reopened old wounds & taken me back to somewhere I didn't want to go.

But as a good friend reminded me earlier.

I climbed out of that hole once before.

I can, and will do it again.

You shall

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"To answer the OP, only myself

Drinking teas from my hello kitty mug just doesn’t seem as good anymore. Where do we purchase _inky-minx mugs?"

They cannot be purchased, they must be earned

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By *aysolCouple
over a year ago

Swansea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To answer the OP, only myself

Drinking teas from my hello kitty mug just doesn’t seem as good anymore. Where do we purchase _inky-minx mugs?

They cannot be purchased, they must be earned

When do I report for work?

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

submissive land

The wife lol

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

Other people in the real worlds social conditioning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 3stones and my lack of disposable income.

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