FabSwingers.com forum: A bit of a personal question about depression

By *ll make you laugh OP Man
over a year ago

uttoxeter

Hi guys & sorry to post this on here, but I thought I’d ask for a bit of advice (really sorry if this upsets anyone).

I’ve been dealing with a lot of stress & depression for many years (dealing with it on my own), I’ve never been to the doctors with it, but regularly have a bit of a melt down (whenever I’m on my own), I’ve had the dreaded thoughts but have always pulled myself out of it. I was really wondering if I was the only one that deals with this on their own & does meditation really help?

I’m a 42 year old male and the stigma is still there, where I can’t talk to anyone.

Really sorry to post this here & id be grateful for any advice. Much love & thanks everyone xx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

There is no need to apologise for posting about your depression.

You recognise that you have depression and melt-downs so you now need to get over your own stigma and go and get some help.

Do you have an Employee Assistance Scheme at work? That will be anonymous and you can get 6 weeks' support, including CBT or a counsellor to speak to.

You should go to your GP too but I appreciate you have not done this so far. Build up to it. S/he will have heard it all before.

I hope today is good day for you.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I understand exactly where you're coming from. I think there are a lot of things to cover in your post but firstly; well done for speaking up, that takes real strength to do that. You're really not on your own in this, the insidious nature of depression means that you feel worthless and that no one cares or is there to help, that simply isn't true.

Firstly, please get help, speak to your doctor. They will refer you to the relevant professionals that can help you, they may be able to offer medication (if you want it).

Secondly; talk, just as you have done here. It's really helps to get your thoughts out, let friends and loved ones know how you're feeling, they can support you.

Remember that you don't have to do this alone. Lots of people on fab deal with this, it's an illness, with treatment it can be better.

If you want to talk, please PM me

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By *osie xWoman
over a year ago

wolverhampton

The medication really does help so you should see the doctor and get the help you need to cope with it.

As for stigma, there can still a bit of one but people are realising this is a genuine illness and it's not as bad as it used to be. I tend to see it as 'i'm dealing with my illness, you'll always be an idiot' when i come across it.

You have done the hardest bit by realising it, stay strong but see the doc, it gets easier

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Medication helps OP, but so are some of the other suggestions the Dr will give. Coping techniques etc. How to recognise the dark cloud approaching and how to keep it at distance.

There is nothing wrong with reaching out and asking for help x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fair play for posting here.

I’ve been in a similar situation... self destructive behaviour etc nearly lost my job and a lot of friends because of it.

Best thing I done was to got to my gp and get medication and counselling.

Counselling was something. I always thought was hippy dippy airy fairy rubbish...... I was so wrong it probably changed/saved my life.

And yeah I’m on medication too... oh well... it’s not the end of the world if it keeps me ‘sane’ /stable.

Give your dr a phone in morning mate, you’ll only regret it if you don’t

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By *hekaiserMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have had my ups and downs........I do find getting out and about helps....you dont have go running, just go for a walk.

I myself hit the gym, or go for a run....just do anything you can to get out the house or the usual routine currently have.

As others have said, go speak to your GP...nothing to be ashamed about.

If you dont have family or friends...speak with the samaritans, I am sure it's a free phone number and they are there 24/7.

Keep your chin up...you are not alone in this dude.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I was in a similar position to you. Until I used a sledgehammer on my neighbour’s front door and got a caution for criminal damage. This made me realise I seriously needed help.

I went to see my gp. I tried antidepressants, but I didn’t like the way they made me feel. It was like being wrapped in mental cotton wool.

Fortunately I also got counselling and I was fortunate that she was excellent. Although the first few sessions seemed pretty pointless.

It’s been a long road back to recovery but now I’m definitely in a much better head space.

Asking for help is not a weakness. Everyone needs help at times

Good luck with your journey!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I have had my ups and downs........I do find getting out and about helps....you dont have go running, just go for a walk.

I myself hit the gym, or go for a run....just do anything you can to get out the house or the usual routine currently have.

As others have said, go speak to your GP...nothing to be ashamed about.

If you dont have family or friends...speak with the samaritans, I am sure it's a free phone number and they are there 24/7.

Keep your chin up...you are not alone in this dude."

The Samaritans also have a text service if you feel you can't speak to them yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys & sorry to post this on here, but I thought I’d ask for a bit of advice (really sorry if this upsets anyone).

I’m a 42 year old male and the stigma is still there, where I can’t talk to anyone.

