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When she keeps saying 'no'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And you know she really means

'Yes' ...

What do you to convince her she getting it all wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Heres an outside the box thought

No means no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*sigh*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure, OP??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good of you to throw yourself on the sword, in the interest of testing a hypothesis OP!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Same answer as the woman who asked earlier...

No means no!!

If she changes her mind she can let you know.

Too many people play stupid head games... wtf!

You’re supposed to be grown ups!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No means no end of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Same answer as the woman who asked earlier...

No means no!!

If she changes her mind she can let you know.

Too many people play stupid head games... wtf!

You’re supposed to be grown ups!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No is a very clear word to understand with a very clear meaning!

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"

"

My exact point on the other thread

If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else

If she says no then it's no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"

My exact point on the other thread

If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else

If she says no then it's no"

exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Is there?

General consensus is no means no whatever gender

Obviously there are some sycophants on the ladies thread giving it the “I can’t imagine any man saying no to you” bol***ks but other than that pretty much the same

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate


"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"

My exact point on the other thread

If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else

If she says no then it's no

exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender "

The only difference really is a few guys kissing ass, you'll get that on any thread with a female op.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"Is there?

General consensus is no means no whatever gender

Obviously there are some sycophants on the ladies thread giving it the “I can’t imagine any man saying no to you” bol***ks but other than that pretty much the same "

I get why this thread was done. Ish. There really isn't that much difference in response though.

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By *ed-monkeyCouple
over a year ago

Hailsham


"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"

My exact point on the other thread

If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else

If she says no then it's no

exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender

The only difference really is a few guys kissing ass, you'll get that on any thread with a female op. "

Also very true, bless the white knights

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Don't dissect peoples profiles please

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Is this your boss and she won't give you a rise ??

Is it Theresa May ?

Who is it and what is she saying no to ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't dissect peoples profiles please"

Thank you admin

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No means no end of "

Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I agree how the response on this thread differs greatly between the responses on the “man saying no” thread earlier.

It just highlights the double standard.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"No is a very clear word to understand with a very clear meaning!"

To most it does although there are always those that think no means a challenge to be convinced of a yes

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"No means no end of

Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail "

Or keep crossing her legs and hitching her skirt up as was said earlier.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No means no end of

Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail

Or keep crossing her legs and hitching her skirt up as was said earlier. "

Not sure what you mean ...

Is that a new seduction method ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No means no end of

Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail "

Your ex who you want back?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No means no end of

Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail

Your ex who you want back?"

I wish she would stop bothering me and let me be if that's what she wants and not bother me over petty things... Some women just never grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No means no end of

Ok I have accepted the 'No' then why does she keep bothering me like an over cut fingernail

Your ex who you want back?

I wish she would stop bothering me and let me be if that's what she wants and not bother me over petty things... Some women just never grow up "

Block her then.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Long story. Tried it all but she won't go away.

And then won't say 'Yes' is well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's an amazing contrast from the thread of "when he says no"

My exact point on the other thread

If he says no, he must be mad or not chasing our find someone else

If she says no then it's no

exactly it is funny the different replies depending on the gender "

I didnt know there was another thread but my response would be the same either way

Not sure what the context was either but i kind of assumed trying to get a partner not comfortable with swinging involved in it ... and my thoughts are if you have to change someone’s mind then you shouldnt do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is not swinging related...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is not swinging related... "

Context is everything though .... because actually while we really should just always respect a no , people are going to have quite the different reaction to “well she was on a diet and i wanted us to order pizza so i talked her round”, or “he wanted to save the money and i thought we should treat ourselves with a trip away so i twisted his arm”, than they would about a sexual situation or something that resulted in them going against strong beliefs they have

I dont think the differing responses should be based on gender they should be based on scenario

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sounds like she enjoys knowing you want her

she's deliberately playing a game to pull you back stopping you getting over her and moving on

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By *oxymTV/TS
over a year ago

cramlington

I’d give up on her

She is just teasing and will never say yes and just wants the attention

Move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"sounds like she enjoys knowing you want her

she's deliberately playing a game to pull you back stopping you getting over her and moving on"

Exactly what I am thinking.

I call it headfucking.

Excuse my french ...

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By *appytochatMan
over a year ago

Deep in the New Forest

Is this thread on the back of the thread about the guy saying No?

Not really sure where the confusion over the question is coming from . It means what it means....NO

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sounds like she enjoys knowing you want her

she's deliberately playing a game to pull you back stopping you getting over her and moving on

Exactly what I am thinking.

I call it headfucking.

Excuse my french ... "

some self care needed maybe?

block and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep! She wants your attention so noone else has it...walk on by fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When she say no take it as a no she means no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To quote the family guy James bond "49 nos and one yes means yes"

But really no should mean no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When she say no take it as a no she means no "

I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When she say no take it as a no she means no

I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ... "

You have the ability to stop her being able to contact you. Why aren't you doing it?

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?


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If changes mind.

Too many people play stupid head games... wtf!

"

It's a real shame some don't listen to the no, or indeed the reasons given for it. As for the head games don't think the ones that play them are bothered.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I hoped this was a compare and contrast thread, rather than as set out in the OP. The lesser of two evils.

I haven't seen the other thread but my advice is always treat people with respect and as adults. If a man says no to me (and they do fairly regularly) I accept that. I would expect the same in return.

Minds can change but isn't it better if that isn't a result of coercion and control?

Mutuality is sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people really don't accept no means no its sad really but then its why many of us avoid people as you know what they are going to be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy consensual non consensual. But obviously spoken about before hand and safe work or move put in place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I enjoy consensual non consensual. But obviously spoken about before hand and safe work or move put in place. "

My bad I’ve got confused thought this was about cnc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When she say no take it as a no she means no

I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ... "

Yeah.. if she's says 'no' and you still fuck, here's the headline; You're a rapist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't feed the troll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's gone from 0.01% interest to 0.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When she say no take it as a no she means no

I don't think your following the thread. I have accepted the 'No' but she still finds ways of getting at me if I don't message her or ignore her. Then when I suggest we make a go of it again she pushes me away ? ...

Yeah.. if she's says 'no' and you still fuck, here's the headline; You're a rapist."

Sex is about mutuality.

I would never force sex on a woman that said 'NO'.

I am talking a bit more than just sex on this thread.

Change your headline dude before you start to spread 'fake news'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a date around 2 months ago from Tinder. 25, bright, intelligent, gorgeous in every way, and just such a lovely person.

And after the first date and a lot of sex, she broached the subject of a 'rape' fantasy.

good luck, lovely, but I can't help you with that. There's a point where self-preservation simply has to kick in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember dont do drugs

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm guessing this is a double standard thread?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And you know she really means

'Yes' ...

What do you to convince her she getting it all wrong "

If you are going to comment on a thread, bother to read it all and find out what it's about. Op is obviously a good guy not an idiot so stop bashing.

This is an ego boost for her having you as a fall back. However much you like her you have to have respect for yourself and move on and not let yourself be manipulated. See the bigger picture you're allowing her to treat you this way so she's going with it. You never know she might respect you for stepping away and come good but i wouldn't wait on it. Know your worth then others will too xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And you know she really means

'Yes' ...

What do you to convince her she getting it all wrong

If you are going to comment on a thread, bother to read it all and find out what it's about. Op is obviously a good guy not an idiot so stop bashing.

This is an ego boost for her having you as a fall back. However much you like her you have to have respect for yourself and move on and not let yourself be manipulated. See the bigger picture you're allowing her to treat you this way so she's going with it. You never know she might respect you for stepping away and come good but i wouldn't wait on it. Know your worth then others will too xx"

Thank you for the kind words

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