Really sorry to post this here & id be grateful for any advice. Much love & thanks everyone xx"

Such a brave post - there is unfortunately still a stigma with mental health.

I agree with the other posters, go and speak to your GP. I've been on medication for years, it isn't a miracle cure but it definitely stables things in order to work on recovery. Talking therapy is also brilliant - I'm not a fan of CBT personally but know loads of people who really rate it. I have a therapist now who really gets me and has changed my life and outlook. I still get down, but it is manageable now.

Also look after yourself, do the things you enjoy and eat well. Try not to isolate yourself and spend time with people who make you feel good. I love the Headspace app too, 10 mins a day getting your thoughts in order.

One word of warning (from someone who has learnt her lesson) Fab can seem like it is helping but can give an unhealthy way to 'release' and then can come a bit addictive. Everything in moderation!

Feel free to inbox if you need a chat x

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Get medication feel better and be a sex god.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise is also great... I found running ... well jogging made me feel great afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not much I can add that’s not already been said, I’m on meds and not ashamed to tell anyone, they keep me in an even keel ! Make the docs appointment and take it from there xxx

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By *yn drwgMan
over a year ago

Camarthen

Never feel that you shouldn't ask for help, I've lost someone close to depression and it destroys families when even talking with anyone can make a difference. Keep talking about it to anyone

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Hi OP

You are not alone.

Have a look on the MIND website for lots of easy to read info on various mental health issues, and the different treatments available.

Different things work for different people, it's about finding what is right for you.

Also the CALM website is aimed more towards men and depression, some useful info on there.

Samaritans are great if you need to vent to a nonjudgemental ear.

Your docs may be helpful (some more-so than others)

Meds work for some people, sometimes it can be trial and error as they take time to kick in, and again different meds work for different people.

I found councelling helpful. Maybe you can access that via your doc or via your workplace Employee Assistance scheme if they have one.

Exercise and mediation are definitely mood improvers for me.

If you are desperately down then do contact the crisis team at your local hospital.

Hug of support to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys & sorry to post this on here, but I thought I’d ask for a bit of advice (really sorry if this upsets anyone).

I’m a 42 year old male and the stigma is still there, where I can’t talk to anyone.

Really sorry to post this here & id be grateful for any advice. Much love & thanks everyone xx"

No you’re not the only one and yes, it’s good to chat. I’m a good listener, pm me if you’d like to.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, different solutions work for different people. Don't despair if the first thing you try doesn't work.

Nothing is instant. It took time to get you to this point and it will take time to get back to feeling well. Investing in you is an investment for life.

It's hard work when it feels impossible to do hard work but it is worth it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to apologise the truth is more men should speak out about depression and it’s good you have!!

It’s already been said on here I know but I’ve done a lot of work with the CALM charity and you should check there website out!

And I know you don’t know me but I’m always here for a chat with anyone that’s struggling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done for posting here

I have depression, anxiety and stress. I had 6 months off work when it got to much, i also started taking medication which helps me. Work provided counselling which was fantastic and helped hugely. I also had NHS counselling too but it took ages to get it and it wasnt anywhere near as good as the counselling work provided. Im struggling again at the moment and i use the methods from the private counselling but never the NHS.

Talking to family helped and they are very supportive. Friends too although i dont have many close friends (my choice). Some at work were great, others, including 2 management staff, were crap, and still are now.

I didnt find exercise/walking/mindfullness helped at all.

I found that retreating to my "safe" place (bed) helped when things were really difficult.

Id suggest you see your GP and possibly get help via them and maybe at work too. If possible talk to family/friends.

Feel free to message me if you want, i will send you a message first because of my filters, reply if you want x

Good luck x

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By *rtistladyWoman
over a year ago

truro

I was diagnosed with clinical depression 24 years ago ...the best thing you can do my lovely is seek the GP advice ...one little tablet a day keeps the ‘black dog’ from appearing..with me it’s a chemical imbalance..my brain does not produce the ‘feel good’ chemical ..seratonine ...everyone with a mental illness is different and manifests itself in different ways ..you’ll not regret talking to professionals ..and they do listen..hope you get the help you need darling ..you’re not alone xx

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By *ll make you laugh OP Man
over a year ago

uttoxeter

I can’t thank you all enough for replying, I don’t feel strong, I’m actually sobbing like a baby.. lol,, thank you all so much xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t thank you all enough for replying, I don’t feel strong, I’m actually sobbing like a baby.. lol,, thank you all so much xxxx"

No shame in that, have to give yourself space think and feel. It helps to talk even though you probably don't want to. Meds can help but with other help too. Admitting how you feel is good place to start, next get yourself to gp xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t thank you all enough for replying, I don’t feel strong, I’m actually sobbing like a baby.. lol,, thank you all so much xxxx"

Much love. And feel proud for reaching out. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No stigma mate. Depression is two steps beyond sadness.

Medication can help enormously. But go to bed early, rise early. Cry when you need to.

Get as much fresh air and daylight as possible.

Thus may help you to recover.

Try the arts, music etc...much was born out of depressed minds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t thank you all enough for replying, I don’t feel strong, I’m actually sobbing like a baby.. lol,, thank you all so much xxxx"

the hardest part was admitting it.

I wish you luck on your journey x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also... don't overcomplicate or analyse. Simplicity makes the wheels of joy get rolling quicker. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can’t thank you all enough for replying, I don’t feel strong, I’m actually sobbing like a baby.. lol,, thank you all so much xxxx"

Well done for speaking out, it's such a hard thing to do. I've had depression for 8 years or so now and only just told my work this year.

There's a lot of good advice here so I can't really add anything else that hasn't been said already. Taking the first step and talking about it is always the hardest though.

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Kudos to you OP for reaching out, remind yourself that you’re most definitely not alone.

Life can be a rocky road, I hope you can find guidance to a better place.

Hugs x

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

You have taken the first step here, OP, which is incredibly hard to do. So much good advice above - my number one is to always talk about it. Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take alook at this thread from afew days ago bud... ur not alone

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/931762#message_21070421

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys & sorry to post this on here, but I thought I’d ask for a bit of advice (really sorry if this upsets anyone).

I’m a 42 year old male and the stigma is still there, where I can’t talk to anyone.

Really sorry to post this here & id be grateful for any advice. Much love & thanks everyone xx"

I spent many years 'doing it all on my own' but 3 months ago when I was ready to throw myself under a bus (figuratively speaking!), I started on 20mg Citalopram per day with monthly visits to my GP who specialises in mental health.The old me,from years ago is now coming back along with renewed energy!Its ok to tell people you cant cope.I wish you well.Lily.x

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I think it’s also good to realise (as I did) that’s it’s not weak to cry. Emotional responses are healthy!

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

Hi op, you’re certainly not alone, don’t worry most guys go through it. I had it for yrs then a few years ago I realised I’m angry at everyone and because I left it for so long it mostly damaged my relationship with one of my kids..

Seek help my friend, it’s ok to be human

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t be sorry help can come from anywhere , talking is a great start if you have anyone you can talk to . See your doctor they can refer you counselling can be good , medication can also be good . You don’t have to go through these things alone

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By *ll make you laugh OP Man
over a year ago

uttoxeter

Thanks again guys, if I’m honest, I don’t even know what made me post it on here (a weakness on my behalf) , I’m a senior manager within a company and work closely with the company owner, so turning to the company is a no go. I promise that I will have a look at the websites mentioned. Thank you to who has responded either on here or by pm.. I do really appreciate it xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks again guys, if I’m honest, I don’t even know what made me post it on here (a weakness on my behalf) , I’m a senior manager within a company and work closely with the company owner, so turning to the company is a no go. I promise that I will have a look at the websites mentioned. Thank you to who has responded either on here or by pm.. I do really appreciate it xxxx"

I'm quite often finding myself in a similar position myself, OP.

Lots of great advice already here, I'm constantly amazed by the loveliness of other people..

Do feel free to DM me any time if you need someone to talk to

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By *umbriamaleMan
over a year ago

kendal

I read somewhere that if you are depressed you are living in the past, if anxious you are living in the future and if you are content you are living in the present. You could try 6 weeks of free cbt from the doctors if they offer it. I watch the videos on youtube from the school of life with allain de botton, they are great.basically they say its the human condition to be anxious and depressed and people have been having these same issues for at least 2000 years. when i got my head around that i just thought f*** it and i moved on.

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By *onty1971Man
over a year ago

London St Helier Trier

It's good you reached out and wrote what you did. It will help you.

Some things that might help.

When the dark clouds come think something positive.

End the day with positive thoughts before you sleep. Have your thoughts in nice places so dreams start of well.

Wake up in the morning and think positive thoughts.

Meditate.

It might be that you are not reaching your goals and you are doing too many different things at the same time using up all your attention. Focus on a couple of goals, achieve them and celebrate the achievement. Then the next goal?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I'm not an advocate of medication, though short term possibly ok.

I find that if I stop dwelling on myself, I go off and try and help others. Use it more of a distraction, but it certainly breaks the doom and gloom for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Male mental health is so hidden with such stigma attached. Reaching for help, here or anywhere is a great step.

Medication works for some but there is other help that doesn’t involve medication. Contact your GP, and know you’re not alone. Your strength shows through just in boldly sharing and asking for help. I hope you are ok. - Mrs

( also, asking for help is the most human act of all, it’s the first thing we do when we are born, we shout!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read somewhere that if you are depressed you are living in the past, if anxious you are living in the future and if you are content you are living in the present. You could try 6 weeks of free cbt from the doctors if they offer it. I watch the videos on youtube from the school of life with allain de botton, they are great.basically they say its the human condition to be anxious and depressed and people have been having these same issues for at least 2000 years. when i got my head around that i just thought f*** it and i moved on."

This is great

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By * n C NWCouple
over a year ago

Macclesfield

Sod the stigma

Everybody is walking a fine line

I’m a mental health first aider and assisted several colleagues & family members

Hope you manage to take a step & see a doctor

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The first time I went to my GP with it I was absolutely scared shitless and embarrassed. That was about 5 years ago and honestly I don't know what I was so scared about. It's just like going to see them about a cold. You talk about your symptoms and what would be the best remedy for you. You give it a go and if you don't feel like it's working you go back and try something else.

Our minds can get sick just like our bodies do. Depression is a perfectly normal illness anyone can go through and there is absolutely no reason to feel ashamed or embarrassed. The only thing I'm ashamed about is that I let myself get as bad as I did and didn't get help sooner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many people have mental health problems , I get it but once you can recognise when the dark clouds are coming there are ways to blow those clouds away , mine is exercise I joined a gym , if I have a bad day at work I go home and run like mad for an hour , get help from the docs but don't rely on a tablet to take the blues away , good luck and remember your not alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get some help OP.

Why suffer in silence. I have not got depression but I have had anxiety in the past. I have been on 150mg of Sertaline for the past few years and I had cbt in the past. I'm fine now but if I did not seek help... well who knows what state I would be in.

Bite the bullet and speak to your GP.

Find the right key to the right door. Open it and look at the view...it's awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen from someone that knows exactly how you feel mate, I've been dealing with it for 20 something years, and the best thing that you could ever have done to start beating it, is to ask for help. I promise you that you will start to feel better and you can beat it!! I'm only on the end of the phone and I will happily talk with you anytime of the day or night!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's interesting to see that most Depression Forum posts were by men.

Usually seems coping on their own (even if in a relationship).

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By *WStockingtopsCouple
over a year ago

bristol

Talk to a Doctor buddy.

About 10 years ago I was spiralling.

I hated my job. There were far worse jobs but I hates it all the same.

Also I was in my early 40s and started looking back on life with regret.

It got to the point where I didnt want to work even though I went and sometimes didn't want to go home even though there was a loving wife there.

I was just fed up and hated being me.

Sometimes I still do in fact.

But a visit to the Doctor helped.

Dude don't look for answer here. Just visit someone professional to help you.

Good luck

MrSW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys & sorry to post this on here, but I thought I’d ask for a bit of advice (really sorry if this upsets anyone).

I’m a 42 year old male and the stigma is still there, where I can’t talk to anyone.

Really sorry to post this here & id be grateful for any advice. Much love & thanks everyone xx"

A couple years ago, just before lockdown, i got such a bad situation that my doctor forcibly referred me to specialist help.

I had only gone in for a problem with my foot, but he noticed something was up and refused to let me go until appointments were booked. Best thing he did.

Had a number of appointments, and then on medication for around 6 months. Completely reset me.

(Only issue with medi was i put on about 1.5st and have never been able to shift it since).

I ended up letting slip to a fwb who did help and encourage me through it though.

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By *for2Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Hi OP, never ever apologise for being brave enough to ask for help. I am lucky enough to be one of life's 'positive people' so I can't say 'I understand' what you are going through but my heart goes out to you and you have my heartfelt wishes for your well-being. Good luck and take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope OP is ok

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By *aiseiMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Hi guys & sorry to post this on here, but I thought I’d ask for a bit of advice (really sorry if this upsets anyone).

I’m a 42 year old male and the stigma is still there, where I can’t talk to anyone.

Really sorry to post this here & id be grateful for any advice. Much love & thanks everyone xx"

Meds help, but in my experience they aren’t the ultimate answer. They got me into a place where I was lifted enough to do things (gym, martial arts) that eventually made me better (at the time).

You have to do something to invoke lasting personal change if you want a chance to break the cycle.

I’d recommend counselling, too; it will help you to get to the root of it all, but it needs complimenting with something that is a positive for you, e.g. exercise, sport, hobby/interest, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see more people talking about their mental health now than five or ten years ago. I still think there's stigma but campaigns and high profile people acknowledging that it's been a problem for them has helped change things. Gradually.

I've had several depressive episodes, starting when I was 19. The hardest thing is to acknowledge you need help and then accept or seek it out. Perhaps men find it harder to acknowledge that - but I think asking for help is a strength, not a weakness. Mediation has never worked for me. Mindfulness has. Exercise. Therapy. Medication. Being open with others about what's happening. Depression wont go away on its own, but it will go away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm struggling lots at the moment, i even think it's not worth being here, but then the love for my grandson keeps me here.

One of my children is treating me like crap and it's breaking me

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I'm struggling lots at the moment, i even think it's not worth being here, but then the love for my grandson keeps me here.

One of my children is treating me like crap and it's breaking me"

Sorry u feeling that way do u have a close friend u could talk to about how u feel? Sometimes just having someone listen helps a little x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Many years ago when I was going through a very bad time I was literally dragged to the doctors in the end where I still refused to take medication. ( I’ve never been one for tablets, I don’t even like taking paracetamol). The doctor said to me “if you were here with a bad chest infection would you refuse antibiotics ?” Obviously I said no, to which he replied well this is no different. That has always stuck with me.

Go to the doctors op xxx

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By *atriciayoiditTV/TS
over a year ago

hatfield

"Hi guys & sorry to post this on here, but I thought I’d ask for a bit of advice (really sorry if this upsets anyone).

I’m a 42 year old male and the stigma is still there, where I can’t talk to anyone.

Really sorry to post this here & id be grateful for any advice. Much love & thanks everyone xx"
my view.??..life is feast and famine..so dont expect too much..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did the same delt and still some days deal with things alone yeah chatted with a few mates online from time to time but in general i keep things internal but its not easy 1000× harder than i ever thought but it can be done i think in the end you can only deal with things the way your comfortable dealing with them so feel for you bro 1 day at a time one foot infront of the other keep fighting the fight ps take advise from others not me im stubborn you dont have to be

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
over a year ago

Markfield

" I’ve had the dreaded thoughts but have always pulled myself out of it. I was really wondering if I was the only one that deals with this on their own & does meditation really help?

I’ve lived alongside my mental health issues since my early teens, yes, a very long time now!

I’m in a good place currently and that is down to a combination of meditation, yoga, talking and medication. Self care is important so positive time alone in the bath and eating healthy nutritious lovely favourite foods and getting some daylight also helps massively. And sex. Sex helps a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm struggling lots at the moment, i even think it's not worth being here, but then the love for my grandson keeps me here.

One of my children is treating me like crap and it's breaking me

Sorry u feeling that way do u have a close friend u could talk to about how u feel? Sometimes just having someone listen helps a little x"

Thank you for your kindness xx

I talk to my other half about my feelings, i'm retiring soon hopefully so will have time to spend in the garden, maybe do some course or training, plus pray that the (adult) child stops treating us like s##t

Xxx

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By *ightymouse123456Man
over a year ago

holywell

I m posting here in hope I’m not alone I’m depressed all the time dealing with health problems that are not going to end well but I just want to end the pain before / while I can

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By *ightymouse123456Man
over a year ago

holywell

I m posting here in hope I’m not alone I’m depressed all the time dealing with health problems that are not going to end well but I just want to end the pain before / while I can

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I m posting here in hope I’m not alone I’m depressed all the time dealing with health problems that are not going to end well but I just want to end the pain before / while I can "

You're not alone. There are people here who will listen if you need someone to talk to.

If you want you can talk to me.

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By *ig.daddyDMan
over a year ago

the borders

Micro dose magic ?? I was told to try this by my hippy mate after a friend of ours committed suicide and I was struggling with it

Completely turned my life around I used to lie in bed all day and do nothing

Now I feel incredibly good I sleep better am way more productive it’s incredible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Micro dose magic ?? I was told to try this by my hippy mate after a friend of ours committed suicide and I was struggling with it

Completely turned my life around I used to lie in bed all day and do nothing

Now I feel incredibly good I sleep better am way more productive it’s incredible "

I believe it’s very effective for people with ADHD.

Viv

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By *ay731973Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Never apologies about his issue a lot of people suffer from this tend to hind it from others trust me I did but a friend of mine sat me down and we talked about it I'm. Now feeling a lot better I would talk to someone if I was you

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By *uckOfTheBayMan
over a year ago

Mold

There was an interesting piece on Radio 4 this morning about the active ingredient in magic mushrooms as having a huge potential for dealing with depression, and a much 'kinder' alternative than the usual antidepressants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No need to apologise OP. I've been on medication for about 20 years now. I went to my GP and was offered help through MIND who are a mental health team and were fantastic.

My inbox is always open if you or anyone wants to speak to me about it all.

Get yourself to your GP mate and keep fighting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inbox is open if you ever want a chat mate

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

There’s an organisation called Andy’s Man Club that has groups all over the country. They have a web presence if you Google them. Connection is so important for improving mental health

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

No stigma mate.

Meds help a lot but you need to find where you’re most comfortable.

Hobbies, walks, pilgrimages to places that interest you…

Don’t stew. Just get out the house and invoke yourself in something. Anything.

Remember you’re not alone x

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By *reamblueMan
over a year ago

London

Yes, talk, talk, talk. Its amazing when you get the words out. Get a counsellor/therapist if you can afford it. Otherwise look for support groups

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

Morning OP

I've suffered too over the years. Recently I've found My Black Dog which is a charity that has people who have also suffered and recovered that you can chat to online

Search them out on Insta too, they are a good follow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could offer more help in this as what I do is not ideal or healthy mentally.

But I have found the gym and any time out of my own head helps.

I’m actually having a day today, actually an entire night and day.

I do prefer to be alone, I generally don’t talk about things (typical man) and I suffer in quiet alone for periods, I listen to songs that put me back to places where I’m trying to not go, almost like punishing myself.

The bag can help, running and clearing your head sometimes helps.

Sometimes just time.

I can go an hour, 2 hours or 3/4 days depending the severity of it.

All I can suggest is escapism and getting out of your head.

Talking to somebody if you have that outlet and you’re somebody that can talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there and done it a number of times sat with piles of pills infront of me but never went through with it purely because of my kids.

I used to be the same as you and not want medication or counselling but in the end I knew it was that or die so I did it a year of counselling and pills and I'm a different person. I occasionally have little melt downs and down days/weeks but I think that's being human.

I tried meditation and personally it didn't work.

The key is finding a counsellor that works for you. My last one was a magician I used to finish sessions and think what the fuck have I just paid for.......but after a day or two of thinking about what had been discussed I realised that he was bloody good at his job and had me dealing with shit without me even knowing.

For me talking and being open and honest was the key and I look back now and wonder if a lot of it could have been avoided if I'd just accepted help sooner.

I lost my job due to my breakdown just as covid struck and didn't work for almost a year living off my savings and my marriage ended but still came out the other side. Anything is possible with the right support mate and definitely easier. Coping alone isn't the way ahead.

Matt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from ptsd and cgd (complicated grief disorder) I struggled for about 8 yrs where my life was a roller coaster with no pro longed periods of stability really I struggled with adiction,which I am not proud to admit wasn't drink or drugs but violence.

After narrowly avoiding a custodial sentence I sort counciling and it literally saved my life, I had regular sessions for about 3-4 years now its via phone only if I feel the monster stirring I was offered meds but I wanted to beat this myself without relying on a pill, please seek counciling phone any of the mental health helplines be as honest as you can, there will be a way to survive

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi op

Depressive symptoms can be difficult to cope with with many people but speaking with professional people do help with coping strategies medication can help but can also make matters seem worse talking is the best strategie it gives you the option to balance way up the options in a positive way the crisis team are available 24/7

Hope youre able to rise above and conquer this gloomy period

Best wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I m posting here in hope I’m not alone I’m depressed all the time dealing with health problems that are not going to end well but I just want to end the pain before / while I can "

You're not alone and there is not just this thread - there are other regular mental health threads which may help. Pain has a HUGE impact on your mental health - until I have a good day, I don't realise how much it brings me down. Are you with a pain management clinic?

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